EPISODE · Mar 31, 2025 · 42 MIN
#38 - Stop Doing This One Thing To Help You Hit Your Goals
from The Shadow Diaries · host Lurinda & Steph
Send us Fan MailEver caught yourself promising "I'll start Monday" week after week? You're not alone. This raw conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about why we set intentions that rarely translate into action.We unpack the fascinating psychology behind why your brain actually gets a dopamine hit just from declaring your intentions—especially when others affirm them—creating the illusion you've already accomplished something. This reveals why so many of us get stuck endlessly planning rather than doing. As Steph bluntly puts it: "Your brain does not care that you're trying to grow and thrive. It cares that you're alive," preferring comfort over the discomfort required for real change.Both of us vulnerably share recent moments when mentors called us out for this exact pattern. These wake-up calls revealed areas where we'd been settling for "good intentions" rather than consistent action. The conversation shifts to practical strategies for breaking this cycle: starting ridiculously small, reverse-engineering intentions by connecting them to deeply meaningful reasons beyond surface-level motivations, and building identity-based habits that make follow-through automatic rather than optional.Whether you're struggling with business goals, fitness routines, or relationships, this episode offers both the tough love and practical tools to transform intentions into reality. We invite you to message us with one intention you're committing to—because real accountability might be the missing piece between wanting to change and actually doing it.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
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Send us Fan MailEver caught yourself promising "I'll start Monday" week after week? You're not alone. This raw conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about why we set intentions that rarely translate into action.We unpack the fascinating psychology behind why your brain actually gets a dopamine hit just from declaring your intentions—especially when others affirm them—creating the illusion you've already accomplished something. This reveals why so many of us get stuck endlessly planning rather than doing. As Steph bluntly puts it: "Your brain does not care that you're trying to grow and thrive. It cares that you're alive," preferring comfort over the discomfort required for real change.Both of us vulnerably share recent moments when mentors called us out for this exact pattern. These wake-up calls revealed areas where we'd been settling for "good intentions" rather than consistent action. The conversation shifts to practical strategies for breaking this cycle: starting ridiculously small, reverse-engineering intentions by connecting them to deeply meaningful reasons beyond surface-level motivations, and building identity-based habits that make follow-through automatic rather than optional.Whether you're struggling with business goals, fitness routines, or relationships, this episode offers both the tough love and practical tools to transform intentions into reality. We invite you to message us with one intention you're committing to—because real accountability might be the missing piece between wanting to change and actually doing it.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.
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