33: How unplugging and reconnecting with yourself can grow gratitude with Lauren Schwab (Enneagram 3)

Unplugging from the external to be fulfilled by the internal This week’s becoming bulletproof episode is all about getting unplugged and tuning into the internal. My guest this week is someone who has an extensive amount of experience and grit, and exudes contagious energy and beauty from her spirit, soul, and wisdom. Lauren Schwab has mastered how to get unplugged and in touch with yourself and those around you. She shares her unique journey through perfectionism to messy failures, connection and consistency, and how her move across country changed her life forever.Listen to this podcast to hear the event that caused Lauren to completely unplug for three months, how to stop filling voids of happiness with external solutions, and how to seek fulfillment internally, with gratitude. Making moves and getting messyQuotes:“I really wasn’t getting the results I actually wanted in life until I started doing it messy.” -Lauren 5:09“I would plug into maybe alcohol, or drugs, or relationship after relationship, or retail therapy thinking that when I get this or if I have this then I’m gonna be happy and of course we all know that that never happens that way.” -Lauren 12:12“God was teaching me that it would never be anything external that we plug into that’s gonna actually make us comfortable; it’s actually gonna be the act of unplugging from those external comfort zones.” -Lauren 12:30“You’ll never give up if you know why you’re here.” -Lauren 13:03“We don’t actually own anything in life, and the moment that we think we own something, it actually owns us. Everything is borrowed.” -Lauren 14:40“When we realize how connected we are to the external, it actually robs us of connecting with the very things that we want.” 23:01“Fill yourself up and serve from the overflow.” -Lauren 24:03 “I was able to take everything that I loved— the retreats, the live events, the human connection, the people, and bring them all together into one space and that’s where the mastermind was born.” -Lauren 31:28“Those collective minds coming together is what heals this world.” -Lauren 33:41“You have a reason to be here otherwise you wouldn’t be.” -Lauren 37:38We open this episode talking about Lauren’s upbringing, how her perfectionism drove her to pursue unrealistic expectations, and how her background in sports led her to business in wellness and fitness. She shares how she felt something bigger inside of her and decided to make a cross country move from one small town in Kansas to Venice, California.Finding gratitude in what we borrowLauren discusses the event that changed her life forever, that uprooted and stripped her down of everything she had known and looked to for comfort. She describes how it made her clear on who she was and why she was here, and how when she aligned with that, she could remove herself from the equation and serve people in the way they needed. Helping others unplug and reconnect She talks about how she wanted to share this experience of unplugging with others but understood that although you can’t force anyone to do anything, you can create the space and time for them to do it. This led to the creation of her five-day retreats and eventually Unplugged Mornings was born. Lauren describes how starting your day by connecting with yourself sets you up to connect in deeper, more meaningful ways with others, and how Unplugged Mornings helps guide this. Lauren SchwabLauren is an expert in health, wellness, and mind-body connection. As the creator of Unplugged Mornings, Lauren created a 9-step process to help individuals disconnect to reconnect back to their true self. Lauren has also opened and sold two fitness studios, is a certified personal trainer, group fitness instructor and fitness model. She leads online workouts that reach hundreds of thousands of men & women focused on changing their lives through fitness and mindfulness. Lauren currently hosts wholeness retreats all over the U.S. and recently launched her online coaching business, Retreat Launch Formula, where she helps aspiring retreat leaders plan and launch their first retreat. Lauren travels and speaks all around the country to provide hope to the hopeless, facilitate connection to the lonely, and share the message that every life matter.