64a: Yearning for the Messy Truth, True Intimacy & Trauma With Cynthia Langtiw [Part 2/2]

Jump into Part 2 of Cynthia Langtiw’s interview where we dive in and explore:Connection to Ancestry, Past, and Future as ResourceThe Power of Stories and Books to HealThe Soul’s Yearning for the Messy Truth and the Draw to Only Show Our Shiny PartsHow Can We Have True Intimacy?How Trauma Is Something That Isn’t Finished or ResolvedHow Trauma Affects Couples and RelationshipsBetrayal Trauma : Micro and MacroWhat It Takes to Be in Good Relationship With Self and OtherBringing Your Whole SelfShedding Past Experiences With a Thank You!Dr. Cynthia Lubin Langtiw is a Haitian American licensed clinical psychologist and full professor in the clinical psychology program at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology. She has served as a supervising psychologist at Mount Sinai Hospital and currently consults with their doctoral clinical training program. Dr. Langtiw is a volunteer psychologist and clinical supervisor with The Marjorie Kovler Center for Survivors of Torture. She also provides training on psychological trauma for the Young Center for Immigrant Children’s Rights. Her clinical work reflects a strong systemic/community sensibility that integrates a relational cultural perspective. Much of her clinical work has been helping youth, adults, families, and communities utilize their own resources to heal from trauma. Dr. Langtiw has a strong passion for teaching, qualitative research, clinical training and enjoys supporting students in finding their voice in psychology.Listen to Part 1 of the Conversation with Cynthia about Unknowing and Finding Your Own Knowing at candicewu.com/cynthia. Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/cynthia Podcast Homepage🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-communityPatreon – Your Support Means So Much!💝 https://candicewu.com/patreonCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsored by my Dream Work Class on SkillshareA few weeks ago, I published a new class on Dream Work, which supports people who are interested in developing a stronger ability to remember their dreams and a connected relationship to their dream wisdom with embodiment practices.Dreaming: Embodiment Practices to Prepare Your Physiology For a Thriving Dream LifeOur dreams offer access to energies and parts of ourselves that are hidden or unseen and wanting to be revealed.This class offers specific breathing techniques, yogic and body-centered practices, and meditations that you can use to ground yourself and develop safety and playfulness for your dreams to thrive. These practices will support your nervous system in feeling a level of deep rest and relaxation, giving the capacity for you to remember your dreams even better than before or for the first time.Find all the Dreamwork Classes Online and enjoy a Skillshare promo of two months free here.All the proceeds from Skillshare to me go towards supporting the Embody Podcast.Learn more about this and other classes by me at CandiceWu.com/classes Show Notes00:00 Intro01:04 Sponsored by You01:50 Opening03:12 Conversation Start03:50 Utilizing Your Own Resources in Trauma Healing08:34 Where Do We Learn the Building Blocks?09:07 Is Everything Relating to Trauma? Things That Aren't Finished.09:07 Trauma Incomplete11:49 What Happens When You Communicate Your Trauma?11:50 What Happened When You Told Someone12:51 When You Receive Love, Compassion, and Vulnerability…13:35 Cynthia Would Be a Librarian / Healing Through Books14:33 Book: The Bluest Eye15:15 Book that Drew Candice and Connected with Past Life Trauma- Number the Stars17:00 Feeling Grounded Across Time and Space for Finding Resource17:34 Lonely and Connected to Ancestry20:25 Trauma Work With Couples and Relationships — Cynthia's New Book23:45 Paper by Susan Sans "What Is Dissociated”24:08 Trauma Bring Disconnection to Protect25:37 Shedding Past Experiences With a Thank You!26:27 How Can We Have True Intimacy?27:00 Dr. Tracy Rodgers — Bringing Your Whole Self28:00 True Intimacy With the Not So Shiny Parts29:53 Our Souls Yearning for the Messy Truth and Shiny Parts31:17 The Tricky Balance Between Accepting Self and the Other32:18 Accepting All of Self and Other33:58 What It Takes to Be in a Good Relationship35:23 Betrayal Trauma : Micro and Macro35:44 Jennifer Freyd’s Definition of Betrayal Trauma43:11 Validating Someone’s Experience as Real44:54 Appreciation46:48 Outro & Interlogs Experiential48:09 Newsletter48:35 Reach Out to Cynthia49:01 Connecting With Candice