33. "Some part of them believes....that they were scum, and then they start telling themselves that" Step 5: Disassembling

In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive into STEP 5 of their eight step recovery model for men struggling with out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as porn use and sex addiction. Titled "Disassembling," this step focuses on breaking down the underlying patterns and coping mechanisms driving these behaviors. The conversation explores how unresolved trauma—whether big or small ("big T" or "little t")—often plays a hidden role, even when many men minimize or dismiss their own experiences.We discuss the importance of acknowledging and addressing past trauma, recognizing harmful thought patterns, and understanding the self-perpetuating cycle of unhealthy coping mechanisms. We also touch on the resistance many men feel to labeling past experiences as traumatic, the societal stigma around acknowledging vulnerability, and the ways trauma impacts both individuals and their relationships. The episode encourages listeners to confront difficult truths, question negative self-beliefs, and seek healthier ways to cope and heal, all while emphasizing that meaningful change, though uncomfortable, is both possible and worthwhile.Eight Step Model viewable PDF⁠⁠https://shorturl.at/MDJUCTimestamps00:00 "Disassembling and Setting Boundaries"06:13 "Mislabeling Childhood Sexual Abuse"08:52 Recognizing Hidden Emotional Trauma10:40 Disassembling Harmful Coping Mechanisms15:00 Realizing and Overcoming Negative Coping19:56 Systems Resist Change20:58 Recovery Brings Challenges and Change25:03 "Understanding Triggers and Actions"28:50 "Affairs Aren't Real Life"31:48 Breaking Harmful Coping Patterns34:45 Surface vs. Deeper Behavioral Analysis37:30 "Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer"LinkTree⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music from #Uppbeat free for Creators!):⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://uppbeat.io/t/moire/new-life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠License code: 0SWIN8YAF7EIY6YI