40. Being Ok Even When Others Aren't is an Act of True Service

In this episode, I talk about perhaps the most important concept in my life currently - a sneaky facet of codependency where you base your emotions around other people's emotions - for example - "I'm not happy unless you're happy" or "if you're angry, I'm angry now too." This enmeshment and is so common and human, so don't shame yourself for it. What's important here to note is that this kind of enmeshment isn't helping anyone (empathy is different btw). Two dysregulated people are worse than one, always. It's a great act of service to learn how to regulate your own nervous system and stay un-enmeshed from other people's emotions, & be able to co-regulate. It's true self love instead of self abandonment, and in turn, it's so loving towards other people. Sign up for a free coaching consult with me here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching Check out my website here: https://www.lifenursenell.com/