Kids with Big Emotions Podcast

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this episode of Kids With Big Emotions, I sit down with Safiya Omosanya to explore the often-overlooked stressors that can impact how our kids think, feel, and behave. From sensory overload to environmental triggers, Safiya shares her insights on what’s really going on beneath the surface when children experience big emotions—and how we as parents can create calmer, more supportive environments.Together, we talk about moving beyond quick fixes, the importance of parent self-care, and why embracing neurodiversity can transform not only our children’s lives but also our own parenting journey.Whether you’re in the thick of meltdowns, struggling with school expectations, or simply wondering what else might be affecting your child’s emotional regulation, this conversation is here to guide you.🔑 Key TakeawaysHidden stressors—like noise, smells, light, or overstimulation—can play a bigger role in your child’s meltdowns than you might realize.Shifting from punishment to understanding opens the door for real connection and growth.Parent self-care is not optional—it’s foundational to modeling regulation for your child.Schools and specialists are helpful, but parents are the strongest advocates and anchors for their child’s needs.Embracing neurodiversity allows children to thrive in their uniqueness rather than feeling “broken” or “less than.”⏱️ Episode Highlights[00:00] Introduction and Safiya’s background[04:20] Why traditional discipline often misses the root cause[09:45] How hidden environmental stressors affect kids’ behavior[15:10] The role of parental regulation and self-care[21:30] Rethinking reliance on schools and specialists[28:40] Embracing neurodiversity and celebrating strengths[34:15] Safiya’s takeaways for parents navigating big emotionsTo reach out to Safiya Omosanya you can book at call or contact her on LinkedIN. 20 minute complimentary “I’m ready to break cycles” session book at www.calendly.com/SafiyaOmosanyaLinked In https://www.linkedin.com/in/safiya-omosanya-aaa46a260

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallMeltdowns are not a sign your child is being disrespectful—they’re a sign they’re overwhelmed, stuck, or trying to communicate something they don’t yet have the words for. In today’s episode, we’re focusing on how to meet your child where they are in the middle of an emotional outburst, and what to do (and not do) to help them feel safe, seen, and supported.You’ll learn how your own nervous system impacts your response, why some kids shut down completely, and what’s actually happening in their brains when they “lose it.” You’ll also get ideas you can try today—even if your child refuses every tool you’ve learned.💡 Key TakeawaysYou can’t teach during a meltdown—the moment is for safety and regulation, not lessons.How your own stress animal influences your response—and what to do if you're triggered too.Why some kids go silent or “freeze” in the middle of a meltdown, and how to support them without pushing.Co-regulation doesn't always look like calming your child down—sometimes it means just being a calm presence beside them.Strategies like turning on a calming show or offering stillness aren’t “giving in”—they’re resetting the nervous system.🕰️ Episode Highlights with Timestamps[03:20] What’s really happening in your child’s nervous system during a meltdown—and why logic doesn’t work at that moment.[06:12] The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown—and why assuming your child is “in control” can make things worse.[09:05] What to do if your child shuts down or goes silent—and why stillness doesn’t mean they’re fine.[13:40] How your own stress response shows up in these moments—and how to ground yourself first, even if it’s just one breath.[17:55] The one thing that makes co-regulation effective—and why trying to “fix” the meltdown too soon backfires.[21:30] Tools that don’t require your child to engage—like a calming show or sitting in quiet together—that reset their nervous system without adding pressure.[25:10] Why your child may reject every tool in the moment—and how to stop taking that personally.[29:00] A reminder that meltdowns are built up over time—and your response today is one step in a longer journey of safety and trust.🔗 Resources Mentioned“Stress Animals” Framework (Dolphin, Shark, Turtle, Clownfish)  Episode 110 https://andiclark.com/podcast/ Book a free coaching call: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall 💬 If this episode helped you see meltdowns in a new light, please share it with a friend or leave a review—it helps more parents feel less alone.🎙 Listen to all episodes at: https://andiclark.com/podcast/ 

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this powerful conversation, former special education teacher and parent coach Amy Dooley joins Andi to explore what it really means to parent from a place of connection, not control. Amy shares her personal shift from traditional classroom discipline to connection-based parenting, and how that journey led her to support parents in transforming their own limiting beliefs.Key Takeaways:Behavior is a signal, not the problem. When kids act out, it’s often a cry for safety, not defiance.You are worthy, even in the mess. Your child doesn’t need a perfect parent—they need a present one.Parenting shifts begin with self-work. To truly support your child, start by noticing and healing your own patterns.Control isn’t connection. Old-school discipline methods may suppress behavior, but they don't meet your child’s underlying needs.Safety comes before strategies. When your child feels seen and supported, their nervous system calms—and so does yours.Episode Highlights:[00:00] – Welcome + Amy's background as a teacher and homeschool parent[02:00] – Early career belief: “Control = good teaching”[04:50] – The moment Amy realized she wasn’t seeing the child—just the behavior[06:30] – The Coke bottle metaphor: why behavior is the symptom, not the problem[08:30] – Shifting from labeling kids to understanding them[10:00] – Step one: Assigning positive intent to your child[12:30] – Why parents must start with their own healing[14:10] – “I am worthy. Period.” and what today’s kids are demanding[16:00] – Parenting through generational change[17:50] – The screwdriver and screw analogy: why parent shifts must come first[20:00] – Why Amy left the classroom to work with parents[22:30] – A child’s progress is limited when the home foundation is shaky[25:30] – How presence—not perfection—builds trust[28:00] – Feeling like you’re not enough as a parent[30:00] – What “being enough” really looks like in the messiest moments[33:00] – Why your own regulation matters more than the strategy[35:00] – Amy’s story of timing meltdowns vs. being present[37:00] – When you shift, your child’s behavior shifts too[39:00] – Forgiving your former self and building new tools[42:00] – The parenting purse analogy: replacing outdated tools[45:30] – Final message: You are worthy. Your mess doesn’t disqualify you.Resources Mentioned:💡 Amy Dooley's Free Quiz: Discover your parenting strengths and get 3 connection-based strategies: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/683657ece9067900158eb2a9 📱 Follow Amy on Facebook: The Empowered Parent: https://www.facebook.com/empoweredparentcoach/Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/amy.dooley_parentcoach) + TikTok: @the.empowered.parent (https://www.tiktok.com/@theempoweredparentcoach)💬 Loved this episode?If Amy’s message about worthiness and connection-based parenting spoke to you, take a moment to reflect: What outdated tools are you ready to let go of?You don’t have to do this alone.Start by exploring Amy’s free quiz to see where your child is struggling and how you can create more calm, connection, and clarity—together.👉 Tap the links in the show notes to take your next step.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall💡 Key Takeaways:If your child melts down over getting dressed, avoids homework, or can’t stick with a simple routine—it’s not defiance or laziness. Their brain might be overwhelmed by the steps we’re asking them to take.Many kids are expected to follow plans or routines before they’re ready—because no one has helped them with the basics their brain needs first.Before kids can follow a list or stay focused, they need help with skills like noticing what’s happening around them, managing distractions, and stopping themselves from going off track.When we slow things down and meet them at the step they can handle, they feel more successful—and that’s when real progress begins.Your child isn’t failing. They just need support that matches how their brain works.⏱️ Episode Highlights & Timestamps:[00:01:15] Why even adults struggle with attention—and how screens play a role[00:06:40] Real-life examples of attention struggles and how they affect daily routines[00:08:15] Introducing the fire metaphor: Kindling, logs, and flames of executive functioning[00:10:20] The four foundational skills that must come before planning[00:13:10] Why giving your child a “beautiful visual schedule” might still lead to meltdowns[00:14:35] How skipping steps on the ladder causes overwhelm, shutdowns, and feelings of failure[00:16:00] The hidden complexity of getting dressed—and why it’s not just one task[00:18:45] How brain maturation and scaffolding work together over time📚 Resources Mentioned:Want to better understand your child’s executive functioning challenges? Start with the Kids With Big Emotions Self-Assessment: 👉 https://andiclark.com/assessmentReady to explore personalized support? Book a free 30-minute call to see if 1:1 coaching is the right fit for your family: 👉 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Self Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this powerful conversation, I sit down with Licensed Professional Counselor and Registered Play Therapist Megan Hamm, who has spent 17+ years supporting children and families through trauma, crisis, and complex emotional needs. Together, we unpack why traditional views of “bad behavior” miss the mark—and what parents can do instead to truly support their children in moments of big emotion.Whether you’re navigating daily meltdowns, feeling stuck in reaction mode, or simply want to build a deeper connection with your child, Megan offers a compassionate, grounded framework to help you shift from managing behavior to understanding it.Key TakeawaysBehavior is communication: Every outburst or meltdown is a signal, not a problem to be fixed.Connection comes before correction: Real change begins with relationship, not control.In-the-moment responses aren’t the time for teaching: Kids in crisis need safety, not consequences.You can’t teach what you haven’t practiced: Parents must build their own regulation tools first.Modeling matters more than managing: Your calm presence teaches more than any strategy.Changing the environment matters: Preventing crisis often starts with how we set up the home and routine.Episode Highlights[00:00] - Introduction to Megan and her background in trauma-informed care[04:00] - The shift from changing behavior to understanding behavior[07:00] - What to do when your child is in meltdown: A crisis-response lens[09:00] - Why calm connection beats consequence every time[12:00] - How to prepare your home and your nervous system for high-emotion moments[16:00] - Practicing regulation when things are not chaotic—why timing matters[20:00] - Why Megan does more parent coaching than direct child therapy[25:00] - What children really need during a meltdown—and why “fixing” doesn’t work[30:00] - Letting kids learn through experience and mistakes, without shaming[36:00] - What to say when others don’t understand your parenting approach[41:00] - Modeling, natural consequences, and what actually builds lifelong skills[48:00] - Megan’s book and how to work with herResources Mentioned🔗 Megan Hamm’s Website: www.meganmhamm.com 📖 Book – The Heart of the Matter: Buy here https://buy.stripe.com/5kA4hxcDc2zd0GkbIJ 🔗 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/meganhamm-lpc 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meganhammlpc/ 👥 Facebook: facebook.com/megan.hamm.554041🎧 Want to reflect more deeply on your parenting journey?If this episode stirred something in you or helped you see your child’s behavior in a new light, I invite you to take a quiet moment to explore what support might look like for your family. You don’t have to figure it all out alone.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this powerful solo episode, Andi walks parents through a foundational truth: you can't help your child regulate if you're still dysregulated yourself. When your child melts down, it’s easy to default to scripts and strategies—yet what your child truly needs is your steady presence. Andi explains how stress animals show up in parenting, why awareness is the first step, and what it really means to become the anchor your child can return to when they’re overwhelmed.This is Step 3 of Andi’s CARE5™ framework—focused on Regulating Yourself before trying to co-regulate your child.Key TakeawaysYou can’t co-regulate a child if you’re still activated yourself.Knowing your stress animal (shark, clownfish, turtle) helps you interrupt reaction cycles.It’s not about getting calm perfectly—it’s about noticing when you’re not.Regulation starts with awareness, not strategy.You don’t need to fix everything in the moment—your presence is what matters most.Episode Highlights[00:00] Why this episode goes before calming your child: it starts with your nervous system.[02:00] Introduction to the CARE5™ model and its previous steps.[04:00] “You can’t be the anchor when you’re caught in the wave.”[06:00] A compassionate reminder that no parent can be calm 100% of the time.[07:30] Adult stress animals: how yours show up fast in parenting.[09:00] What happens when a child’s shark triggers your shark (or clownfish or turtle)?[10:30] You can be a firm shark without being in threat mode.[12:00] Real-world example: a clownfish parent with a turtle child.[14:30] “Your nervous system leads the way”—why your calm comes first.[16:00] Think of your calm as a dock in the storm.[17:00] Fire drills and stress practice: why we train outside the meltdown.[18:30] The first shift isn’t behavior—it’s noticing.[20:00] What your child needs most is you—not the perfect tool or script.[21:00] How to work with Andi if you want deeper support.Resources MentionedEpisode 110: Understanding Your Child’s Stress Animal: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0vlnDR2iEqZ8K57YxJ5xU7?si=lCs7WKO6TUubNAUpMP_AyQEpisode 116: Changing the Lens on Behavior (Step 1 of CARE5™): https://open.spotify.com/episode/0t1mfLsWM6M3szf7PTJwYy?si=0156f0f2a94240b0 Ready to become the steady anchor your child needs? Start by calming your own waves first.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Self Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallWhat if SAT prep wasn’t just about getting a better score—but about helping your child see their worth, trust their process, and feel empowered to handle hard things?In this conversation, Andi sits down with coach and educator Josh Aronovitch, who’s known for helping kids not just improve test scores—but deeply reconnect with their own strengths. From supporting neurodiverse kids with test anxiety to helping students find the college path that fits who they are, Josh brings a perspective that goes far beyond academics.Whether your child is preparing for high school, college, or still figuring things out, this episode is packed with emotional insight, practical wisdom, and the kind of hope parents need.Key TakeawaysTest-taking is a skill, not a reflection of intelligence. Many kids know the material—they just haven’t been taught how to take tests in a way that works for their brain.Your child’s nervous system matters. Emotional regulation, mindset, and even breathwork play a bigger role in performance than most people realize.Standardized tests are flawed—but can be a powerful opportunity. With the right tools and perspective, even students who struggle can thrive.Success doesn't come from doing it right the first time. The journey—mistakes and all—helps kids build grit, confidence, and the ability to handle life’s curveballs.College planning should start with who your child wants to be—not just what job they’ll have.Episode Highlights[00:03:00] – Do SATs still matter? Josh explains how “test-optional” doesn’t always mean optional—and why test scores can still open doors.[00:05:30] – Why kids struggle with testing (and it’s not what you think): From psychological spirals to perfectionism, Josh breaks down what really gets in the way.[00:08:30] – Helping a student go from 720 to 1190: How a 2-year journey transformed not just scores—but self-belief.[00:10:45] – Test prep as emotional growth: Why learning to pause, breathe, and “get off the wrong train” changes everything.[00:16:00] – Understanding before memorizing: Why high-achieving kids often get stuck in math—and how to teach it differently.[00:21:00] – The truth about multiple choice and second-guessing: Josh shares how depth of thinking can actually backfire—and how to help.[00:28:30] – Finding the right college path: Josh flips the question—starting with how your child wants to feel, then working backwards.[00:35:30] – The power of failure: Why kids need safe experiences with mistakes in order to grow.[00:41:00] – A client story: 7 SATs, a perfect score in math, and med school dreams realized.[00:46:00] – Josh’s global lifestyle and why travel helps kids dream bigger: A story about dancing, yoga, and finding joy through discomfort.Resources MentionedConnect with Josh:Website: www.aronovitchcoaching.comFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ARONOVITCHCOACHINGInstagram: https://instagram.com/joshthesatguy LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/josharonovitch/Text Josh directly: 856-341-0503Retreat: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AbgkhYVGakwYWtG-vSYOe6Zo94AX5Mrk0omdu77w36g/edit?usp=sharingIf you loved this episode, make sure to subscribe and leave a review!

