Wet Dreamz
by Jose Gonzalez
As men we are expected to be a provider, be strong, have it all put together, and know all there is to know about sex. In this podcast we will discuss all the taboo topics surrounding men's sexuality and empower men to improve themselves and their sexual health.
Episodes
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44. The Invisible Relationship Killer: Keeping Score
About the Hosts: Jose Gonzalez is a renowned sex therapist and mental health counselor known for his engaging and insightful approach to therapy. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples navigate complex emotional landscapes, improving their relationship health and personal well-being....
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43. Why Do Men Wait Until Rock Bottom? Understanding the Motivations Behind Change
Episode Summary: In this episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, we dive into the persistent issue of problematic sexual behaviors, particularly the consumption of pornography and its impact on relationships. Through candid discussion, we explore the common patterns that lead men to hit "rock bottom"...
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42. God, Sex, and Shame: Unpacking Purity Culture
About the Hosts: Jose Gonzalez: Jose Gonzalez is a dedicated mental health counselor and sex therapist with a vested interest in addressing sexual shame and purity culture. With personal experience in grappling with these issues, Jose brings a unique and empathetic perspective to his work…
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41. Why You Want Love... Then Push It Away
About the Hosts: Jose Gonzalez: A seasoned mental health counselor and sex therapist, Jose Gonzalez brings a wealth of experience and insight into the intricate dynamics of relationships and personal well-being. He is passionate about exploring how deeply layered psychological aspects impact our...
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40. Why Men React So Differently to Betrayal
About the Hosts: Dr. Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez are the hosts of the Wet Dreams Podcast. Brad Hinman is a distinguished mental health therapist, sex therapist, and marriage and family therapist, while Jose Gonzalez is a seasoned mental health counselor and sex therapist. They both bring...
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39. Is Your Partner Setting a Boundary—or Controlling You?
ABOUT THE HOSTS: Brad Hinman is a licensed professional counselor and a licensed marriage and family therapist with significant expertise in sex therapy. Passionate about fostering healthy relationships and effective communication, Dr. Hinman brings a rich background in mental health counseling…
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38. Why Your Relationship Feels Stuck (And How to Get the Spark Back)
ABOUT THE HOSTS: Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez are both established mental health professionals with specializations in sex therapy. Dr. Brad Hinman is a licensed marriage and family therapist known for his depth of knowledge regarding sexual health and interpersonal dynamics. Jose Gonzalez, a...
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37. Why ‘High Value Men’ Still Feel Empty After Sex
About the Hosts:In this episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, co-hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into the intriguing and sometimes controversial concept of the "High Value Man." Jose Gonzalez is a highly regarded sex therapist and mental health counselor known for his insightful...
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36. "There's no trauma trophy...for whoever gets the most": Decoding Male Trauma
About the Hosts: Jose Gonzalez: Jose Gonzalez is a sex therapist and a licensed professional counselor. With significant experience in helping individuals navigate sexual health and relationships, he co-hosts the "Wet Dreams Podcast" where he addresses a variety of topics related to sexual…
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35. The Cold Comfort of ChatGPT: Why AI Can't Replace Your Therapist Yet
About the Hosts: Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez are both experienced mental health counselors and sex therapists. Brad Hinman, also known as Dr. Brad Inman in the podcast, has built a robust career helping individuals navigate the complex interplay between mental health and sexual wellness. Jose...
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34. "I'm only here to get d*ck and weed": Wild Reddit Stories on Sex and Relationships
In this insightful episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into real-life Reddit stories revolving around relationships, sex, and mental health. Equipped with the expertise of seasoned sex therapists, they navigate complex emotions, offering professional...
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33. "Some part of them believes....that they were scum, and then they start telling themselves that" Step 5: Disassembling
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive into STEP 5 of their eight step recovery model for men struggling with out-of-control sexual behaviors, such as porn use and sex addiction. Titled "Disassembling," this step focuses on breaking down the underlying patterns and coping mechanisms...
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32. "Take this part of you and shove it aside...it's unacceptable" The "Silent Father" Effect: How Dads Shape Male Emotional and Sexual Health
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we dive deep into the impact of the "silent father" archetype on men’s emotional and sexual health. We reflect on how having an emotionally distant or stoic father often shapes sons’ ability to understand and express their feelings, and we share some of...
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31. "51% of you wants to get better, and 49% of you wants to keep using" Step 4: Define the Problem
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into Step 4 of their eight-step recovery model: defining the real problem behind compulsive sexual behaviors like porn use. They emphasize that while porn might seem like the core issue, it’s actually a...
