SHIFT Talking™

Season 2 is here! And it's not all theory but it is all truth. I didn't get into anger work because I had it figured out. I got into it to fix my husband. Spoiler: I was a really big part of the problem too. We were drowning: reactive, defensive, resentful, barely holding it together, and we nearly didn't make it. It was in the darkest stretch of our marriage that I realized anger wasn't our villain. It was our signal. And if we didn't learn how to understand it, we were going to pass it down.So I studied it. Built frameworks around it. Tested it in my own marriage and my own parenting. Not only did we thrive, my clients have continued to, too. That's how Anger Intelligence™ was born. And this season, we're going deeper than we ever have.We're learning the language of anger: the archetypes, the patterns, the nervous system wiring underneath it all. We're building the literacy most of us were never taught but absolutely should have been. And we're doing it because we are transitional characters. We break cycles. We change what the next generation inherits from us.This isn't about becoming calmer. It's about becoming literate about the emotion that's been trying to protect you all along.Your anger isn't going away. But this season, it becomes your compass.Let's talk some SHIFT.Find out your anger archetype before we dive in. It's free, it's fast, and it'll make every episode land. 👉 Take the Anger Archetype Quiz

Some secrets protect us. Others keep us from healing.In this profoundly honest episode, I sit down with author, mental health advocate, and suicide loss survivor Lisa Sugarman. Lisa shares how she discovered (35 years later) that her father’s sudden death was actually suicide, a truth her mother kept hidden to protect her 10-year-old heart.We talk about grief, parenting, secrecy, and how Lisa transformed her personal pain into The Help Hub, a free mental health resource center. We also talk about how sharing our stories, even the hardest ones, can literally save lives.This episode is open, emotional, and deeply human. It’s about connection, empathy, and why telling the truth, in the right time and way, can be the beginning of real healing.🧨 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:00 – Lisa’s mission: “What’s more powerful than knowing you kept someone here?”01:27 – Her background in writing, parenting content, and mental health advocacy02:52 – Losing her father suddenly at 10… and learning the truth decades later06:06 – Why her mother kept the suicide a secret, and how she found out10:17 – Rebuilding trust and deepening their mother-daughter relationship14:48 – Featuring her 86-year-old mom in her next book16:57 – Advice for anyone feeling betrayed by a family secret18:23 – Davina shares her own story: her husband's suicide plan and sobriety journey21:21 – What makes a suicide attempt not about wanting to leave loved ones25:49 – Challenging shame and silence around suicide and mental illness30:44 – The dangerous myth that suicide is a “selfish” act33:48 – Launching The Survivors podcast with an attempt survivor co-host43:30 – Building The Help Hub as a free, searchable mental health resource55:25 – How Lisa manages the emotional weight of helping others1:24:16 – The moment Lisa realized she had truly saved a life1:28:03 – Her upcoming book on surviving her father’s death… twice👋 Connect with Lisa Sugarman:🌐 Website + Help Hub: https://www.thehelphub.co/🎧 Podcast: The Survivors🔗 Ready to SHIFT with Me?✨ Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call

Most parenting books tell you what to fix. This one tells you why it’s broken.In this deeply grounded episode, I sit down with Richard O’Keefe: father of six, grandfather of 23 (!), great-grandfather of four (!!), and author of 9-1-1: What Is Your Parenting Emergency?. Richard teaches parenting skills to incarcerated fathers through Utah State University and has created a simple, powerful framework based on four core emotional needs every child has.We talk about how unmet emotional needs in childhood often lead to incarceration, addiction, and relational breakdowns in adulthood and what every parent can do now to stop that cycle.This episode is calm, clear, and rich with lived experience. It’s not about shaming or strategy overload, it’s about understanding what makes a child feel whole, and what happens when they don’t.🧨 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:00 – The four core emotional needs all children share 03:10 – 15 parenting skills that meet those emotional needs 05:50 – Richard’s breaking point (and the mashed potatoes incident) 08:20 – Why most parenting books overwhelm and overcomplicate 10:40 – Teaching incarcerated fathers how to reconnect with their kids 13:35 – Why most people in prison didn’t have their emotional needs met 16:15 – The power of teaching values (and how it starts at dinner) 20:42 – How traditional masculinity shuts down emotional connection 23:00 – The "fixer" instinct vs. emotional attunement in relationships 27:15 – Parenting as a team (even when co-parenting is complicated) 31:20 – Why his students should be motivational speakers 33:05 – What led Richard to write 9-1-1: What Is Your Parenting Emergency? 35:20 – The iceberg metaphor of behavior and emotional needs 38:00 – What it means to make “positive deposits” with your kids 42:20 – Raising boys into men as a single mother 45:00 – The values his students wish they’d been taught 47:00 – Anger management and the “upstairs/downstairs brain” 50:00 – How Davina’s own parenting moments led to repair and growth 54:00 – Helping dads raise children from behind bars 57:10 – What to do when only one partner wants to do the work 59:30 – Why we weaponize emotional growth in relationships and how to stop 01:02:00 – Unconditional love, earned trust, and realistic expectations👋 Connect with Richard O’Keefe:📘 Book: 9-1-1: What Is Your Parenting Emergency? (Available on Amazon) 🔗 Ready to SHIFT with Me?✨ Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call

You’re not selfish. You’re not broken. And you’re damn sure not failing. You’re just a single mom living in a world that applauds your exhaustion and punishes your boundaries.In this powerful and validating episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist and Solo Shift podcast host Wedeh Guar, a woman who's not only raising kids solo but raising the standard for what thriving can look like after heartbreak, depletion, and identity loss.We talk about co-parenting with inconsistent partners, letting go of who people want you to be, and how to rebuild your sense of self when you're done performing but still showing up for your kids. Wedeh brings the grounded truth, gentle humor, and the kind of "seen and soothed" energy every overwhelmed mom deserves.🧨 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:00 – Parenting through emotional fatigue04:23 – Redefining what “good mom” even means08:15 – Letting go of external validation + role performance12:40 – What happens when the co-parent is inconsistent, absent, or unavailable19:01 – The grief and guilt of needing space from your child22:18 – Co-parenting with a ghost (or a situationship)26:07 – How healing often triggers the people who benefit from your burnout31:55 – “You get to be petty and peaceful.”36:14 – How delulu phases sometimes save single moms40:29 – Owning your parenting wins without needing applause45:02 – Parenting through loneliness and longing49:35 – What to do when your kids reflect the pain you’re still holding54:50 – Reclaiming identity beyond “Mom”58:10 – Wedeh’s message for moms who feel like they’re drowning👋 Connect with Wedeh:Instagram: @thesoloshiftpodcastPodcast: The Solo Shift PodcastEmail: [email protected]🔗 Ready to SHIFT with Me?🔥 Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call

He thought money would fix it. It didn’t.In this open-hearted and deeply honest episode, I sit down with Kevin Palmieri, co-founder and CFO of Next Level University, to unpack the silent suffering so many men carry, and the identity death it takes to finally come alive.They talk about everything men are rarely allowed to say out loud: Rock bottom moments and intrusive thoughts Rage masked as self-relianceIdentity wrapped up in performanceThe loneliness of male friendship, Rebuilding after feeling worthless…plus Kevin walks through the SHIFT Framework™, sharing how men can rebuild their sense of self, heal without shame, and start showing up with integrity AND without losing their edge.This one’s for every man who wants more, and everyone who loves one.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:00 – Meet Kevin02:15 – Why success didn’t feel like success 04:30 – The cost of achievement without alignment 06:40 – The podcast that saved his life: Hyperconscious to NLU 08:20 – What led him to the edge—and the moment he called for help 10:15 – Meeting Alan, building trust, and why men need safe male friends 13:00 – Loneliness in male friend groups, locker room talk, and internal conflict 15:30 – How father wounds shape emotional safety 18:10 – Why men don’t go first and why they need to 20:00 – Discomfort with being different (and learning to own it) 22:40 – The danger of over-identifying with pain as power 25:10 – Meeting his father at 27—and releasing the villain story 28:00 – Why savior energy is unsustainable (and how to tell it’s showing up) 30:40 – Letting people down without betraying yourself 33:10 – Why “being your own boss” doesn’t always mean flexibility 35:20 – The SHIFT Framework: Kevin breaks it down for men   45:00 – Why emotional growth isn’t sexy but it’s essential 47:10 – How Kevin and Alan coach men through meaning, purpose & identity 49:00 – Final message: nobody else will believe in you until you do🧠 Connect with Kevin Palmieri + Next Level University🎙 Next Level University Podcast – new episodes daily 🌍 Website – Coaching, free courses, book club, & community 📱 Instagram – @neverquitkid 👥 Free Facebook group: Next Level Nation 📖 Free monthly virtual events + book club💥 Ready to Build a Life That Doesn’t Break You?Explore the SHIFT Framework™ with me and reclaim your self, your relationships, and your sense of steady.🔥 Join SHIFT Live 📞 Book a Clarity Call

