62: Aleta Cai & The Human Condition: Self Love, Sensuality, Permission & Submission

This episode with Aleta Kai was truly invigorating! Aleta’s energetic concoction of spirituality, sensuality, sexuality, power, and loving yourself, mixed with biology and the body brings a stimulating conversation.Aleta Cai is an NYC based healer and dominatrix who combines her experiences in both into a unique form of somatic and energetic healing. She focuses on embodiment, empowerment and processing trauma. Through her methodology of integrating submission, her clients are able to surrender into their own vulnerabilities in a transformative way.In this episode we explore:Aleta’s Journey to a BDSM Dungeon and into her Energy HealingThe power of sexual energyPermission to feel good about yourself and feel pleasureThe human condition of masochism and the pleasure in painHow Aleta uses BDSM techniques from more than only a sexual angle — but to awaken the energy of the sacral area in both men and women — as a somatic healing practice to reveal more and open up more for herself and her clientsAleta’s kundalini awakening and the emergenceThe lived and unlived lifeFeeling safe in the body — being in the body instead of spiritually bypassingUsing submission and dominance to explore our core beingShowing up in the world vs hidingBeing Chinese and shifting the belief sets that came through culture and lineageAleta holds a BA in Psychology as well as an MA in Film Studies, both from NYU. After a few years working in Fashion, she followed both her curiosity and fear into a BDSM dungeon. It ignited a path of healing and integration she never foresaw, and she not only “learned the ropes” there, but learned the ropes for a new way of understanding the human condition. A kundalini awakening further catapulted her towards her life calling of healing and she began her pursuit of the healing arts first through Reiki, hypnosis, clairvoyance and integrative life coaching.Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/aleta Podcast Homepage🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-communityPatreon – Your Support Means So Much!💝 https://candicewu.com/patreonCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNatureSponsored by my new Dream Work Class on SkillshareA few weeks ago, I published a new class on Dream Work, which supports people who are interested in developing a stronger ability to remember their dreams and a connected relationship to their dream wisdom with embodiment practices.Dreaming: Embodiment Practices to Prepare Your Physiology For a Thriving Dream LifeOur dreams offer access to energies and parts of ourselves that are hidden or unseen and wanting to be revealed.This class offers specific breathing techniques, yogic and body-centered practices, and meditations that you can use to ground yourself and develop safety and playfulness for your dreams to thrive. These practices will support your nervous system in feeling a level of deep rest and relaxation, giving the capacity for you to remember your dreams even better than before or for the first time.Find all the Dreamwork Classes Online and enjoy a Skillshare promo of two months free here.All the proceeds from Skillshare to me go towards supporting the Embody Podcast.Learn more about this and other classes by me at CandiceWu.com/classesShow Notes0:00 Intro0:32 Disclaimer1:26 Sponsored by My Dream Classes on Skillshare3:42 Opening5:24 Introducing Aleta7:19 Hiding a Part of Myself (Being a Dominatrix)8:13 Kundalini Awakening8:43 The First Sessions after the Awakening were like nothing else!10:17 What was the shift and the new energy?12:48 Phases of Dark before Awakening14:28 How to support yourself through the healing?17:31 Incorporating BDSM in a new way20:37 How do you use dominance and submission?21:16 Societal Core Identities22:25 The Pressure of Society and what is underneath25:01 Power in Relationship — The Second Chakra25:47 Aleta’s Gratitude for her Practice27:27 The Duality of Healing27:27 Duality of Healing28:42 About being Visible in your Work32:05 You are Invisible33:04 Learning that it’s not about you — Showing up for the other person35:08 What struggles is Aleta having now?37:07 Where are your decisions coming from?39:28 What delights Aleta right now?41:51 Sensuality, Pleasure, and Permission / Self Love44:04 Finding Tantra45:30 The Power in Sexual Energy47:30 When life opens up to be pleasurable49:09 Guilt and Shame for Feeling Pleasure?50:47 What does Aleta’s Ancestry bring to the experience of Pleasure?54:22 Thoughts about Self Love57:04 Pulling Self Love Inside58:36 Allowing Pleasure and Reward58:36 Permission to feel good about yourself59:21 Self Love or Self Masochism?1:05:50 Butterfly needs Struggle of Emergence1:06:21 Anything else to share today?1:06:40 Audience Gift1:07:17 Outro1:08:09 The Embody Podcast Birthday — A Thank You1:09:19 The Embody Newsletter