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Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation
by Danny Poelman
Welcome to "Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation", the podcast where we break the chains of shame and societal expectations to create a safe space for self-healing, habit transformation, and personal growth. Hosted by a seasoned life coach, Danny Poelman DDS, with years of hands-on experience, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your voice, embracing your story, and living life on your terms. In each episode, we dive deep into the topics that matter most to you—whether it's: -breaking free from unwanted habits like pornography -excessive people-pleasing -healing from past trauma -recovering from narcissistic abuse or religious/relational trauma -anxiety/depression -money mindset blocks -overcoming limiting beliefs We’re not afraid to talk about the things that are often considered taboo, because we believe that through honest, unfiltered conversations, real transformation happens. You’ll hear real
Episodes
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14. Key Ingredients in Your Plan of Attack (Lessons From Tim A.)
What does it really take to go from feeling out of control, frustrated, and hopeless... to feeling empowered, free from your habit, and confident that it’s going to last? In this episode, I share Tim A’s powerful journey through habit transformation, emotional healing, and long-term change.…
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13. From Autopilot to Avatar Mode - Dissociation, Healing & Full-Body Presence
What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t a lack of willpower—but a lack of presence? In this episode of Unashamed and Unchained, Danny Poelman explores the often-overlooked coping mechanism of dissociation—what it is, why it shows up (especially for high-achievers), and how it keeps you…
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12. Why I Like Talking About Porn Habits With People (6 Reasons)
Do you like talking about your porn habit? Other people's porn habits? Well I love it! But not in a creepy way. Let me tell you why in a way that simultaneously teaches some of the real reasons behind an unwanted porn habit. Even if you have other unwanted habits, you'll finish listening to this...
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11. Shifting From Shame to Growth Mindset - 2 Practical Strategies
Shame can keep you stuck in a cycle of burnout, stress, and self-sabotage—but what if you could train your brain to respond differently? In this episode of Unshamed and Unchained, we’re breaking down how to practically shift out of shame and into a mindset that fuels real, lasting change. You'll...
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10. How to Let RISE Process Impact Your Results
Feeling stuck in your habits, burnout, or personal growth? You're not alone. In this episode of Unshamed and Unchained, I dive deep into the power of group coaching and why it might be the missing link in your healing and habit transformation journey. I’ll share: ✅ The RISE framework: Rewire,...
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9. Interview James Christiansen - Transforming Your Life and Habits Without Hustle
In this episode, we sit down with James Christiansen, a dynamic doctor-dad, to explore his powerful journey of mastering his mind/emotion management and transforming his unwanted pornography habit and more. In a sustainable, energy-increasing way. Discover how he redefined success in his personal...
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8. Don't Stop at Reducing Shame. What About Real Results?
In this powerful episode, we delve into the journey of Doctor-Dads navigating burnout, stress, trauma, and unwanted habits. Learn why addressing shame is only the first step and how to create sustainable change that enriches every area of your life. Tune in for actionable strategies to heal,...
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7. Why New Year’s Resolutions Feel So Heavy (And What to Do Instead)
Are you feeling exhausted just thinking about setting New Year’s goals? You’re not alone. In this episode, Danny dives deep into why traditional goal-setting feels so heavy — especially for high-achievers like doctors and dads who are already carrying a massive load. He offers simple, practical...
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6. Interview With an LDS Surgeon, Bryan Smedley
Bryan tells us how he uses Life Coaching vehicle to go from: exhausted, worn out, depressed to Empowered, feelings-literate, kinder to self, more positive home-life/relationships, looking forward to things more, healing his mind He says he looks forward to coaching calls, gains more energy and...
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5. The Impoortance of Believing in Neuroplasticity (Your Brain's Ability to Change)
In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of neuroplasticity—the brain's remarkable ability to change and adapt. Join life coach Danny Poelman as he shares personal insights and scientific research on how believing in your brain's capacity for change can help you break free from old...
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4. Interview Art Hock - Breaking Lifelong Habits and Increasing Capacity
In this inspiring episode, Danny Poelman sits down with Art Hock, a former client turned thriving coach, who shares his incredible journey of overcoming deep-rooted habits and finding true empowerment. Art opens up about his struggles with people-pleasing and a phone sex addiction, amongst other...
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3. Interview Camren Harris - Turning Habit From "Monster" to "Ant" and Building Himself
Lessons from Camren Harris's story. Rather than only focus on changing porn habit, Camren found it helpful to say, "Let's build Camren into who he wants to be." And that's what took care of the porn habit. Rather than focus on trying to find the "right" way, find what works for Camren. How he...