You don’t just wake up one day in menopause. You’ve been in the transition for years and no one warned you.In this eye-opening, stigma-breaking episode, I'm joined by Amita Sharma, founder of NourishDoc and creator of an affordable, expert-led perimenopause self-care app. Together, we tackle the silence and shame around women’s hormonal health, intimacy, and identity through the wild ride of perimenopause, libido shifts, and the evolving landscape of relationships.If you’ve been feeling “off,” disconnected from your body or partner, or simply unsure what the hell is happening to your hormones, this conversation is a goldmine.🧠 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:00 – Amita’s mission to support women from 35–65 holistically 01:40 – Why perimenopause is still so stigmatized (and misunderstood) 03:10 – Early signs to watch for in your cycle before menopause hits 05:45 – How perimenopause affects sleep, memory, libido & mood 07:30 – Davina’s story: PMDD, tracking, and when things got scary 10:15 – Dutch tests, deficiencies & the power of functional medicine 12:50 – Hormonal shifts and the impact on sexual desire & pain 14:20 – When your partner thinks you “just need lube”—and why that misses the mark 16:30 – What men don’t understand about intimacy, and how to change that 18:40 – The orgasm gap, female pleasure, and cultural double standards 21:00 – Sex after kids: why women often shut down—and how to talk about it 23:10 – The rising rate of “gray divorce” and what’s behind it 25:15 – Why sex becomes the scapegoat for everything else in marriage 28:00 – Women’s emotional needs vs men’s physical cues 30:00 – What real partnership looks like: safety, care, and emotional attunement 32:40 – Male depression, emotional suppression, and performative intimacy 34:15 – How men should not bring up hormones with their partners 36:30 – Better scripts for initiating conversations about sex and health 38:00 – Should you supplement hormones? What to know before choosing HRT 40:45 – The economic barrier: BHRT, insurance, and long-term costs 42:30 – NourishDoc app: expert-backed, $5/month menopause education & care 44:00 – Amita’s final message: take charge of your health, before it takes charge of you💡 Connect with Amita Sharma + NourishDoc🌐 Website – nourishdoc.com ✨ Want to Talk About It (Finally)?Join the SHIFT™ community of emotionally intelligent adults who are done suffering in silence.🔥 Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call

Being single isn’t a waiting room. It’s the classroom. The mirror. The runway. The f*cking launchpad.In this richly layered episode, I'm joined by Fanny Tristan, trauma-informed LCSW turned coach and founder of Her Soul Supply, to unpack the emotional gymnastics so many women perform in the pursuit of being chosen by a partner, by their family, by society.We talk love, loneliness, lifestyle design, and what happens when women stop outsourcing worth and start reclaiming their voice. From navigating breakups and identity shifts to dismantling systems that tell women they’re “too much” or “too late,” this conversation is a full-body permission slip to rewrite your story on your terms.If you’ve ever felt behind, unworthy, or like you needed to shrink to fit the timeline... this episode is for you.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:01 – Meet Fanny04:10 – The loneliness epidemic post-2020 + rebuilding real community 07:50 – Brunch, boundaries, and the awkwardness of adult friendships 10:35 – The myth of “having it all” by 30 and how timelines betray us 13:00 – How systemic oppression shapes self-worth for women of color 15:45 – Building identity outside of partnership and parenthood 21:00 – Singlehood as a goldmine for growth, not a failure to fix 27:15 – Parts work, projection, and how we misread each other 30:00 – The mom-friend vs single-friend divide: how we lose each other 33:00 – Letting people love all your identities—and asking for what you need 36:15 – The rebellion vs self-preservation dilemma (hello, plastic surgery guilt) 39:40 – Pleasure, sex, and the myth that motherhood = martyrdom 42:10 – Why we pedestal romantic love—and what that costs us 46:00 – Self-abandonment, chosen-ness, and not lowering your damn standards 50:20 – The SHIFT framework in action for single women feeling “behind” 58:15 – Walking the walk vs memorizing the infographics 60:30 – Transformation doesn’t have to be a whole damn identity shift 63:00 – Therapy vs Coaching: where they overlap and where they divide 67:00 – Fanny’s final message: freedom is a value, not a milestone🧠 Connect with Fanny Tristan + Her Soul Supply🌐 Her Soul Supply Website 📲 Instagram — @fanny.tristan 💥 Want to Build a Life That’s Not Waiting on Anyone?Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, SHIFT is here to help you stop performing and start aligning.🔥 Join SHIFT Live📞 Book a Clarity Call

Grades aren't the problem. Emotional illiteracy is.In this bold and expansive episode, Davina sits down with Leroy Slanzi, Canadian principal and founder of Emotional Schools, to unpack what’s really going on in classrooms (and homes) today. From emotional regulation in 5-year-olds to burnout in school leaders, this episode is a masterclass in behavior, boundaries, and the education revolution nobody's talking about loud enough.Leroy brings 25 years of experience and no-bullshit clarity to this conversation about emotional intelligence, cultural pushback, and practical solutions for parents and educators. If you’ve ever wondered why your kid melts down over math or why your school's still obsessed with standardized tests, this one’s for you.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:01 – Introducing Leroy + the mission behind Emotional Schools 02:20 – Why school leaders resist emotional intelligence integration 04:10 – Helicopter parenting, fear-driven admin, and cultural barriers 11:00 – Teaching 5-year-olds about polyvagal theory (!?) 14:05 – The calming space model: not your typical principal’s office 16:30 – Indigenous education, land-based learning, and the medicine wheel 21:20 – Boredom, play, and the emotional consequences of disconnection 23:30 – What happens when emotionally intelligent kids go home to emotionally unavailable adults 27:00 – The collapse of speech development + rise in reactivity 30:40 – The myth that emotions have no place in academic rigor 37:15 – Why superintendents resist culture change39:45 – How to spark intrinsic motivation in your child 42:00 – Raising emotionally intelligent kids without the tech trap 51:15 – How to support kids with low frustration tolerance 53:00 – Why mistakes are the best teachers 56:00 – Davina & Leroy reflect on parenting regret and repair 60:00 – Davina’s theory on being wired as a parent vs partner 63:00 – A reality check on what teachers really go through 65:00 – How to bring emotional intelligence to your school, district, or home 66:00 – Where to find Leroy and Emotional Schools🧠 Connect with Leroy🌐 Website – Programs, consulting, and free resources 📲 LinkedIn – Follow Leroy’s work 📧 Email: [email protected]💥 Want Your Kids to Be Emotionally Intelligent?Start with you. A Steady Space exists to equip parents not to parent “perfectly,” but to parent from a place of regulation, resilience, and repair.🚀 Ready to SHIFT?Join SHIFT Live Book a Clarity Call Follow along on IG/TikTok → @asteadyspace

Ever feel like you’re speaking English, but your partner hears Martian? You’re not alone. This week on SHIFT Talking, I sat down with Lynn Quinn, author, cognitive architect, and creator of the Four Zones of Communication framework.We dug into why most of us live on autopilot, how our words betray our real meaning, and the simple shift that can move you out of miscommunication loops and into authentic connection.Lynn’s work is blunt, practical, and surprisingly soulful. From conflict at home to chaos in crowded households (👋 nine humans under one roof over here), this episode gives you a map for knowing which “zone” you’re in and how to get yourself back into grounded communication before things explode.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:02:00 – The 4 Zones of Communication: Pink, Yellow, Higher, Halt07:20 – How “yellow zone” people-pleasing leads to resentment09:45 – The Halt Zone: anger, walls punched, and primal explosions14:30 – Signs you’re slipping into autopilot vs. staying grounded19:00 – Reflection writing and the magic of daily introspection26:00 – Apple, orange, banana: why your words don’t land how you think33:30 – The power of pausing for clarity in conversations38:00 – Boundaries, family dynamics, and expectation management45:05 – Objections: “Isn’t this too woo woo?” → reframing as consciousness56:30 – Why speaking from “I” isn’t arrogant—it’s the most humble stance1:03:00 – Giving yourself grace when introspection feels icky1:12:30 – Consciousness, intuition, and moving beyond autopilot1:26:00 – Parenting, creativity, and breaking blocks that keep us shackled1:37:30 – Owning mistakes publicly as the ultimate act of loyalty to yourself📲 Connect with Lynn QuinnBook: Home with Humans: Adventures in Reflection WritingWebsite: zoalq.com (Zones of Atlas)Substack: Zones of Atlas by Lynn QuinnNewsletter: occasional deep dives + reflection prompts🚀 Ready to SHIFT?Join The Parental SHIFT → Learn MoreBook a Clarity Call → Work with MeFollow along on IG/TikTok → @asteadyspaceDon’t miss the next episode of SHIFT Talking 🎙️

