6 steps To Break Free from People Pleasing - Beyond the Norm Episode

SummaryIn this episode of Beyond the Norm, I explore the concept of people pleasing, its roots, and practical strategies to overcome it. I discuss the systemic influences that contribute to people pleasing behaviours, including family dynamics and societal expectations. The episode emphasises the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and prioritising personal needs to foster authenticity and emotional well-being. I encourage you to embrace discomfort as part of the growth process and to seek support through coaching and self-reflection.TakeawaysPeople pleasing often stems from a desire for acceptance and belonging.Awareness is the first step in addressing people pleasing behaviors.Family dynamics play a significant role in shaping people pleasing tendencies.Setting boundaries is essential for personal well-being.Disappointing others can be a necessary part of self-care.Understanding personal values can help in making decisions that align with one's true self.Practicing saying 'no' is crucial for breaking the cycle of people pleasing.It's important to recognise the emotional cost of people pleasing.Change is a journey that requires patience and self-compassion.Systemic coaching can provide valuable insights and support in overcoming people pleasing. Chapters;00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing00:29 Understanding the Roots of People Pleasing01:27 Supportive Resources and Personal Connection01:49 artsEntertainment-intro-low-short.wav02:09 Understanding People Pleasing05:20 The Roots of People Pleasing08:08 Family Dynamics and Roles10:56 Fear of Exclusion and Belonging14:03 Rules of Belonging16:59 Conflict Avoidance and Perfectionism20:18 Practical Tools to Stop People Pleasing29:05 The Power of Saying No32:25 Disappointing Others: A Necessary Step36:23 Letting Go of the 'Good One' Identity41:44 Identifying and Upholding Personal Values43:39 Setting Boundaries and Enforcing Them48:20 Embracing Resistance and Personal GrowthREAD the BLOG that pairs with this episode https://www.normaokelly.com/blogbeyondthenorm/stoppeoplepleasingunlearnPlease follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoachor join my community on Telegram https://t.me/+fKwiSZni3fMwNzk0Please rate, review and subscribe and share with a friend who could do with this free support. Thanks so much for listening! 💜❤️