64 A Parents Influence on Their Child's Big Emotions

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallJoin Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions In This Episode We Will Dive into:Strategies for co-regulating with children during emotional outburstsKey TakeawaysImportance of parents regulating themselves first before trying to calm a dysregulated childUsing breathing techniques to switch from stress response to resting stateBeing open about one's own emotions models healthy expression for childrenSeeking therapy/doing inner work helps build emotional regulation skillsCo-Regulation and Staying CalmPrioritize getting yourself into a calm, regulated state firstIf not calm yourself, very difficult to help child regulateAnalogy: Sharpen the ax (yourself) before trying to chop wood (help child)When stressed, brain can't see situation objectively - must self-regulate firstUnderstanding the Child's PerspectiveBig emotions are a protective response, not just misbehaviorUse curiosity to understand what the child's "part" is protecting againstExample: Son's outburst before Pokemon was anxiety about playing, not just defianceBreathing and Nervous System RegulationBreathing through nose activates resting nervous systemPractice nasal breathing regularly to build capacity to self-regulateVerbalize using regulation techniques to model for childrenInner Work and TherapyAndi's own journey of burnout, trauma work, and therapyImproved emotional skills, communication, staying regulatedRecommend resources like The Co-Regulation HandbookNext StepsStart with nasal breathing practice if new to regulation techniquesRead The Co-Regulation Handbook and The Declarative Language HandbookExplore older podcast episodes on burnout, nervous system regulation, IFSJoin Facebook group for community supportBook 30-min call with Andi to discuss personal situationBooks mentionedCo Regulation Handbook by Linda K Murphy -  https://www.declarativelanguage.com/about-coregulation-handbook  Declarative Language Handbook by Linda K Murphy -  https://www.declarativelanguage.com/about-declarative-language-handbook