583: Before, During & After Divorce: Choosing Yourself Through the Hardest Transition with Thomai Roi

At the end of 15 years, she felt like a husk of a person. She’d spent so long living for who she thought she was supposed to be that she'd lost track of who she actually was. That's the story today’s guest brings into this conversation, and it's one a lot of women are quietly living.Thomai Roi is known as the divorce doula for accomplished women. She helps women remember who they are and rebuild their lives before, during, and after divorce. What I love most about Thomai is that she isn't selling a tidy version of this story. She went through it herself — 15 years of marriage, a life that looked perfect on the outside, and the slow, confronting realization that she was living for who she thought she was supposed to be. If you've been through a divorce, you're considering one, or you're in the messy middle of one right now, this conversation is for you. And even if none of that applies, this episode is really about one bigger question: What do I actually want? And being gutsy enough to sit with whatever answer comes back.In this episode, you’ll learn:Recognizing misalignment before the decision is madeThe shame and guilt of choosing yourself when your life looks perfect from the outsideWhat "doing the work" really looks likeHow to start discovering what you want by following what excites youManaging other people's emotions and where your responsibility actually endsWhy the finalization papers are only a starting pointBuilding the evidence that this new life is actually workingResources from this episodeArguably Feral Women Skool GroupThomai's free community for women navigating divorce before, during, and after. It's a safe, supportive space built around the village she wished she'd had — weekly live calls, identity work, and a community of women who truly get it. She mentioned it's currently free, with anyone who joins during the free window grandfathered in permanently. The Gutsy CollectiveThe community I built for women making bold moves, including the many women I've walked alongside through divorce. When you're navigating something this big, you don't have to do it alone. This is the place to make your next gutsy move with women who will celebrate the chaos with you and help you find your way through.🎙️ Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify📲 Follow LauraAura on TikTok: @ThatLauraAura🔥 Join The Gutsy Collective: Learn More💡 Work with LauraAura: www.LauraAura.comConnect with Thomai RoiInstagram  |  Threads  |  LinkedIn  |  Substack  |  WebConnect with LauraAuraFacebook  |  TikTok  |  Instagram  |  LinkedIn  |  WebSupport the showLeave a Review!We love, love, love to read your comments, feedback, and reviews. It also helps other women like you know they're in the right place to get support.https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-gutsy-podcast/id1445481970