What if healing wasn’t about fixing, but about raising your consciousness?This week on SHIFT Talking, I sat down with Keri Logan, clinical hypnotherapist, author, and creator of Master the Upper Rooms. Keri has spent decades helping people release trauma, forgive the unforgivable, and step into higher states of consciousness where shame, guilt, and fear no longer run the show.We went deep into human consciousness, forgiveness, parenting wounds, manifestation, past-life imprints, and why “woo woo” work is often just the language we don’t yet understand.Whether you’re skeptical (like I used to be) or fully open to spiritual frameworks, this episode will stretch you, ground you, and maybe even crack something open.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:40 – Keri’s story of trauma, forgiveness, and liberation04:50 – Human consciousness 101: 3D, 4D, and 5D explained07:10 – How our environments, families, and culture shape us—and how to clear the garbage12:40 – Using charts and tools to identify where you’re operating emotionally17:20 – The power of Ho‘oponopono and forgiveness rituals22:00 – Why walking away isn’t losing—it’s preservation26:00 – Conditional love vs. unconditional love in relationships31:30 – Hypnotherapy, subconscious programming, and breaking habits38:00 – Manifestation from ego vs. heart desire43:15 – Rewiring self-talk and catching negative loops48:20 – Raising kids without projecting our wounds52:50 – Rules for Being Human: lessons we all signed up for57:30 – Toxic family dynamics, compassion, and choosing boundaries1:04:00 – Past-life regression stories and unresolved imprints1:13:20 – Parenting, shame, and breaking cycles for our kids1:20:00 – Practical tools for identifying your state of consciousness1:27:00 – Live and let live: healing without needing to convince others📲 Connect with Keri LoganWebsite: Master the Upper RoomsEmpowered Within (MP3 Library): empoweredwithin.comYouTube: Keri Logan’s ChannelInsight Timer App: Search “Keri Logan” for free meditations🚀 Ready to SHIFT?Join SHIFT Live → Learn MoreBook a Clarity Call → Work with MeFollow along on IG/TikTok → @asteadyspace

Ever wonder why traditional fixes never seem to fix the real problem? This week, I sat down with Dr. Cali Estes, addiction specialist, coach, and biohacking pioneer, who has spent nearly three decades helping people break cycles of overwhelm, addiction, and burnout by addressing the real why behind their struggles.From Fen-Phen nearly ending her life in the ’90s, to building six companies on manifestation and grit, to now leading programs at the intersection of biohacking, sobriety, and mindset reprogramming, Cali is proof that it’s not about fitting yourself into the box; it’s about breaking the box entirely.We went deep on what depression really is (and isn’t), why meds aren’t always the answer, the power of universal laws, and how to rewire self-talk to create the life you actually want.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:55 – Cali’s personal story of addiction, recovery, and near-death survival02:00 – What biohacking really means (and why it’s not just TikTok hype)05:30 – The overwhelm trap: why parents, professionals, and kids get stuck in cycles09:20 – Creative solutions to stress: carpooling, meal sharing, tiny pivots that shift everything12:00 – The 3-step manifestation process: mind, heart, action18:30 – From therapy to coaching: why accountability + law of attraction work faster23:00 – Real-world manifestation wins (business, tours, and beyond)28:00 – Rejection as protection: trusting the universe’s redirection35:00 – Setting boundaries when family/friends don’t get your growth39:30 – The science behind belief: Harvard ice bath + rabbit studies45:00 – Self-talk, self-acceptance, and forgiving past versions of yourself52:00 – Cali’s workbook + practical exercises for clearing, shifting, and manifesting💛 Connect with Dr. Kelly Estes📘 Grab the workbook: UnpauseYourLife.com📚 Find all her books: Dr. Kelly Estes on Amazon🌐 Learn more:Sobriety: SoberOnDemand.comCertification: TheAddictionsAcademy.com📲 Follow her on Instagram, TikTok & Facebook: [@drkellyestes]

If you’ve ever felt like your worth depended on what you did for others, this episode will hit you straight in the nervous system.I sit down with Barb Nangle, boundaries coach, podcast host, and recovery warrior for a deep conversation about how compulsive people-pleasing, codependency, and religious conditioning shaped her life… until she reclaimed it.We talk candidly about Barb’s decades in Christian spaces, why the church gave her identity but stole her agency, and how 12-step recovery helped her heal from both addiction and approval-seeking. If you’ve been navigating burnout, over-functioning, or secretly resenting the people you’re always rescuing, this is your episode.Boundaries. Truth-telling. Recovery. Spiritual reclamation. We’re talking SHIFT.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:01 – From addiction to awakening: Barb’s path to recovery 01:56 – What compulsive people-pleasing actually is—and why it’s not selfless 03:17 – Religious trauma, patriarchy, and losing your Self in service 06:34 – Why boundaries are the antidote to burnout 08:42 – The fawn response: when fear shows up as niceness 11:50 – How women are groomed to be over-functioners 14:26 – Church, shame, and the myth of humility 18:10 – How Barb untangled worth from performance 21:23 – 12-step recovery as a path to nervous system regulation 24:50 – The guilt of saying no—and why it’s a sign of growth 27:11 – Healing doesn’t mean you stop caring—it means you stop bleeding 29:38 – Why emotional honesty isn’t optional in leadership 33:05 – From codependent to coach: Barb’s mission now 37:44 – Cultivating healthy selfishness and relational integrity 40:00 – What to do when people don’t like your boundaries 44:17 – The difference between being needed and being whole 48:51 – Self-trust, self-worth, and the return to your truest self💛 Connect with Barb Nangle🎧 Listen to her podcast: Fragmented to Whole 🌐 Work with Barb: https://www.f2w.co 📲 Follow on Instagram: @higherpowercoaching🎧 Loved this episode?Join The SHIFT and rediscover yourself—not just your role as a parent.Book a Clarity Call with Davina to explore 1:1 coaching.Stay connected on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok.

What if the real fairy tale starts after the wedding?In this raw, hilarious, and deeply intimate episode, I sit down with Shellie R. Warren, three-time author, marriage life coach, and doula, for a conversation that unpacks what nobody’s telling you about marriage, friendship, sex, and spiritual growth.From surviving infidelity and rewriting vows, to understanding your body, your partner, and the post-baby version of you, Shellie drops gems like a damn oracle. Together, she and I explore how marriage is built, not just vowed into existence, and why friendship might be your most underrated sex organ. (Yep, we said it.)This one is not just an episode, it’s a masterclass in intimacy, integrity, and surviving real life together.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:01 – Why couples wait too long for help and what to do instead 01:54 – The “oil change” model of marriage maintenance 03:52 – Infidelity, forgiveness, and surviving crisis with friendship as your anchor 06:00 – Why most premarital counseling is trash and what needs to change 07:10 – The real reason people get divorced (hint: it’s not the big stuff) 08:47 – Adult intimacy, postpartum sex, and the grief of “sharing your body” 13:37 – Choose a partner who improves you, not changes you 17:48 – The origin of engagement rings and other capitalist romance lies 21:04 – Childhood wounds, spiritual intimacy, and what we inherit 23:40 – Spit, foreplay, and the sex talk nobody had with you 28:15 – Postpartum identity, consent, and navigating dry seasons 31:53 – Redefining marriage after suicidal crisis: Davina’s personal story 34:24 – Why we marry broken and what it means to heal in relationship 39:43 – Soulmates, sobriety, and rewriting the narrative of love 43:19 – When self-expression feels like rebellion, then becomes liberation 52:02 – Suicide, substance abuse, and the sacred nuance of staying 57:48 – Judaism, interfaith values, and raising kids in modern families 01:13:23 – Sex as spiritual practice, abstinence before marriage, and body counts 01:20:25 – How to actually prioritize sex in a busy, committed marriage 01:29:26 – Culture, censorship, and preserving truth for the next generation💛 Connect with Shellie R. Warren at: [email protected] 🗣️ Cultural note: "Nosipho" (Zulu) means “God’s blessing to those she's around”, and after this episode, you’ll get why.🎧 Loved this episode?Join The SHIFT and finally feel supported in your transformation, not just your parenting.Book a Clarity Call with me to explore coaching options.Stay connected on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok.

What if the habits you think are “healthy” are actually keeping you stuck?In this intimate and electrifying conversation, Davina sits down with Habit Freedom author and human behavior specialist Anna Shilina to unpack how trauma shows up in productivity, drinking, “earning” sugar binges, and losing trust in ourselves. From growing up in an immigrant household and escaping into books, to spiraling into alcohol and reclaiming her light, Anna shares the five core relationships that shape our habits and our healing.If you've ever said “I deserve this” right before self-sabotage or struggled to turn awareness into action, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re talking identity, intergenerational healing, inner child reparenting, and how to rewire your relationship with discomfort, the present moment, and yourself.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:04 – From childhood survival to academic addiction02:00 – The real cost of numbing, even when it looks “productive”04:48 – Alcohol as a coping strategy and the slow unraveling of self-trust10:00 – Growing up with personal development (and what it hid)17:45 – The lonely middle between rock bottom and healing26:30 – The illusion of “deserving” what harms us33:40 – Emotional regulation, self-sabotage, and why “better” feels like losing45:00 – The five relationships of Habit Freedom (discomfort, light, now, self, others)51:00 – How microdosing numbness robs us of our potential59:00 – Inner child work and breaking inherited patterns1:06:00 – Anger, sadness, and why parenting is the ultimate trigger and teacher1:12:00 – SHIFTing from reactive parenting to relational healing📲 Connect with Anna Shilina📘 Habit Freedom – Available in digital & audio: habitfreedom.com💬 DM her on Instagram: @annashilina💡 Join the Habit Freedom Mastermind⚡ Ready to shift? Join my SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need to lead with power, presence, and peace.🛠️ Take Action: → Join The SHIFT → Book a Clarity Call📲 Stay Connected: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace YouTube: @asteadyspace Website: www.asteadyspace.com

