50: Turning 30

Phi returns to the podcast and shares super exciting life updates including something very special and spills the tea on what happened during her month away in Vietnam and Bali. As she's turned 30, she also shares the top 10 juiciest things she had to unlearn in her 20's to be the happiest in her life she's ever been. Resources from today's episode Learn more about 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Apply for 1:1 Coaching with Phi here. Book a Human Design Reading with Phi here. More on a Saturn Return Human Design Reading and booking a reading with Phi. Phi's book; The Great Unlearning: Awakening to Living an Aligned and Authentic Life. Saturn Return Podcast Episode (34) Episode Introduction So usually when you turn 30 you see those top 30 things I learnt by 30 or what I wish I knew in my 20’s - but in Phi Dang style, of course I’m going to share the top 10 things I unlearnt by 30 to honour my book The Great Unlearning. The book really does capture my 20’s if you’re interested and has 29 full chapters of unlearning. These are my own musings pulling from the book and reflections in this present moment. It’s honestly so hard to pick only 10 so I’m going to tune in and trust my intuition that I’ve chosen these specifically to resonate with you listening to this podcast! 1. Timelines THE LEARNING There’s a set timeline of key milestones in life you need to achieve in order to be happy and fulfilled. THE UNLEARNING There are no set timelines in life. Truly because I think 30 is one of those ages we build up in our heads and decide we have to get everything done, yet funnily enough the less pressure I put on myself, trusted in my own path and timeline, the more amazing things I’ve achieved unexpectedly. I mean my unexpected biggest month in business happened only a few months before turning 30! Anything can happen. Some excerpts from the book to share: “Timelines have been mostly imprinted subconsciously on our minds. We seem to be always working towards a timeframe, often speeding towards it. In fact, it’s made us feel like we’re always rushing to hit our next life milestone, whether it’s love, money or career.” “The problem is that when we don’t hit these timelines, we feel like failures. We feel like we’re moving slower than those around us and it quickly turns into a crippling game of comparison. It’s important to remember that life isn’t a race and it isn’t a competition.” 2. Success THE LEARNING Success means having money, being in a relationship and at the peak of your career. THE UNLEARNING Success isn’t clear-cut or one size fits all, it’s something you define on your own. The old status symbols for success were a fast car, a big house and millions... billions of dollars. The ultimate new flex is freedom, joy and inner peace—to live a life where your soul is pure love and happiness; where your highest self is realised; where your inner child is seen, heard and loved; where you find security in yourself and not others or things. It’s a life that your ancestors would be proud of; a life that’s a dream. Unlearn what you think you know is success and redefine what it means to you. Some excerpts from the book to share: "A lot of sayings we know are for a reason and it really is true. You hear it thrown around casually and in all the self-development books that money doesn’t buy you happiness. I would always roll my eyes and think deep down well, maybe not, but I’d rather cry in a mansion and Ferrari, that’s for sure. However, have you ever actually stopped for a moment to consider what your definition of success is and why?" "Having had the taste of success, money, status and achievement at the height of my career - something still felt missing. Being in a relationship with what on the outside superficially a handsome man that loved me - something still felt missing. I mean even the bloody beginning of this year everything except a partner - something still felt missing.