35. Dr. Z on shifting from disengagement to engagement!

As a species, we are hardwired to avoid, control, and escape whatever makes us uncomfortable. That’s natural and expected.To avoid is to be human. But what happens when we avoid things that we care about because they make us uncomfortable or sad?What happens when we disconnect from the things that matter to us because we’re trying to control what we feel? What’s the long-term outcome of avoidant behaviors in our lives?When you make a habit of avoiding the situations and activities that bring up discomfort, and the avoidance becomes a chronic pattern, then it's time to make a shift.This episode will help you recognize avoidance behaviors that have been keeping you stuck and will tell you how to get mobilized. You will learn 3 specific activities you need to schedule in your weekly calendar to stop disconnecting and get back to your life.IMPORTANT NEWS FOR YOU:NEW BOOK: ACT for Perfectionism and High Achieving Behaviors: Do Things Your Way, Be Yourself, and Live a Purposeful Life.Get your copy hereWanting to give your best, making the best decisions you can, and striving to have all the information when something matters to you, doing these things makes sense because you care deeply. That’s not necessarily the problem; the problem is when these behaviors go unchecked, take on lives of their own, and become more debilitating than fulfillingThis is not a book in which you will read the usual clichés about high-achieving and perfectionistic actions. This is a book that shows you how to nurture, cultivate, and enrich your drive for high achievement without the sleepless nights, many hours of regret, years of blaming and criticizing yourself, or dwelling relentlessly on worries, fears, and anxieties.I believe—and behavioral science shows—that to create and live the life we want, we need to learn to accept ourselves as we really are, rather than as we wish to be. And if you’re prone to being a high achiever and a perfectionist, this book is an invitation to do so.(*) Show notes and resources of this episode(*) Receive free weekly science-based, compassionate, and actionable skills to stop ineffective playing-it-safe(*) Figure out your playing-it-safe profile in 5 minutes and identify the key thinking strategies that keep you living in your head(*) Learn ACT skills for anxious achievers by taking Dr. Z. ACT courses Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.