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2. Breaking Financial Barriers: The Power of Belief and Self-Forgiveness
In this insightful episode, we delve into the often complicated relationship with money. Discover how familiar patterns from other areas of life can simplify your financial journey, the profound impact of belief on financial success, and the detrimental effects of self-deprecation. We challenge…
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1. Feeling Safe Around Money
In this episode, host Danny Poelman explores the critical connection between feeling safe around money and achieving financial success. Learn how your thoughts and feelings about money impact your financial results and discover practical strategies to reduce money-related stress. Danny shares...
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59. Make Quitting Your Porn Habit More Fun
To change a habit, you need to optimize learning in your brain. To optimize you need to stop bringing so much heaviness, shame, and self-judgment and start bringing more fun and playfulness. Danny is giving you permission to have fun while learning to do life porn-free. Even though you already…
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58. The Difference Between Wallowing and Processing Feelings
Don’t be so afraid of getting stuck in wallowing, or victim-mode, that you stay even more stuck avoiding your feelings, or wounds. The world has trained many of us to avoid feeling our uncomfortable feelings. To think something has gone wrong if negative feelings are there for “too long.” As if...
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57. 2 of the 6 Real Actual Problems Behind an Unwanted Porn Habit
When you know the real actual problem, you can address the real actual issue, which will allow you to create real, actual, lasting change. This is a sneak peek into Danny's new Free Video Training that he created for YOU. The Fearless Freedom From Pornography Training: How to Achieve Ultimate...
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56. Success Story, How Mike Beatty Retrained His Brain
Hear how Mike Beatty 10x-ed his results compared to previous coaches/therapists/methods he had tried. Live interview with past client. Learn from what worked and didn't' work for Mike. How he created tremendous new success. START WITH THIS: Access Free Webinar Training (click here) Check out...
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55. How to Release Worry & Achieve Goals More Powerfully (with an Exercise)
How to Release Worry & Achieve Goals More Powerfully (with an Exercise You Can Try while reading) Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life so good that porn becomes irrelevant. He created this podcast to…
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54. Leveraging Porn’s Plentiful Presence to Curb Cravings AND Michael’s Amazing Results
Discover practical mindset shifts to reduce pornography cravings and hear Michael's inspiring journey of breaking free from the habit for good. Whether you're struggling yourself or curious about the topic, this episode offers valuable insights and real-life client examples for lasting change.…
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53. High Impact Actions - Make Your Actions Count
If you failed recently in your effort to quit a porn habit, and you’re telling yourself “Nothing I do will make a difference.” “What I do won’t matter anyway.” Then you need to listen to this podcast episode now. Danny Poelman is a certified life coach and helps guys stop looking at pornography...
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52. Why Use Different Strategies For Stress Response Than For Emotions
So much of unwanted porn use has to do with escaping feelings. But which feelings? The difference between emotions and an actual stress response. Emotions vs. Physical Sensations Trauma vs Stress Response Healing/Processing From Trauma Happens The 4 F’s and How Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Might...
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51. Here's Why Your Brain Overdesires Porn
The following topics help to understand Why Your Brain Overdesires Pornography:-Motivational triad-Upper brain and lower brain-False pleasures vs. natural pleasures Why it’s important to use upper brain more skillfully for decisions around false pleasures (like pornography). 2. If you find…
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50. Measuring Data & Be a Scientist of Your Own Mind
If you stopped measuring your progress toward quitting porn for good based on when you last looked at porn, what would you measure instead? In today's episode, we discuss an example of a process that will help you to: -measure progress more accurately-learn more effectively-accelerate your…
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49. What Kind of Self-Talk Actually Helps You to Reach Your Goals?
To experience more love, freedom, and empowerment, listen to this episode. If you are not into those things (love/freedom/empowerment), tune out now. This episode is not for you. Reminder: Steer clear of teachers who say they know better for you than you and who foster a continual dependence on...
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48. How to Make Sure You Are Actually Retraining Your Brain and Not Just Playing Around in Intellectual-Land
After listening to this episode, you will know better: -what is creating your current unwanted results-what it takes to create new/wanted results-the difference between the Automatic brain vs. the intellectual part of your brain, with a wild stallion analogy to make it clear-How to make sure your...
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47. A More Effective Way of Managing Thoughts About Masturbating to Porn and Covering What I Missed in Last Episode
This week's episode gets more specific about what it is that makes coaching work (to give you ideas what you can aim for even if you don't plan to hire a coach). Also, I'm betting more of you will want to hire a coach after hearing this. And we dive into a client example to demonstrate a more...