What happens when the legal system becomes another layer of abuse?In this fierce and validating conversation, Davina sits down with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, to talk about the devastating realities of toxic relationships, high-conflict divorce, and the legal gaslighting survivors face when they try to break free.Lisa’s mission is personal—and practical. She shares how Been There Got Out equips survivors to protect themselves, document their abuse, navigate the courts, and stay sane through systems designed to destabilize.This isn’t just about emotional abuse—it’s about the intersection of trauma, parenting, the law, and power. Whether you’re in it, through it, or supporting someone who is, this episode will leave you feeling seen, informed, and ready to advocate.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:03:44 – Client success story: from courtroom survivor to attorney for others 05:15 – Why the family court system retraumatizes survivors 07:28 – What makes a relationship “high conflict” (and who actually causes it) 10:33 – Legal gaslighting, coercive control, and the exhaustion of proof 13:22 – Lisa’s journey from survivor to system disruptor 16:10 – Tips for documenting abuse and preparing for court 19:45 – The emotional whiplash of parenting with a toxic ex 22:50 – How Been There Got Out helps clients stay steady through chaos 26:16 – The importance of peer support when the professionals don’t get it 29:38 – Why healing begins with being believed 32:44 – When friends and therapists miss the red flags 36:10 – The sanity-saving power of shared language and community 38:25 – What Lisa wishes every survivor knew about the “other side” 41:12 – How to find and follow Lisa + Been There Got Out 44:05 – Davina shares her own secondhand witness story 46:30 – Future collabs, podcast swaps, and staying loud together🧠 Connect with Lisa + Been There Got Out🌐 Website 📘 Book — Toxic Relationships, High Conflict Divorce & How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances 📲 Instagram 🎧 Podcast 📺 YouTube Channel 📩 [email protected]💥 The System Is Hard. You Don’t Have To Do It Alone.If you’re navigating toxic coparenting, legal trauma, or emotional recovery, SHIFT is here for you. You don’t need permission to reclaim your voice.🔥 Join the SHIFT: asteadyspace.com/parental-shift 📞 Book a Clarity Call: asteadyspace.com/clarity 💬 Follow the journey: @asteadyspace

Mastering the Mirror: Courage, Growth, and Emotional Truth with Ray MartinWhat if your biggest breakthrough was hiding inside your hardest truth?In this bold, soul-stretching conversation, Davina sits down with Ray Martin—an award-winning business leader, executive coach, and author of Life Without a Tie—to unpack the raw, beautiful unraveling that happens when we finally stop performing and start being.Ray’s story isn’t one of overnight success or easy transformation. It’s a story of breakdown, burnout, and breakthrough. From the high-flying corporate world to deep inner reckoning, he shares what it took to let go of identity, embrace emotional depth, and redefine success on his terms.If you’ve ever felt like you're living someone else's life—or like your growth has outpaced your surroundings—this episode is going to hit home.This is about courage. Self-honesty. And the sacred discomfort that comes with choosing to actually live.🔍 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:24 – Meet Ray Martin: Coach, author, and corporate dropout06:12 – The high cost of living out of alignment10:35 – “You can’t lead others if you won’t lead yourself” — on radical self-honesty14:50 – Breaking the addiction to achievement and validation18:27 – Learning to sit with discomfort instead of fixing it22:11 – How fear keeps men from accessing their emotional truth27:03 – Why self-reflection is the start—not the end—of growth31:42 – The difference between intellectual insight and embodied change35:16 – Davina on parenting boys while dismantling patriarchal messaging47:24 – Coaching as a sacred container: presence over prescriptions51:09 – Burnout and reinvention in midlife58:16 – Navigating relationships with truth, tenderness, and tension1:02:07 – Davina reflects on shedding performance in marriage and business1:09:55 – Ray’s personal rituals and anchors for staying steady1:12:42 – Advice for men in transition: stop striving, start feeling1:18:46 – Closing reflections: Growth is grief, growth is grace🧠 Connect with Ray Martin👉 Website 📘 Life Without a Tie – Grab the book 💼 LinkedIn 📸 Instagram💥 Ready to Break Your Own Cycle?The SHIFT is real—and it’s waiting for you. Whether you’re a parent, partner, or human in the middle of your own Becoming, there’s space for you here.🔥 Join the SHIFT: asteadyspace.com/parental-shift 📞 Book a Clarity Call: asteadyspace.com/clarity 💬 Follow the journey: @yoursteadyspace

🧠 Personality, Parenting & The Power of Knowing Yourself—with Eric GeeWhat do sharks, dolphins, and fascists have in common? They're all part of Eric Gee's wild and wickedly accurate personality typing system. In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Eric Gee, author of The Power of Personality and founder of The Youtopia Project, to unpack why self-awareness isn’t optional, how to decode your kids (and yourself), and what your “deviant role” says about your hidden strengths.We talk Game of Thrones characters, parent-child dynamics, school trauma, anger expression, and why your quirks aren’t flaws—they’re clues.If you’ve ever taken a personality quiz and felt unseen, this episode will crack you wide open. And if you're raising kids, married to a mystery, or wondering why you keep ghosting your own goals—Eric’s system might just change your life.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:02:30 – How Eric created The Youtopia Project & his typing methodology 04:50 – What school never taught us about kids' true motivation 08:00 – “Be careful” is killing your kid’s confidence—say this instead 13:10 – How to read your kids and spot their core personality type 17:45 – Sharks, Butterflies & how siblings are built differently 22:00 – Davina’s deviant role: Cult Leader energy (and she owns it) 25:40 – What makes a person who they are—and can we change? 32:00 – The hidden dangers of telling kids who they "should" be 38:15 – Pop culture meets personality: Game of Thrones, Marvel & more 46:00 – How shame, rigidity & insecurity get misdiagnosed as "anger issues" 52:00 – Why confidence is the antidote to bullying 58:00 – Parenting with personality in mind 1:03:00 – Baboons, dolphins, and what makes someone actually magnetic 1:07:00 – The problem with passive-aggressive parenting and praise 1:10:00 – Why we need to raise kids who know themselves 1:16:00 – Where to find Eric and take the quiz yourself🧭 Connect with Eric Gee🧠 Take the Personality Quiz: https://youtopiaproject.com 📚 Get the Book – The Power of Personality 📸 Follow on Instagram @thepowerofpersonality👀 Ready to SHIFT?✨ Want to know your own deviant archetype? Take Eric’s quiz and DM Davina your results on Instagram.💬 Ready to regulate your reactions and parent with presence? Join the SHIFT and stop white-knuckling your way through life.🌀 Subscribe, follow, and review SHIFT Talking so more transitional characters like you can find us.

🔥 Emotional Literacy Isn’t Just for Actors—It’s the Tool You’ve Been MissingIn this mind-bending, soul-stretching episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Jim Rojas Taylor—former Marine, actor, author, and emotional literacy evangelist—who flips the script on how we teach regulation, empathy, and confidence. His message is simple but revolutionary: Why are we working so hard to build imaginary people (actors)... and doing so little to build real ones?Jim breaks down how the same emotional and mental tools used in acting (like the Stanislavski system) are powerful, practical frameworks for real-life regulation, perspective-taking, and identity work. From creating “suits and bubbles” as a child, to transforming classrooms with acting tools, to writing his book All Your Best Selves, Jim is leading the charge in giving people the language and literacy to feel, know, and choose who they are—on and off the stage.This isn’t woo. It’s wisdom with a workout plan—and it’s the emotional regulation RX the world (and our kids) desperately need.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:04:00 – “My Suits and Bubbles”: Jim’s inner world at age 4 06:00 – From Marine to musicals: the strange road to emotional mastery 12:30 – Psychodrama, trauma drama, Sense Theatre, and emotional rewiring 15:05 – The 7 Stanislavski Questions and why they’re sonar for your soul 18:00 – “Spiritual shapeshifting” and choosing the best self for the moment 25:00 – Why people fear self-awareness (and how to handle the answers) 28:00 – Emotions are muscles: you get stronger by using them daily 33:00 – Emotional congruence, gendered pain, and raising non-predatory boys 39:00 – How to reach resistant adults without pushing them away 47:30 – The “It Factor” is made, not born—how to build your own 50:00 – Parenting, pressure, and why your kid’s not emotionally behind—they’re overwhelmed 57:00 – How to start when the transformation feels too big 1:05:00 – Dopamine, discipline, and ditching the Reese’s egg (sometimes) 1:20:00 – Stage fright, fourth wall tricks, and helping kids feel safe being seen🎭 Connect with Jim Rojas Taylor📘 All Your Best Selves is available on Amazon now 📲 Follow Jim everywhere: @soycandie on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and BlueSky 🌐 soycandie.com (coming soon!)💥 Want to Build Emotional Literacy at Home?🧠 Join The SHIFT to rewire your nervous system, break generational cycles, and stop operating from burnout 📅 Book a 90-minute SHIFT Session to build your emotional gym routine 🎧 Catch the next episode of SHIFT Talking for more unfiltered truth about raising humans—including yourself