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIf your child seems to flip from calm to chaos without warning, this episode will change the way you see those outbursts.What if their “bad behavior” isn’t defiance—but a sign their nervous system is overloaded?In this foundational episode, Andi introduces Step 1 of the CARE5™ Framework: Changing the Lens. You’ll learn why traditional discipline often backfires, how to recognize stress signals in your child, and what’s really happening beneath those emotional explosions.Using the Coke bottle analogy and real-life examples, Andi helps you shift from guilt and frustration to clarity and compassion—so you can begin responding instead of reacting.Key Takeaways:“Misbehavior” is often a stress response—not manipulation or disrespect.Emotional outbursts tend to happen when a child’s nervous system is overwhelmed.The first step to supporting your child is changing how you interpret their behavior.Our nervous systems react faster than logic—especially under chronic stress.You can’t co-regulate your child until you first regulate your own nervous system.Episode Highlights:[00:00:00] Welcome + what the CARE5™ Framework is and how it helps[00:03:00] Common mismatch between adult expectations and child capacity[00:04:30] Story: Pokémon night meltdown and uncovering the hidden stress[00:07:30] What happens in the brain and body when a child feels unsafe[00:10:00] Reframing defiance as an overwhelmed nervous system[00:11:00] Coke bottle analogy: how stress builds invisibly before it explodes[00:13:30] Why home becomes the safe place where meltdowns happen[00:16:00] The life vest metaphor: why discipline isn’t what they need[00:18:00] Small stressors that shook my son's Coke bottle that day[00:19:00] Recap: Step 1 of the CARE5™ Framework – Change the Lens[00:21:00] Preview of Step 2: Stress Animals (listen to Episode 110)Resources Mentioned:🎧 Episode 110 – Understanding Your Child’s Stress Animal: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0vlnDR2iEqZ8K57YxJ5xU7?si=lCs7WKO6TUubNAUpMP_AyQ Ready to see your child’s behavior through a new lens?

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this powerful episode, Melissa McIntosh—former Educational Assistant turned mindfulness mentor—shares her journey from burnout in the school system to building Mindful Kids Inc. Her mission? Helping families reconnect through simple, effective mindfulness practices that truly support emotional regulation. We explore why mindfulness isn’t just for kids, how parents can model regulation, and what it really means to build a calm home from the inside out.Key TakeawaysMindfulness is a lifestyle, not a technique – It’s about consistent, bite-sized practices that shift the family dynamic over time.One size doesn't fit all – Each child has unique tools that work for them; helping them discover what fits is the magic.Academics aren't the foundation – Emotional awareness must come first for real learning and connection.You are the expert on your child – Trusting your intuition, even when it goes against the system, is critical.Episode Highlights[00:00] – Meet Melissa: Her transition from education to mindfulness, and why she followed her gut.[03:45] – The moment she realized the system wasn’t working—for kids, for families, or for herself.[06:30] – Why her husband’s calm energy opened the door to mindfulness—and how it changed everything at home.[10:15] – The missing piece in schools: involving parents and seeing the whole child, not just academics.[14:00] – Why mindfulness must start with parents before it can help their children.[18:15] – How kids can learn to filter outside energy, like “Steve’s nosebleed,” through a calm lens.[22:00] – The Mind Jar explained: how a simple tool helps kids settle their thoughts and feelings.[26:00] – What it looks like when kids start teaching mindfulness at home—and why that’s the real win.[30:00] – Mindfulness as a superpower that grows with your child over time.[33:45] – What to do when kids are dysregulated and the tool doesn’t “work.”[36:00] – The moment you realize: it’s working.[38:00] – Why gratitude is part of mindfulness—and how it changes the emotional tone of a family.Resources MentionedMindful Kids Inc. – Melissa’s mindfulness-based programs for kids and families: https://www.mindfulkidsinc.comFollow Melissa onInstagram: @mindfulkidsincFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindfulkidsinc If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe and share it with a friend who’s raising a child with big emotions.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallWhat drives some kids to push themselves relentlessly while others seem to lack motivation altogether? In this episode, Andi explores what’s underneath both ends of the spectrum—overachieving and underachieving—and what parents might be missing. Whether your child is racing ahead with academic goals or struggling to get started, this episode will help you understand the hidden executive functioning struggles that shape their behavior and what to do about it.Key TakeawaysOverachievement can mask underlying executive functioning struggles, especially in social, emotional, or sleep areas.Underachievement isn’t laziness—it often stems from overwhelm, fear of failure, or difficulties with initiation and planning.Asking curious, compassionate questions helps kids reflect and create flexibility in their goals and timelines.The “gap vs. gain” mindset shift (from Dan Sullivan and Benjamin Hardy’s book) helps both parents and kids celebrate progress instead of chasing perfection.Progress looks different for every child—sometimes the slowest pace is the most meaningful.Episode Highlights & Timestamps[00:00] – Introduction: Why kids may be overly driven or totally disengaged[01:40] – A real-life story: A teen pushing for an associate’s degree before high school graduation[03:00] – The missed question: Have we stopped to celebrate progress?[04:00] – How executive functioning struggles can hide behind academic success[05:30] – Challenges like inhibition, switching tasks, and sleep issues in high achievers[06:00] – The opposite end: Kids with no drive and what’s behind the shutdown[07:00] – A deeper dive into executive functioning (initiation, flexibility, planning, etc.)[08:30] – Explaining the Gap and the Gain framework to kids[10:00] – Guiding kids through flexible thinking with curious questions[12:00] – Using short-term scenarios (like Lego or ice cream) to build long-term skills[13:00] – Helping high achievers reflect, rest, and regulate[14:30] – Using tools like health trackers (Whoop, Oura) to validate rest[15:45] – Supporting disengaged kids through tiny wins and drive-by praise[17:30] – Honoring their pace and effort over outcome[18:45] – Questions for parents: Where is your child thriving on the surface but struggling underneath?[20:00] – Modeling balance and rest as a parent[21:15] – Final thoughts: Both drive and disinterest can hide deeper needsResources MentionedThe Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin HardyExecutive Functioning Podcast SeriesEp. 85 Perception: Emotional Regulation 101: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TNuHQyoCA9VhiSOWWqRSG?si=PWEUzBd9STKiJ1pKDBiCJg Ep. 86 Attention: Struggles Aren’t Always ADHD: https://open.spotify.com/episode/16DRPoFWy78XlLvmCDF0kW?si=lTaIMc3lQPCuHVHuttTU0QEp.88 What is Working Memory? Part 1: Verbal Working Memory: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vavf1BBwLwORkai5ZIwcX?si=0Z-n6cRkSEquqJ2b6tYPOgEp. 89 What is Working Memory? Part 2: Non Verbal Working Memory: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ygbn1LqDNrvL9MPDydkDp?si=KwdSPvC-QdeIXKWt-WMQ9AEp. 90 Inhibition: Helping your child navigate impulsivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eZWomMOv5V7emtZrClYlU?si=6Vlvgod5QFiqhhpwMBXm4QEp. 93 Initiation: Why Getting Started Is Hard For Some Kids And How To Help: https://open.spotify.com/episode/695CBuXzpx0juVy08VKmDO?si=85Ql0vAJRPqlai-68_CRZwEp.94 Cognitive Flexibility: Why Perfectionism and Inflexible Thinking Go Hand in Hand: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3adl8y66voFQL5lrvKLFFn?si=cqnK67s_RdSMI_6qVJ-ubg110 Understanding Your Child’s Stress Animal Is the Key to Calmer Days: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0vlnDR2iEqZ8K57YxJ5xU7?si=r6Mrqn5DQru28qLF9EW7Cg

