47. Six Signs of Relationship Trouble - And How to Get Back on Track

Bad habits creep into the best of relationships from time to time. ​ What if you treated these red-flag moments like an opportunity to "re-calibrate" instead of getting stuck in resentment, frustration, and blame? According to Dr. John Gottman, these are the six most common signs that a relationship is headed for trouble.  Harsh Start-ups: When one or both individuals bring things up in a negative or critical way The Four Horsemen: When interactions are filled with criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or stonewalling Emotional Flooding: When disagreements lead to a feeling of emotional overwhelm Physiological Stress: When one or both individuals are physically stressed around each other (emotional flooding is constant) Failed Repair Attempts: When it's difficult to de-escalate conflict and restore peace and connection Rewriting the Past with Bad Memories: When all your memories of earlier times are cast in a negative light Not all relationships are headed for destruction if these signs of trouble are present. Some couples simply choose to emotionally detach from each other and lead parallel lives. And some couples are able to recognize they have gone off course and find ways to reconnect and get back on track. Get the full shownotes and links to resources mentioned at https://keeptalkingrevolutionpodcast.com/ep-47