What happens when you build a life that looks “successful”—but feels like hell?In this raw, real, and soul-punching conversation, Davina sits down with business coach and podcaster Alan Lazaros to talk SHIFT about masculinity, emotional honesty, and what it takes to actually grow without selling your soul. From childhood trauma and identity loss to marriage, sobriety, and the silent suffering men face, this episode is a masterclass in owning your truth—even when the world isn’t ready for it.No predatory sales pitches. No performance bullshit. Just two humans telling the truth.⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:03:00 – Why parenting wrecks identity and how that affects men differently 10:00 – Alan’s story: childhood loss, trauma, and the pursuit of external validation 14:00 – The car crash that rewired his entire life 24:00 – Why most people fail at growth—and how ethical coaches can change that 35:00 – Davina’s origin story: debt, manipulation, and rebuilding with integrity 45:00 – Masculinity, therapy, and why men fear softness 58:00 – Parenting boys without raising future fuckboys 1:04:00 – Dick-measuring culture and what real masculinity looks like 1:17:00 – School talks, self-worth, and what ego really protects 1:24:00 – What it means to grow together—or be left behind🎙️ About Alan LazarosAlan Lazaros is the co-founder and host of Next Level University, a global podcast and coaching company dedicated to holistic personal development. With over 7,000 hours of 1:1 coaching and a no-BS, metrics-driven approach, Alan helps people grow in health, wealth, love, and life. He’s also a recovered workaholic, sober fitness model, and emotional regulation advocate who isn’t afraid to admit: he used to be a fuckboy too.👉 Connect with Alan:nextleveluniverse.comPodcast: Next Level UniversityIG: @alazaros88💥 Ready for Your Own SHIFT?🧠 Join the Parental SHIFT Program → asteadyspace.com/parentalshift📞 Book a Clarity Call → asteadyspace.com/contact🎧 Binge more episodes or get resources → asteadyspace.com/podcast📱 Let’s be friends on socials → TikTok + IG + YT: @yoursteadyspace

You’re doing the work. You’re growing. You’re unlearning. And it’s lonely as fuck.In this week’s SHIFT Rx, Davina gets all the way real about what no one tells you: personal development costs connection—and you have to do it anyway. From losing friendships to questioning your identity, the truth is that becoming who you’re meant to be is a death and a rebirth. And yes, grief is part of the process.This one’s for the people mid-shift: misunderstood, second-guessing, and wondering if it’s worth it. It is. This is your reminder to choose you—especially when no one else does.00:29 – Loneliness is the cost of entry into real growth01:05 – Why personal development often feels like abandonment02:39 – You’ll lose people—but you’ll finally find you03:48 – People will judge. Your job is to do it anyway05:08 – Parenting from your actual self (not your wounded one)07:20 – You don’t need their certainty to validate your shift08:52 – It’s okay to doubt. Just don’t let that stop you09:45 – If you’re not proud of you yet, I am11:39 – Being home in yourself is the cure for the loneliness💊 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with solitude, self-trust, and the reminder that loneliness isn’t proof you’re wrong—it’s proof you’re different now.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallGet in Touch:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYouTube: @asteadyspace Website: www.asteadyspace.com

You’re evolving—and it shows. But instead of applause, you're met with distance, side-eyes, or straight-up silence.This solo is for the transitional characters. The ones doing the inner work, setting the boundaries, shifting the cycles—and wondering why it feels so damn lonely. Not everyone wants you to stay stuck… but they were comfortable when you did.In this vulnerable and validating episode, Davina unpacks the painful side of becoming self-aware: the grief of being misunderstood, the frustration of misalignment, and the disorientation that hits when your inner upgrades aren’t mirrored back externally. You’re not too much. You’re just not for everyone anymore—and that’s the cost of choosing change.You’re not broken. You’re breaking patterns. And that’s holy work.🧠 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:03:28 – Growth as disruption: why your change threatens their comfort 04:40 – Your self-awareness is a mirror—and not everyone’s ready to look 06:13 – Why they’re not rooting against you (even when it feels like it) 07:41 – Confirmation bias, enmeshment, and the psychology of rejection 10:02 – “You’ve changed”—and why that’s a compliment 12:08 – Social pain, limbic alarm, and why loneliness hits harder now 14:50 – The grief no one talks about when you're the transitional character 17:18 – What to do when you outgrow the group chat 18:29 – SHIFT Framework in action: How to stay steady when the crowd thins 23:05 – Boundaries ≠ barriers: letting people meet you where you are 25:18 – You’re not meant to belong everywhere—you’re meant to be you🚨 Ready to stop parenting from old code? Join the Parental SHIFT and learn how to stop reacting from your past—and start leading from your actual self.🛠️ Take Action: → Book a Clarity Call → Join the Parental SHIFT📲 Stay Connected: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavina YouTube: @asteadyspace Website: www.asteadyspace.com✨ Join the Community Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Masculinity is cracking—and that’s a good thing. In this powerful, paradigm-breaking episode, I sit down with Jason Lange, men’s embodiment coach and founder of Evolutionary.Men, to talk about what’s actually holding men back from intimacy, healing, and fully living. Spoiler: it’s not just porn, patriarchy, or pride—it’s disconnection.This isn’t a “man up” conversation—it’s a real one. About vulnerability, emotional sobriety, parenting, partnership, and why every man deserves a space to be held, witnessed, and deeply seen.We go deep into men’s groups, shadow work, fatherhood, nervous system healing, sex as regulation, gender roles, and what changes when men stop relying on their partner to meet every emotional need. If you’re a man, love a man, or are raising one—this conversation could change everything.🧠 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:01:32 – Jason’s story: From awkward adolescence to men’s work 13:04 – Somatic shadow work: The body as the doorway to healing 17:38 – The power of witnessing other men’s vulnerability 21:31 – The regulation power of safe, healthy masculine touch 24:44 – What shadow work really looks like—and why it heals 29:04 – How men’s groups help relationships (and reduce pressure on partners) 32:41 – Emotional safety in men’s groups vs. romantic relationships 37:52 – Praise and presence: What masculine love can sound like 47:11 – Sex as emotional regulation: Why men ‘fuck the pain away’ 52:26 – Disembodiment and how boys are taught to override feeling 56:47 – The intimacy-chemistry paradox: Why it’s not clicking 01:03:24 – Losing friendships, gaining freedom: Outgrowing old dynamics 01:10:33 – Fatherhood, testosterone, and the transition men weren’t prepped for 01:14:02 – You want more sex? Do the damn dishes. 01:17:48 – The nervous system split: What she needs vs. what he’s feeling 01:20:37 – Sandpaper and sex: Why your wife isn’t in the mood 🔗 Connect with Jason Lange: Website: evolutionary.men Instagram: @evolutionary.men⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need to parent with power, presence, and peace.🛠️ Take Action: → Join The Parental SHIFT → Book a Clarity Call📲 Stay Connected: TikTok: @asteadyspace Instagram & Threads: @asteadyspace YouTube: @asteadyspace Website: www.asteadyspace.com

You say you want him to talk—but when he stays silent, what’s really going on?In this episode of SHIFT Rx, Davina unpacks the hidden wiring behind male emotional shutdown. Spoiler: he’s not emotionally unavailable—he’s emotionally unpracticed. And when you learn what’s happening inside his nervous system, you’ll stop blaming and start understanding.We’re talking conditioning, double standards, emotional safety, and how to stop flinching when softness finally shows up.If you’re loving a man, raising a boy, or trying to reconnect with a partner who won’t “just say what he feels”—this episode is required listening.⏱️ Timestamps00:02 – The truth behind “You want him to talk…” 00:36 – He’s not emotionally unavailable—he’s unpracticed 01:03 – What boys are taught (and what they’re punished for) 01:45 – Suicide stats, friendship gaps, and emotional load on partners 03:05 – Why “they did it to themselves” doesn’t hold up 03:32 – Silence ≠ apathy; it’s nervous system overload 04:04 – Vulnerability isn’t safe in his body, even if you’re safe 05:00 – Why we flinch when softness shows up 05:11 – What actually helps: presence, safety, clarity 06:15 – Don’t probe—pause. And model it. 07:28 – “He didn’t grow up learning to feel. You didn’t grow up knowing how to witness it.” 08:14 – You’ll both mess up. Stay anyway. 08:55 – Emotional expression isn’t feminine. It’s human.💊 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with presence, patience, and the reminder that his silence isn’t rejection—it’s rehearsal. You don't have to fix it; you just have to hold it.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

