53. Believe in Yourself When No One Else Does with Gabrielle Westbrook

Do you find it difficult to give yourself grace during your healing journey and trauma processing experience? We're talking with Gabrielle Westbrook who shares her journey into believing herself by allowing her mind and body to feel difficult emotions. She discusses ways to develop self-compassion habits, use awareness as the first step of transformation, and traverse your healing journey by allowing yourself to express discomfort in a quiet, healing space with emotional awareness. Gabrielle is a trauma-informed healing coach whose main passion is to help women come to know and believe that the emotions they want to feel… and the relationships & life they want to have are possible for them. She helps women heal the trauma from self-betrayal or sexual betrayal in their relationship through the body, subconscious mind, nervous system regulation, and the lens of their enneagram type. Show Notes: -Gabrielle's story: a reclamation of what "little Gabrielle" wanted -The power of getting to the root cause of our challenges, beliefs, and so much more -Pivotal moments in Gabrielle's life: her mom asking her what she could have done differently and her husband dealing with a sex & porn addiction -Gabrielle's experience with nervous system regulation & dissociation -Feeling fear, anger, resentful (i.e. sympathetic response) and paralyzed (i.e. freeze mode) -Recovery always starts with self – even when you feel like you've been betrayed in a relationship -Gabrielle's motto when working with her clients: "You will be okay regardless of what happens in or to your relationship" -Gabrielle's journey & decision to stay in her marriage and build a new foundation → focusing on SELF first -Pausing & slowing down to connect (or reconnect) with your sense of self-worth -Allowing yourself to grieve your experiences and loss of self-worth -The importance of expressing anger in order to learn to value yourself (a reference to polyvagal theory) -"Who am I when no one else sees what I am doing?" This can be a painful and uncomfortable question to ask - but important to understand who you are -Enneagram types depict a combination of nature and nurture - you are forever your dominant type but the type that you are is just the mask that you wear -Your enneagram type is how you get your core needs met -Integration & disintegration lines – i.e. stress path vs. growth path -Definition of enneagram & brief history - using it to cultivate own sense of self & how we operate in the world Resources: -Afterglow Membership -Take the Enneagram Quiz -Gabrielle's Instagram: @gabriellewestbrook_ -CLAIM your FREE 7-Day Brain Retraining Trial with Reset - Offer ends Sept 26, 2022. -Link to the Rewire: The Vital-Side Membership -Lindsay's Instagram: @myvitalside -Visit Lindsay's website -Cait's Instagram: @caitrossco -Visit Cait's Website Join our community: bit.ly/rewirethepodcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: bit.ly/rewiredisclaimer