48. The Marriage Pause Button-Why Desire Dies & How to Turn it Back On

00:00 Introduction02:15 What Is the Marriage Pause Button?13:36 The Three Levels of Connection31:46 How One Person Can Change a Marriage41:53 The Unpause App & Practical Tools to ReconnectMost marriages don’t end with a blowup. They quietly pause —and that pause is where desire goes to die.In this episode of The Purple Passion Project, Clinical Sexologist and Sex Coach Dr. Stacy Friedman sits down with marriage coach Lee Baucom — PhD-level therapist, author of seven books, and creator of the Save the Marriage System — to break down why long-term relationships stall, how desire quietly disappears, and what it actually takes to turn it back on.This is not your average couples therapy advice. This is asexologist talk that gets into the real mechanics of long-term desire, emotional disconnection, and the one thing most couples get completely wrong about communication.In this episode you will learn:• Why marriages pause long before they actually break — and the warning signs most people miss• How daily habits and relationship systems shape intimacy and sexual desire• Lee’s three levels of connection — and which level is quietly killing your desire right now• Why communication is NOT the core problem in marriage (andwhat actually is)• How one person can create real change — even when theirpartner refuses to tryIf your relationship feels “fine” but not alive — this conversation is going to hit. Dr. Stacy and Lee give you the tools, the mindset, and the permission slip to stop waiting and start showing updifferently.👤 About Lee Baucom:Lee Baucom is a Ph.D.-level trained therapist turned marriage coach with over 35 years of experience helping individuals transform struggling marriages — even when only one partner is willing to take action. He is the creator of the Save the Marriage System, author of seven books including Save the Marriage and How to Save Your Marriage in 3 Simple Steps, and the founder of the Unpause App — a daily reconnection tool designed to help couples rebuild connection, desire, and intimacy through intentional systems and habits. Lee is also the host of relationship-focused podcasts with millions of downloads worldwide and is happily married with two adult children.👤 About Dr. Stacy Friedman:Dr. Stacy Friedman is a Clinical Sexologist, Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach, and the unapologetically bold host of The Purple PassionProject — on a mission to make midlife the hottest chapter of your sex life yet. With over 26 years in the medical field and 20+ years working in sexuality, Dr. Stacy helps men and women break down taboos, communicate clearly, and build hotter, healthier intimacy — without apology. She specializes in the unique desire challenges that come with midlife — hormonal shifts, erectile changes, mismatched sex drives, alternative lifestyles, women who experience painful sex, and the LGBTQ+ community. Known for blending expertise with humor and heart, Dr. Stacy makes conversations about sex feel empowering, entertaining, and long overdue.💥 Links & Resources:🔗 Lee Baucom — Save the Marriage: https://savethemarriage.store🔗 Unpause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com📖 Pleasure Playbooks (16+ step-by-step intimacy guides, $27 each): drstacyfriedman.com🔥 Vibe Tribe (Dr. Stacy’s private midlife community— live sessions, courses): drstacyfriedman.com → click Vibe Tribe📅 Free 15-min intimacy consult: drstacyfriedman.com→ click Free Consultation🎁 Free PDF — “10 Things They Really Want in Bed (ButWon’t Say Out Loud)”: drstacyfriedman.com👉 All links: linktr.ee/drstacyfriedman📌 Follow Dr. Stacy:Instagram | TikTok | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedIn:@drstacyfriedman