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this episode, I sit down with my good friend Kristina Rajes—homeschooling mom of four and the creator behind Phoenix Gems and Buy Some Love.We talk about how gemstones unexpectedly became a key support tool for our kids’ emotional regulation, creativity, and confidence. From skeptical teens to intuitive empaths, Kristina shares how each of her children uses different stones in meaningful ways—and how this tool complements the deeper work we do with stress, sleep, and executive functioning.Key TakeawaysGemstones can act as emotional support tools—especially for sensitive or empathic kids who absorb others’ energy.Each stone has unique energetic properties that can help with grounding, courage, creativity, focus, and calm.Kids often choose the stones they need without realizing it—color and instinct often guide them.Tools like bracelets and gemstone routines are not about “fixing” kids but supporting them alongside emotional regulation work.It's okay if a child isn’t ready—these tools work best when chosen, not forced.Parents can benefit too—especially those who feel emotionally drained after public or social interactions.Episode Highlights[00:01:00] Homeschooling with intention and personalization for each child[00:03:30] How ChatGPT supports Kristina's multi-level homeschool planning[00:05:00] Kristina’s unexpected shift from law to gemstone healing[00:07:30] Why most of her business is in-person (and the importance of “feeling” a stone)[00:09:00] How her empath daughter benefits from obsidian—and refuses all jewelry except that bracelet[00:10:00] Kristina’s science-minded son and his surprising shift after wearing Carnelian[00:13:00] The twin tiger’s eye story—two anxious kids conquering their fear of heights at rock climbing[00:16:00] My own son’s struggles with creativity—and how his bracelet helped spark new ideas[00:20:00] How to charge gemstone bracelets (easier than you think!)[00:22:00] The bracelet stacks that changed my stress patterns—and what my health data shows[00:26:00] What it means when a child “feels like a basketball is bouncing inside them”[00:29:00] Which stones help with anxiety, courage, and creative thinking[00:31:00] Customizing bracelets for fidget needs, essential oils, or comfort charms[00:34:00] Why intention and resonance matter more than forcing a child to wear a stone[00:35:00] How Kristina’s bracelet bar works at live shows—and the energy parents feel when choosing stones[00:36:30] Right hand vs. left hand: giving vs. receiving energy through gemstones[00:38:00] The evil eye charm and how it supports kids who struggle with attention or energy overload[00:40:00] How you can connect with Kristina at local shows or on social mediaResources MentionedKristina’s Gemstone Instagram: @phoenixgemsco: https://www.instagram.com/phoenixgemsco/ Kristina’s Kids Bracelet Line: @buysomelove: https://www.instagram.com/buysomeloveGem Expo Toronto (July, Downtown at the Hyatt Regency): https://thegemexpo.comIf you found this episode helpful, subscribe to the podcast and share it with a parent who’s looking for gentle, supportive tools for their child.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall Is your child refusing to start their homework, melting down when asked to pack a backpack, or avoiding simple tasks? It might look like laziness—but it’s not. In this episode, Andi Clark breaks down what’s really going on beneath procrastination. Hint: it’s not about effort or motivation. It’s about executive functioning struggles—and missing foundational skills most people don’t talk about.You'll walk away with a new lens for understanding your child’s behavior, insights on how to reduce shame and frustration, and actionable first steps to break the cycle of procrastination.Key Takeaways:Procrastination is not laziness—it’s often a sign of overwhelmed executive functioning.Skills like initiation, working memory, time awareness, emotional regulation, and flexibility all play a role.Pushing harder or offering rewards won’t work unless the root cause is addressed.There is no one-size-fits-all solution—support needs to match your child’s specific gaps.Using the right scaffolding and starting with small wins can rebuild confidence and momentum.Episode Highlights:[00:00:00] – Introduction: Why procrastination isn’t laziness[00:01:00] – What executive functioning really is[00:03:00] – Real-life examples: Andi’s son and homework meltdowns[00:05:00] – Breakdown of key executive functioning skills that affect procrastination[00:08:00] – How time perception and emotional regulation influence task avoidance[00:10:00] – Observing your child’s patterns and asking the right questions[00:11:00] – The shame cycle of procrastination and how it snowballs[00:12:00] – Why planners, timers, and charts often don’t work[00:15:00] – The fire analogy: Flames, logs, and kindling in EF support[00:17:00] – Questions to help identify where your child’s breakdown is happening[00:18:00] – Why patching top-level behaviors won’t work without a foundation[00:20:00] – How to offer real support: Start with one EF skill, build small wins[00:22:00] – Reframing procrastination as a skill gap, not a character flaw[00:23:00] – Next steps: Self-assessment, Support Circle, and 1:1 coaching optionsYou’re not alone in this—understanding what’s really behind your child’s procrastination is the first step toward creating more calm, connection, and progress at home.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall What if your child’s refusal to brush their teeth, get dressed, or follow instructions wasn’t about defiance—but about survival?In this episode, I talk with Amanda Preston—social worker, mom to eight neurodivergent kids, and expert in Autism, stress responses and misunderstood behavior. We explore what’s really going on when kids can’t do something that seems so simple and how the traditional approaches to parenting can actually make things worse.If your child resists everyday tasks, melts down over small requests, or seems to need total control just to function… This conversation is for you.Key TakeawaysNot all kids who "act out" are being oppositional—some are having a threat response to everyday demands.Many kids who seem "fine at school" and fall apart at home are masking their stress to get through the day.Standard parenting strategies often backfire with these kids—what they need is a low-demand, relationship-based approach.Diagnosis like autism can show up in ways parents don’t expect—especially when kids are bright, sensitive, and highly verbal.Understanding your child’s nervous system is more effective than enforcing rules or routines.Episode Highlights[00:02:00] – What “neurodivergent” really means and why so many parents misunderstand it[00:04:00] – When everyday tasks feel threatening to your child’s nervous system[00:06:30] – Why these kids often get misdiagnosed or misunderstood as “difficult”[00:09:30] – Andi shares her personal experience of trying to get help (and the resistance she faced)[00:11:00] – The four stress responses and how they show up differently in different kids[00:15:30] – Why typical parenting tools (like consequences) make things worse[00:18:00] – Real-life examples of low-demand parenting in action[00:21:30] – Sensory struggles with food, clothes, and hygiene—and how to stop fighting them[00:26:00] – What to know before seeking an autism assessment[00:31:00] – Why even a thorough psychoeducational assessment can miss what’s really going on[00:36:00] – Autism is a spectrum—and most people only recognize one tiny part of it[00:40:00] – How to spot the “freeze” response that often gets mistaken for stubbornness[00:44:00] – Amanda’s advice for schools, co-parents, and extended family[00:49:00] – Small tools that help kids regulate—like snacks, bubble gum, or getting down to their levelResources MentionedAmanda Preston’s websites – Canada-Based Support:https://deercreektherapy.ca/ – International Parent Coaching: https://amandapreston.coInstagram Accounts – @deercreektherapy: https://www.instagram.com/deercreektherapy – @the_neurodivergent_bunch: www.instagram.com/the_neurodivergent_bunch – @thefostermomsocialworker: https://www.instagram.com/thefostermomsocialworker Books & Experts Mentioned – Is This Autism? by Dr. Donna Henderson – Low-Demand Parenting by Amanda Diekman – Self-Reg by Dr. Stuart Shanker – The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene – Kristy Forbes and the Intune Pathways course – NeuroWild on Facebook for bite-sized visual resourcesIf this episode made you feel seen—know you’re not alone. You can find more resources, support, and next steps below.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why is nothing working?” when your child is melting down, this episode is for you.In today’s episode, Andi introduces the concept of Stress Animals—a powerful and accessible framework to help parents decode their child’s behavior in moments of emotional overwhelm. You’ll learn how to spot the early signs of dysregulation, understand your child’s stress response, and most importantly, how to shift your own energy so you can help your child return to calm.Key Takeaways:Every child has a unique stress response—and it’s not about bad behavior, it’s about nervous system overload.The Stress Animal framework (Dolphin, Shark, Turtle, Clownfish) helps parents identify how their child reacts to stress—and how to support them accordingly.Your own stress animal matters too. The way you react can either soothe or escalate your child’s stress state.You can’t connect through correction. Lasting change happens when you meet your child’s stress with the kind of connection they need.Regulation before resolution: Problem-solving comes after calming the nervous system—never during a meltdown.Episode Highlights & Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction – What to expect & why this matters[02:00] Why traditional strategies fail with dysregulated kids[05:00] The biology of stress – nervous system states explained[06:45] Introducing the Stress Animals: Dolphin – The regulated, connected state Shark – Explosive, reactive energy Turtle – Shut-down, withdrawn, retreating energy Clownfish – Anxious, people-pleasing, over-worrying[11:00] How your stress animal impacts your child’s response[13:30] Why we don’t want to be in dolphin all the time[14:00] Matching your response to your child’s stress animal[15:00] Real-life examples: what worked, what didn’t, and why[20:00] Supporting the nervous system through grounding tools[21:00] One family’s story: shifting from Clownfish to quiet presence[22:00] Final thoughts – Why this approach changes everything✨ You’re not expected to get this right every time. But every step toward understanding helps build the connection your child needs to feel safe and supported.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall Parenting isn’t just about raising our kids—it’s also about healing ourselves. In this powerful conversation, Jenn Abbatiello shares her journey from perfectionism and high achievement to learning how to parent with connection, grace, and calm. Together, we dive deep into how generational patterns shape our parenting styles, how to navigate grief and guilt in motherhood, and what it really takes to build a joyful, connected family—without losing yourself in the process.Whether you're feeling burnt out, stuck in old ways, or unsure how to support your child without repeating the past, this episode will help you feel seen, understood, and ready for change.Key TakeawaysParenting often brings us to our breaking point—but it’s also an opportunity for transformation.Grief is a natural part of parenting—especially when letting go of our “old life.”You can love your children and miss the life you had before. Both can be true.Punishment and disconnection aren't the only tools. Understanding leads to true change.Kids don’t need us to be perfect—they need us to be regulated and real.We can’t support our children in becoming their true selves if we haven’t done the work ourselves.Episode Highlights00:00 – Meet Jenn Abbatiello: Her story of shifting from corporate success to parenting transformation02:00 – What it feels like to lose joy in motherhood—and why it’s so common04:30 – Mourning your old life and learning to live in the and06:15 – The “stoic badge of honor” and how emotions come roaring in with motherhood10:15 – Why gentle parenting gets misinterpreted—and how to define consequences with compassion12:30 – A real-life example of consequences vs. punishment with Jenn’s child14:00 – Andi’s story about her son, Pokémon, and helping him take ownership16:00 – What schools miss: Executive functioning, stress, and the root cause of meltdowns17:45 – What to do during a meltdown vs. after a meltdown20:30 – Why your child’s behavior triggers you—and what that means for your healing22:00 – Jenn’s story of colic, control, and generational expectations25:30 – The parenting puzzle: So many pieces, and why healing yourself matters27:00 – Letting your child be themself—and why that requires your own growth30:00 – Living someone else's dream vs. letting your kids follow their own34:00 – Childhood programming, identity, and subconscious stories36:00 – Andi’s IFS story: How one childhood memory created a lifelong belief39:00 – Why self-care isn’t selfish—and how to do it in your current season42:00 – Jenn’s encouragement for parents feeling stuck or overwhelmedResources MentionedJenn Abbatiello’s free email series: Name: 3 Critical Steps to Parenting with Ease 🔗 https://www.yourtransformedfamily.com/startConnect with Jenn Abbatiello: 🔗 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-abbatiello 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/yourtransformedfamily/ 🌐 Website: https://www.yourtransformedfamily.com/

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall If your child has ever been labeled as dramatic, difficult, or lazy… this episode is for you. Andi breaks down the most common behaviors reported by over 60 parents who filled out the Kids With Big Emotions Self-Assessment—and reveals what’s really going on underneath.This isn’t just about behavior. It’s about root causes, hidden struggles, and executive functioning challenges that often get missed in schools and misunderstood at home.Key TakeawaysBehavior is the tip of the iceberg—executive functioning is often what’s underneath.Kids aren’t being difficult on purpose. They’re often overwhelmed, misunderstood, or unsupported in key areas of brain development.Sensitivities to sound, clothing, and transitions may be signs of deeper processing challenges or superpowers that need support to shine.Many kids labeled as lazy, disorganized, or disruptive actually have struggles with working memory, attention, or impulse control.Shifting from judgment to curiosity helps uncover patterns and truly support your child’s needs.The self-assessment form is a powerful first step to uncover what’s going on beneath the surface.Episode Highlights & Timestamps[00:00] Welcome & overview of the parent self-assessment results[02:00] What 66 parents revealed—140 out of 180 average checkmarks[03:00] Big emotions, meltdowns, impulse struggles—what the numbers say[04:00] Why behavior-based discipline often misses the real problem[05:00] Sensory sensitivity as a superpower—and why it needs support[06:45] Trouble learning from mistakes? This might be why.[08:00] Why schools often miss what’s really going on[09:15] From behavior to brain: what to look for underneath[10:30] Start tracking patterns—what triggers overwhelm or shutdowns[12:00] Writing struggles, masking, and misunderstood learning differences[13:30] Why executive functioning assessments matter[14:30] What to say instead of “Why didn’t you do this?”[15:15] Helping your child feel understood and supported[16:00] Speaking the language of executive functioning in IEPs[17:00] Concrete examples: working memory, impulsivity, perception[18:00] Tools, links, and next steps for parents ready to dig deeperResources MentionedKids With Big Emotions Self-Assessment: Click here to get the form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentExecutive Functioning Podcast SeriesEp. 85 Perception: Emotional Regulation 101: https://open.spotify.com/episode/2TNuHQyoCA9VhiSOWWqRSG?si=PWEUzBd9STKiJ1pKDBiCJg Ep. 86 Attention: Struggles Aren’t Always ADHD: https://open.spotify.com/episode/16DRPoFWy78XlLvmCDF0kW?si=lTaIMc3lQPCuHVHuttTU0QEp.88 What is Working Memory? Part 1: Verbal Working Memory: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vavf1BBwLwORkai5ZIwcX?si=0Z-n6cRkSEquqJ2b6tYPOgEp. 89 What is Working Memory? Part 2: Non Verbal Working Memory: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4Ygbn1LqDNrvL9MPDydkDp?si=KwdSPvC-QdeIXKWt-WMQ9AEp. 90 Inhibition: Helping your child navigate impulsivity: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eZWomMOv5V7emtZrClYlU?si=6Vlvgod5QFiqhhpwMBXm4QEp. 93 Initiation: Why Getting Started Is Hard For Some Kids And How To Help: https://open.spotify.com/episode/695CBuXzpx0juVy08VKmDO?si=85Ql0vAJRPqlai-68_CRZwEp.94 Cognitive Flexibility: Why Perfectionism and Inflexible Thinking Go Hand in Hand: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3adl8y66voFQL5lrvKLFFn?si=cqnK67s_RdSMI_6qVJ-ubgIf this episode spoke to you, take five minutes to go through the assessment—it’s the first step to seeing your child more clearly, with less blame and more understanding.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall In this heart-opening conversation, I’m joined by an early childhood expert, parent coach, and grandma Rose Couse. With over 40 years of experience supporting kids, educators, and families, Rose shares powerful insights on parenting through grief, the true meaning of self-care, and how to shift from judgment to compassion in your parenting journey.We talk about the invisible load parents carry, the guilt that often surrounds taking time for ourselves, and how small, daily moments of awareness can help us better connect with our kids—and ourselves.Key TakeawaysSelf-care isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity for parenting with presence and compassion.Awareness of your internal experience is key to helping your child regulate theirs.Regulation is contagious—your nervous system affects your child’s.Grief, stress, and trauma show up in parenting in subtle and powerful ways.You’re doing better than you think. Shifting your inner dialogue can change how you show up.Episode Highlights00:00 – Welcome and guest intro02:00 – Rose’s journey from early childhood educator to parent coach04:00 – The biggest surprise of parenting: It’s not just about the kids06:30 – Why parents need self-awareness to parent well08:15 – Parenting through grief and the invisible fear of not doing “enough”10:45 – Breaking generational patterns of putting yourself last12:30 – Why we admire others’ strength but struggle to see our own14:45 – The healing power of community and connection17:30 – What real self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths)20:15 – Understanding the “body budget” and parenting under stress23:30 – Why breathing for 12 minutes a day changes your brain27:15 – Simple grounding tools in the middle of chaos30:00 – Modeling emotional awareness for your kids32:30 – Joy as a parenting practice36:00 – The importance of celebrating small wins39:00 – Helping kids notice their own body signals and emotions42:00 – Three questions to ground yourself in hard parenting moments44:00 – Final thoughts and how to connect with RoseResources MentionedRose’s blog + parent coaching: http://www.rmcouse.ca/ Robin Gobbel – trauma-informed parenting educator: robingobbel.comAmishi Jha’s work on attention and focus – including her breathing practice researchLisa Feldman Barrett’s “body budget” concept – from How Emotions Are MadeRick Hanson’s “Velcro vs. Teflon” idea – from Hardwiring HappinessIf this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend! And don’t forget to connect with Rose, follow her on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/r.m.couse/) or Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/r.m.couse)

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSelf Assessment form: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessmentBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall Sometimes the child who seems “fine” — quiet, cooperative, and academically strong — is actually the one silently struggling. In this deeply personal episode, Andi shares what she recently discovered about her one son's hidden stress responses and executive functioning challenges, despite being the so-called “easy” kid of her two kids.  She walks through the emotional rollercoaster of guilt, the importance of slowing down, and how “doing well” on paper doesn't always mean everything is okay underneath.Key TakeawaysJust because a child is quiet, compliant, or “gifted” doesn’t mean they aren’t struggling emotionally or cognitively.The turtle stress response (shutdown, avoidance, compliance) can hide significant executive functioning challenges.It’s easy to skip foundational skills when we’re anxious to “fix” the problem — even when we know better.Support begins with understanding where your child is truly struggling, not just reacting to behavior.Academic success doesn’t automatically reflect emotional regulation or executive functioning strength.Slowing down and building skills step-by-step is the real shortcut to lasting change.Episode Highlights[00:01:00] – What it means when the “good kid” isn’t actually fine[00:03:00] – The gifted child who won the “Silent but Deadly” award — and what it masked[00:05:00] – Signs of executive functioning struggles hiding beneath compliance[00:07:00] – When guilt kicks in: The parenting moment Andi didn’t expect[00:09:00] – Why compassion and collaboration beats punishment[00:10:00] – Learning ladders: Meeting kids where they’re actually at[00:13:00] – Helping kids in school when executive functioning is the issue[00:15:00] – Real-life changes that helped Andi’s son thrive[00:17:00] – Reframing school as executive functioning training[00:20:00] – A focus tool from Peak Mind by Amishi Jha that actually worked[00:21:00] – Letting go of grades as the only measure of success[00:23:00] – Why helping your child succeed means seeing what’s really going onResources MentionedBook: Peak Mind by Dr. Amishi Jha – A science-based guide to improving focus and attention: https://amishi.com/books/peak-mindSelf-Assessment Form – Understand hidden executive functioning and emotional struggles: Click here to access: https://subscribepage.io/big-emotions-self-assessment

