The Shadow Diaries

Send us Fan MailWe pull apart the stories we inherit about sacrifice and get brutally honest about when it helps us grow and when it becomes a cover for avoidance. We name the identity and nervous system patterns underneath hustle, martyrdom, and “super mum” culture so we can choose trade-offs with more clarity and less resentment. • sacrifice as a short season rather than a permanent lifestyle • ego boosts and identity pay-offs that keep struggle in place • asking for flexibility and support instead of treating life as fixed • parenting examples that show how beliefs become rules • grief and identity shifts as kids grow and roles change • “secondary gain” and the excuses that protect us from change • money, stability, fulfilment, and taking a long-term view in business • why sacrifice does not guarantee the outcome you want • emotional capacity, integration, and when healing work becomes avoidance • values alignment as the test for what you keep sacrificing If you love this episode, please leave a review, share it to your friends, and also always message us if there's a topic that you would love to for us to talk on.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailTrigger Warning: HG PregnancyThe moment “just think positive” meets real pain, the whole personal development world gets tested. Today I’m joined by Laura Grady, a manifestation and mindset coach who’s equal parts grounded and honest, and we go straight into the messy truth of what mindset work looks like when your body is in survival mode.Laura shares her story with fertility struggles and complex health issues including endometriosis and PCOS, plus the emotional whiplash of miscarriage and the pressure people feel to “stay high vibe”. We talk about why the idea that you attract everything can turn into shame fast, and why a healthier approach is controlling the controllables while dropping the self-blame. If you’ve ever wondered where manifestation fits when life feels unfair, this conversation names the limits without throwing the whole concept away.We also unpack Laura’s second pregnancy, where hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) becomes relentless and is complicated by severe POTS symptoms and serious heart concerns. She walks us through hospital visits, drips, weight loss, medications, and the fear of what might happen next, all while parenting a toddler and relying on family support. It’s raw, practical, and deeply human.Finally, we bring it back to what actually helps: shadow work, emotional regulation, feeling safe in your body, and changing identity and subconscious patterns rather than chasing a shiny method. If you’re ready for grounded manifestation, mindset coaching insights, and a compassionate reality check, hit play then share the episode, subscribe, and leave a review so more people can find these conversations.Find Laura:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/lauragradyy/Tik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@lauramanifestationReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWe pull apart the trap of being self-aware and why awareness can keep you looping in the same patterns when your body still chooses safety over change. We get brutally honest about identity work, nervous system protection, and what integration actually looks like when you stop outsourcing responsibility. • self-awareness as a middle step rather than a destination • patterns as protective strategies built for nervous system safety • why “I know I do this, but” is blame-shifting not ownership • the Ferris wheel effect of repeating familiar pain • intellectualising as emotional avoidance and loop-closing • embodiment and staying with sensations to build capacity • relational healing and why shadow work moves faster with support • the personas that keep you stuck: responsible one, good girl, performer, controller • the payoff of shadows, including being right and avoiding abandonment • practical ways to turn awareness into integration and behaviour change Send this to someone who needs to hear that they're not broken, just human Drop us a line about what came up for you. The messier, the better Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, Steph and Lurinda share their personal ADHD journeys, and they don’t fit into neat, inspirational narratives.One experience of medication increased productivity but felt like it muted joy and personality.The other created rare calm, spaciousness, and the ability to actually choose instead of react.We talk openly about ADHD in women, masking, late diagnosis, misdiagnosis, and the stigma that still surrounds medication. This isn’t about being pro or anti. It’s about honesty. Medication can be an assist, not an identity. A tool, not a personality trait.We unpack rejection sensitivity, emotional overwhelm, and what emotional regulation actually looks like when you’re navigating ADHD alongside business, motherhood, and partnership.You’ll hear us explore:• ADHD in women and the cost of masking • Medication as support, not a label • RSD, shame spirals, and nervous system regulation • Systems that actually stick: whiteboards, zones, shared calendars • Somatic tools for when talk therapy isn’t landing • PMDD, menstrual cycles, and planning around capacity • Using data without becoming the diagnosis • Joy, humour, and sustainable dopamine • Bare minimums for food, water, and movement • Weekly check-ins to protect relationships instead of burning them downThis is a conversation about self-trust. About experimenting. About letting your life be customised instead of copied.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re broken, too much, too sensitive, too inconsistent, this episode will meet you in that space and gently widen it.Subscribe for more conversations that stretch you in the best way.Send this to someone who needs to hear they’re not failing, they’re navigating.And tell us what came up for you. The honest reflections are our favourite.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver felt deeply grateful for your family and completely overwhelmed by the invisible load at the same time?In this episode, we come back after a month off the podcast and tell the truth about what was really going on. We talk about default parenting, running flexible businesses, emotional labour, and the quiet resentment that builds when you’re the responsible one holding it all together.Instead of pretending everything is fine, we unpack what capacity actually looks like in real life. We explore nervous system regulation as something seasonal, not something you master once and wear like a badge. We speak about bare minimum seasons, burnout, and how to keep life moving without abandoning yourself.We also zoom in on the beliefs shaping your daily reality, especially the story that motherhood is always hard. Rather than forcing positive thinking, we walk through grounded reframes your body can actually trust. This is about creating safety, building evidence, and making small shifts that add up.Inside this conversation, you’ll hear us name the parts so many women carry:The Responsible One who needs it perfect. The Provider who over-functions to feel worthy. The Martyr who gives until nothing is left.We don’t shame these parts. We understand them. Then we explore how to soften them so you can choose when to step up and when to step back.We also talk about golden shadows, the strengths we hide like stability, joy, and wins, and why dimming yourself helps no one.You’ll leave with practical tools you can use immediately: – Three priorities that actually get done – One good moment to consciously notice each day – One request for support each weekIf you’ve been carrying everything, this episode will help you set some of it down and decide what truly matters.If this landed, subscribe, share it with a woman who needs to hear it, and leave a review. Tell us what resonated or what stirred something up. We’re here for the real conversations, not the polished ones.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if growth isn’t about fixing yourself, but about finally letting yourself be seen—mess and all? We close out a turbulent year with a grounded reflection on health, impact, authenticity, and the quiet power of permission. Along the way, we unpack how “healthy” moved beyond routines to include grief capacity, relational repair, and self-compassion; how “impact” masked a drive to prove worth; and how our golden shadows, like hard work and resilience, can tip into self-sabotage when we make life harder just to feel deserving.You’ll hear the story of a “shame share” that turned performance into presence, not to win forgiveness but to stop self-punishing. We explore the difference between being honest and being exposed, why masks can be healthy boundaries, and how reclaiming timing is an act of self-trust. Authenticity, it turns out, isn’t about showing everything; it’s about choosing where truth serves connection and where privacy protects integrity. We also look at the belief that success must be hard, and how ease can be a legitimate outcome of clarity, systems, and aligned effort.Looking to 2026, our guiding words are intention and alignment. We’re stripping back busywork, automating what drains us, and focusing on work that lights us up, relationships that can hold blunt love, and daily rhythms that honour capacity. Duality is the practice—holding grief and joy without collapsing into extremes, staying present enough to choose instead of perform. If you’re ready to move from proving to permission, from fixing to feeling, and from chaos to a life that actually fits, you’re in good company here.If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs to hear they’re not broken, and leave a review with your word for 2026—we’d love to read it.