42 - How many chances is too many?

Episode 42 of the Addiction Makes Three podcast, hosted by Amanda Lockyer, titled "42 - How many chances is too many?" was published on June 24, 2025 and runs 23 minutes.

June 24, 2025 ·23m · Addiction Makes Three

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Summary

If you've ever found yourself asking, "Should I give them another chance?" you are not alone, and this episode is for you.You're not weak for hoping things will change. You're not naïve for wanting the best. But if you're stuck in a cycle of promises, letdowns, and “one more chances,” it’s time to pause and ask: what is different this time, with this chance?In this episode, we unpack the real reason you keep giving chances, how hope (and fear) can keep you stuck, and what to consider before giving another one. I’ll share questions to help you cut through the confusion and get clear on what’s actually changing and what’s not.We’ll also talk about why trusting again isn’t just about them changing... but about you finding your voice again too.What You’ll Learn:Why giving another chance doesn’t make you a doormatHow to know if you’re stuck in the “hope trap”The hidden cost of constantly giving one more chance on repeatWhat a healthy “next chance” can actually look likeThe key question: Am I staying because I want to… or because I’m scared to leave?If this hit close to home, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.For spouses and loved ones who are looking for resources and support:If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):👉 Download the guide📞 You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible📝 Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Description

If you've ever found yourself asking, "Should I give them another chance?" you are not alone, and this episode is for you.

You're not weak for hoping things will change. You're not naïve for wanting the best. But if you're stuck in a cycle of promises, letdowns, and “one more chances,” it’s time to pause and ask: what is different this time, with this chance?

In this episode, we unpack the real reason you keep giving chances, how hope (and fear) can keep you stuck, and what to consider before giving another one. I’ll share questions to help you cut through the confusion and get clear on what’s actually changing and what’s not.

We’ll also talk about why trusting again isn’t just about them changing... but about you finding your voice again too.

What You’ll Learn:

Why giving another chance doesn’t make you a doormat
How to know if you’re stuck in the “hope trap”
The hidden cost of constantly giving one more chance on repeat
What a healthy “next chance” can actually look like
The key question: Am I staying because I want to… or because I’m scared to leave?

If this hit close to home, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.

For spouses and loved ones who are looking for resources and support:

If you haven’t the Crisis Conversation Guide (What to say and what not to say when addiction takes over) ? Grab it now—it’s free and full of practical scripts to help you say what you mean (even when it’s messy):

👉 Download the guide

📞 You can also book a friendly, no-pressure chat with Amanda and explore what support might look like - without doing this alone, because you know you’ve been trying ‘that way’ for long enough by now.

👉 Book in a friendly chat - Click here to find a time and let's talk about what's possible

📝 Or join the waitlist for Pathway to Wellness, my signature program designed to help you rebuild your life alongside (or beyond) a loved one’s addiction.

You can find your way through this. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.