29. Why this dragon fruit strategy makes men obsessed with you

If you've been trying to change him, hint at what you want, drop suggestions, hope he'll finally "get it"  this video is for you.I'm sharing the dragon fruit rule: why the women who feel calm and chosen in love aren't out here trying to fix, soften, or rewire the man in front of them. They're doing something completely different, and once you see it, you can't unsee it.Download Alora, my app for women who want to feel calm, chosen, and confident in love: https://alora.love/7dayfreetrialTrying to change a man is one of the fastest ways to lose yourself, lose him, and lose the peace you're actually looking for. The exhausting part isn't the relationship. It's the second job you've taken on of managing his behavior, his communication, his consistency, his effort. You weren't meant to carry that. And the wild thing is, the moment you stop, everything shifts.By the end of this video, you'll understand:Why trying to change him is quietly draining you (even when it "works")What to do instead when he's not showing up the way you wantHow to tell the difference between a man who's growing and a man who's not your matchWhy the women who stop trying to fix men end up with the most consistent onesWhat "treating him like a dragon fruit" actually means - and why it changes everythingThis isn't about settling, lowering your standards, or pretending things are fine when they're not. It's the opposite. It's about seeing him clearly, deciding if he's yours, and stopping the exhausting work of trying to turn him into someone he's not. The calmest, most chosen women in love aren't the ones doing the most. They're the ones who stopped doing what was never theirs to do.If you've ever felt like you're carrying the whole relationship, overthinking how to "communicate it better" so he finally hears you, or wondering why you feel more like his manager than his partner, save this video. Watch the video on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/mEL89TFhfcoFollow me on Instagram: @maureensmindsetFollow Alora: @aloraloveappSend me a message :) Support the show