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailChange gets easier when it stops being punishment and starts being honest. We sit down with business coach Tayla Bubeck to unpack why willpower fails, how shadow work reveals the hidden needs behind our habits, and the values first approach that turns intentions into evidence. From weight loss that lasts to building a business you actually want to run, we move past shame and into a practical, humane framework.Tayla walks us through a be do have pyramid that begins with values and identity, then adds beliefs and stories, the right skills, and finally behaviours and environment. We talk about shadow desires (the sneaky opposites of your stated values) that keep you loyal to old patterns. You’ll hear how to use compassionate inquiry to find the real need your habit was meeting, then meet that need in a better way. No fluff, no hustle theatre, just clear steps that lower friction and build momentum.Expect actionable tools: micro habits that are too small to fail, skill stacking to reduce excuses, and a simple process for returning after a slip without spiralling. We also get real about readiness, agency, and the social cost of growth: why some relationships fade when you stop bonding over struggle, and how to set standards without forcing anyone to change. If you’re craving a reset that respects your humanity, this conversation offers a path from self-judgement to self respect.BONUS RESOURCES:Tayla's BE DO HAVE ModelTayla's Shedding System👆🏻 Use code "SHADOWDIARIES" for a sneaky discount Tayla's InstagramReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe lights go up, the invites roll in, and suddenly the quiet aches feel louder. We sit down for an honest, compassionate look at grief during the holidays—how it shows up after death, through estrangement, in separations that split Christmas morning, and in the futures we planned but never lived. No scripts, no tidy stages, just two humans telling the truth about love, loss, and the courage it takes to set boundaries when the world says “be merry.”We share fresh, raw experiences from the past year: saying goodbye to a 16 year companion, the slow goodbye of a beloved grandparent, and navigating an ectopic pregnancy discovered in crisis. We also talk about a different kind of loss, missing someone who is alive but not safe to welcome back and the guilt that follows hard choices made to protect your family’s mental health. Along the way we explore second‑hand grief, like watching a parent lose a parent or standing beside a partner who honours a child who died, and how to hold empathy without making it yours for them to manage.If December stirs up what ifs, you’re not alone. We unpack the grief of expectations - fertility hurdles, partners who are done having kids, money pressures that don’t match Instagram and the identity shifts of motherhood, step parenting, and careers that no longer fit. You’ll hear practical ways to make the season gentler: understand your bandwidth, skip triggers, create new rituals, mute comparison, and use language that protects your energy. Most of all, you’ll get permission to feel what you feel, for as long as you need, without explaining yourself.If this conversation helps, share it with someone who could use a softer Christmas. And if you want more real talk about shadow work, grief, and the messy middle of being human, hit subscribe, leave a review, and tell us what landed, your story might be the one that helps someone breathe again.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThis week we're getting real about why December makes us want to curl up in a ball and disappear - and spoiler alert, it's not actually about having too much to do.We dive into the uncomfortable truth: most of our holiday overwhelm is self created. Not because you're doing it wrong, but because of unconscious patterns and shadows that have you believing you need to be everyone's Christmas hero while sacrificing your own sanity.In this raw conversation about holiday overwhelm and shadow work, we explore:Why you're still using the "I have a newborn" excuse when your kid is threeThe martyr shadow that has you doing EVERYTHING while resenting everyoneHow to tell the difference between actual overwhelm and manufactured dramaWhy disappointing people at Christmas won't actually kill you (promise)The victim pattern that keeps you stuck in "poor me, I have to do everything"Breaking the generational trauma of women killing themselves for perfect holidaysWhy your capacity isn't broken - it's just full of old shitThe real reason you won't ask for help (hint: it's not because no one's available)We get into the shadows that drive holiday chaos - the people pleaser who can't say no to one more commitment, the controller who won't let anyone else wrap presents "wrong," and the perfectionist who's ruining Christmas trying to make it magical.This is for every woman who starts dreading December in October. For mums who are already exhausted thinking about school concerts, present shopping, and keeping everyone happy. For anyone who wants to actually enjoy the holidays instead of white knuckling through them.Real talk about shadow work, breaking patterns, and giving yourself permission to have a Christmas that doesn't require you to sacrifice yourself on the altar of everyone else's expectations.Warning: May cause you to cancel some shit and actually enjoy December.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver feel like you're constantly exhausted but somehow never getting ahead? This week, Cinder shares how she went from killing herself in corporate (literally first in, last out every day) to working 15 hours a week - and somehow doing better than ever.We get into the real shit about why we stay so fucking busy all the time. Spoiler: it's not because we need to be. Through shadow work, Cinder discovered that her need to be the hardest worker in the room was actually about proving she was enough - and it was keeping her stuck in patterns that looked like success but felt like prison.We talk about:Why posting about leaving the office at 7pm used to feel like a flex (and why it makes her cringe now)The moment she realized being "busy" was just fancy procrastinationHow shadow work showed her that 80% of what she was doing was just... noiseThat voice in your head that says you need to work harder to be worthy (and why it's lying)What actually happens when you stop trying to prove yourself through exhaustionThe difference between actually working hard vs performing "hard work" for validationWhy doing less isn't lazy - it's just not being controlled by your shadows anymoreThis one's for anyone who's tired of the hustle culture bullshit but doesn't know how to stop. For the women who've been taught that their worth comes from how much they can handle. For anyone who suspects there's another way but can't quite see it yet.Real talk about shadow work, breaking patterns, and creating a life that doesn't require you to burn out to feel successful.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWe unpack the near breakup that almost ended our friendship and how we found our way back. From anxious and avoidant attachment styles to business comparison, unmet needs, and emotional repair, this conversation explores the messy, human side of female friendship.We talk about: • spotting the slow cracks and micro-moments of disconnection • anxious vs. avoidant attachment in friendships • over-responsibility, boundaries, and honest communication • comparison in business and diverging life paths • repairing ruptures while emotional (without bypassing) • long-distance friendship structures that actually work • asking for what you need in clear, grounded language • how rupture and repair deepen trust and safetyIf you’ve ever wondered how to navigate conflict in friendships, rebuild trust, or handle emotional triggers with compassion - this episode is for you.Subscribe for more raw conversations about friendship, healing, shadow work, and the real stories behind repair.Share it with someone who needs a reminder that they’re not broken - just human.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailLurinda sits down with her sister-in-law Steph to trace a raw path from over-giving and anxiety to boundaries, receiving, and award-winning service.Steph shares how hypnotherapy, somatic work, and shadow work reshaped her life and business—and why she believes personal and professional growth are the same path.In this episode: • Moving from Australia to Canada and learning to receive love • High standards, expectations, and the cost of poor boundaries • Codependency awareness and the power of validation • Regulating anxiety through exercise and nervous system work • Breakthroughs through hypnotherapy and somatic therapy • Reframing selfishness and integrating shadow work • Human Design insights and surrendering control in leadership • Authentic marketing that prioritizes safety and feeling • Choosing community over competition in the beauty industry • Shifting from should to could for sustainable change • Steph’s practical advice for starting your growth journey • How to work with Steph through coaching and trainingIf you’re ready for real conversations about healing, embodiment, and business that make you squirm in the best way—subscribe now.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if the fastest way to real change is the slow and steady path no one celebrates?In this episode, we explore why shortcuts feel so seductive, how they quietly sabotage long term growth, and what it really takes to build systems that last. From 28 day challenges and “million in a year” promises to quick fixes in relationships, we talk about the difference between information and integration and why your nervous system needs steadiness more than sprints.You’ll learn how neural pathways shape habits, why old patterns resurface even when new ones work, and how identity plays a bigger role than willpower. We unpack the common archetypes that keep people stuck such as the strong one, the hot mess, the lifelong dieter, and the chaos chaser in love. We also explore how fear, dopamine, and comparison loops reward speed but punish consistency.Then we move into what actually works. Align your routines with the seasons of your life, whether that’s school holidays, end of year chaos, or new chapters. Choose one proven approach and commit to it for six to twelve months. Build nervous system capacity, create sustainable habits, and learn to tolerate boredom without abandoning yourself.You’ll walk away with grounded and realistic steps to break the yo yo cycle, reduce burnout, and build a life that feels steady and fulfilling. If you’ve ever lost the same weight four times, posted for months with barely any engagement, or avoided a hard conversation until resentment built up, this episode will feel like an exhale.If you’re ready to trade hacks for foundations and build a life that fits, one that feels calm, consistent, and resilient, this conversation is for you.Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who’s ready to stop chasing shortcuts and start creating real lasting change.Journal Prompts: Slowing Down to Build Real ChangeWhere in my life do I keep searching for the quickest or easiest path?What emotions come up when I imagine slowing down or taking the long way?When I don’t see results fast enough, what story do I tell myself about who I am?How does my body feel when I’m in “rush” mode versus when I allow things to unfold naturallyWhat part of me believes that being fast, productive, or efficient makes me worthy?Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode of The Shadow Diaries, shadow work coaches Lurinda sits down with Caitlin—mum, counsellor, and mentor—to explore the quiet kind of relationship misalignment that looks fine from the outside but leaves the body shutting down.Caitlin shares her story of months of throat tension, sudden weight changes, and constant messages to “be grateful, he’s a good dad.” When she finally said, “I can’t do this anymore,” her body exhaled for the first time in years.Together we unpack what emotional safety really means: being able to feel, name, and ask without being dismissed. We talk about nervous system cues, over-functioning in relationships, and how repair cycles and counselling can only go so far when there’s a deeper disconnection.You’ll also hear about the social fallout of choosing yourself, the pain of outgrowing a partner, and a simple body check-in practice to help you reconnect to your truth—without shame, villains, or clichés.If you’re a woman, mother, or healer navigating relationship burnout or wondering why your body keeps whispering “enough,” this conversation is for you.Listen now, follow The Shadow Diaries, and share it with a friend who needs to hear she’s not alone.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWelcome to The Shadow Diaries—a podcast by shadow work coaches Lurinda and Steph, where real women share real stories about healing, self-discovery, and emotional growth.After a year as Unhinged and Unfiltered, we’ve evolved into something deeper and more intentional. This new chapter is about demystifying shadow work and bringing compassion to the parts of ourselves we’ve been taught to hide.Each episode explores the everyday moments that shape transformation—pausing before reacting, recognizing a trigger, or showing yourself kindness when it feels impossible. This is where healing becomes human.Our approach to shadow work is practical and grounded. It’s not about fixing yourself or digging endlessly into darkness. It’s about understanding how your hidden parts have been protecting you and learning to meet them with curiosity instead of shame.You don’t need to have lived through big trauma to belong here. Whether you’re a mother, a coach, or a woman simply trying to feel more like herself, The Shadow Diaries meets you exactly where you are.Subscribe and join our community where personal development isn’t a solo mission. Share this podcast with someone who needs the reminder: you’re not broken—you’re just becoming more whole.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe dangerous game of constantly pushing through emotions eventually backfires - just like a pressure cooker that can't contain its contents forever. In this raw conversation, Steph and Lurinda explore why our "I'll deal with it later" mentality creates a ticking time bomb of suppressed emotions that inevitably explodes on those around us.We introduce the powerful concept of "glass and rubber balls" - a practical framework for determining what responsibilities are essential (glass) versus what can temporarily bounce when your capacity is reduced. This approach gives you permission to drop certain tasks without the weight of failure when life becomes overwhelming.For busy parents especially, finding micro-moments throughout the day can provide crucial emotional release valves. Whether it's a quick body scan at a stoplight or playing your music instead of the kids' during car rides, these small acknowledgments prevent emotional buildup. However, we also discuss how these micro-moments can sometimes become another avoidance tactic when deeper emotional work is needed.The conversation takes a powerful turn when we examine how our patterns affect our households. When we consistently model pushing through and suppressing emotions, we're teaching our children to do the same. Similarly, when we establish ourselves as the household managers who handle everything, we create unrealistic expectations about others intuitively knowing when and how to step in during our moments of need.Perhaps most importantly, we challenge the one-size-fits-all approach to rest and slowdown. Your version might look completely different from what's portrayed as ideal on social media - and that's perfectly okay. The key is interrupting your normal pattern with whatever genuinely replenishes you, rather than following someone else's prescription for what rest "should" look like.If you're caught in the cycle of pushing through, rationalizing your feelings away, or putting everyone else's needs before your own, this episode offers compassionate insight and practical strategies to break free before the inevitable explosion.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

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Send us Fan MailEver caught yourself creating chaos when everything's going smoothly? Or felt like you need to give, give, give until there's nothing left just to be worthy? You're not alone.After a year of consistent weekly episodes, we've made the decision to shift to a fortnightly schedule. This choice wasn't made lightly—it emerged from deep reflection on our patterns of overgiving, people-pleasing, and the sometimes uncomfortable feeling of stability.Both of us have recognized familiar shadows: the belief that our worth comes from constant production, the discomfort that arises when life gets too "secure," and the tendency to burn ourselves out in service to others. As we navigate our successful businesses, family responsibilities, and personal growth, we've realized that sometimes less truly is more.Through vulnerable conversation, we explore why security can feel terrifying when you've been programmed for chaos, how to recognize when you're creating unnecessary drama, and why slowing down doesn't mean giving less value, it often means giving more. We share our struggles with the question: "What do I contribute if I'm not constantly doing?" and how we're learning that simply being present is often contribution enough.This episode offers permission to examine where you might be overcomplicating your life out of habit rather than necessity. It's about challenging the hustle culture that keeps us exhausted and disconnected from what truly matters, while honestly acknowledging the discomfort that comes with making changes aligned with our authentic desires instead of our conditioned "shoulds."Ready to question where you might benefit from doing less but better? Join us on this journey of unlearning and reclaiming our time, energy, and joy. We'd love to hear how this resonates with you—drop into our DMs or leave a review to continue the conversation!Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThat moment when you're years into your healing journey and suddenly realize you're still a hot mess? We've all been there, and it's actually a sign you're doing the work right.In this raw conversation, we dive into the uncomfortable truth about personal development—it's not a linear path to becoming "fixed" but rather a lifelong journey of acknowledging, accepting, and integrating our shadows. We explore how the deeper you go, the more sophisticated your defensive mechanisms become, and how the spiritual ego loves to whisper that you should be "beyond" certain struggles by now.Using the metaphor of wounds transforming from infected gashes to eventual scars, we discuss why healing doesn't mean erasing your past but changing your relationship with it. Those scars serve a purpose—they're reminders of where you've been and what you've survived. They might occasionally become tender again under specific circumstances, but that doesn't mean you've failed at healing.We distinguish between mere awareness of patterns (which many mistake for healing) and the deeper work of genuine acceptance. Without acceptance, we remain stuck in cycles of self-sabotage while convincingly explaining why we do what we do. True healing requires sitting in discomfort long enough to build resilience, rather than rushing through processes to avoid feeling.Perhaps most importantly, we challenge the damaging notion that coaches, parents, or leaders need to have everything figured out. The most unsafe people are those who pretend to have no mess, no shadows, no wounds. Your humanity isn't something to overcome—it's the very thing that makes you relatable, authentic, and safe for others navigating their own messy journeys.Ready to release the pressure of perfection and embrace the beautiful mess of being human? Listen now, and remember: we're aiming for progress, not perfection.