63: What is Love? Untangling Love from Protection & Fear

Our soul’s deepest desire is to love and know love. To know what love truly is — and isn’t. I’ve experienced a sorting process in this life of how to love, what is love and what isn’t loving — both to myself and others.But often our ideas of love and loving are warped. What if abuse got mixed in there, or staying silent?? We grow up confused and learning that loving means to do xyz (let’s discover!), and pure loving that is without survival attached becomes distorted. It is deeply ingrained in our systems, even our ancestral systems, and society. It is deeply in our unconscious — in the way the body is held, moves, and doesn’t move.This episode is an exploration of free and wholehearted love…the capacity to witness fullness and bareness in ourselves and others. I discuss how to untangle destructive ways of being that have been paired with love or being loved.In the last quarter of the episode, I guide you through a journaling or meditation experience to explore what loving meant in your early life, untangling love from protection, fear and other ways of being that were associated, and connecting you to what love is in its clearest form. Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/love Podcast Homepage🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-communityPatreon – Your Support Means So Much!💝 https://candicewu.com/patreonCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsored by my Dream Classes on SkillshareOur dreams offer access to energies and parts of ourselves that are hidden or unseen and wanting to be revealed.Check out my Skillshare class on Dream Work:Dreaming: Embodiment Practices to Prepare Your Physiology For a Thriving Dream LifeThis class offers specific breathing techniques, yogic and body-centered practices, and meditations that you can use to ground yourself and develop safety and playfulness for your dreams to thrive. These practices will support your nervous system in feeling a level of deep rest and relaxation, giving the capacity for you to remember your dreams even better than before or for the first time.Find all my Dreamwork Classes Online and enjoy a Skillshare promo of two months free on CandiceWu.com/classes.All the proceeds from Skillshare to me go towards supporting the Embody Podcast. Show Notes00:00 Intro00:59 Sponsored by My Dream Classes on Skillshare03:59 Opening04:21 This Episode’s Inspiring Question05:09 Talking About Beauty06:24 The Beauty in Ballet - YUMMY08:40 What Brings Beauty and Awe for You?09:35 My Early Healing Journey — Tuning Into Beauty to Accelerate the Healing10:28 Mention of Somatic Experiencing & Peter Levine12:06 Blog Posts & Episodes About Pleasure12:19 The Topic of Love13:34 Love Is a Full Experience in the Body14:11 We Are All Here to Love14:42 What I Mean With Love : A Description16:18 Love in Family Constellations18:57 Love Is Attention18:57 Love Is Attention20:43 Self Love as a Way to More Love24:16 Mention of Carl Rodgers24:41 It’s Not About Romantic Love — Agape25:37 Agape : Universal, Spiritual, and All-Encompassing Love27:47 Why Have We Confused Love?31:49 What Love Can Be Mix With…36:58 Love Mixed Up With Sex and Relationship38:44 Love Mixed Up With Money39:28 What Has Loving Been Mixed With in Your Life, Soul, and Being?40:29 Do You Love Out of Fear or Freedom?42:33 Great Beginnings : True Love43:13 JOURNALING: Inquiry and Exploration Questions for You54:10 Mary Oliver Poem — A Summer Day56:06 Outro, Feedback, and Newsletter56:39 Future Experientials57:28 Thank You for Tuning In