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall When your child struggles with homework, meltdowns, or falling behind—especially when they’re bright—the issue may not be academic at all. In this episode, Andi sits down with Allie Bourke, owner of Oxford Learning in Waterloo, Ontario, to talk about how executive functioning shapes everything from learning and memory to focus, flexibility, and frustration tolerance.Allie shares insights from her 19+ years supporting kids through cognitive and academic assessments—and explains why understanding how your child learns is often more important than what they’re learning.Key Takeaways:Why executive functioning struggles often show up as academic issues, behavior challenges, or emotional outburstsHow standard report cards miss critical learning and cognitive skill gapsThe difference between the school system and individual teachers—and how to build collaborative supportHow to help your child when they “know it” but can’t show itWhy some kids shut down over homework even when the material is “easy”The role of flexibility, memory, inhibition, and self-monitoring in learning successHow parents can advocate more effectively (and when to bring in outside support)Episode Highlights:[00:00] – Andi introduces Allie and her background in child psychology and education[02:00] – Why so many kids struggle in school even when they’re bright[05:00] – What executive functioning looks like in everyday classroom behavior[07:30] – Real-life examples of cognitive inflexibility and how they impact learning[10:00] – The homework meltdown: why it’s not just about the math[12:00] – Executive functioning vs. academic level—when your child knows the answers but can’t get them on paper[15:00] – How Oxford Learning uses both academic and cognitive assessments to get a full picture[19:00] – Dysgraphia, working memory, and why testing format matters[24:00] – Why some parents shouldn’t be their child’s teacher—and how to recognize when to step back[30:00] – Talking to schools when expectations don’t match your child’s current ability[35:00] – What to do if your child is always chasing “perfect marks” but losing confidence[42:00] – Helping kids build self-awareness, pause before reacting, and choose recovery[45:00] – Final thoughts from Allie: don’t wait if you suspect something’s offResources Mentioned:FREE Dynamic Assessment (Reg. $275):Oxford Learning Waterloo is offering a free academic + cognitive assessment to Kids With Big Emotions podcast listeners!Offer expires May 31, 2025. Available in-person only at the Waterloo, ON location.👉 To book: 📧 Email: [email protected] 📞 Call: 1-519-725-3577 📍 Mention you heard about it on the Kids With Big Emotions podcast🔗 Social:Instagram: @oxfordlearningwaterloo https://www.instagram.com/oxfordlearningwaterloo/Facebook: Oxford Learning Waterloo: https://www.facebook.com/OxfordLearningWaterloo

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall What if your child’s “too muchness” is exactly what the world needs?In this episode, Andi explores how children who are sensitive, intense, passionate, or deeply curious are often misunderstood, redirected, or told to tone it down—and how this can quietly create lasting emotional wounds. She breaks down the subtle, invisible forms of trauma kids experience when the world isn’t ready for their gifts and offers tools for helping your child celebrate who they are instead of shrinking to fit in.Whether your child is being told they’re “too loud,” “too sensitive,” “too smart,” or “too intense,” this episode will help you reframe those messages and support them in developing confidence, connection, and self-awareness—without ever having to change who they are.Key TakeawaysTrauma isn’t just big events—it’s anything that feels like too much, too soon, too fast, or too long.Many neurodiverse kids internalize subtle redirections and dismissals as proof that something is “wrong” with them.Kids who are deeply curious or emotionally intense may feel misunderstood unless we celebrate their “too much” instead of trying to fix or mute it.Teaching kids how to use a “dial,” not a mute button, helps them adjust to different environments without losing their identity.Supporting kids through their sensitivities and passions builds resilience and helps them develop a strong sense of self.Episode Highlights[00:00] – Opening reflection: Why kids are told they’re too much—and what it does to them[02:00] – Personal story: How a whiteboard and math at dinner challenged expectations[03:00] – Trauma redefined: Not just big events, but how experiences shape nervous systems[05:00] – The impact of being misunderstood or redirected as a child[06:00] – How feeling others’ emotions can be overwhelming—and how to manage it[07:00] – Breaking down trauma: too much, too soon, too fast, too long[08:30] – Academic mismatch: When a child’s intellectual level doesn’t match emotional readiness[10:00] – Sensory sensitivity: The real impact of smells, sounds, and environment[12:00] – Practical examples: Why 20 questions on a test might trigger a meltdown[14:00] – Personal school story: Being accelerated without emotional preparation[16:00] – The hidden trauma of chronic stress, boredom, or masking[18:00] – Supporting your child: Let them voice how they feel about being brushed off[19:00] – Creating safe spaces where “too much” is celebrated[21:00] – Teaching the concept of the emotional and behavioral “dial”[22:00] – Self-awareness vs. self-rejection: Supporting authenticity with boundaries[24:00] – Helping kids find their people and communities where they belong[26:00] – Mourning what we thought parenting would look like—and leaning into who our child really is[28:00] – Social struggles and executive functioning: What’s really going on[29:00] – Teaching perception, inhibition, and emotional regulation without shutting kids down[30:00] – Recap & how the Support Circle can helpResources MentionedBook a 30-Minute Call with Andi – Get your questions answered and explore next steps: Book here: https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacall

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comIn this powerful episode, Andi sits down with Courtney Hobbs, the heart behind MotherTelling, to explore how the simple act of sharing our motherhood stories can be deeply healing—not just for ourselves, but for others too. From NICU beginnings to stage-worthy stories, Courtney shares how storytelling builds connection, creates understanding, and reminds us we’re never alone.Key TakeawaysYour silence isn’t protecting you—it's keeping you isolated. Sharing your story invites connection and support.You don’t have to have the same experience to relate. Emotional truths like doubt, fear, and hope are universal.Telling your story helps others understand your world—especially in settings like school advocacy for your child.Stories are more impactful when told from a scar, not an open wound. Healing creates space for meaningful connection.Daily moments matter. Tracking even the tiniest memories can lead to powerful stories down the road.Episode Highlights[00:00] Meet Courtney Hobbs and the origin of MotherTelling [03:00] Why silence can make motherhood feel lonelier than it is [05:30] How shared stories create deep understanding across different experiences [07:00] The importance of using language others can relate to—especially when discussing neurodiversity [09:00] Tips for identifying jargon in your story and rewording it to connect with more people [11:00] Storytelling for advocacy: how to describe your child’s needs in a way schools can understand [14:30] What behaviors might look like at school and how parents can offer insights to teachers [18:00] Parents are the experts on their kids—don’t underestimate the knowledge you have [21:30] The impact of screens and the shift in focus and attention in the classroom [24:00] Helping kids use tech as a tool, not just a distraction [27:00] Movement and creativity in the classroom—and why they matter so much [28:30] Healing through storytelling: how the 10-week journey supports moms in finding their voice [33:30] Sharing from a scar, not an open wound: why timing matters in storytelling [40:00] The Daily Momment Challenge: capturing story-worthy “mom”ents from everyday life [42:00] Why collecting small memories can shift your mindset and preserve your legacyResources Mentioned🌟 Courtney’s Daily Momment Challenge – A 7-day guided journey to help you capture meaningful moments in your motherhood story: https://mothertelling.myflodesk.com/dailymomentschallenge 📓 MotherTelling Journals (Coming soon on Amazon!) – Sentimental and funny guided journals to help you keep track of story-worthy momentsOh they are available now https://www.amazon.ca/s?k=courtney+hobbs&crid=39IDBAT0MRBZU&sprefix=courtney+hobbs%2Caps%2C93&ref=nb_sb_noss_1 🎙️ The MotherTelling Podcast – Real stories from moms to remind you that you’re not alone: https://open.spotify.com/show/0a2BvqGy7aXVxUKCQMipCT?si=acf5c27bbf854c98 Connect with Courtney and follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iamcourtneyhobbs/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcourtneyhobbs/ If you’re looking for deeper support on this journey, my Support Circle is where we work through these moments together. You don’t have to do this alone. https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comWhen kids struggle in school, testing is often recommended to figure out how to support them. But what happens when the test results don’t match what you see in your child every day?In this episode, we’re diving into the limitations of standardized tests—especially for neurodiverse kids—and how they often miss key aspects of a child’s intelligence, learning style, and executive functioning. You’ll also learn how to supplement school testing to get a more complete picture of your child’s strengths and struggles.Instead of saying, "The test is wrong," try this approach:"Here’s what the standardized test says, and here’s additional testing that helps us understand why there was such a difference between some of the scores. Can we look at both to build the best support plan?"Key Takeaways:Standardized tests don’t always reflect your child’s true abilities because they measure only certain skills in a controlled, one-size-fits-all way.Neurodiverse kids—especially those who are gifted, autistic, ADHD, or have executive functioning struggles—may not perform well on tests designed for “typical” learners.A single test score doesn’t define your child’s intelligence or potential. Understanding their executive functioning skills can reveal their actual strengths and needs.Parents should trust their observations and use additional assessments to get a fuller picture of their child’s abilities.How to advocate for your child in school and present a more complete picture of their learning needs.Episode Highlights:[00:00] Welcome & Introduction – Why testing is often recommended and why it doesn’t always tell the whole story.[01:30] The Limitations of Standardized Testing – Why tests are designed the way they are and why they often don’t capture neurodiverse thinking.[04:50] The "Broken Microphone" Analogy – How tests only measure what they are designed to measure, and why that can be misleading.[06:30] Gifted Testing & Executive Functioning Challenges – How gifted kids can be overlooked or misdiagnosed due to uneven test results.[08:45] Autism, ADHD & Learning Disabilities in Testing – How testing environments can impact results, and why context matters.[10:30] The WISC Test & What It Measures – Breaking down the different categories, including verbal comprehension, working memory, and processing speed.[14:15] The Swiss Cheese Brain vs. The Smooth Surface – Why kids with uneven skills struggle in school and how schools often don’t know what to do with them.[18:30] Why Gifted Kids Still Struggle in School – The reality of executive functioning struggles, even in highly intelligent children.[21:45] Why Schools Rely on Standardized Data – The system’s limitations and why parents must take a proactive role in advocating for their child.[24:00] How to Supplement Standardized Testing – The importance of executive functioning assessments and how to find professionals who understand these skills.[26:30] Resources for Executive Functioning Assessments – Recommendations for finding the right support and assessments outside of school.[28:15] How to Advocate for Your Child in School – Phrasing to use when discussing test results with teachers and administrators.[30:00] Homeschooling & Executive Functioning – Why homeschoolers don’t need standardized tests and how to focus on EF skills.[34:45] The Importance of Advocating for EF Support in Schools – Why pushing for better accommodations and understanding is essential.[36:30] Final Thoughts & How to Get Support – The importance of seeing beyond test scores and helping kids thrive in ways that work for them.Resources Mentioned:Executive Functioning Self-Assessment (Short Version) – Get a quick snapshot of your child’s executive functioning strengths and struggles: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/ Seeds of Learning – Tara Sumpner – A leader in executive functioning education. Check out her resources and assessments: https://terasumpter.com/ Book Recommendation: Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss – Learn how to navigate tough conversations with schools and advocate effectively: https://www.blackswanltd.com/never-split-the-difference Episodes on Verbal & Nonverbal Working Memory – Learn more about how working memory impacts learning.Episode 88: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-is-working-memory-part-1-verbal-working-memory/id1674274021?i=1000679707457Episode 89: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/89-ef-series-what-is-working-memory-part-2-non-verbal/id1674274021?i=1000680529317If you’re looking for deeper support on this journey, my Support Circle is where we work through these moments together. You don’t have to do this alone. https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comParenting, work, and self-care—how do we balance it all? In this episode, I sit down with executive life coach Amy Ballantyne to talk about the constant juggle that parents face. Amy shares powerful insights on managing stress, overcoming the inner critic, and shifting our mindset to create a more aligned and fulfilling life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re not enough or that burnout is inevitable, this conversation will leave you feeling seen and empowered.Key TakeawaysYou are enough. The pressures of parenting and work can make you feel inadequate, but recognizing your worth is the first step toward balance.Everyone struggles. The thoughts of “I’m not a good enough parent” or “I’m failing at work” are far more common than we realize.Self-awareness is key. Learning to recognize stress, triggers, and emotional patterns can help you respond rather than react.Burnout doesn’t happen overnight. Many parents only seek help once they hit a breaking point—learning small mindset shifts can prevent this.Judgment—both internal and external—can drain your energy. Freeing yourself from worrying about others’ opinions allows you to focus on what truly matters.Small steps lead to big changes. You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight—start with one small shift in how you think, act, or respond.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Welcome & Introduction – How Andi and Amy first connected and why this conversation is so needed.[00:02:00] Meet Amy Ballantyne – Amy’s journey as a coach, her expertise in mindset work, and how she helps parents and professionals find balance.[00:04:00] The Inner Critic & Common Parent Struggles – Why so many parents feel like they’re failing, and how to shift those thoughts.[00:07:00] What is "Normal" Anyway? – Challenging the idea of what a ‘normal’ family routine looks like.[00:09:00] Burnout & the ‘Push Until You Break’ Mentality – How parents often don’t seek help until they are completely overwhelmed.[00:13:00] Small Steps to Shift Your Mindset – Why gradual, manageable shifts in thinking make lasting changes.[00:16:00] Handling Big Emotions in the Moment – Practical ways to stay calm when your child is melting down.[00:21:00] The Power of Repair & Role Modeling for Your Kids – How acknowledging mistakes and modeling emotional regulation helps your child grow.[00:29:00] Overcoming Judgment & Letting Go of Guilt – Strategies to stop worrying about what others think and focus on your own growth.[00:35:00] Shifting Societal Expectations Around Parenting – Why traditional parenting beliefs don’t always serve today’s kids.[00:38:00] Final Thoughts & Encouragement – Amy’s biggest message for parents: You are enough.Resources MentionedAmy’s Website: https://ballantynecoaching.comAmy’s NEW TEDx on Simple Tips for Work-Life Balance: https://bit.ly/Tedx2-AmyBAmy’s Mindset Workbook (Free Download): https://mailchi.mp/amyballantyne/newmindsetworkbookFollow Amy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amyballantyne/Join the Conversation!If today’s episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. You are not alone in the struggle—let’s navigate this together.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Welcome to the Kids with Big Emotions Podcast! This is our 100th episode—a huge milestone! Thank you for being part of this journey. Today, we’re diving into a crucial topic: Why anxiety in kids is skyrocketing like never before.If you’re a parent, teacher, or caregiver, you’ve probably noticed that children today seem more anxious than ever. Even compared to past generations who lived through wars and economic crises, today’s kids are struggling at an unprecedented level.But why is this happening? In this episode, Andi explores the hidden drivers of anxiety, how they impact brain development, and practical strategies to help kids navigate this complex digital age.Key TakeawaysAnxiety is not just a mindset issue—it has deep physiological and neurological roots.Social media and screens are rewiring kids’ brains, making it harder for them to self-regulate and focus.The gut and nervous system play a critical role in anxiety—imbalances in gut health can directly impact mood.Environmental toxins in everyday products are disrupting kids’ hormones, further exacerbating stress and anxiety.It’s not about banning screens altogether, but about teaching kids healthy tech habits.Supporting kids with anxiety requires a holistic approach, not just telling them to “calm down.”Episode Highlights & Timestamps[00:00] - Celebrating 100 episodes! The importance of understanding childhood anxiety today.[02:00] - Addressing common myths: It’s not just about “kids being soft” or “social media being the problem.”[04:00] - The science behind anxiety: How screens, stress, and environment impact the nervous system.[05:00] - Insights from The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt—how smartphones are rewiring kids’ brains.[07:00] - A personal story: How unchecked screen time led to depression and anxiety in my own child.[10:00] - Screens and addiction: Why kids struggle to stop gaming or scrolling.[15:00] - The “whiteboard effect” in the brain: How screen overload reduces focus and executive function.[20:00] - Executive functioning and screens: Why kids struggle with transitioning between tasks.[27:00] - The nervous system in overdrive: How constant stress rewires kids’ ability to self-regulate.[32:00] - Gut health and anxiety: Why digestion and serotonin production matter.[35:00] - Environmental toxins: How synthetic fragrances, plastics, and household products affect anxiety.[42:00] - Comparing today’s anxiety crisis to past generations—why modern stressors are different.[44:00] - How to help kids develop digital resilience instead of banning screens completely.[47:00] - Introducing the Support Circle—a community to help parents navigate anxiety, screens, and stress management.Resources Mentioned📖 The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt – Explores the impact of screens on brain development - https://www.anxiousgeneration.com/book📖 Peak Mind by Amishi Jha – A neuroscientist’s perspective on attention and focus - https://amishi.com/books/peak-mind🎥 Stink! (Documentary on Netflix) – Investigates the effects of synthetic fragrances and environmental toxins - https://www.netflixreleases.com/stink-2015/👉 Share this episode with a friend who might need it!