We say we want men to open up… But when they do, why do we flinch?In today's solo, Davina unpacks the invisible conditioning that makes male vulnerability feel unsafe, unattractive, or overwhelming to the very people asking for it. From personal stories to societal scripts, she names the tension many women hold: the craving for emotional intimacy and the recoil when it finally arrives.This is for the women raising men, loving men, or grieving the men they've lost—and for the men trying to be something other than stoic and shut down.This isn’t about coddling. This is about courage.03:22 – Do we flinch when he shifts? The identity crisis of feminine discomfort 04:55 – Childhood wiring: How we’re conditioned to expect stoicism from men 06:09 – Personal story: Her husband cried—and she didn’t know how to hold it 08:44 – Research: Women say we want emotion, but subconsciously reject it 10:04 – “Now I have to fix you too?” → Why male emotion triggers overwhelm 10:40 – The SHIFT Framework in action: unpacking the reaction 16:07 – Tools: What to say when he’s spiraling (and why he might not know what he needs) 19:10 – When softness shows up—do we welcome it or weaponize it? 21:05 – Soul’s friend: How emotional safety can deepen sexual and spiritual intimacy 22:31 – You want to feel him? Stay—even when it’s messy 24:29 – His tears aren’t collapse. They’re a rebuild.💭 SHIFT Rx (Tuesday) → Want Him to Talk? Here's Why He's Not🎙️ Guest Interview (Thursday) → Men's Coach Jason Lange joins us for a powerful conversation about men's mental health, masculinity, conditioning, and how to overcome our limitations.🚨 Want to stop parenting from old code?Join the Parental SHIFT and learn how to stop reacting from your past—and start leading from your actual self.Take Action:Book a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Sleep isn’t just about rest—it’s about regulation. And if your kid’s sleep is all over the place? Chances are, yours is too.In this wide-ranging, nonjudgmental, and surprisingly hilarious conversation with sleep coach Allison Egidi (yes, I pronounced it wrong last time!), we go deep into what’s really messing with your kid’s (and your) sleep—plus what you can do to fix it without flipping your entire life upside down.From nap transitions and circadian rhythms to pee cabinets and co-sleeping debates, this one is packed with real talk, compassionate strategy, and zero shame. Allison brings the science, the structure, and the soul to help you finally feel steady at bedtime… even when the whole house is feral.If you're parenting through exhaustion, guilt, or just trying to figure out if red lights actually help—this one’s for you.🧠 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:01:50 – Why pediatricians aren’t trained in sleep (and what that means for your family)06:33 – The sleep–mental health connection: tantrums, rage, and regulation13:35 – School struggles? It might be sleep—here’s how to know18:23 – Burnt out and overwhelmed? Why structure feels impossible (and what to do instead)23:01 – The 3-day rule that makes bedtime pushback way less brutal27:39 – Co-sleeping vs. independent sleep: the truth without judgment32:18 – The night-me vs. morning-me sabotage spiral—and how to shift it43:59 – Parenting without judgment (yours or theirs)48:41 – Nightmares, sleepwalking, grinding: what’s normal, what’s not55:32 – Why red light wins + what your sound machine might be doing wrong01:04:57 – Morning chaos? Use this tool to stop early wake-ups and sibling sabotage01:12:06 – Teaching kids to value sleep (without sounding like a lecture)🔗 Connect with Allison:Podcast: How Long Till BedtimeWebsite: sleepandwellnesscoach.comInstagram: @sleepandwellnesscoach⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspaceYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

Let’s cut the bullshit: you don’t need another sleep tracker. You need to stop setting tomorrow-you up to fail because tonight-you is avoiding her feelings.This is a spicy, straight-up voice note to the part of you that knows better but still stays up late watching Bravo and housing Sour Patch Kids (hi, same). This isn’t about shame. It’s about regulation, rhythm, and remembering who you are when you’re actually rested.00:02 – Sleep isn’t a luxury—it’s your nervous system’s non-negotiable 00:45 – Why we’re blaming the engine when we’re the driver 01:10 – We are plants: why your body craves rhythm, not chaos 01:35 – You know better. Here’s why that hasn’t changed behavior 02:30 – The power of getting away with it… and why that’s self-abandonment 03:00 – When we overcorrect: the cycle of 3 good nights → 10 trash ones 04:00 – Micro-shifts that actually stick: brush your teeth, dim the lights 05:50 – What tomorrow-you needs from you tonight 06:35 – Overachieving while sleep-deprived: how we glamorize dysfunction 07:10 – Anchor points for routines that don’t suck 07:45 – SHIFT Rx = Choosing regulation > the illusion of rebellion 08:15 – Without rest, peace isn’t possible. And your body wants peace 💊 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with curiosity, compassion, and the knowing that you've already suffered enough. You get to put it down now.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

aka: The Identity Crisis Hiding in Your Sleep ScheduleYou’re not bad at routines. You’re starving for yourself.This episode is a raw, real-time reflection on why we trade sleep for slivers of freedom—and what it costs us as parents, partners, and people trying to feel like ourselves again. We’re talking sleep sabotage, revenge bedtime procrastination, and the emotional tug-of-war between being responsible and being free.00:02 – Why this episode’s late & what that teaches about presence vs. planning01:30 – The truth: I teach regulation but still sabotage my own sleep03:40 – What sleep debt actually does to your emotional regulation04:20 – The 11PM me vs. the real me—chaos, cravings, and content plans05:45 – Why bedtime feels like the last taste of freedom06:40 – What I’m really grieving when I avoid sleep07:50 – Journal of Behavioral Sleep Medicine: revenge bedtime defined08:40 – Self-awareness: what’s the real need behind the delay?09:38 – Reframing routines: not losing the night, but winning the morning10:50 – Fortitude = Choosing rest as resistance11:50 – Transformation: rewriting the script of what rest means12:50 – Harvard Med stat: sleep loss reduces emotion recognition by 30%💭 SHIFT Rx (Tuesday) → Sleep isn't a luxury; it's our nervous system's non-negotiable🎙️ Guest Interview (Thursday) → Pediatric Sleep Coach Allison Egidi joins us for a powerful conversation about our little ones' sleep habits🚨 Want to stop parenting from old code?Join the Parental SHIFT and learn how to stop reacting from your past—and start leading from your actual self.Take Action:Book a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

This one’s a mic-drop moment from start to finish.In this soul-stretching conversation, I sit down with Leslie Lindsey Davis—a truth-teller, author, and certified breaker of generational patterns. Together, we talk perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, addiction, emotional literacy, parenting, marriage, and why self-forgiveness isn’t weakness—it’s necessary.We go deep into the practice of written self-conversations, how to build self-trust when the old you wants to run the show, and how to shift without shame—even when the change feels terrifying. Leslie shares the real reason many of us feel stuck, how to respond to emotional discomfort with curiosity (not control), and what it looks like to raise children differently when you weren’t raised with that same blueprint.Whether you’ve struggled with being “the strong one,” loving someone through addiction, or feeling like your best isn’t ever quite enough—this episode will leave you seen, softened, and steady.🔥 In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:00:04 – Editing control vs. letting go of perfectionism 03:15 – Childhood moments that shaped our “performer” identity 06:54 – The truth about being “the easy kid” and how it warps self-worth 12:26 – How self-talk teaches the world how to treat us 17:45 – From people-pleasing to boundaries: the shift that changes everything 22:36 – How written conversations can quiet your inner chaos 31:00 – The hardest part of healing with your partner (and doing it anyway) 44:10 – What to do instead of fixing people you love 47:00 – Why we don’t celebrate progress—but we should 54:15 – “Don’t Shoot the Dog”: Using positive reinforcement to shift behavior 58:03 – Emotional literacy at 14 months old? Leslie’s granddaughter is proof 1:02:00 – Stop labeling yourself. Start understanding your patterns. 1:15:00 – The lie that keeps you stuck: “He’s the problem. I’m the good one.” 1:21:00 – How to be brutally honest with yourself and finally shift🔗 Connect with Leslie:Website: youcanteatlove.comBook: You Can’t Eat LoveComing Soon: Learning to Trust Your Emotions: What Color Is My Shirt?⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspaceYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

You don’t have to suffer to prove you’ve changed.This week’s SHIFT Rx tackles the emotional toll of self-punishment—and why withholding forgiveness doesn’t make you strong, it just keeps you stuck. We’re flipping the script on what it really means to move forward after a mistake, especially if you’ve been conditioned to believe that grace has to be earned through shame, regret, and emotional isolation.Inside this short but seismic episode, we break down:Why you delay forgiving yourself (and how that’s not your fault)How nervous system regulation rewires shame-based behaviorThe physiological power of self-compassion (hello, heart rate variability)Practical ways to extend grace without losing accountabilityA fire SHIFT Framework to move from penance to personal powerIf you’ve ever felt like you needed to bleed before you could heal, this one’s for you.🧠 This isn’t therapy. This is neurological repair.🎧 In this episode:00:34 – Why we equate accountability with punishment01:27 – The inner critic vs. the inner caregiver02:40 – How to stop ruminating and start repairing05:14 – What real self-forgiveness requires07:02 – Stats: What shame does to our brain and body08:33 – Heart rate variability and emotional regulation10:42 – The truth: Grace isn’t optional—it’s your body’s medicine12:02 – SHIFT Framework for radical self-forgiveness💊 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with curiosity, compassion, and the knowing that you've already suffered enough. You get to put it down now.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

