61. Biggest Mistake You're Making to Lose Weight and How to Fix It

The Biggest Mistake You’re making to lose weight and how to fix it GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet Hi, my name is Hayley Sohn and I am a Nutritionist and Brain Training Weight Loss Coach. I teach my clients how to lose 10lbs in 30 days without dieting by wiring their brain to eat less. This might not even sound like something you need help with because it is so engrained in you to lose weight by focusing on your actions However, focusing on your actions to lose weight is the biggest mistake you are making in your weight loss journey and there is actually a simple fix for it. Effortless weight loss happens when you make the shift i am going to teach you in this episode This is what my clients work on with me in my program each day. What is happening now and Why its not working: This is how weight loss usually looks: Clothes don’t fit and you are unhappy with how you look Choose a diet you are going to follow- you focus on the foods you can and cant have Start out monday with the best of intentions By 5pm you are using willpower to try and not eat the chips and queso you usually have You are stressed out, asking yourself what is wrong with you that you want to eat all these things that wont help you lose weight. Youre trying to stay excited and motivated to lose weight but you just really need something to help you check out from the pressure and overwhelm you’re feeling You keep reminding yourself to use willpower- if you can just hang on and not eat until you go to bed tomorrow will be easier… Maybe you do hang on, maybe you hang on for a month and the scale goes down. But you don’t feel like anything has changed or gotten easier. You feel exhausted and you still want to eat the chips and queso THis is the style we use to lose weight and what is happening is we are focused on our actions only. And i will explain why that doesn’t work We are taught to lose weight by changing our actions. And indeed, certain actions will cause you to lose weight…but you just can’t get yourself to take those actions. Why? Because there is actually something the precedes action, something that causes you to take the actions you are taking. It goes like this: you have a thought, a sentence in your brain and each thought has an emotional reaction, a physiological response to that thought, you actually feel emotions in your body. From emotion, from the feeling you have in your body you take action and actions create your results. Such as you lose weight or you don’t lose weight. So before we take action we have a thought that creates an emotion that causes us to take action So telling yourself to just take this action or that action when we are actually thinking “there is no point because it never works” and feeling despair will not lead to effortlessly eating less because that action does not align with that emotion. The actions that align with despair are giving up, eating all the snacks in the house, eating even when you’re not hungry, not exercising and those will result in the scale going up and further proving your point trying to eat less doesn’t work So if there is always a thought and emotion that precedes every action and you are trying to force yourself to take actions that don’t align with your current think you are probably getting into willpower, pressure, stress The problem is those emotions are a lot of work, we run out of the energy needed to keep going with them. So when we lose weight from this place it often doesn’t last What you need to do: This is how it can be: You decide to focus more on your mindset around food than the food itself. You don’t tell yourself you cant eat this or that or try to restrict yourself to a number of calories You simply begin by telling yourself your thoughts and emotions are your number one focus, you stop obsessing over all the foods you can and cant have You start to be able to move from doubt and regret each morning into calm and confidence. No matter what happens today you know you can handle it Food choices are way less dramatic, you are able to listen to your bodies signals and let them lead you in your food choices. Your brain starts to quiet down about food. You don’t need willpower because you have confidence The scale starts to go down but you feel like you haven’t really changed that much…it has all been really effortless. In order for your actions to happen naturally you have to work on the thoughts you are having and the emotions those thoughts are creating. This is what my clients are doing when i tell you that they lost weight and didn’t feel like they changed that much…what happened was they changed their thought which changed their emotion which created a different action for them effortlessly so they were able to eat less without it being a struggle or go to a buffet and feel amazing and still lose weight. Here is what mine looked like when i was losing my postpartum weight: Instead of: Cutting out carbs Eliminating sugar Not stress eating Drinking a lot of water Going to the gym Making my husband diet with me I did this: What thoughts are going to create confidence, calm and certainty for me as I lose weight after having a baby? I want to lose weight I genuinely do not want to stress eat because it will cause me more stress I want to handle my stress with breathing and walks I know i can do this, I have done this before and this time will be no different With the emotions of calm, certainty and confidence i effortlessly took these actions Slowed down when i felt stress and addressed the stress instated of looking for food Made a daily food plan and committed to sticking to it Listened to my bodies natural signals for hunger and satiety Got outside and moved around with my baby Made sure i was drinking water Took it slow and evaluated: aka didn’t beat myself up if the scale didn’t go down And i lost 10lbs in a month