42: 5 Tips When Relocating as a Married Couple

Heather and Brian Mayer discuss the challenges of relocating as a married couple, including finding time to adapt, considering employment opportunities, and maintaining relationships. They emphasize the importance of open communication, emotional intelligence, and prioritizing the needs of all household members. They also share insights on moving to a new city, finding a real estate agent, saving money, and joining a church community. Finally, they discuss how to approach change and uncertainty with faith, emphasizing the importance of patience, processing time, and seeking guidance from God's Word.

Action Items

• [ ] Research churches in the new location before moving by looking at websites and videos.
• [ ] Make plans to stay connected to family and friends left behind, such as scheduled visits.
• [ ] Pray individually and as a family for strength, trust in God, and acceptance of changes.

Outline

Relocating as a married couple, sharing personal experiences and challenges.

• Heather and Brian discuss relocating as a married couple and finding time for a podcast despite distance.
• Heather has relocated every few years throughout her life, while Brian has lived within a small radius for 30 years.

Relocating with a spouse, including job search and school considerations.

• Brian and Heather Mayer relocated 15 years ago, but lack of job security was a challenge.
• Couples should have open conversations about job security before relocating together.
• Heather Mayer and Brian Mayer discuss the importance of considering schools and preschools when relocating, engaging children in the process to make them feel involved and excited about the move.
• Practical and emotional support are crucial during a spouse's job search, including helping with resume writing, connecting with people, and providing emotional support during the transition.

Moving, including school research, budgeting, and home buying/renting options.

• Brian Mayer and Heather Mayer discuss moving expenses and cost of living in a new area, highlighting the importance of research and planning.
• They recommend subscribing to local magazines for information on schools and preschools, and budgeting for moving expenses and cost of living adjustments.
• Brian Mayer shared his experience of renting an apartment for two years before purchasing a home.
• Heather Mayer mentioned that her parents rented first before buying a house, and now real estate agents can sell properties sight unseen with technology.

Finding a new church home after moving to a new city.

• Heather Mayer advises finding a church before moving to a new area.
• Heather Mayer suggests visiting multiple churches to find one that feels like home, emphasizing the importance of children's and youth ministry.
• Mayer and her husband believe becoming a volunteer in a church is essential to feeling like it's your home, and they share their experience as examples.

Moving and relocating with a spouse, including emotional considerations and communication.

• Brian Mayer shares his experience with moving and relocating, emphasizing the importance of quickly transitioning into a new church community.
• Heather Mayer highlights the emotional aspect of moving, acknowledging that spouses may have different levels of comfort with starting over.
• Heather Mayer encourages open communication with spouse about moving, including emotional support and making plans for future visits.
• Brian Mayer agrees, emphasizing the importance of setting goals and staying connected during the transition.

Moving and change, with a focus on trusting God and processing emotions.

• Brian and Heather Mayer discuss the importance of patience and processing when it comes to change.
• They encourage each other to pray for and with each other during difficult times related to change.
• Heather Mayer encourages listeners to seek God's guidance and embrace change.
• Heather and Brian discuss embracing change and finding peace through God.