42: Embracing the Inner Child: Insights from David Deane Haskell

Wounded Angels: Inner Child Work, Codependency, and Healing with David Deane HaskellHost Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast and introduces guest David Deane Haskell, joining from Japan, author of Wounded Angels, who shares his trauma and recovery journey through inner child/parts work despite not being an IFS practitioner. David describes long-term self-hatred, addiction recovery via 12-step, therapy and hospitalizations, and learning to sit quietly with overwhelming feelings, emphasizing self-care and boundaries. He recounts a core childhood trauma: his mother died when he was four and he was told at nine she died by suicide, leading to intense shame; decades later a toxic, codependent relationship and betrayal re-triggered this wound and catalyzed deeper healing and compassion for his “shame-shocked” nine-year-old self. David also discusses his late-2024 divorce, a recent healing moment with his ex-wife and daughter, nomad travel, and a concussion/vertigo episode that led him to stay in Japan, which he links to inner child trust and resistance. He previews a second book, Inner Child Unleashed, and reflects on vulnerability, grief, publishing disappointments, spirituality, and the value of lived experience and connection.00:00 Podcast Welcome00:58 Meet David Haskell01:50 Inner Child Origins03:59 The Planner Part05:28 Sitting With Self06:58 Mindfulness Breakthrough11:40 Feeling Pain Safely16:56 Self Care Balance19:45 Codependency Roots22:20 Shame Shocked Boy28:22 Healing Through Reframing30:40 Trust And Betrayal33:21 Boundaries Without Blame34:28 Grace Over Perfection34:53 Reframing Boundaries36:39 Fawn Response Patterns38:18 Divorce And Nomad Life41:35 Concussion Wake Up Call45:19 Second Book Update49:14 Writing As Healing54:54 Publishing Rejection Grief59:56 Integrity And Synchronicity01:00:46 Drumming Comeback Story01:02:57 Closing GratitudeDavid's Website:  https://daviddeanehaskell.comWounded Angels Book:  https://daviddeanehaskell.com/booksDavid's Inner Child Journal Substack:  https://innerchildjournal.substack.comEmail me:  [email protected]:  https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.comWebsite Group Page https://www.traumaunboundcoaching.com/trauma-informed-group-coachingIG:  @traumaunboundYouTube https://www.youtube.com/@traumaunbound