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46. Nothing Works Quite as Well as This
Sharing client success stories, including a client saying "Nothing works quite as well as this." And trying to make it more clear what "THIS" actually is. Some of Danny's philosophies on coaching that he uses because it just works. A yoga analogy to describe what it takes to go through a process...
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45. Finding Naked Women Attractive Isn't the Problem
Real client example today. He thought the problem was that he just "really finds naked women attractive to look at." I asked him why. His response revealed 4 things that are the real issues. Once we address these 4 things, suddenly it's no longer a problem that he finds naked women attractive to...
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44. Elimination, Simplification, and What Not to Eliminate
“One does not accumulate but eliminate. It is not daily increase but daily decrease. The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity.” -Bruce Lee “Perfection is not when there is no more to add, but no more to take away.” -Antoine de Sainte Exulpery, Pioneer of international postal flight…
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43. Lessons From a Client Coaching Session
One of the lessons being that quitting a porn habit doesn’t have to be a big, hard, dark, serious thing. It can actually be fun, easy, light, humorous and completely doable. Tune into the How to Stop Looking at Porn podcast, with Danny Poelman, now to hear what other lessons were uncovered in…
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42. How to Decide More Powerfully
To make decisions powerfully (which is required to learn to quit porn for good), understanding these 4 parts of you that come up in decision-making will make all the difference. We are talking about these 4 parts: -Lower brain -Upper brain -Intuition (body) -Consciousness (you), awareness, power…
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41. Why Go Toward Triggers For Pornography
Most people trying to quit a pornography habit for good do it by trying to avoid situations where they may have access to porn or be triggered to have urges to view it. It's time to understand why you should go toward those triggers (and access) for pornography. But only if you want to experience...
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40. The Solution Exists
How do you approach a problem if you don’t believe there is a solution to it? How to recognize this mentality and the different forms it might show up in. Why Voldemort wanted the Horcruxes to remain a secret. Addressing the roots of the weed rather than just continually cutting the top off, only...
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39. Seeing Your Goodness is Key
What chains are we breaking today? The message “I’m bad.” Where does this come from? Does it help to think this way? What helps create forward movement for you? In this episode, I’m talking about a message that, if you are like a lot of us, you have probably internalized (whether on purpose or...
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38. The Shame/Power Balance Revealed
Many of us have learned that more shame and self-punishment is what is required to create more power/motivation to change our habits. The truth is, less shame helps us to access even more power/motivation to change our habits. Why do we do this? How do we start picking up on our unconscious...
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37. Three Problems with Attaching the “need” for Self-improvement to Your Porn Habit
I teach guys powerful, useable, practical, hands-on tools for managing their mind. Some of those tools include: -Thought Work-the Self-Coaching Model-Impulse Shifting Why is managing your mind important? Because thoughts create results. A lot of my clients first learn about these powerful...
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36. Tracing Back Your Decisions About Your Habit
Past client updates me, saying: “I am very satisfied with the progress I've made and continue to make. Urges are way down, short lived, and manageable.” Why can habitual behavior around porn feel so automatic? Your lower brain wants to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and be energy efficient. One of…
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35. How to Handle Urges/Cravings
Common ways we have learned to interact with feelings that make it harder to quit a porn habit. The difference between avoiding, resisting, and reacting to emotions. What it means to allow and process a feeling (a skill required to sustainably quit pornography). How to start identifying some of...
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34. Interview With Bruce, Living the Life That You Want, & Benefits of General Life Coaching
Did you know people hire Danny for General Life Coaching? Not just for quitting pornography? Bruce is a high-achieving, successful, powerful guy in many ways, but was feeling disempowered when it came to relationships, creating space for himself, having boundaries, and saying “no” to loved ones.…
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Welcome to "Unshamed & Unchained: Carving Space For Self-Healing & Habit Transformation", the podcast where we break the chains of shame and societal expectations to create a safe space for self-healing, habit transformation, and personal growth. Hosted by a seasoned life coach, Danny Poelman DDS, with years of hands-on experience, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your voice, embracing your story, and living life on your terms.
In each episode, we dive deep into the topics that matter most to you—whether it's: -breaking free from unwanted habits like pornography -excessive people-pleasing -healing from past trauma -recovering from narcissistic abuse or religious/relational trauma -anxiety/depression -money mindset blocks -overcoming limiting beliefs
We’re not afraid to talk about the things that are often considered taboo, because we believe that through honest, unfiltered conversations, real transformation happens.
You’ll hear real
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