You aren’t broken. You’re on autopilot.Up to 97% of your day is driven by subconscious patterns. And guess what? Those patterns didn’t start with you—but they’re absolutely affecting how you parent, how you speak to yourself, and how you show up under pressure.In this episode, we’re naming what’s actually behind your spirals, shutdowns, and snap moments—and why it’s not a lack of love, but a brain that’s been running the same script since you were seven.💥 The good news? That script is editable.This is your crash course in mental reprogramming, emotional patterning, and how to consciously take back control of your reactions—using the SHIFT framework.🔍 In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why up to 97% of your behavior is unconscious—and how to shift thatWhat it really means to be on autopilot How to spot the inner voice that’s not yours (but still runs the show)The science behind your thought loops, self-talk, and stress spiralsHow to talk back to your programming and rewrite your responseHow to use the SHIFT framework to rewire your day-to-dayThe role of confirmation bias in keeping you stuckWhy it’s not your fault—but still your responsibility💭 SHIFT Rx (Tuesday) → “We only deserve grace when we’ve suffered enough”: busting that lie wide open. 🎙️ Guest Interview (Thursday) → Therapist Leslie Lindsey Davis joins us for a powerful conversation on identity, reparenting, and emotional leadership.🚨 Want to stop parenting from old code?Join the Parental SHIFT and learn how to stop reacting from your past—and start leading from your actual self.Take Action:Book a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Bev Mitelman, M.A., a therapist who doesn’t just teach attachment theory—she lived it, rewired it, and now helps others do the same.Together, we crack open how our earliest emotional environments shape the way we love, fight, flinch, chase, ghost, people-please, overfunction, or run like hell. We’re talking deep nervous system programming that runs 97% of our choices—and how to finally bring that shit into conscious awareness.This isn’t about labels. It’s about liberation.We go all in: anxious partners, avoidant ghosts, Disney princess myths, dopamine addiction, core wounds, subconscious survival scripts—and the long-haul work of healing your operating system without burning your life down in the process.If you've ever wondered:Why you're the one always chasingWhy healthy feels boringWhy conflict shuts you down or fires you upOr whether you’ve already screwed up your kid's attachment...This one’s for you. And no—you're not too far gone.You’ll hear:00:00 Meet Bev: Therapist, speaker, and secure AF06:00 WTF is attachment, really?10:45 Autopilot vs. updated operating systems14:30 You don’t “fix” it once—you practice it forever20:00 What anxious attachment actually looks like28:00 Secure parenting isn’t perfection—it’s predictability34:40 Why so many “butterflies” are actually red flags46:10 Addicted to chaos: how drama mimics dopamine54:00 What healing in partnership really sounds like01:03:00 The anxious-avoidant trap (and how to break it)01:15:00 What disorganized attachment really feels like01:25:00 Undoing the guilt: “Did I ruin my kid?”This episode is full of truth, tools, and total permission to rewrite your story. Whether you’re untangling your marriage, making peace with your past, or just figuring out how the hell to not pass it on—hit play.🎧 Listen. Save. Share with the parent, partner, or person who needs to hear they are not broken—just beautifully unfinished.⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Learn More About Bev Mitelman & Securely LovedTake Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspaceYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

SHIFT Rx: You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment StyleThink your attachment style defines your relationships forever? Think again.In this week’s SHIFT Rx, I'm breaking down the truth about attachment styles—and how they’re not life sentences, they’re survival strategies. You’ll learn why these patterns formed, how they show up in relationships, and most importantly, how to shift them through nervous system regulation, emotional awareness, and intentional change.Whether you struggle with anxious attachment, avoidant shutdowns, or a constant push-pull cycle, this episode gives you a map to interrupt those patterns and build new ones. You’ll walk away with practical tools from the SHIFT framework to help you reconnect with yourself, regulate your reactions, and create healthier relationship dynamics.This isn’t therapy. This is transformation.In this episode:00:34 – Understanding attachment styles as adaptive patterns 01:50 – The difference between explanation vs. excuse 03:20 – How language shapes your healing (or keeps you stuck) 04:45 – Your nervous system can relearn safety 06:00 – Applying the SHIFT Framework to change old patterns 09:00 – Micro-moves that interrupt anxious or avoidant cycles 09:45 – Final takeaway: You are not the child who needed this—you’re the adult who can choose different🔎 Keywords: attachment styles, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, relationship patterns, emotional regulation, nervous system healing, trauma-informed coaching, self-awareness, personal growth, SHIFT framework🎧 Subscribe to SHIFT Talking for weekly mental health coaching, emotional growth strategies, and real talk about becoming the transitional character in your family.💊 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with curiosity, accountability, and the belief that you can outgrow the patterns that once protected you.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

You aren't broken. You've been wired—long before you had a choice in the matter. And now? You’re likely parenting from that same wiring, wondering why it feels so damn hard to stay steady.This episode is about naming what actually drives our reactions as parents—and why it’s not a lack of love, but unhealed attachment wounds. If you’ve ever wondered why you spiral, shut down, smother, or second-guess yourself constantly, this one’s going to hit home.It’s not just you. It’s your wiring. And the best news? Patterns are programmable.This is your crash course on attachment, parenting, and what it means to rewire in real time—and it sets the stage for an incredible conversation coming Thursday with therapist and attachment specialist Bev Mitelman. Don’t miss it.In this episode, we talk SHIFT about:00:01 → Welcome to SHIFT Talking: The Mother's Day episode you didn’t know you needed01:32 → What if your parenting struggles aren’t personal—they’re patterned?03:50 → Understanding insecure attachment (and why nearly half of us have it)05:35 → Anxious, avoidant, disorganized: How each style impacts your kids07:12 → Generational coding: You’re not just parenting—you’re reliving your childhood10:20 → The stress, the shame, the science: Cortisol and insecure connection13:25 → It’s not your fault—but it is your responsibility15:52 → The SHIFT framework: A steady path to rewiring your reactions19:57 → Coming Thursday: Attachment healing with therapist Bev MitelmanJoin the Parental SHIFT if you’re ready to stop parenting from a trauma loop—and start leading from a steady, secure core.Take Action:Book a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with therapist Kayce Hodos—an expert in perinatal mental health and someone who’s deeply unafraid to tell the truth about motherhood.Together, we dismantle the myths that keep parents isolated: the pressure to feel instant love, the shame of postpartum identity loss, the fantasy that becoming a parent will heal your wounds instead of exposing them. Kayce opens up about her own postpartum experience, what she wishes she had known, and how the system continues to fail parents (especially moms) in their most vulnerable moments.We talk depression, rage, resentment, marriage, missed expectations, and the raw, invisible grief of becoming someone new. This isn’t about fear-mongering—it’s about giving parents informed consent on what’s actually ahead. This one’s honest, gutting, and empowering as hell. If you’re a parent, a partner, or someone who wants to do better by the people raising the next generation… hit play.You’ll hear:00:00 Meet Kayce Hodos: therapist, mom, and truth-teller02:30 The postpartum experience no one warned us about07:10 Identity crisis: “I didn’t know who I was anymore”14:00 Breastfeeding, blood, and being blindsided by motherhood24:10 Why moms feel failed—and how society gaslights their pain31:00 When support comes too late (and what that costs us)38:00 Marital conflict, identity death, and survival mode56:15 The shit no one says—but everyone feels01:01:00 Advice for partners who want to support struggling moms01:04:30 Pride, painkillers, and why asking for help feels so damn hardThis one’s not about judgment—it’s about truth. Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It reveals you.If you’ve ever felt like you're unraveling in a role that was supposed to make you whole… this episode is for you.🎧 Listen. Share. And send this to someone who deserves to hear they’re not failing—they’re just feeling the full truth of it all.⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Learn More About Kayce HodosMaternal Mental Health Hotline Champions: 1-833-TLC-MAMAMMHHC WebsiteTake Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a Clarity CallTikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspaceYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

This SHIFT Rx is for the parents, especially the moms, feeling like they're drowning in roles they thought would save them.We were sold the story that motherhood would give us purpose. Completion. Healing.But here's the truth: Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It exposes you. It doesn’t patch up your wounds—it peels back the layers and shows you exactly where the work is.This one’s not about judgment. It’s about naming the shift—the identity reckoning, the emotional rawness, the exhaustion, the grief, the guilt—and giving you a map to rebuild yourself inside it.Press play. Stay steady. And remember: you're not broken. You're becoming.You’ll hear:🔥 Why becoming a parent doesn’t erase your trauma—it reveals it 🔥 The disorientation of realizing you’ve lost your sense of self 🔥 Micro acts of reclamation to help you feel you again 🔥 How to mother yourself while mothering others 🔥 A SHIFT lens breakdown to help you come back home to youChapters00:34 Why we thought motherhood would “complete” us01:45 The truth about how parenting exposes old wounds03:30 What to do when you feel lost inside the role05:22 Tiny acts that rebuild self-trust and self-identity06:45 The SHIFT Framework for finding yourself again08:30 You don’t have to wait until they’re grown—start now09:45 Final truth: It’s on you… and that’s where the power is🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with radical honesty, gentle self-respect, and the courage to mother the one person who’s been neglected far too long: you.🎧 Listen, breathe, and send this to the mom who thinks she’s alone (spoiler: tell her she's not!)⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

