66: GUEST | Stop Waiting to Be Chosen with Fanny Tristan

Being single isn’t a waiting room. It’s the classroom. The mirror. The runway. The f*cking launchpad.In this richly layered episode, I'm joined by Fanny Tristan, trauma-informed LCSW turned coach and founder of Her Soul Supply, to unpack the emotional gymnastics so many women perform in the pursuit of being chosen by a partner, by their family, by society.We talk love, loneliness, lifestyle design, and what happens when women stop outsourcing worth and start reclaiming their voice. From navigating breakups and identity shifts to dismantling systems that tell women they’re “too much” or “too late,” this conversation is a full-body permission slip to rewrite your story on your terms.If you’ve ever felt behind, unworthy, or like you needed to shrink to fit the timeline... this episode is for you.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:01 – Meet Fanny04:10 – The loneliness epidemic post-2020 + rebuilding real community 07:50 – Brunch, boundaries, and the awkwardness of adult friendships 10:35 – The myth of “having it all” by 30 and how timelines betray us 13:00 – How systemic oppression shapes self-worth for women of color 15:45 – Building identity outside of partnership and parenthood 21:00 – Singlehood as a goldmine for growth, not a failure to fix 27:15 – Parts work, projection, and how we misread each other 30:00 – The mom-friend vs single-friend divide: how we lose each other 33:00 – Letting people love all your identities—and asking for what you need 36:15 – The rebellion vs self-preservation dilemma (hello, plastic surgery guilt) 39:40 – Pleasure, sex, and the myth that motherhood = martyrdom 42:10 – Why we pedestal romantic love—and what that costs us 46:00 – Self-abandonment, chosen-ness, and not lowering your damn standards 50:20 – The SHIFT framework in action for single women feeling “behind” 58:15 – Walking the walk vs memorizing the infographics 60:30 – Transformation doesn’t have to be a whole damn identity shift 63:00 – Therapy vs Coaching: where they overlap and where they divide 67:00 – Fanny’s final message: freedom is a value, not a milestone🧠 Connect with Fanny Tristan + Her Soul Supply🌐 Her Soul Supply Website 📲 Instagram — @fanny.tristan 💥 Want to Build a Life That’s Not Waiting on Anyone?Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, SHIFT is here to help you stop performing and start aligning.🔥 Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call