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhen was the last time you questioned what success really looks like? In this raw, vulnerable mid-year check-in, Lurinda reveals how her carefully mapped business plans took an unexpected detour after her daughter's serious car accident thrust her into survival mode for months.The perfectionist who started 2023 with rigid financial goals found herself humbled by life's chaos, discovering that her true values weren't aligned with the success metrics she'd been chasing. "I needed to have those goals to really see that finances don't equal success," she confesses, describing a pivotal moment at a business event where she realized, "I would rather have no money but still have my values."This reflection dives deep into the shadow side of perfectionism, the double-edged sword of resilience, and the courage required to completely restructure a business around quality over quantity. As Lurinda approaches her 30th birthday, she's focused on "closing chapters" from her twenties—creating physical spaces that nurture presence, setting stronger boundaries, and unmasking her true self after years of wearing protective facades.The conversation offers a refreshing counterpoint to hustle culture, showing how sometimes pulling back, refining focus, and prioritising meaningful connections creates more sustainable success than constantly adding more to your plate. For anyone feeling stretched thin between work, family responsibilities, and self-care, Lurinda's journey provides both validation and a roadmap for reclaiming your relationship with yourself.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when we shine light on the parts of ourselves we've been taught to hide? Shadow work invites us to reconnect with our whole selves, beyond the conditioning that has labeled certain traits as "good" or "bad."In this milestone 52nd episode (marking our one-year podcast anniversary!), we explore the profound world of shadow work—what it is, how it transforms lives, and what actually happens in a session. Far from the ominous social media portrayal of "doing the dark work," shadow work is simply about meeting parts of yourself that conditioning has forced you to suppress.When we're young, we learn which traits get rewarded and which get punished. Those punished traits become our "shadows"—aspects we hide away because our nervous system literally registers them as dangerous. The classic example? Being labeled "selfish" as a child for not sharing, which can lead to an adult who can't prioritize their own well-being without crushing guilt. Shadow work helps recalibrate this conditioning, showing that traits like selfishness aren't inherently bad—they're contextual. Being selfish about your health is actually essential!Through somatic approaches that access the subconscious mind, shadow work helps locate where these feelings live in your body. Unlike affirmations or talk therapy, it addresses the deeper nervous system programming that keeps you stuck. Both of us share our raw personal journeys into shadow work—from spontaneous decision-making to profound grief and loss—revealing how this practice doesn't just change your thinking, it transforms your entire relationship with yourself.Ready to meet your shadows? We share the various ways to work with us, from one-on-one coaching to retreats and membership communities. Book a no-pressure connection call to explore what path might be right for you—we're guides on this journey, not salespeople pushing you off a cliff!Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe turning point came when Steph's dog died because she was rushing. Then an ectopic pregnancy requiring surgery showed how disconnected she'd become from her own body. These wake-up calls forced a hard look at the hustle mentality she'd embraced for 35 years."I don't want to live like this anymore," Steph reveals in this vulnerable mid-year reflection. Halfway through 2025, she's discovering what happens when you create space instead of filling every minute. The transformation hasn't made her life any less full—with three kids, a husband working long hours, and her own business—but her relationship with time and presence has fundamentally shifted.What's surprising her most? How capable she is of setting boundaries without guilt. How she can say no to clients who don't energize her. How she can show up differently as a mother as her children grow older, asking herself, "Am I giving them the childhood I want to? Am I being the mum that builds them up?" These questions extend to her marriage as she wonders, "Am I still going to be in love with my husband when they leave home?"The conversation delves into dismantling long-held beliefs about success requiring constant hustle. "I'm really undoing those beliefs that it has to be complicated, it has to be full, it has to be a certain way to get where you want to go," Steph shares. "Sometimes simplifying things is actually what you need to do."This intimate look at one woman's journey from perpetual motion to intentional presence offers wisdom for anyone feeling overwhelmed by life's demands. As Steph puts it, the obstacle to living your ideal life often comes from within "myself." The limiting beliefs we've carried for decades can be unraveled, but it takes commitment to a new way of being.Ready to explore your own relationship with hustle and presence? Steph offers one-off sessions combining shadow work and breathwork, a six-month group program, and limited one-on-one coaching packages. Connect with us to learn more about working with Steph and transforming your relationship with time, purpose, and presence.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe nervous system revolution has swept through wellness spaces, with "regulation" becoming the ultimate goal. But have we swung too far in one direction? In this thought-provoking episode, we pull back the curtain on what happens when regulation becomes avoidance.Emotional regulation has its place - returning to your window of tolerance is crucial for functioning. But when regulation becomes your only tool, you might be missing the crucial healing that comes from actually processing your emotions. That sock on the floor that sends you into rage? Constantly regulating without processing means you'll be triggered by socks forever.Your body speaks a language all its own. The persistent headaches, the back pain that won't quit, the fatigue that no amount of sleep fixes - these aren't random occurrences. They're your body's increasingly desperate attempts to get you to listen to what you've been suppressing. The body indeed keeps the score, and it will get progressively louder until you pay attention.We explore practical approaches to creating safety - both within yourself and your environment - so you can begin processing emotions effectively. From checking in with your body to setting boundaries in relationships, these tools help create the container needed for real emotional work. And importantly, we discuss giving yourself permission to process at your own pace, recognising when you've reached your limit, and honoring that boundary.Processing doesn't mean you need to feel everything at once. It doesn't mean you should have emotional conversations when you're already dysregulated. It's about finding the balance - knowing when to regulate and when to process - while remembering that healing isn't linear. Some days you'll have time and space for emotional work; other days you'll barely have time to breathe. That's not failure - that's being human.Ready to transform your relationship with your emotions? This episode might just change how you approach your nervous system. Share your thoughts with us in our DMs - we'd love to hear how this resonates with you.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

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Send us Fan MailRemember all those Disney movies you loved as a kid? Turns out they've been secretly messing with your relationships ever since. From Cinderella teaching us to be martyrs who do everything for everyone, to Ariel literally trading her voice just to chase a man she'd never spoken to, these fairy tales have programmed us with some seriously questionable relationship beliefs.We dive deep into how these childhood stories created unrealistic expectations about love. The Beast taught us that we should rehabilitate emotionally unavailable men with our kindness. Snow White showed us that beauty and passivity were enough to be worthy. And Mulan? She reinforced the message that women have to work harder and sometimes hide who they truly are to be valued. No wonder our relationships feel complicated!One of our most eye-opening revelations is about the dreaded "roommate phase" that many couples experience. What if that comfortable stability isn't actually a problem? We explore how movies have conditioned us to expect constant drama and passion, making us mistake toxic patterns for romance while dismissing healthy, secure relationships as "boring." That stability you're experiencing might actually be what emotional safety feels like when you're not living in a Disney movie.We also get real about intimacy beyond sex, discussing how connection can be maintained even when libidos don't match and sharing practical tools like the "yab yum" exercise that can help rebuild closeness without pressure. True relationships require actively choosing each other every day – fairy tales conveniently skip that part.Join us for this laugh-out-loud yet surprisingly profound conversation that will have you questioning everything you thought you knew about love. Your relationship might thank you for it!Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan Mail"Whose baggage is it anyway?" That's the question at the heart of today's deep dive into projections—those moments when we unconsciously push our feelings, fears, and past wounds onto others.We explore the fascinating psychology behind why we project our emotions onto those around us and how these projections shape our daily interactions, particularly with our children and partners. Through vulnerable personal stories (including Lorinda's anxiety during her son's math competition that was entirely her own projection), we unpack how our unresolved issues can create unnecessary tension in relationships and even pass our wounds to the next generation.You'll discover practical tools to recognize when you're projecting rather than responding to what's actually happening. We share specific questions to ask yourself in heated moments, techniques to ground yourself when triggered, and ways to create the essential space between feeling an emotion and reacting to it. These strategies help break the cycle of projection that keeps many of us stuck in repetitive conflicts.The conversation tackles both sides of emotional expression—how over-analyzing can lead to emotional bypassing while unchecked emotional flooding can hijack meaningful dialogue. We offer balanced approaches to holding both logical awareness and emotional authenticity simultaneously, even during challenging interactions.Whether you're struggling with parental anxiety, relationship misunderstandings, or simply want to better understand your emotional responses, this episode provides compassionate insight into one of the most common yet rarely discussed patterns in human behavior. By the end, you'll have practical tools to differentiate between your baggage and authentic responses to present situations.Remember to share this episode with someone who might benefit from understanding their own projection patterns, and drop into our DMs to continue the conversation!Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailIn this episode Lurinda shares all about her "Surrender" retreat - we get an insight on the backend of what goes into this and how it is all painstakingly considered.For busy women juggling countless roles and responsibilities, the idea of surrender feels both terrifying and desperately needed. We're experts at taking care of everyone else while abandoning ourselves, creating an exhausting pattern of control, resentment, and disconnection. The Surrender Retreat offers a rare opportunity to step away from these patterns and discover what lies beneath.Lurinda vulnerably shares how her own journey through abandonment wounds, friendship betrayals, and fear of being fully seen led her to create an experience fundamentally different from typical personal development events. From the moment participants sign up, they're held in a container of support that extends well beyond the four-day immersion. Every detail – from airport pickups to personalized food preferences – is handled with care by Lurinda and her support person Tori (lovingly dubbed "the fairy").What makes this retreat uniquely powerful is its holistic approach to transformation. Through four pillars – mind, voice, heart, and embodiment – participants engage with their shadows, limiting beliefs, and somatic patterns in a space of complete acceptance. The intimate setting (maximum six women) creates profound connection as judgments transform into reflections, conflicts become opportunities for growth, and walls gradually come down.The stories of transformation are remarkable: women finding their voice, establishing clear boundaries, improving relationships, and releasing the belief that they're somehow broken. Yet perhaps most touching is Lorinda's revelation that in creating this space for others, she continues to heal herself. As she puts it: "You are loved. You are seen. You are supported." In a world that rarely offers women these gifts unconditionally, the Surrender Retreat creates a container where they become not just possible, but inevitable.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailCat Dunn shares her powerful journey as a domestic violence survivor and how she transformed her 20-year experience of abuse into advocacy for women's voices and stories.• Surviving domestic violence for 20 years, learning it was a behavior pattern from childhood• The challenge of rebuilding self-trust after trauma and how the body physically holds onto past experiences• Discovering hypermobility diagnosis after years of unexplained injuries, connecting physical pain to emotional trauma• Why leaving abusive relationships is so difficult – you're not just leaving a person but your entire identity• How to support someone in a domestic violence situation: be present, listen, avoid telling them to leave• The power of sharing stories through Cat's "Life After I Left" events and upcoming podcast• Breaking the "sister wound" and finding genuine support among women• Recognizing that domestic violence affects one in four women – it's someone in every roomIf you've enjoyed this episode, please leave a review or drop into our DMs. We'd love to hear from you.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe digital age has transformed nearly every aspect of our lives, but can artificial intelligence truly replicate the depth and nuance of human connection in therapeutic relationships? Steph and Lurinda tackle this provocative question head-on, exploring whether tools like ChatGPT could potentially replace human therapists and coaches. Drawing from their extensive experience working with clients, they unpack the fundamental differences between AI-generated responses and the irreplaceable value of genuine human connection.While acknowledging AI's impressive capabilities for providing information and initial guidance, the hosts identify critical limitations that prevent technology from truly replicating therapeutic relationships. AI misses roughly 70% of communication – the body language, tone shifts, energy patterns, and nervous system responses that trained coaches instinctively read. ChatGPT might validate your perspective as your digital "bestie," but it won't challenge your blind spots or notice when your story doesn't quite add up.The conversation delves into the profound healing that happens when we're truly witnessed by another human being. That moment when a coach picks up on subtle cues you didn't even realise you were displaying, or creates a safe container for processing emotions rather than intellectualising them. This embodied wisdom and intuitive connection simply cannot be replicated through algorithms, no matter how sophisticated.For coaches listening, there's a powerful call to evolution – knowledge alone is no longer enough in a world where information is instantly accessible. The future of coaching lies in transformation through connection, in the embodied wisdom that comes from lived experience rather than data points.Whether you're curious about AI's potential, seeking personal growth support, or a helping professional yourself, this thought-provoking episode offers valuable perspectives on the irreplaceable magic of human connection in our increasingly digital world.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if the key to unlocking pleasure isn't something external, but simply learning to reconnect with your own body? This intimate conversation with embodiment therapist Jazz reveals how many women struggle with pleasure because they're fundamentally disconnected from their bodies, living in their heads rather than experiencing through physical sensation."We are taught to exist from a very masculine perspective," Jazz explains, highlighting how our society's emphasis on constant achievement and productivity has disconnected us from our natural feminine rhythms. This disconnection doesn't just affect sexual pleasure—it permeates every aspect of life, from decision-making to relationship dynamics to overall wellbeing.The pathway back to pleasure begins with simple practices: body scans, conscious breathing, and intuitive movement. Jazz shares practical techniques anyone can implement today, emphasizing that embodiment isn't something reserved for special occasions but a daily practice that transforms how we experience life. For women struggling with low libido or difficulty experiencing pleasure, the solution rarely lies in quick fixes but rather in addressing the fundamental disconnection between mind and body.Perhaps most powerfully, Jazz addresses how self-worth forms the foundation of embodiment work. "If we don't think we're valuable, then why are we going to choose to connect to our body?" This insight illuminates why many women struggle to prioritize their pleasure—they haven't yet recognized their inherent worthiness of it. As Jazz beautifully affirms near the conversation's end: "Pleasure is our birthright."For anyone feeling stuck in their head, overwhelmed by responsibilities, or missing that spark in their intimate relationships, this episode offers compassionate guidance toward reconnection with your body's wisdom and the pleasure that naturally follows when we slow down enough to truly listen.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver wondered what really goes on behind the scenes of a transformation coach's life? After 42 episodes of helping you navigate life's chaos, we're pulling back the curtain on our personal journeys, businesses, and why we're so passionate about this work.Lurinda reveals how her own disconnection from self during a relationship breakdown became the catalyst for her coaching career. Now specializing in helping women reconnect with themselves first—before their roles as mothers and partners—she shares how shadow work and somatic practices have not only transformed her clients' lives but helped her lose 14 kilos simply by listening to her body's wisdom. Her powerful mission? "You are a woman first, all those roles and responsibilities come after."Meanwhile, Steph opens up about how postpartum depression and a drinking problem led her to discover personal development tools that changed everything. Today, she helps women who yell at their kids, struggle with habits, or feel like roommates with their partners after having children. Her no-nonsense approach combines shadow work with tough love: "I want to help you heal from your shit so it's not dragging you around, but also so you don't look back in 20 years and go 'I really fucked that up'."We don't sugarcoat the realities of entrepreneurship—the financial investments, the late nights working while children sleep, the meltdowns when bills come due. But we also share why we wouldn't choose any other path: witnessing a woman take back her power after years of people-pleasing, or seeing a client finally heal digestive issues she's had since childhood after one powerful session.Whether you're curious about shadow work, considering working with a coach, or simply want to feel less alone in your struggles, this intimate conversation will remind you that transformation is possible—and that sometimes the most broken parts of ourselves become our greatest gifts to others.