309. HEAD NOISE: Retroactive Jealousy, STD Shame in Relationships, Attachment Styles and Crushes

Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit. 1)   My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love? 2)    My partner has genital herpes, and has been upfront with me about this. We communicated about expectations in our physical relationship, and how I could most be comfortable and feel protected at the same time. We are now a little further into our relationship and he has started saying things like if I want this relationship to continue I need to stop making him feel so bad about having herpes, that I make him feel dirty and ruin his self confidence because of the precautions I’ve put in place during sex to keep myself at less risk of contracting HSV. 3)    My therapist says I am anxiously attached from a past trauma. I was wondering if you could talk me through limerence vs love, because my anxiety around dating RECCOMENDATIONS: Listen to my episode all about retroactive jealousy – Ep 109 ‘Retroactive Jealousy and Overthinking’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f82f3 . Listen to Happy Hour with Lucy and Nikki ‘Opening Up The Conversation Around Herpes ft. Annaleise Easlea’ at https://spoti.fi/3STJNwP LINKS: Send YOUR Head Noise questions to [email protected] Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor: Elise CooperDigital Producer: Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.