366: The Dark Side of Personal Development & How to Know if You’ve Actually Done the Work

IMPORTANT NOTE: This topic is VERY context-dependent and challenging to talk about in a more general “fits for everybody” sense, so please use your discernment when applying this to your own life and relationships.  This might just be one of the most important episodes on the podcast to date. A raw, honest, and vulnerable conversation exposing the DARK side of the personal development/coaching industry—and Monica’s weaving in real-life examples & stories of how she’s had to navigate this over the years. Pour a cup of tea and tune into the YouTube video if you can, because this is a MAJOR heart-to-heart. Here’s what Monica’s covering in this heart-to-heart: 🌚 signs of true, embodied healing vs saying you’ve “done the work” 🌚 how to feel safe even when you’re not being seen or heard or validated 🌚 the issues with thinking your way to healing from your conscious mind  🌚 why two people’s experiences can be valid at the same time 🌚 how to know if they're gaslighting you or emotionally manipulating you 🌚 how you can re-traumatize yourself talking about the same thing again & again 🌚 the difference between talk therapy vs somatic therapy 🌚 looking for a problem where there actually isn’t one 🌚 how no one is actually perfect or “enlightened” AKA we’re all human 🌚 the dangers of emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and projecting 🌚 over-communicating and how it can make people feel judged/shamed/etc. 🌚 why self-validation will set you free & how to balance it with external validation 🌚 why you don’t have to cut everyone out of your life if there’s disagreement 🌚 how you won’t always get what you want/need in a relationship (and that’s okay) 🌚 why overanalyzing your boundaries & what “feels good” can make you lonelier 🌚 where the feminist movement has f*cked us in relationships +++++ As Mentioned In The Episode —  ⇢ Becoming HER Free Masterclass: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/becoming-her-masterclass?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=her-mc ⇢ HER: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/her  ⇢ Podcast on Narcissistic Behavior: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/285-are-they-a-narcissist/id1449633522?i=1000594673761  ⇢ Blog Post on Dealing with a Narcissist: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/trauma/the-411-on-navigating-a-text-book-narcissist ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth  ⇢ Email if you’re not sure which of Monica’s program to start with or have Q’s about the Immersion: [email protected]  ⇢ Join Monica’s Email List: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/632a2bfbbf9a194f540c4ab0 ⇢ Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directory  Remember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. ***This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer