63: The Mailbox: My Inner Critic Is Called Dick

Send Gemma a messageWelcome to another episode of The Good Mood Clinic Podcast!Join us as we discuss a listener's email about her inner critic to whom she has given the name 'Dick'.  A listener, whom we refer to as 'Mia' has sent us  a detailed email about her inner critic.  'Dick' the critic, says all sorts of nasty and punitive things to Mia, but sometimes Mia feels that he actually protects her.  How can this be? Does her critic actually protect her from something?  Could it have a protective role and if so does that make it something else? In this episode, Gemma and Justine take a very deep dive into the concept of the inner critic and related modes in schema therapy.  How can we define the inner criticWhere does the inner critic come fromWhat are modes in schema therapyCould 'Dick' actually be a coping mode instead of a critic?Why is it useful to pull apart the messages a critic says to usWhat had Ronald Fairbairn's "Moral Defense" have to do with it all? What is the Flagellating Over-Controller Mode in schema therapy & what is its function?We mention that this defence mechanism is also relevant for schema chemistry and why some people tend to blame themselves for bad treatment. We hope we have given Mia a few potential hypotheses to think about with her own therapist.Support the show🎓FREE LIVE MASTERCLASS - Why smart women override red flags in dating😊Love Wisely Foundations is here! Enroll now for this one of a kind guided program🩷 Join Love Wisely PRIORITY List  ✅Dating App Profile CHECK-UP🎁 Dating With Insight - FREE Guide💛 Elevate You Worth (50% off only for listeners) - Use coupon WORTHY Connect with Me 📩[email protected]  🌐 Website: drgemmagladstone.com 📷 Instagram: @drgemmacoaching🌻 Support the Podcast 🙏Love the show? Help us keep going with a monthly contribution: Support here