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30. "90% of what we worry about isn't true": What Really Happens in Your First Sex Therapy Session
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman break down what to expect during your first visit to a sex therapist. They discuss common anxieties and misconceptions—like embarrassment, fear of judgment, or not knowing what sex therapists actually do—and...
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29. "You're pressing the nuclear button": Divorce, Sex, and Self-Esteem
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, Jose and Brad get real about divorce—how messy, confusing, and emotionally tough it can be, especially for guys. They talk about everything from couples using divorce as a threat, to the weird “should we/shouldn’t we?” dynamic around sex during and after...
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28. "Men are ready for sex much quicker...it doesn't mean that they want to": Men's Libido
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into the topic of men experiencing lower libido than their partners—an issue they note is more common than people might think. They discuss the emotional challenges men face, such as feelings of shame…
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27. "It wasn't this random surge of p*rn in your brain, there's reasons" Step 3: Progression
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman discuss STEP 3 of their eight-step recovery model for addressing out-of-control sexual behavior—"Progression." Building on previous steps (creating distance from the behavior and examining sexual history)…
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26. "Erectile Dysfunction: It's Bigger than your P3nis"
In this insightful episode of the Wet Dreams Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman delve into the widespread issue of erectile dysfunction (ED), exploring its causes, effects, and potential solutions. The discussion highlights how ED is increasingly becoming a concern for younger men,...
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25. Fatherhood Unfiltered: Preparing for Babies, Emotional Health, and Nurturing Partnerships
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we talk openly about what dads really go through during pregnancy and those early months of fatherhood. We shared our personal stories, highlighting the excitement, anxiety, and even feelings of being left out that often come with the territory. We...
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24. Beyond the Bedroom: The Real Impact of Sex Therapy on Mental Health
Join us as we delve into the world of sex therapy, sharing our personal journeys and insights. Learn how our specialized training enhances therapy sessions by incorporating discussions about complex sexual issues. Discover the dynamics of sex therapy compared to conventional therapy, and explore...
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23. Delving Into Sexual Histories: Step 2 of our model for Porn Recovery
In Episode 23 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we continue our series on addressing problematic sexual behaviors and pornography recovery with STEP 2 of our model. This episode focuses on exploring sexual history as a crucial step in treatment. We discuss the importance of understanding a person's…
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18 .Falling Out of Love with Porn: Our Eight Step Model to Overcoming out of control Porn and Sex
In this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast, Dr. Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez introduce STEP 1 of an innovative eight-step model designed to assist in overcoming pornography and sex addiction. We discuss the importance of creating distance from addictive behaviors as a crucial initial…
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22. Why Do People Watch P*rn? Insights from Campus Interviews
Join hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman as they dive into the complexities of pornography and its impact on relationships in this engaging episode of the Wet Dreams podcast. They explore diverse definitions, cultural perceptions, and the psychological nuances of porn consumption, drawing...
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21. Hey Dad, what does Wet Dreamz mean? Age-Appropriate Sex Talks for Young Kids
In Episode 21 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we discuss the importance of talking to children about sex and pornography from a young age, focusing on kids between the ages of 1 to 10. We emphasize starting these conversations by age four, as children are likely to be exposed to related content early,...
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20. Dr. Disrespect and Safe Sexting
In this enlightening episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman delve into the intricate world of sexting, exploring its potential risks and benefits. They unravel the complexities surrounding this modern form of communication, particularly focusing on how sexting can...
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19. Sex Therapists' Unfiltered Reactions: TV’s Dramatic Take on Real-Life Sex Therapy
Join sex therapists Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman as they dissect the portrayal of therapy and relationships in the TV show "Private Practice". This episode delves into the fictional portrayal of therapists' boundaries, client choices, and the complexities of sex and relationships. The hosts…
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17. Pregnancy and Intimacy: How to Keep the Spark Alive
In Episode 16 of the "Wet Dreamz Podcast," hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the complexities of relationships during pregnancy from the male perspective. They emphasize the importance of communication and intentional relationship nurturing throughout the pregnancy journey, cautioning...
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16. S3x Therapists React 1: Street interviews (Why do people watch p*rn?)
In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Dr. Brad Hinman react to street interviews about why people watch porn, uncovering various reasons such as trauma, disconnection, and unmet personal needs. They explore how social media can serve as a gateway to porn and discuss…
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15. Restoring Relationships After Cheating: Trust, Communication, and Emotional Bonding
In Season 2, Episode 5 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman explore the intricate process of rebuilding trust and intimacy after infidelity. They debunk the myth that cheaters always want to leave their partners and underscore the importance of patience and slow-paced...
