44. Un-Networking for Deeper Connections and Relationships

We build relationships by learning about one another, exchanging thoughts, and trusting one another.   This week, Renee speaks to Matt Murray about forging deeper connections and relationships, as well as meaningful interaction. Matt Murray, is the co-founder of CommonSense Event with Ronan Leonard and Renee runs a womans and mens event with them both called WAM. The goal of CommonSense Event is to get to know each other better and create deeper connections with people through Un-networking.  “Unnetworking” is all about connecting through who you are and not what you do.  If you want to know how to deepen your friendships, family relationships, relationships with your partner and colleagues, this episode is for you!   Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:   Discover how you can connect and collaborate more effectively  Learn how to improve your ability to form deeper connections and interactions with others  Understand why trust is so important in order to have a great connection  Episode Highlights:    [1:57] Matt's Story and What Led Him to Do What He Does  Matt Murray co-founded Common Sense Events with Ronan Leonard. These events are profound, and are all about un-networking. In these events, you get to meet new people, get to know who you are, and let people know what you can offer.  He believes in the power of connection. He enjoys learning from and talking to people. He loves learning people's stories and understanding who they are.  Matt ran an IT and telecommunications business for 25 years. Matt’s wife had a miscarriage and he had to leave the business and sell it to his business partner.    Matt decided to create a job that would allow him to do the things that he wants  [7:56] How CommonSense Events was Founded  Matt formed a group of small people to help him become a better father, partner, friend, and individual.  The group grew in numbers and that’s when he met Ronan.  Ronan and Matt are to very different people who came together  [11:36] Common Sense Events rules  You can't talk work  No sport talks  Don't talk assets  Don’t talk about the weather  [20:57] Matt’s Biggest Life’s Lesson    Be present.   Children have a great way of seeing life, and Matt enjoys seeing the world through their eyes.  It’s the little things that matter.  History, you learn from. Future, you can aim for.   The most interesting people and situations happen when we put ourselves out there and say Yes!   [26:41] The Leader that Matt Admires  The leader that Matt most learned from was his grandmother.   Matt’s grandmother was stern to everybody else, but all Matt saw was her care and love for him.  Matt's grandmother has influenced many decisions he has made, including his desire to be a better person, kinder, and to have a greater heart.  [33:02] Building Connection and Collaboration  Connection and collaboration come from trust.  Focus on your strengths, but be aware of your weaknesses as well  You can empower people to look at it as part of their idea, embedding the thought and them to actually make it their idea and encouraging them to carry that idea forward is always going to be more powerful than simply telling them to do it.  If you want collaboration, simply be curious. Ask questions.   Having a title isn't gonna help you if you're not doing the work or showing up.  Ask for help.  Connect deeper, connect heart-to-heart, and have great interactions  [44:58] Matt's trivia  Matt’s favorite word – Dodecahedron  Matt’s Favorite sound – Partner’s snore  Matt’s last meal on the last day on Earth – Sausage and bread  Other profession, rather than what you're doing now – If what Matt’s doing now fails, he’ll just try again.  Quotes:  [8:42] Renee: “I always say leverage strengths in a team and you'll have a dream team. Don't give people the things that don't light them up, because they'll do it. They'll comply, but they won't commit. Whereas, you know, if you're complimenting each other and leveraging the things you love doing, it doesn't feel like work. “   [33:37] Matt: “You have a lot of people that micromanage people. It's the fastest way you're gonna lose people. Yeah. Um, and that's cause they're doing it from their head.”  [33:45] Matt: “If you want that collaboration to really work, you've gotta have trust, but you've also gotta believe that those people are gonna do what they say they're gonna do.”  [36:13] Renee: “Curiosity leads to creativity and the byproduct of creativity together is collaboration. “  [48:48] Matt: “Have a real look not at what you do, but who you are and the people that you surround yourself.”    Contact Matt:   LinkedIn:  @MattMurray  Website: www.commonsenseevents.com.au    Enjoy This Podcast?    Leadership in changing times can be difficult, but you can adopt certain traits to get your team through it. You can also join mentorship programs to gain the skill you need.        Post a review and share it! If you learned something by tuning into this podcast, do not hesitate to write a review and share it with your friends! The world needs more people with the drive and leadership qualities to make the world a better place. We need strong leadership skills and a learner’s attitude today more than ever.    For more updates and episodes, visit and subscribe to the Limitless Leaders podcast page!    Have any questions? You can contact me through these platforms:    Company website    Instagram    Facebook    LinkedIn    To leading the future,    Renée