4 Top Tips To Help You Combat Comparison

KEY TAKEAWAYS COVERED IN THE PODCASTEvery single thing that you achieve in your business and your personal life is a huge achievement. You are amazing.Just because someone else has achieved something, it doesn’t mean that there isn’t an opportunity for you to achieve it to. In fact, it means that there is more of a chance of you succeeding as you know someone at your level can do exactly what it is you want to achieve.One of the best things you can do when it comes to comparing yourself to others is stop looking. If you find you’re looking at people and comparing your wins, it’s much better to stop looking and get your head in your own lane.It’s important you’re being careful whose advice you take and who you are listening to.Look for the small wins within your business and learn to appreciate them. They are all good and will collectively build to much bigger things.Spend at least one hour a day working ON your business, not IN it.Whilst it you may find it hard to find the time to work on your business, doing so will mean that you are making progress within your business.You need to work out what your priorities are and work out what you want to do now and what you want to do most. In some cases, you may find that you have to sacrifice the small things.Visualisation is a little bit like daydreaming. Whether you’re thinking ‘if that was me’ or ‘I would do’ – visualising the things you want to achieve can really help you look towards the future. The clearer your visualisations are, the better.Just because there is someone out there doing what you do, it doesn’t mean there is not space for you.THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO REMEMBER ABOVE ALL ELSE…It’s important to remember that a lot of the time, you are comparing yourself to people that have been working at their business much longer than you have. You may be comparing your day 5 to their day 50. They will have gone through everything that you’re going through in order to get to where they are now.HIGHLIGHTS YOU SIMPLY CAN'T MISSIntroduction - 01:30Stop Looking Comparing Yourself to Others - 06:26Be Careful Whose Advice You Take - 10:48Spend At Least One Hour A Day on Your Business - 14:00Using Visualisation – 19:00Transcript below Hello and welcome to this week’s episode of the podcast. How are you? I’m good. I’ve had a really good productive day so far so I am feeling pretty positive and I’m getting ahead and more caught up from all the trips. So that is cool. So this week I’m just jumping straight in. There’s no like chap, I’m just going straight for it into the episode because this week it’s a little bit different. Now obviously I’ve done lots conferences have been lots of places and a subject keeps coming up and up and up and everybody I talk to and I’ve had loads of calls since I got back. Loads of catch up with my team and colleagues and friends and it just keeps coming up this subject and I felt like I really wanted to come onto the podcast and talk about it today. But in all honesty I’ve hardly planned what I’m going to say I’m not entirely sure how this is going to go so I’m just going to wing it which is what I do a lot. I have to say but I really am this week because it’s just a subject that I really do want to talk about. So I’m just going to start rambling and hope to goodness this comes out okay. But I know like I said, this is something that’s coming up for me and I’m really hoping that while I’m hoping it doesn’t come up for you because that be cool but if it is coming up for you that I’m hoping this comes at the right time and that some of the things I’m going to say you’ll be able to take as good advice and you’ll be able to think about and relate that to your own situation in your own life. So I’ll stop what’s going on and get to the point okay. So if you follow me on Instagram you might have seen quite a few weeks back when I was in California at one of the conferences I did quite a long Insta Story, several Insta Stories about the fact of how I feel when I go to a conference and first off, I don’t think it’s specifically conferences that do this. I think it’s because I spend a lot of time in my own office, in my own space, working alone as most of us do. Even though I have a team, they’re all round the world and virtual so we don’t sit in the same office. But I think what happens when I go to conferences that’s when I start to really see other business people and other businesses and entrepreneurs and stuff like that I don’t think it’s necessarily the conference that does it it’s just the fact that I’m mixing with other entrepreneurs. But what happens is and what I talk about on my Insta Story is I get completely overwhelmed and I sit in the room and I literally sit there and go, ‘What am I doing? Who am I? Why do I think I’m good enough to do this? How am I going to compete against all these people? Look at all these amazing people doing these amazing things. Their business is ahead of mine. They’re doing this. I want to do this. There isn’t enough space in the world to include us all.’ Literally everything you can think of is running through my mind. Now I would say, I don’t know whether you agree or not but I would say that I think I’d probably come across as a fairly confident person. In some aspects of my life, I’m super confident but in aspects like that I start to really hate myself and I start to sit there and look at some of the amazing speakers on stage or even the other people in the audience and think, ‘Oh man what am I doing? Or I’m not where I should be. And they’re ahead of me and they’re taking all the customers and taking all the money and getting all the success and there’s gonna be no success left for me. ‘ And I’m sorry if this sounds like I’m being read like oh woe is me and woo hoo but I’m not saying it from a kind of this is something that I go through really occasionally and I wonder whether you go through it too? And basically it’s looking at other people, it’s comparing yourself against your colleagues and your competitors and the people you look up to and thinking to yourself, ‘My business isn’t good enough. What I’ve achieved isn’t good enough.’ And also celebrating those wins when you see that I don’t know let’s say Rachael Hollis again. She’s just launched another book and she’s in a New York bestseller in all this sort of thing. And the funny thing is I’m sat here, I’m not even necessarily want to launch a book like that. However, when your when you’re looking at that then suddenly you look back at your you know few thousand extra podcast downloads and you might sit there and think, ‘Oh gosh you know this is awful or this isn’t good enough.’ And it’s absolutely not like honestly I can’t stress enough how important it is that we’re not comparing ourselves these people we are looking at our own journey and our own successes and our own celebrations and that we are not demeaning or undermining any of our own successes because you know what? They are flipping amazing every single teeny tiny thing that you do in your business that you achieve that you manage to control and keep it going every day and in your family and in your home life with your friends. I swear to goodness; it is a huge achievement. And that’s what I want to talk a bit about today. In terms of how we’re comparing ourselves to others and some of the things that I do to try and manage this and get over this and not worry about it too much. So obviously that means that in rooms with amazing people in terms of speakers they say these amazing things and obviously I’m going to say some of these things today and I don’t want it to sound like I’m literally just reading Instagram quotes. So I really hope it doesn’t come across like that. But like I said the main thing is it’s that comparison thing. It’s looking at someone else and going they’re doing it better than me. They are achieving what I want to achieve. And therefore there’s no space for me to do that. So I just want to talk about that for a sec. So first off someone my coach very very smart lady I should really get on the podcast. I will do at some point talked about this. There was an event I wanted to speak out and someone else got to speak at it and I didn’t. And I got on a call with her and I was a little bit cross and a little bit hard done by and a little bit frustrated by and suddenly went into this big woe of that said you know I’ve been overlooked I’m never going to get that. They were picked I wasn’t picked. What does this mean? It means they’re better than me and I started associating all of these meanings to this thing that happened. Now the funny thing of the story is my application was never processed. I wasn’t even in the running because they lost it. They lost my application and therefore all these meanings, I was associating to the fact that I had not been picked and someone else had been picked and obviously because they were there that meant there was no room for me was one totally incorrect but two it was coming from a place of lack. It was coming from a place of you know what because they’ve got it. There isn’t room for me. And that’s absolute rubbish. Just because someone else is achieving something doesn’t mean that there isn’t room for you and there isn’t a chance you’re going to get it. In fact, it’s the opposite. If someone else that you know is achieving something, then you should look at that as a positive and think that means someone at my level or me or my situation can also achieve it. You’re looking round to see that if that thing is happening and you haven’t got