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14. Infidelity's Aftermath: Restoring Trust and Addressing Emotional Turmoil
5 Part Series (Part 4)In Episode 14 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast titled "Initial Fallout," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the emotional chaos following infidelity in relationships. They discuss: - The injured partner's search for validation and the offending partner's shame. - Trust...
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13. From Healthy Meals to Snickers Bars: Analogies for Understanding Infidelity
5 Part Series (Part 3)In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast we, your hosts Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman, dive into the complex world of relationship boundaries and infidelity. We explore problematic sexual behaviors such as compulsive porn use, online sexting, and emotional affairs, shedding...
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12. Daydreams or Betrayal: The Role of Sexual Fantasies in Fidelity
5 Part Series (Part 2) On the Wet Dreamz Podcast episode "Daydreams or Betrayal: The Role of Sexual Fantasies in Fidelity," hosts Brad Hinman and Jose Gonzalez explore the complex role of sexual fantasies in monogamous relationships. They challenge the idea that these fantasies equate to a desire...
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11. Lies & Layaway: Is P*rn cheating?
5 EPISODE INFIDELITY SERIES In Episode 11 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we explore the contentious issue of pornography and its impact on relationships. They delve into why some view porn as a form of infidelity, with a surprising 74% considering it a betrayal. As we tackle the complex emotional...
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Season 2 Teaser
We're doing things a little differently this season. We will be doing 5 episode mini-seasons. This season we will dive into the controversial topic of infidelity. We're excited to switch things up, and we're always open to feedback and answering any questions you may have. Thanks for the support!...
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10. Fake it till you make it: Debunking Male Sex Myths (Part 2)
This is the FINAL EPISODE of Season 1 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast. Episode 10, "Fake it till you make it: Debunking Male Sex Myths (Part 2)," we tackle the stereotypes that affect men's emotional health in relationships and sexual experiences. We dive into the societal pressures that force men to...
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9. Fake it till you make it: Debunking Male Sex Myths (Part 1)
On Episode 9 Part 1 of Wet Dreamz Podcast, we address the pressing issues of unrealistic sexual and body image expectations for men. We also discuss the detrimental effects these standards have on men's self-esteem and their ability to form genuine emotional connections. We challenge the…
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8. Mismatched in the Bedroom? Addressing Desire Differences
In "Mismatched in the Bedroom? Addressing Desire Differences" Episode 8 of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, we explore why partners may have different levels of sexual desire. We highlight communication and daily buildup as key to bridging this gap, while addressing how external pressures like religious...
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7. Tackling Taboos: An In-depth Discussion about Sexual Communication
In this episode we delve deep into the often avoided topic of sexual communication. We discuss the fear many men have around rejection and vulnerability within relationships, emphasizing that rejection does not always imply a permanent denial but a temporary circumstance. Through an open dialogue...
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6. Shame on Me: How Shame and Guilt Shape Our Beliefs and Behaviors
In this episode, we delve into the ways shame and guilt can shape our experiences, particularly when it comes to physical touch and sexual intimacy. We discuss how society's limited view of physical touch can lead to misinterpretations, as well as the impact of pornography on our perceptions of...
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5. Porn is...Entertaining? (Part 2)
In "Porn is...entertaining? Part 2," Jose Gonzalez and Brad Hinman continue their discussion on pornography and its impact on viewers' beliefs. We debunk myths and misconceptions surrounding porn, emphasizing the importance of communication and consent in sexual activities. We explore the role of...
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4. P*rn is...Entertaining? (Part. 1)
P*rn... we work with guys, all day every day, that feel like their use of p*rnography is out-of-control. While we don't necessarily think p*rnography is inherently evil, it is important to understand that it was designed to be entertainment. It was NOT designed to educate or show you how things…
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3. Wank Bank: The "truth" about m@sturbation
We all do it, and sometimes EVERY DAY. But did you ever stop and consider that we might be doing it wrong?! In this episode we talk about all he myths we believe about "wanking" and ways in which we can get the most out of our "self pleasure" sessions....
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2. Sexual Penance
Although religion can be such a powerful tool in many people's lives, there are times when religion can create shame in us. When we are not given accurate and healthy information about sex when we're younger, it can create a sense of shame and guilt about the things that happen in our bodies....
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1. Grab your balls...we're going bowling
As men, we are expected to know all there is to know about sex. Whether it's how to initiate sex, what to do during sex, or whether we even want sex. In this episode we discuss taboo topics like, "does size matter", body image and emotions. We know you know most of these things, but let's talk...
About this show
As men we are expected to be a provider, be strong, have it all put together, and know all there is to know about sex. In this podcast we will discuss all the taboo topics surrounding men's sexuality and empower men to improve themselves and their sexual health.
Hosted by
Jose Gonzalez