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Parenting kids with big emotions is no easy task, especially when explosive outbursts, school struggles, and executive functioning challenges are part of daily life. In this episode, Andi is joined by Shauna B, a life reinvention and motivation coach for single and divorced moms, who shares her powerful journey of raising children with intense emotions. Together, they discuss the long game of emotional regulation, how to navigate school challenges, and the importance of self-care for parents.Shauna shares her personal experience of parenting through meltdowns, school battles, and behavioral struggles, and how she found effective strategies to help her kids develop emotional resilience. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed or searching for practical tools, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and empowered in your parenting journey.Key Takeaways✔️ Big emotions aren’t just behavior problems – They often stem from executive functioning struggles, ADHD, sensory processing challenges, or emotional regulation difficulties.✔️ The school system often doesn’t understand emotional regulation struggles – IEPs can be helpful, but they often serve as band-aids rather than addressing the root of the challenges.✔️ Homeschooling and alternative education can be game-changers – Finding a learning environment that meets your child’s needs may require thinking outside the traditional school system.✔️ Self-care for parents isn’t optional—it’s essential – The more you recharge, the more you can help your child through their emotional struggles.✔️ Every child needs different strategies – What works for one child may not work for another, so flexibility and patience are key.✔️ Success is in the long game – Helping kids regulate emotions takes time, persistence, and a strong support system.Episode Highlights & Timestamps📍 [00:02:00] Meet Shauna B – Single mom of three, life reinvention coach, and advocate for parents navigating big emotions.📍 [00:04:00] Recognizing the signs – Shauna shares how she noticed the first signs of emotional struggles in her kids, including volcanic outbursts, impulsivity, and challenges with self-regulation.📍 [00:07:00] The long game of emotional regulation – Why parenting kids with big emotions requires patience, persistence, and a mindset shift.📍 [00:10:00] The challenges of parenting different kids with different needs – How Shauna had to adjust her parenting approach between her two sons, one with explosive outbursts and another with aggressive behaviors.📍 [00:15:00] Schools don’t always get it – How executive functioning struggles impact emotional regulation, and why IEPs and traditional school interventions often fall short.📍 [00:20:00] The decision to homeschool – Shauna’s journey to pulling her son from school, homeschooling, and eventually finding an online program that worked for him.📍 [00:27:00] The power of reducing overwhelm – How breaking tasks into smaller steps helped Shauna’s son regain confidence and manage his schoolwork.📍 [00:38:00] Modeling emotional regulation as parents – The importance of showing kids healthy coping strategies rather than just telling them.📍 [00:42:00] Recharging as a parent is not selfish – Why taking time for self-care makes you a better parent and actually helps your child regulate their emotions more effectively.📍 [00:47:00] Final advice for parents – Shauna’s biggest takeaways: ➡️ Find a support system – You don’t have to do this alone. ➡️ Small moments of self-care add up – It doesn’t have to be a big event, even 5 minutes of quiet time can make a difference. ➡️ Parenting big emotions is a long game – The effort you put in today will pay off in the future.Resources MentionedEF Self Assessment: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Shauna B’s Podcast: Release Your Inner Power (available on all podcast platforms)Shauna’s Coaching & Social Media: Ignited Decisions🌎 Website: www.igniteddecisions.com📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ignited_decisions📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/igniteddecisions/📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@IgnitedDecisionswithShaunaB🎧 If this episode resonated with you, please leave a review and share it with other parents who need to hear this message!

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Have you ever watched your child and wondered why they see the world so differently? Maybe they ask deep questions, feel emotions intensely, or struggle to fit into the traditional mold. Or perhaps you’ve felt misunderstood yourself. In this episode, Andi dives into what it means to think differently, why it’s often misinterpreted, and how to embrace these differences as strengths.By the end of this episode, you'll have a new perspective on deep thinkers, big feelers, and outside-the-box kids—and maybe even a deeper understanding of yourself. Instead of trying to "fix" these children, we can support them in stepping into their superpowers.Key TakeawaysDifferent doesn’t mean wrong – Children who think deeply, feel intensely, or question everything aren’t broken. They see the world uniquely, and that’s a gift.Society often misunderstands neurodiverse kids – Many kids are expected to fit into a one-size-fits-all mold, but movement, deep thinking, and curiosity shouldn’t be seen as problems.Your child’s challenges may be their superpowers – Struggles with focus, overthinking, or heightened sensitivity can turn into strengths when supported correctly.Reframing parenting approaches – Instead of asking, How do I get my child to stop doing this?, ask, How do I support my child’s strengths?Healing your own childhood experiences – Many parents grew up feeling misunderstood. Recognizing and healing from that can help in supporting your child more effectively.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction: Why this topic is deeply personal for Andi and how it shaped her parenting journey.[00:02:00] The struggles of thinking differently: Why some kids don’t fit in and how that can make them feel isolated.[00:05:00] Movement and focus: Why some children need physical activity to think clearly.[00:08:00] The "silent but deadly" child: How quiet, deep thinkers process information in ways adults might miss.[00:11:00] Kids who anticipate everything: How children who overanalyze are often future planners and strategists.[00:14:00] Misinterpretations: When kids' natural tendencies are seen as problematic instead of valuable.[00:16:00] The discomfort of being different: How society reacts to kids who don’t fit into the norm.[00:22:00] Breaking generational cycles: Recognizing how your own experiences impact how you parent.[00:28:00] Suppressing vs. supporting: How kids lose confidence when they’re told to "tone it down."[00:31:00] Andi’s experience with neurodiverse entrepreneurs: A real-world example of thinking differently as a strength.[00:36:00] Actionable parenting strategies: How to support your child’s deep thinking, big emotions, and curiosity.[00:39:00] Final thoughts: Changing the narrative from fixing to understanding and embracing.Resources MentionedThe Highly Sensitive Child by Dr. Elaine Aron – A must-read for parents of deeply feeling children. (https://hsperson.com/books/the-highly-sensitive-child/ )The Empath’s Survival Guide by Dr. Judith Orloff – Helpful for understanding emotional sensitivity in both parents and children. (https://drjudithorloff.com/empath-survival-guide-description/ )Join the ConversationIf this episode resonated with you, send Andi a DM, join The Support Circle, or email her to share your thoughts. Parenting a child who thinks differently can feel isolating, but you’re not alone. Let's embrace these differences together!

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, and even the best-prepared parents find themselves learning, adapting, and sometimes messing up along the way. In this episode, I sit down with Reesa Morala, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to talk about what it really means to navigate parenting challenges, embrace the learning process, and give yourself grace along the way.We dive into the reality of parenting differences, handling guilt and shame, and why self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, struggling with your child’s emotions, or just wondering if you’re getting it “right,” this episode will remind you: Parenting is a work in progress, and that’s okay.Key Takeaways:✅ It’s normal for parents to have different parenting styles—what matters is how you communicate and find common ground.✅ Guilt and shame are common, but they don’t make you a bad parent—learning and growing do.✅ Even therapists and parenting experts mess up! The key is how you repair and move forward.✅ Self-care makes you a better parent, not a selfish one.✅ Curiosity (instead of assumptions) can improve communication with both your partner and your child.✅ Kids mirror what we model—showing them how to manage stress and emotions helps them learn to do the same.Episode Highlights & Timestamps:[00:00] – Welcome[02:00] – Reesa introduces herself and shares her background as a therapist and parent[05:00] – The challenge of different parenting styles and why communication is key[10:00] – Even parenting experts mess up! Why it’s about progress, not perfection[12:00] – The importance of self-awareness: Noticing when you’ve fallen off track[17:00] – Dealing with guilt and shame as a parent (and why it’s never too late to grow)[20:00] – Why prioritizing your needs actually benefits your kids[25:00] – When one child feels easier to parent than another (and how to handle it)[30:00] – The power of tagging in your partner and asking for help[35:00] – What self-care really looks like (hint: it’s different for everyone)[38:00] – How dance parties, coloring, or playing in the mud can be self-care[42:00] – Making small shifts: Adding instead of taking away[45:00] – Teaching kids emotional regulation through curiosity and collaborationResources Mentioned:🔗 Reesa’s Website & Group: https://www.embracerenewaltherapy.com🔗 Reesa’s Podcast: Listen to Reesa’s Cooking & Parenting Conversations: https://www.embracerenewaltherapy.com/real-family-eats 💻You can Follow Reesa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/embrace.renewal.therapy/ Work With Me:📌 Join The Support Circle: A monthly membership for parents navigating big emotions. Get strategies, support, and community. Join here: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ 📌 1:1 Coaching: Need personalized guidance? Book a free 30-minute consultation. Schedule here! https://tidycal.com/andi1/starttheconversation If you loved this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a parent who needs to hear this! 🎧💛

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/In this episode of Kids With Big Emotions, Andi dives into the delicate balance of knowing when to push your child and when to pull back. Parenting neurodiverse kids or those with big emotions can feel overwhelming, especially when societal pressures push for uniform benchmarks and comparisons. Andi introduces the concept of the "Learning Ladder," a step-by-step approach to helping kids develop skills and confidence at their own pace. Whether you're grappling with homework meltdowns, morning routines, or big life transitions, this episode will help you meet your child where they are and celebrate their unique journey.If you're ready to reframe expectations and discover actionable tools, this is an episode you won't want to miss!Key TakeawaysThe Learning Ladder Approach: Understanding that each child's development is unique and helping them climb one step at a time can reduce overwhelm and big emotions.Meeting Kids Where They Are: Adjusting expectations isn’t lowering standards—it’s about aligning with a child’s abilities to foster confidence and success.Challenging Societal Norms: Reject the pressure of benchmarks and comparisons that assume all kids should develop at the same pace.Trial and Observation: Parents must experiment, observe, and adapt to figure out the right steps for their child’s growth.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction: Learning when to push and when to pull back as a parent.[00:02:00] The Learning Ladder Concept: Shifting from a rigid “bar of expectations” to a ladder kids can climb step by step.[00:06:00] Challenges of Comparisons and Expectations[00:12:00] Knowing When to Push or Pull Back[00:16:00] Implementing the Learning Ladder in Daily Life[00:20:00] Reducing Emotional Outbursts[00:24:00] Grace for Parents and Trial-and-Error Parenting[00:25:00] Recap and Final Advice

