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EPISODE · May 20, 2026 · 44 MIN

479: Your 34-Step Morning Routine (And Being a Control Freak) Is Ruining Your Life

from Feminine as F*ck · host Monica Yates

Control got you here, but it's also what's keeping you stuck. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbENttKi0Jg In this episode, Monica breaks down why control has been your biggest asset AND your biggest block, what it’s actually costing you, and how to start releasing it without feeling like your whole life is going to fall apart. She talks about: 🪞 How control is a trauma response, and how it’s holding you back🪞 Why your 34-step morning routine is setting you up for massive failure🪞 The difference between conscious control and control as a trauma response🪞 Why discipline and structure are good—until they turn you into a control freak🪞 How your hyper-independence is blocking you from feeling how good your life already is🪞 The impossibility of being in a flow state and in control at the same time🪞 Why control freaks get addicted to stress and create drama when life is calm +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Grab one of the last tickets — The Immersion 2026 in Paris: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026  ⇢ Listen next — 475: Why Your Inner Control Freak Is Ruining Your Life and Relationships (And How to Finally Let Go): https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/475-why-your-inner-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life-and-relationships-and-how-to-finally-let-go  ⇢ Listen next — 465: The Trauma Cycle Explained: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/465-the-trauma-cycle-explained-why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-patterns?_pos=7&_psq=trauma+cycle&_ss=e&_v=1.0&_gl=1*1w6juc5*_ga*MTIxOTI3NDA1OS4xNzQ4NTM0MjE2*_ga_XEFT8KE3Z9*czE3Nzc1NzEzNjUkbzYzJGcxJHQxNzc3NTc4NDQzJGo1OSRsMCRoMA..  ⇢ Watch the reel — Your Morning Routine is Ruining Your Life: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXsMETPD3d1/  ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directoryRemember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

Control got you here, but it's also what's keeping you stuck. ⇢ WATCH ON YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbENttKi0Jg In this episode, Monica breaks down why control has been your biggest asset AND your biggest block, what it’s actually costing you, and how to start releasing it without feeling like your whole life is going to fall apart. She talks about: 🪞 How control is a trauma response, and how it’s holding you back🪞 Why your 34-step morning routine is setting you up for massive failure🪞 The difference between conscious control and control as a trauma response🪞 Why discipline and structure are good—until they turn you into a control freak🪞 How your hyper-independence is blocking you from feeling how good your life already is🪞 The impossibility of being in a flow state and in control at the same time🪞 Why control freaks get addicted to stress and create drama when life is calm +++++  As Mentioned In The Episode: ⇢ Join the free live masterclass — From Roommates to Ravished: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/roommates-to-ravished-mc?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=blnm-live-2026 ⇢ Grab one of the last tickets — The Immersion 2026 in Paris: https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/immersion?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=immersion-2026  ⇢ Listen next — 475: Why Your Inner Control Freak Is Ruining Your Life and Relationships (And How to Finally Let Go): https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/475-why-your-inner-control-freak-is-ruining-your-life-and-relationships-and-how-to-finally-let-go  ⇢ Listen next — 465: The Trauma Cycle Explained: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/podcast/465-the-trauma-cycle-explained-why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-patterns?_pos=7&_psq=trauma+cycle&_ss=e&_v=1.0&_gl=1*1w6juc5*_ga*MTIxOTI3NDA1OS4xNzQ4NTM0MjE2*_ga_XEFT8KE3Z9*czE3Nzc1NzEzNjUkbzYzJGcxJHQxNzc3NTc4NDQzJGo1OSRsMCRoMA..  ⇢ Watch the reel — Your Morning Routine is Ruining Your Life: https://www.instagram.com/p/DXsMETPD3d1/  ⇢ Sign up for the Monthly Newsletter — The Boardroom & Bedroom Diaries: https://monica-yates-health.kit.com/54f5a9ff86  ⇢ Order the BOOK — Becoming HER: https://www.becomingherbook.com/ ⇢ Monica’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/monicayateshealth ⇢ Full, SEARCHABLE Podcast Directory: https://monicayateshealth.com/blogs/feminine-as-f-ck-podcast/podcast-directoryRemember to leave a written review on Apple Podcasts, screenshot it before you submit it, and email it to us at [email protected] to receive an exclusive meditation track as a 'thank you' from Monica. This podcast and its content is copyright of Monica Yates Health © and Feminine as F*ck ©. All rights reserved. || https://monicayateshealth.com/pages/copyright-disclaimer

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