50. Stop People-Pleasing: The ADHD Mum’s Guide to Boundaries, Balance, and Breaking Free [Solo Episode] with Jane McFadden

Sick of saying yes when you really want to say no? People-pleasing feels like keeping the peace, but it leaves you exhausted, resentful, and avoiding people you care about. If you’re ready to stop the cycle, protect your energy, and show your kids healthy boundaries - this episode is for you. Join our supportive FB community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/777102743903210/  Connect with me (Jane) on Instagram: https://instagram.com/adhd_mums  Timestamps (approx.) 2 mins: People-pleasing isn’t a flaw - it’s how you learned to survive in a world that doesn’t get your brain. 4 mins: Why is people-pleasing so hard to shake? Let’s break it down. 6 mins: 3 reasons to stop people-pleasing - and a painfully relatable example of what happens when you don’t. 10 mins: Building your boundary muscle: Start small, say no with confidence, and stay strong when the pushback comes. 18 mins: Your kids are watching. Show them that standing up for themselves is not just okay - it’s essential. 20 mins: Setting a boundary is step one. Sticking to it is where the magic happens. Here’s how to avoid ‘boundary creep.’ 💡 For more support, check out the ADHD Mums Guide to Boundaries & Breaking Free from People-Pleasing — packed with scripts, planning tools, and real-life strategies to help you implement what we talk about in this episode. It won’t fix the system, but it will help you survive it without burning out. Resources: Sensory-Friendly Holiday Ideas: Need to create calm during chaos? Explore fidget toys, headphones, and weighted blankets in my Affiliate Amazon Shop. The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique: A quick grounding exercise to manage emotional overwhelm. Box Breathing Technique: Learn how to use this simple method to regulate stress in under a minute. BOOK IN WITH JANE'S RECOMMENDED THERAPISTS If you're looking to connect with a parenting specialist or psychologist for expert advice on parenting, please check out www.adhdmums.com.au/services. Your journey to more confident and supported parenting starts here! CONNECT WITH ME... If you’ve got a question or want to connect with other ADHD mums, we’ve got a whole community on our Facebook group. Click here to join and post your question. Don’t worry if it’s been asked before! I love to answer everyone in a group format. LEAVE ME A REVIEW Your review means the world to me! Your thoughts really help others discover my content that I genuinely (and passionately) hope could make a difference in their lives. Your support creates a ripple effect of spreading my show around and hopefully reaching the right people (especially Mums who may be at their wit’s end). WANT TO COLLABORATE? If you’re enquiring about a collaboration or speaking engagement – please email [email protected]. EXTRA RESOURCES: Still not sure if you have ADHD or are Autistic? Get access to my recommended self-tests as a guide to whether you should go for an assessment or not. https://adhdmums.com.au/resources Find more answers, resources and guides on my website at https://adhdmums.com.au/ Key Topics covered in this ep: ADHD mums People-pleasing Setting boundaries Emotional regulation Grounding techniques 5-4-3-2-1 method Box breathing Healthy boundaries Family dynamics Christmas stress Neurodivergent parenting Saying no Assertiveness Forgiveness strategies Sensory-friendly holidays Mindset shifts Mental health for mums Modelling behaviour for kids Avoiding burnout Overcoming resentment Self-care tipsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.