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailHave you ever done a breathwork session, shadow work, or healing process and found yourself wondering "now what?" You're not alone. The growing personal development industry has created a powerful narrative around emotional breakthroughs, but often leaves people hanging when it comes to what happens after the tissues are put away.In this raw conversation, we expose the missing link in transformation work – integration. Beyond the dramatic moments of release lies the real work of change. Your nervous system remains sensitive and open for days after deep process work, creating both vulnerability and opportunity. Without proper integration, these powerful experiences become merely emotional tourism without lasting impact.We share practical integration techniques for different personality types, from journaling and movement to sensory regulation and connection. You'll learn why listening to your body (not your ego) matters during this critical period, and why scheduling "white space" after deep emotional work is essential for processing.The truth is, personal development isn't about reaching a destination where nothing ever triggers you again. The same core wounds will return wearing different clothes throughout your life – but with proper integration, you'll recognize them faster and navigate them with greater skill. Creating new neural pathways doesn't erase old ones; it simply gives you more options when life gets challenging.If you've ever felt shame because a breakthrough didn't "stick," or wondered why emotional release work hasn't produced lasting change in your life, this episode provides the missing framework. True transformation happens not in the crying, but in the days, weeks and months that follow as you integrate insights into lived experience.Tag us on social media with your integration experiences or questions – we're passionate about helping you move from emotional moments to embodied wisdom.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWe've all been there—that moment when your child ignores you for the fifth time and something inside you snaps. The volume rises, your body tenses, and later comes the guilt: "Why did I react that way?" In this raw, enlightening conversation, Lurinda interviews Steph about her journey from struggling with parental rage to becoming what Lurinda calls "the habit queen."Steph reveals how her experience of unexplained anger in early motherhood led her to discover powerful connections between our nervous systems and our children's behaviour. "When I cleaned up my shit, my kids stopped being little jerks all the time," she shares, explaining how the cortisol we release when stressed actually affects those around us—regardless of what calming words we might be using.The conversation dives deep into why even those with "decent upbringings" carry triggers that emerge in parenthood, and why people often wait until they're completely burnt out before seeking help. Steph outlines practical approaches to identifying personal triggers, expressing emotions healthily rather than suppressing them, and transforming power struggles into playful connections.Perhaps most powerfully, Steph challenges the common parenting belief that authority comes from making yourself "bigger" through yelling: "I have never once looked at somebody who is screaming their head off and gone 'wow, you really command authority.'" Instead, she offers a vision of parenting where emotional regulation creates genuine respect, and where bringing joy into small daily moments prevents triggering situations altogether.Want to work directly with Steph on managing parenting triggers and emotional regulation? Her group program and one-on-one coaching spots are available now—follow the links in our bio or message her directly to learn more about transforming your parenting experience.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailRaw, unfiltered, and completely unrehearsed - welcome to an episode where we strip away the polish and dive straight into questions that made us squirm, reflect, and occasionally gasp.This conversation began with a simple premise: what happens when two coaches who regularly challenge clients face unexpected questions themselves? The result is a fascinating exploration of vulnerability that reveals as much about coaching as it does about us. From examining what traits we attract in clients that mirror our own growth edges to confronting which past versions still hold the most shame, each question peels back another layer of self-awareness.One particularly powerful moment emerges when we discuss what our inner children might demand we stop doing. The realization that we often seek permission from everyone except ourselves hits hard, as does the admission that ambitious dreams can be blocked by persistent thoughts of "why me?" Perhaps most compelling is our final exploration of how trauma shapes power - and the fear that sharing our stories might either diminish others' experiences or reduce complex pain to simplistic "everything happens for a reason" narratives.What makes this conversation different is that you're witnessing our real-time processing - complete with long pauses, moments of confusion, and occasional resistance. We're practicing exactly what we preach: staying curious in uncomfortable moments rather than rushing to tidy conclusions. These questions have transformed conversations in our coaching containers, and we'd love to hear how they land with you. Which question resonated most? What truth emerged that surprised you? Drop into our DMs and let us know - we're here for the messy, beautiful reality of growth, not just the highlight reel.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver caught yourself promising "I'll start Monday" week after week? You're not alone. This raw conversation tackles the uncomfortable truth about why we set intentions that rarely translate into action.We unpack the fascinating psychology behind why your brain actually gets a dopamine hit just from declaring your intentions—especially when others affirm them—creating the illusion you've already accomplished something. This reveals why so many of us get stuck endlessly planning rather than doing. As Steph bluntly puts it: "Your brain does not care that you're trying to grow and thrive. It cares that you're alive," preferring comfort over the discomfort required for real change.Both of us vulnerably share recent moments when mentors called us out for this exact pattern. These wake-up calls revealed areas where we'd been settling for "good intentions" rather than consistent action. The conversation shifts to practical strategies for breaking this cycle: starting ridiculously small, reverse-engineering intentions by connecting them to deeply meaningful reasons beyond surface-level motivations, and building identity-based habits that make follow-through automatic rather than optional.Whether you're struggling with business goals, fitness routines, or relationships, this episode offers both the tough love and practical tools to transform intentions into reality. We invite you to message us with one intention you're committing to—because real accountability might be the missing piece between wanting to change and actually doing it.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if everything you've been told about trauma making you stronger is actually allowing you to sink further into chaos? In this deeply personal conversation, we challenge the popular notion that suffering builds character and instead explore how trauma fundamentally rewires our nervous systems.Our bodies become calibrated to chaos and uncertainty after traumatic experiences. This calibration explains why so many of us find ourselves unconsciously drawn to chaotic situations, destructive relationships, or overwhelming busyness—our nervous systems are desperately seeking the familiar, even when it hurts. We share vulnerable stories about how this has manifested in our own lives, from sabotaging healthy relationships to creating unnecessary drama when things feel too stable.The concept of the "trauma loop" illuminates why traditional talk therapy sometimes falls short. When animals experience danger, they complete a full cycle—perceiving threat, responding, and then releasing that energy once safety is restored. Humans often interrupt this process, never fully processing or releasing the trauma. This explains why embodiment practices and somatic therapy can be transformative—they help complete the interrupted cycle and finally release what's been stored in our bodies.Perhaps most enlightening is our discussion of how seemingly minor experiences—what therapists call "little t" trauma—can profoundly shape us. A man yelling at you when you're eight years old. A parent's dismissive comment. These micro-moments get stored in our bodies and influence how we navigate relationships decades later, often without our conscious awareness.If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy patterns or why stable, loving relationships sometimes feel more threatening than chaotic ones, this episode offers clarifying insights and compassionate perspectives on healing. Your trauma is valid, your responses make perfect sense, and there is a path forward toward recalibrating your nervous system to recognize true safety.