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ Parenting is a journey full of highs and lows, and no one escapes without moments of doubt, missteps, and learning. In this episode, Andi Clark delves into the realities of parenting and why perfectionism isn’t the goal. Instead, it’s about recognizing your own growth, embracing imperfections, and giving your children the tools to thrive in their unique way.Join Andi as she explores how to navigate the ups and downs of parenting with compassion for yourself and your child.Key Takeaways:Perfectionism is not the goal in parenting; embracing imperfections fosters growth for both parents and children.Parenting challenges are universal, but your response to them makes the difference.Every child is unique, and their needs evolve. It's okay to adjust your approach as you learn more.You’re doing the best you can with the tools you have, and that’s enough.Building a supportive environment for yourself and your child creates opportunities for growth and connection.Episode Highlights with Timestamps:[00:00:00] Introduction: Parenting is messy but rewarding. Why perfectionism isn’t the answer.[00:01:30] Parenting doubts and the constant evolution of "the rules."[00:04:00] Acknowledging your efforts: You’re doing the best with what you have.[00:08:30] Recognizing every child’s unique reactions and needs.[00:11:00] Generational trauma: How it shapes us and how we can break the cycle.[00:13:00] Therapy as a tool for parents and kids to navigate challenges.[00:14:30] Polyvagal Theory: Understanding your nervous system and its role in emotional regulation.[00:20:00] Parenting tools: Why going at your own pace is critical.[00:22:00] Encouraging resilience and independence in kids through measured freedom.[00:28:00] The importance of grace and kindness for yourself as a parent.[00:33:00] Final takeaway: You don’t have to be perfect to raise amazing kids.Resources Mentioned:Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges: Understanding the three levels of the nervous system and its role in stress and regulation.The Support Circle Membership: A supportive space for parents to connect and learn tools at their own pace. Learn more at https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Let Grow Project: Insights into fostering resilience in children.Join the Support Circle: Looking for tools and strategies to navigate parenting with confidence? Join Andi’s Support Circle, a space designed to help you learn, grow, and connect with other parents. Visit https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/ to learn more and book a call.Remember, parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, learning, and growing together. 💛

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.thrivecart.com/support-circle/Intake Form for Executive Function Series: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingShow notesDoes your child struggle with changes in routine, perfectionism, or adapting to new perspectives? In this episode, Andi dives into cognitive flexibility—what it is, why it matters, and how it impacts your child’s emotional growth and executive functioning. Learn practical strategies to support your child in developing this crucial skill and gain insights into how cognitive inflexibility manifests in everyday situations.Join Andi as she shares relatable examples, personal stories, and actionable tips to help your child adapt, manage transitions, and thrive.Key Takeaways:Understanding Cognitive Flexibility: The ability to adapt to new information, changes, or unexpected challenges is essential for navigating social dynamics, managing transitions, and solving problems.The Role of Perception, Attention, and Inhibition: Foundational skills like working memory and attention play a significant role in cognitive flexibility.Perfectionism and Inflexibility: Fear of mistakes often stems from trauma or learned behaviors, impacting children’s willingness to try new things or accept feedback.Modeling Mistakes: Parents can help children by verbalizing their own mistakes and demonstrating adaptive responses.Cognitive Flexibility Isn’t One-Size-Fits-All: Every child’s challenges are unique, and solutions should be tailored to their specific needs.Episode Highlights with Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction: What is cognitive flexibility, and why does it matter?[00:02] Everyday Examples: How rigidity shows up in transitions, routines, and social interactions.[00:06] Social Media and Polarized Thinking: The impact of algorithms on cognitive inflexibility.[00:08] Perfectionism in Kids: Stories of how fear of mistakes affects learning and play.[00:13] Foundational Skills: The role of perception, attention, and inhibition in building flexibility.[00:18] Practical Strategies: Using modeling to normalize mistakes and build adaptability.[00:31] Intake Form Questions: Identifying where your child struggles with cognitive flexibility.[00:38] A Simple Strategy: How parents can model resilience and adaptability for their children.[00:41] Closing and Resources: How to explore more resources in the Support Circle.Resources Mentioned:Book Recommendation: Switch by Chip Heath and Dan Heath—an exploration of problem-solving and adaptive thinking.  https://heathbrothers.com/books/switch/ 

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/Intake Form for Executive Function Series: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingShow NotesDoes your child hesitate to begin tasks, even when they know what to do? In this episode, we explore why getting started can be so challenging for kids and how parents can support them effectively. We’ll uncover the connections between initiation, executive functioning, and emotional regulation, offering practical strategies to help your child take that all-important first step.Key TakeawaysWhat Is Initiation? The ability to begin tasks independently is a core executive functioning skill that many kids struggle to develop.Why Some Kids Get Stuck: Foundational skills like perception, attention, and working memory play a critical role in initiating tasks. Weaknesses in these areas can make getting started feel overwhelming.Stress and Executive Functioning: A child’s nervous system can become taxed by emotional, sensory, or physical stress, further reducing their ability to start tasks.Practical Steps for Parents: Breaking tasks into manageable chunks, creating routines, and building on small successes can help kids develop initiation skills over time.Patience and Compassion: Every child’s journey is different. A supportive approach that celebrates small wins can make a significant difference.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction: Why initiation matters and the focus of today’s episode.[00:03:00] What Is Initiation? Understanding why starting tasks independently is a challenge for many kids.[00:07:00] The Role of Foundational Skills: How perception, attention, and working memory are linked to initiation.[00:12:00] Personal Example: Andi shares a story of her son’s challenges with initiation and how stress impacts his progress.[00:17:00] Stress and Its Impact: The connection between stressors, executive functioning, and task initiation.[00:20:00] Strategies for Success: Practical ways to help kids break through hesitation and start with confidence.[00:28:00] Building Momentum: Celebrating small victories to reinforce positive patterns.[00:30:00] Recap and Closing: A compassionate reminder to approach initiation struggles with patience.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingIn this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark dives into the mystery behind homework meltdowns—those emotional outbursts that leave both parents and kids feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. If you’ve ever wondered why homework is such a battle, even for bright, capable children, this episode breaks down the hidden executive functioning challenges that lead to tears, procrastination, and avoidance.Learn how to decode what’s really happening when your child struggles with homework, what executive skills are getting in the way, and how to create a calm, supportive environment to help them build independence and confidence.Key TakeawaysIt’s Not About Intelligence: Homework struggles aren’t about how smart your child is—they’re about the executive functioning skills required to manage tasks, transitions, and emotions.Why Kids Melt Down: Homework activates multiple executive skills, including planning, task initiation, time management, and self-regulation. When these systems get overloaded, meltdowns happen.Signs of Overload: Procrastination, avoiding homework, or emotional outbursts can all point to executive functioning challenges, not defiance or laziness.Practical Strategies: Reducing overwhelm by breaking tasks into steps, setting clear routines, and creating a supportive, low-pressure environment can make a huge difference.Progress Is a Process: Building these skills takes time, patience, and the right tools—not perfection.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction: Andi shares her personal experience navigating homework battles and why this topic resonates with so many parents.[00:04:00] Why Homework Feels So Hard: A breakdown of the executive functioning demands homework places on kids and why even small tasks can feel overwhelming.[00:08:00] The Real Problem: It’s not about intelligence—bright kids often struggle because their executive skills (like planning and initiation) are underdeveloped.[00:12:00] Signs Your Child Is Struggling: From avoidance to emotional outbursts, Andi explains the common signs of executive functioning overload during homework.[00:18:00] Practical Solutions: Tips for creating a calm homework environment, breaking tasks into steps, and helping your child develop routines that reduce stress.[00:24:00] Redefining Success: Why progress looks different for every child, and how celebrating small wins can build long-term confidence.[00:30:00] Final Thoughts: Encouragement for parents feeling overwhelmed by homework struggles and practical next steps to support your child.Resources MentionedExecutive Functioning Checklist: A tool to help parents identify specific skills their child may be struggling with and target support where it’s needed most.Homework Routine Planner: A free template to create step-by-step plans for smoother homework sessions.Support Circle Membership: Join a community of parents navigating big emotions and executive functioning challenges with live coaching calls and resources.Join the ConversationWhat’s the biggest challenge your child faces when it comes to homework? Is it getting started, staying focused, or managing emotions? Share your experience in the comments or connect with us on social media—I’d love to hear your story!If this episode was helpful, don’t forget to subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and leave a review. Let’s keep learning and growing together!Connect with Andi:Website: https://andiclark.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kidswithbigemotions/

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingIn this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark reflects on the unique challenges and triumphs of parenting while managing the expectations and realities of a new year. Parenthood in 2025 isn’t about doing it all at once—it’s about celebrating small wins, pacing yourself, and acknowledging the progress you and your child make each step of the way.Drawing on personal stories, lessons from years of coaching, and practical advice, Andi highlights how slowing down and prioritizing one piece of the puzzle at a time can create long-term success for you and your child. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the weight of juggling your parenting responsibilities, this episode is your reminder that you’re not alone—and you’re doing better than you think.Key TakeawaysProgress Takes Time: Focus on small, incremental steps instead of rushing to fit every piece of the puzzle together all at once.The Cognitive Ladder: Think of your child’s development as climbing a ladder—each rung is necessary, and you can’t skip steps to get to the top.You Are Doing More Than You Realize: Parents often underestimate how much they’re already doing to support their children. Reflecting on your efforts can reveal how far you’ve come.Breaks Are Okay: Both parents and children need breaks to process and implement what they’ve learned before taking on the next challenge.Build Community: Support groups and shared experiences with other parents can make a huge difference in feeling less isolated and gaining fresh ideas.Episode Highlights[00:00:00] Introduction: Andi shares the inspiration for this episode—the importance of slowing down as parents to focus on meaningful progress.[00:03:00] Personal Story: Reflections on a family vacation and the progress Andi’s son has made in flexibility and emotional regulation.[00:09:00] The Stages of Parenting: From feeling lost and overwhelmed to discovering solutions, and the realization that parenting is an evolving process.[00:14:00] The Cognitive Ladder: Why skipping steps in your child’s development can lead to setbacks and how pacing creates sustainable growth.[00:18:00] Avoiding Burnout: Andi discusses her own feelings of parental guilt, burnout, and the realization that taking a slower approach often yields better results.[00:25:00] Taking Breaks: Why it’s okay to pause therapies or interventions when they’re no longer serving your child or family’s needs.[00:29:00] Building Community: The value of connecting with other parents to share successes, challenges, and practical advice.[00:35:00] Moving Into 2025: Encouragement to celebrate small wins, focus on achievable steps, and keep your expectations realistic for the year ahead.Resources MentionedCognitive Ladder Framework: Andi discusses the importance of building foundational skills step by step. [Available in the Support Circle.]Support Circle Membership: A dedicated community for parents navigating big emotions, offering weekly calls, courses, and personalized guidance. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Parent Intake Form: A tool to help you identify your child’s biggest challenges and prioritize next steps. https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharing

In this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, we dive into the world of impulsivity and explore strategies to help kids pause, reflect, and make thoughtful decisions. If your child often acts without thinking, struggles to stop themselves, or faces social and emotional challenges due to impulsivity, this episode is for you.Learn why impulsivity happens, the foundational skills kids need to develop inhibition, and practical steps you can take to support them in creating that all-important pause before they act.Key Takeaways:What is Inhibition? Inhibition is the ability to pause and think before acting on impulse. It helps kids (and adults!) avoid blurting out, interrupting, or reacting emotionally without considering the consequences.What Impacts Impulsivity? Impulsivity can stem from an underdeveloped executive functioning system. Kids need attention, perception, and working memory to stop and think before acting.Why "Just Stop!" Doesn't Work: Simply telling kids to stop isn't enough. They need help learning how to pause, reflect, and process the situation.Practical Strategies: Teaching kids to use alarms, create plans, and break tasks into steps can build their inhibition skills over time.Understand the Whiteboard Effect: When kids’ brains are overloaded with distractions, emotions, and external stimuli, their ability to pause is diminished. Reducing this "whiteboard clutter" is key to helping them focus.Episode Highlights:[00:00:00] Introduction: Recognizing impulsivity in kids and how it shows up in daily life (e.g., blurting out, hitting, or struggling to wait their turn).[00:02:00] What is Inhibition? The ability to pause and think before acting—and why it’s crucial for social and emotional development.[00:04:00] The Building Blocks of Inhibition: How skills like attention, perception, and working memory play a role in self-control.[00:08:00] The Impact of Overload: Why kids struggle more with impulsivity when their executive functioning system is taxed (e.g., after a late night or an overstimulating event).[00:10:00] The Whiteboard Effect: How distractions, emotions, and screens overload a child’s mental "whiteboard," making it harder for them to pause and think.[00:16:00] Why Screens Make Impulsivity Worse: The high working memory demands of screens and how they pull kids’ attention away from what they should be doing.[00:18:00] Creating Space to Pause: How to teach kids to stop and reflect before acting, and why this skill builds healthier relationships and better emotional regulation.[00:22:00] Strategies That Work: Practical tips for helping kids navigate impulsivity, including alarms, breathing exercises, and step-by-step plans.[00:30:00] The Power of Individualized Plans: Why each child’s inhibition strategies need to match their unique executive functioning profile.[00:34:00] Long-Term Growth: Understanding how inhibition develops over time and why challenges may resurface during different life stages.Resources Mentioned:Inhibition Intake Form: A detailed self-assessment tool to help parents identify their child’s challenges and strengths in inhibition. https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Support Circle Membership: Gain access to personalized frameworks, live Q&A calls, and resources to better support your child’s growth. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Join the Conversation:Have you noticed impulsivity challenges with your child? What strategies have worked for you? Share your thoughts in the comments or connect with us on social media—we’d love to hear your story!And if you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and leave a review. Let’s help more families navigate these challenges together!Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharing

