4. How to Bring Your Pain to God (Psalm 13)

How long can you carry something before it breaks you?And what do you do when God feels… silent?In this teaching on Psalm 13, John Ortberg walks us through one of the most honest prayers in Scripture: “How long, O Lord?”When pain lingers, when answers don’t come, and when God feels distant, we face a choice. We can grumble—turning inward in bitterness and withdrawal—or we can groan—bringing our pain honestly before God.This Psalm shows us how to lament in a way that leads somewhere. Not by denying pain, but by bringing it fully into God’s presence.If you’re carrying something heavy right now—a relationship, anxiety, loss, or a long unanswered prayer—this teaching will help you turn that pain into prayer.📚 Today's Resources:Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma 🙌 New episodes every weekday.📲 Subscribe, like, and share to help others grow spiritually. One day at a time.Become New is here to help you grow spiritually one day at a time.TEXT us at 51504EMAIL US at [email protected] OUR WEEKDAY EMAILS WITH EXTRA GOODIES at becomenew.com/subscribeGET A TEXT REMINDER FOR NEW VIDEOS: text NEW to 51504SEND US PRAYER REQUESTS: via text or email; we'll send you a written prayer from our teamDOWNLOAD FREE STUDY GUIDES: BecomeNew.com/study-guides😊 Join Our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1CnqywVp9s/🤳Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/become.new/Music Credits:Vikersund by RØRE - MB01V0UASAACPKEAlta by RØRE - MB01IWZVJASGKHF00:00 – Opening Prayer00:18 – Psalm 13: Bring Your “How Long”00:53 – “Will You Forget Me Forever?”01:30 – What “How Long” Really Means01:59 – When You Don’t Know the Finish Line02:15 – When God Feels Hidden02:36 – The Panic of Not Finding What Matters03:20 – How the Body Holds Pain03:46 – Why Pain Lingers in Us04:15 – What Is Your “How Long”?04:34 – Naming Real-Life Pain05:05 – Two Ways to Respond to Pain05:18 – Grumbling vs Groaning05:58 – What Grumbling Does to the Soul06:19 – What Groaning Looks Like06:51 – Groaning = Honest Faith07:18 – How This Plays Out in Real Life07:37 – Warning Against Grumbling08:02 – Groaning for the World’s Pain08:23 – Creation Is Groaning08:56 – When You Don’t Have Words09:28 – God Groans With You09:53 – The Turning Point: “But I Trust…”10:25 – What Actually Changes?10:56 – Lament Opens the Door to Praise11:23 – Bring Your “How Long” to God11:46 – When Hope Begins to Rise12:04 – From Lament to Praise