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns despite knowing better? Relationship therapist Paige Louise joins Lurinda to unravel the invisible threads that connect our past wounds to our current partnerships.Paige shares her powerful journey from being trapped in generational cycles of toxic relationships to becoming the empowered woman who helps others break free. After becoming pregnant at 16 and enduring years in a relationship marked by infidelity, she discovered the transformative power of self-responsibility. Her revelation? The moment we stop blaming others and start owning our choices is when genuine healing begins.Through vulnerable storytelling, both hosts and Paige explore how our protective mechanisms—the very armor that once kept us safe—often becomes our biggest barrier to genuine connection. Steph's metaphor of removing relationship armor only to reveal "infected wounds" underneath perfectly captures why many of us experience mental health challenges when finally feeling safe enough to be vulnerable with someone trustworthy.The conversation delves into practical relationship wisdom: how "if he loved me, he would..." thinking sabotages potential happiness, why directly asking for what you need builds genuine intimacy, and how treating yourself with respect naturally elevates how others treat you. They challenge the notion that personal development must look identical for both partners, offering reassurance that growth happens differently for everyone.Perhaps most powerful is their exploration of survival beliefs versus limiting beliefs—reframing our protective patterns as adaptations that once served us rather than flaws to be ashamed of. As Paige beautifully concludes, "You're not the problem, you're not broken... relationships provide us with opportunities to grow, but we have to be willing to lean in."Ready to transform your relationship by first transforming your relationship with yourself? Start with just five minutes daily dedicated to self-connection. Subscribe now to continue this journey of authentic relationship healing.Want to follow Paige? Instagram is @PaigelouiseofficialReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailSaleste Noonan joins Steph to dismantle one of the most toxic myths in modern hustle culture: that we all have the same 24 hours in a day. This refreshingly honest conversation cuts through the noise to acknowledge that our capacity varies wildly based on circumstances, support systems, and natural energy levels."Does my day start at 4am if I've been up all night with my child who wouldn't sleep?" Sal asks, perfectly capturing why comparing your productivity to others is fundamentally flawed. Together, they explore how mothers particularly face unique challenges when bombarded with productivity advice from those with entirely different life circumstances.This episode delivers practical wisdom about understanding your genuine capacity versus making excuses. We share our journeys from feeling victimised by circumstances to empowered decision-makers, offering a powerful mindset shift from "I can't because I have kids" to "What CAN I do despite having kids?"You'll discover why some people naturally have higher capacity than others, how priorities reveal themselves in where you actually spend your time (hello, screen time reports!), and why many set themselves up for failure by basing expectations on either their best or worst days rather than reality.The conversation culminates in a liberating message: success looks different for everyone. Rather than chasing someone else's definition of achievement, happiness comes from knowing who you truly are and aligning your precious time with what matters most to YOU. As Celeste beautifully states, "When you know who you are and where you're going, no one can mess with that."Ready to stop feeling guilty about your capacity and start designing a life that honors your unique circumstances? Listen now and prepare for some loving tough love that might just change your relationship with time forever.Want to connect with Sal? Find her here Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if the things that trigger us online are actually pathways to deeper self-awareness and healing? Join us for a candid exploration of the emotional rollercoaster we all face in today's digital age. We unpack the importance of identifying who or what triggers us and why. Sometimes it's easier to block out the negativity from strangers, but when those comments hit close to home, they can reveal our own inner struggles. Through personal stories, we look at how the natural desire for approval can influence our reactions and why it's crucial to allow ourselves to feel and process these emotions. By understanding the roots of these feelings, we open doors to self-love and healing.In our discussion, we challenge the norms of online engagement by emphasizing the need for respectful expression of opinions. The hidden hazards of anonymity online can lead to harsh interactions, making it essential to practice mindful communication. We share our own experiences of handling criticism and the power of choosing whether or not to engage in contentious conversations. The significance of face-to-face communication in fostering genuine connections is highlighted, reminding us to maintain personal boundaries while engaging in open dialogues.Authenticity and self-acceptance take center stage as we reflect on sharing our lives on social media. It's easy to showcase only the highlights, but being honest about our struggles can be empowering both for us and others. We talk about the fear of judgment from loved ones and the importance of embracing our truths publicly. By confronting our triggers constructively, we encourage personal growth and self-awareness. Let's make it our mission to create a healthier online environment, and we invite you to join us on this journey by sharing your thoughts and suggesting topics for future episodes.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver been told your anger was just PMS or dismissed as an emotional overreaction? It's time to change the narrative. In our latest episode, we unravel the layers of women's anger and challenge the stereotypes that often surround it. Through sharing personal experiences, we uncover the shame many women feel when expressing anger and recognize it as a powerful response to boundary violations. Anger is not just a hormonal hiccup; it's a crucial emotional signal that demands our attention and respect.Understanding and processing emotions like anger and sadness can seem like navigating a stormy sea, especially when parenting or seeking personal growth. We explore the accumulation of unresolved emotions and their potential to trigger intense reactions. Delving into the impact of past traumas, we highlight the importance of somatic experiences and therapy in healing. Our conversation also touches on the nuances of complex PTSD and the necessity of trauma-informed care to avoid re-traumatization.Feeling overwhelmed by balancing personal life and work commitments? You're not alone. We share practical tools for maintaining emotional clarity in relationships, like self-dialogue, venting, and the underestimated power of voice notes. These techniques offer a way to process emotions without burdening loved ones or escalating conflict. By embracing our emotions and acknowledging the pressures we face, we can foster self-awareness and healthier communication, ultimately leading to more fulfilling connections. Join us as we empower ourselves and each other to express anger without the chains of guilt.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThis episode centres around embracing imperfection, particularly in motherhood and personal routines. We share insights on shifting from an all-or-nothing mindset to a more flexible approach to life, focusing on the importance of self-care and connection.• Exploring the roots of perfectionism in our upbringing • Stressing practical tips for managing realistic morning routines • Highlighting resilience and adaptability in motherhood • Addressing the importance of family connection • Advocation for personalized habits and realistic goals • Encouragement to celebrate small victories and progress If you have enjoyed today's episode as much as we have enjoyed recording it, please leave a review or drop into our DMs. We would love to hear from you.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThe first episode in a new series we’re calling you’ve just… now what? Where we break down every day occurrences and how we’d handle them in real time. Losing your nana as a parent is common, but how we navigate these moments can define our relationships with our children. In this episode, we discuss triggers, emotional regulation, the importance of ownership, and co-regulation techniques to repair and strengthen these connections. • Discussing the inevitability of losing control • Exploring personal triggers and reflecting on past experiences • Strategies for emotional regulation and calmness • Importance of taking ownership for our reactions • Co-regulation techniques for reconnecting with children • Encouraging conversations about feelings and accountabilityReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailThis episode tackles the weight of parenting judgments and the importance of forging a path that's true to oneself. By sharing personal experiences, we discuss building confidence, navigating societal pressures, and the notion of being a "helicopter parent" while reinforcing that it's okay to prioritise the needs of your children over opinions. • Exploring the journey of parenting and tackling external judgments • Building parental confidence and protecting your choices • Dissecting opinions on sleep training and personal decisions • Impact of social media on parenting anxiety • Understanding generational differences in parenting styles • Discussing helicopter parenting and its misconceptions • Emphasising quality over quantity in parenting presenceReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailLife doesn’t come with a warning label, and when it hits, it hits hard. In this episode of Unhinged and Unfiltered, we dive headfirst into the chaos, starting with Lurinda’s stepdaughter’s severe car accident—a moment that threw their family into survival mode. We’re talking raw reactions to trauma, how to make peace with those feelings, and what it looks like to stay grounded when the world feels like it’s falling apart.Steph and Rin share the messy, human side of navigating crises. From personal stories to coaching lessons, we dig into how focusing on the present and taking small, practical actions can anchor you in the middle of emotional storms.Healing isn’t a quick fix; it’s a slow, unglamorous process that takes time, patience, and support. We get real about how we’ve leaned on community, therapy, and sheer determination to grow through life’s curveballs. And let’s be honest—it’s not always pretty, but the progress is worth it.We also break down how boundaries and healthy relationships aren’t just buzzwords—they’re lifesavers. Both of us grew up as hyper-independent women, but learning to accept help and let go of toxic connections has been a game-changer. We talk about moving from victim mode to taking responsibility and how self-awareness has completely shifted the way we approach life, relationships, and even ourselves.This episode is packed with unfiltered truth, actionable takeaways, and a big dose of “you’re not alone.” Tune in for a deep dive into resilience, healing, and what it really takes to thrive—even when life gets messy.