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingIn this episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, we dive into Nonverbal Working Memory—a critical but often overlooked executive functioning skill. If your child forgets where they placed items, struggles with multi-step directions, or has trouble visualizing what they need to do, this episode is for you.You’ll learn what nonverbal working memory is, why it matters, and how it impacts your child's daily routines, schoolwork, and emotional regulation. I’ll also share insights on how to identify challenges in this area and practical strategies to support your child.Key Takeaways:What is Nonverbal Working Memory? It’s the ability to hold and manipulate visual images, spatial details, and sequences in the mind.Why It Matters: Nonverbal working memory supports tasks like organizing belongings, visualizing steps, and planning actions.Signs of Struggle: Forgetting where items are, difficulty following multi-step directions, and challenges with sequencing events or spatial awareness.Impact on Learning: Nonverbal working memory is closely linked to reading comprehension, math, and even sports or dance.Support Strategies: Understanding where your child struggles helps tailor solutions like visual reminders, step-by-step guidance, and strengthening visualization skills.Episode Highlights:[00:00:00] Introduction – Common struggles linked to nonverbal working memory: losing items, forgotten steps, and frustrated routines.[00:01:00] What is Nonverbal Working Memory? – Definition and its role in holding and manipulating visual and spatial images.[00:03:00] Verbal vs. Nonverbal Working Memory – Comparing phonological sounds (verbal) to visual/spatial memory (nonverbal). Key examples to explain the difference.[00:05:00] Practical Examples: – How visualizing phrases like “the paper is in the fire” changes meaning despite identical words.[00:08:00] Why Testing Can Miss the Full Picture – How traditional assessments lump working memory into one score and why separating verbal and nonverbal components matters.[00:12:00] Real-Life Impact on Kids – From following sports plays to organizing backpacks, how weak nonverbal working memory affects daily life.[00:16:00] The Link to Higher Skills – How nonverbal working memory is foundational for planning, goal setting, and problem-solving.[00:22:00] Language Development Connection – Insights on how visual and phonological complexity impacts reading, writing, and learning disabilities like dyslexia/dysgraphia.[00:35:00] Time Horizons and Visualization – Understanding how far into the future kids of different ages can “see” and plan.[00:42:00] Transitions and Cognitive Load – Why big life changes like starting college or moving homes can temporarily weaken executive functioning.[00:48:00] Parent Support Strategies – Key questions to identify struggles and practical ways to help your child build nonverbal working memory skills.[00:51:00] What’s Next? – A preview of the final foundational skill: Inhibition (self-control).Resources Mentioned:Support Circle Membership: Join Andi’s monthly membership for personalized frameworks and support in helping your child develop critical executive functioning skills. Verbal Working Memory Intake Form: Download the intake form to identify where your child is struggling and start taking action.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingDoes your child struggle to follow directions, remember what they were going to say, or keep track of what they’ve learned in class? These challenges might not be about focus or effort—it could be their verbal working memory.Verbal working memory is the ability to hold and manipulate verbal information, such as sounds, words, and phrases, for short periods of time. When this foundational executive functioning skill is weak, it can impact everything from following multi-step instructions to succeeding in school and social interactions.In this episode, Andi dives into:What verbal working memory is and why it’s so important for kids with big emotions.How verbal working memory struggles show up in daily life—at home, in school, and with friends.The fascinating science behind verbal working memory, including concepts like the "phonological loop" and "word chains."Practical strategies to identify where your child is struggling and meet them at their level.If your child’s forgetfulness or difficulty following instructions has left you feeling frustrated or confused, this episode will give you insights and actionable steps to better support them.Key Takeaways:Verbal working memory is more than just remembering—it’s about holding and processing verbal information in real time.Struggles with verbal working memory can lead to big emotions, feelings of failure, and frustrations at school and home.Small changes, like simplifying instructions or focusing on foundational skills, can make a big difference in helping kids succeed.Episode Highlights:[00:02:00] - What is verbal working memory? How it’s connected to executive functioning and why it matters.[00:10:00] - Understanding “word chains” and how small changes in word complexity impact memory.[00:18:00] - Why asking your child “What’s the first sound in SAT?” might be harder than you think.[00:28:00] - How verbal working memory challenges affect real-life tasks like following recipes, conversations, and multi-step directions.[00:33:00] - Strategies to reduce cognitive load and help kids feel successful one step at a time.Resources Mentioned:Support Circle Membership: Join Andi’s monthly membership for personalized frameworks and support in helping your child develop critical executive functioning skills. Verbal Working Memory Intake Form: Download the intake form to identify where your child is struggling and start taking action.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Email: [email protected] The holiday season is here, bringing joy, excitement, and connection—but for neurodiverse kids and their families, it can also mean sensory overload, disrupted routines, and heightened emotions. In this episode, Andi dives into practical strategies to create a holiday experience tailored to your family’s unique needs. From setting boundaries to helping kids manage transitions and energy levels, Andi shares how to embrace the magic of the season while navigating the challenges.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:The common stressors neurodiverse kids and parents face during the holidays.How to balance social expectations with your child’s unique needs.Creative ways to help your child handle overstimulation, meltdowns, or downtime struggles.Why it’s essential to empower your child to embrace their differences—and how you can model this as a parent.Tips to set boundaries, prioritize your family’s well-being, and manage potential judgments from others.Episode Highlights:Understanding Neurodiverse Holiday Needs:The holidays amplify emotions for neurodiverse kids—whether they’re struggling with overstimulation or craving constant excitement. Andi explains why recognizing and planning for these needs is essential.Practical Tips for Holiday Success:Build in downtime or recovery time between events.Use visual aids, schedules, and reflective questioning to prepare kids for transitions.Create safe spaces at gatherings with sensory-friendly tools like headphones, weighted blankets, or favorite activities.Managing Family and Social Expectations:How to say no guilt-free or adjust plans to work for your family.The power of owning your family’s unique way of celebrating and letting go of judgment.Embracing Neurodiversity:Andi shares why neurodiverse kids’ differences are their superpowers and how to support them in stepping into their strengths—even during the holidays.Taking Care of Yourself:Parents’ well-being is critical, especially during the holiday chaos. Andi provides tips for setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and staying grounded during meltdowns or challenging moments.Resources and Links:Join the Support Circle – A monthly membership community for parents like you to learn, share, and grow together.   https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/  Email Andi – Share your holiday experiences or ask your questions!  [email protected] Related Episodes:79 From Punishment to Connection: A New Path to Parenting Successhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/79-from-punishment-to-connection-a-new-path-to/id1674274021?i=1000672009495 83 The Invisible Stress That Could Be Behind Your Child's BIg Emotionhttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/83-the-invisible-stress-that-could-be-behind-your/id1674274021?i=1000675566952 

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingIn This Episode We Will Dive into:How does attention—or the lack of it—affect your child’s daily life? Whether it's zoning out in class, struggling to finish multi-step tasks, or morning chaos trying to get out the door, attention plays a pivotal role in your child's executive functioning and emotional regulation. And it doesn’t just affect kids—many adults wrestle with attention challenges too.In this episode, Andi dives deep into attention as a foundational executive functioning skill. She explains why attention isn't about sustaining focus for long periods but about the critical ability to refocus when distracted. Using real-life examples, Andi shares insights into how attention struggles show up, why skipping steps on the "cognitive ladder" leads to frustration, and how small, actionable strategies can create big shifts for both kids and parents.Intake Questions for AttentionNeeds directions repeated multiple times to follow them.Completes the first part of multi-step directions but misses later steps.Struggles to pay attention during class or conversations, especially if the topic isn’t interesting.Frequently zones out when instructions are being given.Has difficulty refocusing after getting distracted, often losing track of the task.Struggles to stay focused on tasks for long periods, even if it’s an enjoyable activity.Finds it challenging to maintain focus on multi-step tasks like homework or chores.Gets distracted by their own thoughts or daydreams, even when they should be listening or working.Has difficulty sustaining attention on people such as parents, teachers, coaches, or siblings.Often seems “in their own world,” not focused on the current task.Frequently asks, “What did you say?” or needs instructions clarified after they’ve been given.Often asks, “When will this be over?” or “When are we going to be done?”Tends to hyper-focus on sounds (e.g., chewing, tapping) that stress them out and distract from the main focus.Easily distracted by external noises or movements when they need to concentrate.Frequently hyper-focuses on one activity, making it difficult to shift attention elsewhere.Often misses important details by focusing too much on smaller aspects or specific details.Has difficulty following conversations with multiple speakers or background noise present.What You'll Learn in This Episode:The true definition of attention and why it’s not just about “staying focused.”How attention struggles impact daily life—at home, in school, and beyond.The connection between attention and executive functioning skills like planning, time management, and self-regulation.Why skipping foundational steps leads to failure and frustration for kids and adults alike.Practical strategies to help kids (and yourself!) build the skill of refocusing through targeted activities and compassionate support.Key Moments:[00:02:00] - The "Executive Functioning Orchestra" analogy: how attention fits into the bigger picture of emotional and cognitive regulation.[00:10:00] - Breaking down the "cognitive ladder" and why starting with foundational skills is critical.[00:36:00] - A powerful exercise to help parents understand and practice the skill of refocusing.[00:43:00] - Introducing the flashlight metaphor: how to teach kids to guide their thoughts back to focus.[00:45:00] - Why attention is the building block for decision-making, planning, and thriving in life.Resources Mentioned:Support Circle Membership: Join Andi's monthly membership for frameworks, strategies, and a supportive community of parents. Learn more and sign up at  https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form for Executive Functioning Skills: Access the form to better understand where your child may need support. https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingStay tuned for the next episode #87, focusing on Verbal Working Memory—a key skill for holding and using information effectively.By the end of this episode, you'll not only have a deeper understanding of attention struggles but also actionable steps to help your child (or yourself) succeed in a compassionate, practical way.Let’s make attention a stepping stone, not a stumbling block!Subscribe to the Kids with Big Emotions podcast and share this episode with someone who could benefit from these insights.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Intake Form: https://andiclark.com/assess-emotions/Long Form: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hZqpIgPgFXB_V8_1NGsiClJ6O2GAHb5jXdJNzSxg-yY/edit?usp=sharingIn This Episode We Will Dive into:In this first episode of our special series on executive functioning, we’re diving into perception—the often-overlooked foundation of so many skills that help us navigate life. Perception impacts how we interpret and interact with the world around us, influencing everything from social cues to time management, and even emotional regulation.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:What perception is and why it’s the cornerstone of executive functioning.How perception struggles might show up in your child, such as missing social cues, struggling with perfectionism, or frequently bumping into things.The connection between perception and challenges like anxiety, frustration, and feeling misunderstood.Real-life examples of how perception skills influence everyday life at home, school, and beyond.Key Takeaways:Executive functioning skills develop well into our 20s, meaning your child has time to grow and improve these areas.Stress, overstimulation, or lack of routine can exacerbate perception struggles, but small adjustments in the environment and approach can make a big difference.Perception struggles aren’t a reflection of "common sense" but rather a developmental skill that can be supported and strengthened.Resources Mentioned:The Support Circle Membership: Learn how to identify and support your child’s executive functioning skills with tailored strategies and a community of parents just like you.Intake Form for Executive Functioning Skills: A tool to help you assess your child’s strengths and struggles, starting with perception.Next Episode Preview:In the next episode, we’ll focus on attention—the second key layer of executive functioning. We’ll explore how attention impacts everything from staying on task to managing distractions and hyperfocus.You Tube Liscence for music –   Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/simon-folwar/hopeLicense code: M47YLEI4YLACNCOP

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn This Episode We Will Dive into:In this episode of Kids with Big Emotions, Andi Clark wraps up her five-part series on the most common parenting mistakes when raising neurodiverse children. Today, she dives deep into the final mistake many parents make: trying to "fix" their child rather than embracing their neurodiversity. 🌟Key Takeaways:Shifting the Mindset: Andi explores how shifting away from a “fix-it” mindset toward a flourishing one can unlock your child’s full potential. Instead of focusing on what’s "wrong," discover how to celebrate your child's unique strengths.The Power of Neurodiversity: Neurodiverse kids think outside the box, and this ability is a gift! Andi emphasizes how these children are the ones capable of driving change in the world, precisely because they don't fit the mold.Practical Tips for Parents: Learn strategies for creating a supportive environment where your child can thrive. By focusing on strengths rather than deficits, you’ll help your child develop confidence and resilience.You’ll Also Hear About:Recap of the five-part series, including key insights on shifting discipline, addressing burnout, and managing environmental stressors.Real-life examples of how embracing neurodiversity has transformed family dynamics and led to more harmonious relationships.If you’ve ever felt pressure to “fix” your child’s behavior, this episode will provide a fresh perspective on how to reframe your approach and help your child flourish just as they are. Tune in for a transformative discussion on neurodiversity!

