45: Breaking the Link Between Results and Self-Worth

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, we unpack what happens when your self-worth becomes dependent on outcomes.“Tying emotions to outcomes” is the habit of linking how you feel about yourself to specific results — whether that’s hitting a PR, achieving a body goal, getting the promotion, or being perceived a certain way. On the surface, it can look like ambition. But underneath? It often fuels anxiety, fear of failure, perfectionism, and rigid thinking.We explore:What it actually means to entwine your self-worth with resultsWhy this pattern is so common (especially in high-achievers)The psychological cost: damage to motivation, confidence, and internal identityHow internalised messages and early conditioning shape this behaviourWhy it’s unsustainable — even when you are succeedingTanner shares his perspective as a personal trainer — how outcome-driven thinking shows up in body image, strength goals, and performance metrics, and where it can both help and harm progress.From a psychotherapists lens, we dive into how this mindset impacts self-esteem, resilience, and overall wellbeing — and why learning to separate who you are from what you achieve is essential for long-term growth.If you’ve ever felt “only as good as your last result,” this episode is for youFind Us On Socials It Takes Two - https://www.instagram.com/it.takes.two_podcast/Tanner - https://www.instagram.com/tweilerfitness/Tayler - https://www.instagram.com/tayler.weiler/