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat happens when the unimaginable becomes reality? This episode brings you a deeply personal story from Steph's dear friend and client, Amy, who shares her heart-wrenching journey through the loss of her daughter, Georgie. At 36 weeks and five days into her pregnancy, Amy faced the devastating news that her beautiful baby girl no longer had a heartbeat. She shares the profound emotional challenges she has encountered since losing her daughter. Amy generously offers her insights on how friends and family can provide meaningful support during such times of grief, a bible for anyone supporting a person who is parenting while grieving.Navigating life after loss is a rollercoaster journey, especially when parenting other children. Amy discusses the delicate balance of processing grief while maintaining strength for her family. We explore the way the family navigated their own grief, whilst supporting each other.Her story will inspire anyone dealing with loss to find strength and hope in moving forward without forgetting those they've lost.As Amy embraces new phases of life, she continues to honour Georgie's memory through therapeutic outlets like writing and talk therapy. Her transition into counselling and the creation of the "Growing with Grief" Instagram page serve as vital platforms to help others feel less isolated in their grief. This episode is a testament to the transformative power of sharing personal stories as a means of healing and support. Join us as we delve into the raw and unfiltered emotions of loss, highlighting the importance of vulnerability and community in the path toward healing.If you'd like to follow Amy's journey, you can find her on Instagram.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailEver wondered why your favorite mindset tools like affirmations and meditations sometimes miss the mark? Tune in to uncover the truth about these popular self-care practices and why they might not be working as expected. We promise to reveal how societal conditioning impacts their effectiveness, especially in the realm of body image post-pregnancy. Discover the importance of subconscious work in supporting conscious practices for genuine transformation, and learn how you can craft believable affirmations that foster true personal growth.Forget the pressure of perfect morning routines and emptying your mind during meditation. We’re here to challenge the rigid norms of self-care and spotlight the value of being present and intentional with practices like journaling. By understanding that everyone processes emotions differently, you'll find personalized approaches that resonate with your lifestyle. Whether it's through conversation or journaling, the goal is to nurture your well-being beyond societal expectations.We also discuss the significance of somatic practices and balanced exercise routines in achieving overall wellness. From embracing active rest days to recognizing the pitfalls of toxic positivity, this episode covers it all. Explore the journey of personal growth through consistency and alignment with genuine interests, and how embracing both current challenges and future aspirations is key to self-discovery. Join us in this engaging conversation filled with humor and candor, as we build a community of support and transformation.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailReady to transform your life? Discover the secrets to an impactful coaching journey with us, Steph and Lurinda, in our latest episode of "Unhinged and Unfiltered." We promise you'll gain invaluable insights into aligning coaching with your life stage and values, especially if you're navigating the complexities of motherhood and other responsibilities. Learn how to assess your mindset and capacity for growth to ensure coaching becomes a catalyst for positive change rather than an overwhelming venture.Coaching is not about a quick fix; it's about empowering you to find your own answers and strength. We'll discuss the profound impact of showing up fully and consistently in a coaching relationship, whether one-on-one or in a group setting. With stories from our personal experiences, we highlight the importance of authenticity, self-reflection, and embracing the anxiety and excitement that accompany personal transformation. Discover how personalized coaching caters to your unique journey, offering a non-cookie-cutter approach to self-discovery and empowerment.Explore the role of intuition in deciding if you're ready for coaching. We delve into the concept of a "full body, fuck yes" as an indicator of readiness and the courage it takes to embrace growth. Through anecdotes and insights, we emphasize the power of mutual respect and readiness in the coaching relationship. This episode is packed with permission insights, highlighting that saying no is perfectly okay if you're not ready. As we gear up for an exciting year, we invite you to join us on this transformative journey.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWe discuss our intentions for 2025 and explore the significance of embracing a mindset of impact and health as opposed to traditional resolutions. Understanding our values allows for creating practical habits and meaningful changes in our lives while also inviting listeners to contribute feedback for future episodes. • Exploring the difference between resolutions and intentions • Lurinda's focus on making an impact in personal and professional life • Steph's holistic approach to health encompassing mental and physical wellbeing • Practical strategies to maintain intentions beyond motivation • Anddd we want to know what you want to hear from us in 2025 xReach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailWhat if surrendering to life's challenges could lead to the most profound growth and transformation? Join us on a heartfelt journey of introspection as we share candid reflections on a year filled with unexpected turns. From bold career shifts to the heart-wrenching experience of losing a loved one, we unpack the messy, yet beautiful process of embracing change and trusting in our multifaceted abilities. This episode promises an unfiltered look at the pivotal moments that tested our resilience and taught us the power of vulnerability and self-discovery.As we navigate the intricate dance of balancing personal and professional aspirations, we uncover the transformative power of letting go of limiting beliefs. Listen in as we recount a pivotal mentorship experience that challenged our perceptions of self-worth, involving financial risks and health hurdles. Through these stories, we highlight the invaluable lesson of cherishing supportive relationships and maintaining personal boundaries, even amidst adversity. You'll hear how these profound experiences haven't just rebuilt our confidence but also deepened our connection with ourselves and others.The final chapters offer a reflection on privilege, self-worth, and the importance of presence over perfection. We confront the uncomfortable reality of privilege and the shadows it casts, urging a journey of self-acceptance and shadow work. As the year draws to a close, we celebrate the small victories — both personal and professional — and look forward to a meaningful new year. This episode is an invitation to embrace life's complexities, prioritize what truly matters, and find joy in the simplicity of being present.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.

Send us Fan MailBalancing the chaos of motherhood and entrepreneurship is no small feat, and today, we're peeling back the curtain on the gritty realities of this journey. What happens when the polished portrayals on social media meet the raw truth of sleepless nights and relentless hustle? Join us as we share our personal stories and the hard-earned wisdom that comes from living at the intersection of nurturing a family and a business. Discover the importance of setting personal boundaries to prevent burnout and ensure a sustainable work-life balance that doesn't sacrifice your sanity.Ever found yourself drowning in tasks that drain your passion? Listen to our discussion on the strategic power of outsourcing and how it can revolutionize your business efficiency. We'll explore the patience needed during those frustratingly slow business periods and how to navigate the natural ebb and flow of client demands, especially during peak times like the holidays. With a focus on rejuvenation and self-care, we’ll guide you through maintaining personal relationships and readiness for when business activity ramps up again.Embrace the discomfort of growth with us as we discuss the accelerated personal development that comes with being both a parent and an entrepreneur. We share insights on how setbacks can become powerful lessons and emphasize the significance of continuous development and strategic investment in your business journey. From understanding your entrepreneurial identity to making intentional business decisions that align with your goals, this episode is packed with actionable insights. Our passion lies in empowering women to rewrite their stories, helping you avoid rock-bottom moments we’ve faced, and guiding you towards breakthroughs in both personal and professional spheres.Reach out to us on Instagram!Steph is here and Lurinda is here.