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn This Episode We Will Dive into:Description:In this episode of Kids With Big Emotions, Andi explores the hidden environmental stressors that might be impacting your child’s emotional well-being. From loud noises to synthetic fragrances, screens, and overstimulation, modern life bombards kids with triggers that can fuel emotional dysregulation without you even realizing it.Andi helps parents understand how these invisible stressors can cause big emotions in children and offers practical tips on how to identify and reduce them. Whether your child is highly sensitive or you’re just beginning to recognize patterns of emotional overwhelm, this episode provides valuable insights into creating a calmer, more supportive environment.Movie Recommendation - Watch Now >>>   Stink -   https://www.amazon.com/Stink-Jeffrey-Hollender/dp/B08BYH4PDN   Key Takeaways:Understanding the types of environmental stressors that affect children’s emotions.Identifying hidden irritants in everyday life that may be contributing to emotional dysregulation.Practical strategies to reduce overstimulation and create a more supportive environment for your child.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin The Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallHalloween can be a magical time of year, but for kids with big emotions, it can also be full of anxiety and sensory overload. In This Episode We Will Dive into: Common emotional responses children have during Halloween and how parents can support them. She introduces three types of emotional reactions: the Shark (always on high alert), the Clownfish (sticking close to home, anxious about the unknown), and the Turtle (wanting to retreat into their shell).From uncomfortable costumes to the chaos of trick-or-treating, Andi offers practical advice on how to make Halloween a positive experience for your child. Whether your child loves Halloween but struggles afterward, or they’re anxious and overstimulated by the holiday, this episode will help you prepare and navigate these emotional hurdles.Key Takeaways:Understanding your child’s emotional response type: Shark, Clownfish, or Turtle.Tips for handling sensory overload, uncomfortable costumes, and loud noises.Strategies to help your child feel more comfortable and safe during Halloween activities.How to address the emotional aftermath of Halloween excitement and overstimulation.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin The Support Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn This Episode We Will Dive into:One of the most common frustrations parents face: relying on external systems like schools and specialists for their child's emotional and executive functioning support. Andi shares her own experiences and reflects on why schools often aren’t enough to address a child's unique needs, especially when it comes to emotional regulation.Parents are often left feeling unsupported or misunderstood, and Andi explains why becoming an advocate for your child is crucial. She offers practical strategies and tips to empower parents to bridge the gap between external help and at-home support. You'll learn how to move from frustration to confidence as you take control of your child’s emotional journey.Key Takeaways:Understanding the Limits of School Support: While schools provide valuable resources, they often aren’t equipped to fully address individual emotional needs, leaving children feeling frustrated or overlooked.Becoming Your Child’s Strongest Advocate: Andi highlights the importance of stepping up as a parent to support emotional regulation and executive functioning at home.Tools for Emotional Regulation: Get actionable tips and strategies to help your child navigate big emotions and develop better coping skills both in and outside of school.Join the Support Circle: Andi’s Support Circle offers ongoing resources and community support to help parents like you build stronger connections with your children and navigate emotional challenges. https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Join Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this insightful episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark continues her 5-part series on the most common parenting mistakes, focusing this time on the challenge of parental burnout. Burnout is something many parents face, especially those raising children with intense emotions, and in this episode, Andi offers valuable guidance on how to recognize, manage, and overcome it.Key Points Covered:Introduction to Parental Burnout: Andi explains the mental and physical exhaustion that parents may experience when they feel overwhelmed by the demands of parenting children with big emotions.Burnout and Invisible Minority Kids: Andi highlights the challenges of raising "invisible minority" kids—children who follow the rules and don’t show outward signs of distress but are still struggling internally. These children often add to parental burnout, as their needs can go unnoticed until parents are already overwhelmed.Stress Animal Metaphor: Andi uses her metaphor of stress animals to explain different reactions to stress:The Dolphin: The ideal state of calm, cooperation, and playfulness.The Shark: Constantly on high alert, ready to react aggressively.The Clownfish: Anxious and resistant to change, preferring to stay close to their comfort zone.Strategies for Reducing Burnout: Andi offers practical advice for parents to manage their own stress, avoid burnout, and create a healthier environment for themselves and their children.Takeaways:Understanding the signs of parental burnout and how to address it is crucial for maintaining emotional resilience as a parent.Recognizing the unique stressors involved in parenting both visibly emotional and "invisible" children can help prevent feelings of overwhelm.By implementing stress management techniques and avoiding the “shark” or “clownfish” states, parents can better support their children and reduce their own burnout.Connect with Andi: Join Andi's Support Circle Membership or the Kids with Big Emotions Facebook group to gain access to more strategies for managing parental burnout and supporting your child’s emotional development.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comSupport Circle Membership: https://andiclark.com/work-with-me/ Join Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallIn this transformative episode of the Kids with Big Emotions podcast, Andi Clark introduces a 5-part series designed to reshape your approach to parenting. This series dives deep into the most common mistakes parents make when dealing with children who have intense emotions and how shifting away from punishment can create stronger connections and foster real growth.In This Episode We Will Dive into:Introduction to the 5-Part Series: Andi explains the five common mistakes that parents of kids with big emotions tend to make and how addressing these mistakes can lead to a more compassionate and effective parenting style.The Concept of the "Invisible Minority": Andi discusses children who may not exhibit obvious signs of distress but still struggle with big emotions and executive functioning challenges. These children are often quiet, rule-followers who don't speak up for themselves, which can lead parents to overlook their internal struggles.Moving from Punishment to Connection: This episode focuses on the importance of moving away from punishment and instead creating a sense of safety and understanding for your child. When children feel respected and supported, they can better manage their emotions, leading to long-term success.Real-Life Parenting Examples: Throughout the episode, Andi shares stories from her coaching practice, illustrating how shifting parenting approaches can have a profound impact on both the parent and the child.Takeaways:Recognize when punishment isn't working and start building more meaningful connections with your child.Learn to see beyond surface behaviors and understand the internal emotional and executive functioning struggles your child may be facing.Begin the journey of shifting your mindset from punitive reactions to a more compassionate, growth-focused approach.Connect with Andi: Join Andi's Support Circle Membership group or connect with other parents in the Kids with Big Emotions Facebook group to continue learning tools to support your child's emotional growth.

Join Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallWebsite: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ In This Episode We Will Dive into:the crucial first step in helping children with big emotions: supporting yourself as a parent. She emphasizes the importance of self-care and personal growth in effectively supporting and role-modeling for your child.Key PointsRole modeling: Children learn by observing their parents' behaviors and coping mechanisms.Emotional regulation: When parents are calm and balanced, they can better manage their children's big emotions.Resilience: Working on personal growth builds resilience, allowing parents to handle stress more effectively.Mental clarity: Taking time for self-care provides mental space to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.Breaking cycles: Addressing personal traumas and patterns helps break generational cycles.Improved communication: Working on personal growth leads to better communication skills with children.Self-compassion: Learning to be compassionate with yourself makes it easier to extend compassion to your child.Strengthened parent-child bond: Prioritizing self-care allows for deeper connections with children.Resources MentionedIFS (Internal Family Systems) therapy website and "Find a Therapist" option https://ifs-institute.com/practitioners Book recommendation: "Kids With Big Baffling Behaviours" by Robin GobblePodcast episodes 44-52 on IFS therapy  www.andiclark.com/podcast Upcoming Membership SiteAndi introduces her new membership site, which will provide:Tools for parents to support themselves and their childrenCourses based on one-on-one coaching experiencesCoaching calls and Q&A sessionsAffordable long-term support for parents

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ In This Episode We Will Dive into: How stress can manifest in our bodies without us realizing it, affecting both adults and children. She shares personal experiences and client stories to illustrate how emotional and physical stressors can lead to various health issues.Key PointsStress can manifest in physical symptoms like coughs, neck pain, and headaches.Emotional traumas and stressors can be stored in different parts of the body.The stress system manages 50 hormone responses in the body, affecting various functions.Children may express stress through stomach aches, headaches, or behavioral changes.Addressing emotional stressors can sometimes resolve persistent physical symptoms.Notable MentionsBook: "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der KolkBook: "Heal Your Body" by Louise HayAction Steps for ListenersStart noticing where you feel emotions in your body.Reflect on recurring pains or medical issues and their potential connection to stressors.Consider the emotional aspects when addressing persistent health issues.Join the "Kids with Big Emotions" Facebook group to share experiences.UpcomingNew membership site launching on Andy's website (andyclark.com)Personalized attention for early members of the membership site

Join Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallWebsite: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ In This Episode We Will Dive into:strategies for advocating for gifted children in school and getting them the support they need. Key points include:Schools may not be equipped to handle the unique needs of gifted children, especially those with executive functioning challengesTeachers are trained primarily in academics, not executive functioning or mental health supportSchool may not be the best learning environment for every gifted childGetting a private psychoeducational evaluation can help identify giftedness and learning challengesWork on developing executive functioning skills at home, regardless of school situationGet an IEP (Individualized Education Program) in place, using specific language schools understandJoin Facebook groups for IEPs/504 plans to learn advocacy strategiesCreate a document for teachers explaining your child's needs and helpful strategiesTeach children to advocate for themselves as they get olderApproach teachers with kindness and frame support as making their job easierKeep working to empower your child's unique brain and abilitiesResources mentioned:Andi's upcoming membership group for parentsFacebook groups for IEPs, 504 plans, and twice exceptional (2E) childrenPrivate evaluations by psychologists or SLPs trained in executive functioningNext steps:Join relevant Facebook groups to learn advocacy strategiesCreate a document about your child's needs for teachersConsider a private evaluation to identify giftedness and challengesFocus on teaching executive functioning skills at home

Join Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallWebsite: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ In This Episode We Will Dive into:Strategies to help parents and children cope with the emotional challenges of the first week back at school.Key PointsMental overload and executive functioning challenges during the first weekImportance of nutrition and hydrationUnderstanding developmental timelines for future thinkingTips for creating a calm evening routineStrategies to reduce stimulation and questions after schoolDetailed NotesMental Overload and Executive FunctioningChildren face numerous challenges in perception, attention, and inhibitionNew faces, routines, and environments can be overwhelmingExecutive functioning skills are taxed, leading to exhaustionNutrition and HydrationProvide snacks and drinks immediately after schoolConsider offering lemonade or other appealing drinks for hydrationHunger and dehydration can significantly impact mood and behaviorDevelopmental Timelines for Future ThinkingAges 3-5: Can think 5-20 minutes aheadKindergarten to 1st grade: Can think several hours ahead3rd to 6th grade: Can think 2-3 days ahead17-23 years old: Can think 2-3 weeks ahead23-35 years old: Can see things 3-5 years aheadCreating a Calm Evening RoutineClose blinds early, even if it's still light outsideUse red light bulbs to promote melatonin productionListen to audiobooks instead of watching TVCreate a consistent bedtime routineReducing Stimulation and QuestionsLimit after-school activities, especially in the first weekDon't ask too many questions about their dayAllow for downtime and less stimulationUnderstand that your child may not have the bandwidth to process or discuss their dayResources MentionedSarah Ward's research on developmental timelinesTara Sumpner's Seeds of Learning programRobin Gobble's therapy techniquesNext StepsJoin the Kids With Big Emotions Facebook group for support and discussionSign up for the waiting list for Andi's upcoming membership site  www.andiclark.com Book a call with Andi for personalized supportNext Episode PreviewAndi will discuss how to navigate getting help for your child at school, based on her personal experiences and learnings.

Website: 🌐 www.andiclark.comJoin Our Mailing List: 📬  https://andiclark.com/mailing-list-signup/ Book a Call: 📞 https://tidycal.com/andi1/bookacallJoin Our FB Group:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/kidswithbigemotions In This Episode We Will Dive into:My family's journey into homeschooling and while I share insights on how parents can facilitate learning without having to be the primary teacher. Key points include:Why I chose to homeschool her two neurodivergent sonsHow homeschooling has benefited my children's emotional regulation and learningThe misconception that parents have to do all the teaching in homeschoolingNumerous online resources, courses, and programs for self-directed learningSubject-specific recommendations for math, science, coding, languages, and moreHow homeschooling allows kids to dive deep into their interestsAddressing socialization concerns in homeschoolingDeveloping executive functioning skills through homeschooling routinesTips for getting started with homeschoolingResources mentioned:Below I have links to every course I mentioned in this podcast.  Here is my spreadsheet for all homeschooling courses that I’m continually adding to and currently cleaning up:   https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pmT4f6Vmug-waSRrTjgI6Hmk1PWHThFWyNssHB-AVck/edit?usp=sharing  Podcast with TONS of resources Homeschooling with Technologies Podcast https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/podcast/ Math Beast Academy  https://beastacademy.com/ Brilliant  https://brilliant.org/ Science Dad —  Science Mom  https://sciencemom.teachable.com/courses Check Universities local to you  Financial StudiesHow the Market Works https://www.howthemarketworks.com/ Biz Kids  https://bizkids.com/learn/  Planet Money Podcast  https://www.npr.org/podcasts/510289/planet-money  Federal Reserve  https://www.newyorkfed.org/outreach-and-education/comic-books  Funda FUnda Stock Market Unit Studies Course   https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/?s=stock+market&post_type=product  Science Science Mom  https://sciencemom.teachable.com/courses  Teacher Ben https://www.teacherben.org/ Tyto Online  https://www.tytoonline.com/ Generation Genius Science Is Weird  https://www.generationgenius.com/Mark Rober https://www.crunchlabs.com/ Science Olympiads (Episode #242t on Homeschooling with Technologies Podcast)  https://www.soinc.org/ Next Level Homeschool -  Trip to panama Marine Biology   https://nextlevelhomeschool.com/courses/homeschool-marine-biology/ Nasa Website  https://spaceplace.nasa.gov/  Zoo Websites  -  search most zoos and you will find them.  https://www.torontozoo.com/livecams  Cameras of Animals from Forestry in North America -  https://hdontap.com/#animals  Biochemistry literacy for kids  https://biochemistryliteracyforkids.com/  YouTube  - LInk on Homeschooling spreadsheet listed at top of resources. Check tabs at bottom of spreadsheet.  Language Arts Night Zookeeper    https://www.nightzookeeper.com/  Brave Writers https://bravewriter.com/ HIstory,  Social Science , Geography Funda Funda https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/  (look out for their 5 x $5 deal for their unit studies classes)  Social Emotional Learning Conundrums  https://ideas.classdojo.com/ Coding Hackathon https://www.youtube.com/live/Y0GQ0bV159U?si=_v4rGLK9GDHabuTp Hour of code https://hourofcode.com/ca First TECH Challenge   https://www.fundafundaacademy.com/category/science-fun/  Search for Local Robotics Classes -  Languages Mondly https://www.mondly.com/  Duolingo https://www.duolingo.com/ Platforms for courses OUTSCHOOL  https://outschool.com/  Teachers PAy Teachers (PDF Classes, worksheets more curriculum based)  https://www.teacherspayteachers.com/  Wow -  That is a lot!  Any questions email me or book a call and ask!