You can love your kids fiercely and still fantasize about disappearing. You can be obsessed with their little faces and still feel like motherhood robbed you of your own. You can be the soft place they land—and still grieve the you who existed before the role took over.This episode isn’t about bashing motherhood. It’s about naming the parts of it no one talks about—so you can stop thinking you’re the only one drowning in love, guilt, rage, and grief all at once.This isn’t a hot take. It’s a love letter to the moms who feel like they’re faking it, surviving it, or silently screaming through it.You’re not alone. You’re not broken. And you sure as hell don’t have to do this the hard way.00:01 → Welcome to SHIFT Talking: The Mother's Day episode you didn’t know you needed 01:32 → The guilt, the rage, the whiplash: When you love your kids but hate the job 03:50 → These aren’t just feelings—they’re red flags and sirens. Let’s talk data. 05:35 → You can grieve your old life and love the hell out of your kids 07:12 → What nearly broke me—and what finally helped me put it back together 10:20 → Why I created the Parental SHIFT (and why I’m not shutting up about it) 13:25 → You don’t have to suffer to be worthy. Period. 15:52 → The SHIFT framework: Let’s rebuild your sense of self, one steady shift at a time 19:57 → Final truth: Wanting your own life back doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you ready.Join the Parental SHIFT if you’re ready to reclaim yourself from the role that was never meant to define all of you.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Dr. Bruce Chalmer—a seasoned couples therapist with decades of insight. We get into the real stuff: the 'oh shit' moments that wake people up in therapy, the messiness of faith and forgiveness, and why labeling someone a narcissist might be doing more harm than good.Bruce shares how vulnerability, curiosity, and a little discomfort are actually the point in healing work—and why genuine connection can’t be boxed into categories or quick fixes. We talk telehealth (spoiler: it’s not killing therapy), placebo effects, stats vs. soul, and why the goal isn’t always resolution — it’s growth.This one’s a blend of clinical wisdom and big-hearted truth. For anyone navigating relationships, therapy, or just trying to show up more fully—you’re gonna want to hit play.You’ll hear:🔥 Self-disclosure and why your therapist might (and maybe should) get a little persona🔥 The trap of diagnosis-driven treatment🔥 Why parenting might be the ultimate test of your emotional work🔥 The power of modeling instead of preaching🔥 The dance between disclosure, safety, and intimacy🔥 And yes... we touch on betrayal, repair, and what it really takes to stay00:00 Introduction to Bruce Chalmer and His Work06:05 Therapeutic Approaches and Boundaries14:56 The Essence of Couples Therapy in Seven Words17:55 Understanding the 'Oh Shit' Moment21:14 The Role of Technology in Therapy53:15 The Dangers of Hardening Categories in Therapy01:20:55 Navigating Parenting Challenges, Character Defects, Betrayal and Forgiveness⚡ Ready to shift? Join my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Learn More About Dr. Bruce Chalmer: Couples Therapy in 7 Words & His WebsiteTake Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace Youtube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Paoli—licensed therapist (x2 incoming), coach, and founder of the Rewire Mastermind—for a convo about the real differences between therapy and coaching, and how to get help without getting screwed.We unpack everything from licensing and insurance BS to the dangers of toxic positivity and performative wellness. If you’ve ever wondered whether you need a therapist or a coach (or if you’re a provider figuring out your own path) this one’s for you.🎧 Press play. Get steady. Keep shifting.05:42 How we each found (and left) the therapy path11:01 Neurodivergence, ADHD, and hormone-informed mental health16:35 Coaching vs. therapy: ethics, licensing, and naming your damn title20:20 The price of licensure and why so many therapists bail24:05 Why some grad schools ignore coaching entirely29:00 Insurance, diagnoses, and the permanent medical record no one talks about34:15 Why many therapists are exhausted (and underpaid)40:10 Vetting your coach—and why most trauma coaches scare us47:00 Why “mindset” isn’t enough52:20 Codependency in therapy, over-texting, and keeping clients too long58:00 Family systems, EMDR, and why therapy isn't one-size-fits-allGet in Touch with Lindsey Paoli:Instagram: @mindperformancetherapisthttps://www.lindseypaoli.com/⚡ Ready to shift?Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a free PREP CallGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspaceYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people don’t want to admit: Healing doesn’t always feel good. In fact, real healing often feels worse before it feels better.Yup. That discomfort you’re feeling? That loneliness? That questioning of everything you thought you knew? That’s not failure. That’s proof you're actually growing.This episode will shift the way you think about personal growth—from something that’s supposed to feel magical all the time to something that's gritty, real, and wildly worth it. We’re not sugarcoating healing around here. We’re giving you the real map so you don’t get lost when the work gets hard.Press play. Get steady. Keep shifting.You’ll hear:🔥 Why grief, loneliness, and self-doubt are signs of progress—not problems🔥 How healing forces you to outgrow old environments and patterns🔥 Why choosing yourself will make others uncomfortable (and why that's okay)🔥 The liberation waiting on the other side of the discomfortChapters00:32 8 reasons healing gets harder before it gets easier02:23 Why choosing yourself shifts everything around you03:15 Growth is destabilizing before it’s liberating04:50 The beauty of what’s on the other side of the struggle07:06 How healing changes your energy, your relationships, and your self-trust09:27 Final truths: Short-term pain, long-term power🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with patience, truth, and a fierce loyalty to your future self.🎧 Listen, breathe, and send this to that friend who thinks they’re "failing" at healing because it hurts.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people never get taught: Knowing whether you need a coach or a therapist can change your entire path.Yup. That uncertainty you’re feeling? That’s your intuition telling you: "I’m ready to grow. I just need the right guide."This episode will shift the way you think about getting help—from something shameful to something strategic. We’re not gatekeeping healing around here. We’re clearing the fog so you can move, grow, and finally pick support that actually fits where you're headed.This is for anyone who’s ever said:"Maybe I’m not struggling badly enough to get help.""I don’t know if I need therapy or if coaching would be better.""What if I pick the wrong person and waste my time?"Press play. Get clarity. Choose you.You’ll hear:🔥 The real difference between therapy and coaching (no bs, just facts) 🔥 Red flags and green flags for finding the right fit 🔥 Why not having a diagnosis doesn't mean you don't deserve help 🔥 How coaching and therapy actually work (and where they don’t overlap) 🔥 Why your healing is valid—no matter where you start🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with courage, clarity, and a commitment to your damn self.🎧 Listen, breathe, and send this to the friend who’s been doubting whether they're "worthy" of healing.Chapters:00:00Introduction to Coaching vs. Therapy01:28Understanding Therapy: Pros and Cons04:40Exploring Coaching: Pros and Cons05:52What Gets Addressed: Therapy vs. Coaching08:01Identifying Red Flags in Therapy and Coaching11:44Choosing the Right Support: Final Thoughts⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @asteadyspaceVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

Owning your healing journey isn’t about chasing a perfect version of yourself—it’s about getting honest, messy, and radically real about what growth actually feels like. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hard truths we rarely talk about: how easy it is to fake progress, perform healing, and unintentionally gaslight ourselves out of real change.If you’ve ever wondered “am I really healing, or just acting like I am?”, this episode will help you gut-check yourself with love—and show you how to get back on a real, sustainable path forward.I’ll break down:🔥 How to tell if you're performing healing—or actually living it🔥 Why growth doesn’t always feel good (and why that’s not a bad sign)🔥 The dangers of over-intellectualizing your emotions (and how it keeps you stuck)🔥 How to stop using labels (like ADHD, trauma, or personality disorders) as cages🔥 How to use the SHIFT framework (Self, Healing, Innovation, Fortitude, Transformation) to measure real progress—and stay steady when things feel messyThis episode isn’t about looking healed. It’s about building a life that feels steady—even when it’s still under construction.00:01 Welcome to SHIFT Talking: Why this conversation matters 05:55 This week’s theme: Are you really healing—or just performing it? 08:47 Early growth traps: Why progress feels easy at first (and then... doesn't) 13:41 My personal wake-up call: Healing isn’t performative 32:05 What real success looks like—and why it’s never about looking impressive 34:11 Final reminder: Healing is messy, nonlinear, and absolutely worth itThis episode is your reminder that you don’t heal by hating yourself into it—and you definitely don’t heal by faking it. You heal by choosing to show up, one messy, real, steady shift at a time.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFTBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Owning your path isn’t about waiting for a permission slip—it’s about choosing yourself loudly and on purpose. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own real, raw journey from disillusioned therapist-to-be to proud mental health coach. If you’ve ever felt trapped by other people’s expectations, fear of judgment, or your own self-doubt, this episode will show you how to finally reclaim your direction—and your power.I’ll break down:🔥 Why waiting for permission keeps you stuck (and how to build true self-trust)🔥 How owning your career path—even if it looks different—can transform your life🔥 The hidden dangers of seeking external validation (and how it sabotages your success)🔥 My personal struggle with the coaching industry ick—and how I finally shifted my mindset🔥 How to use the SHIFT framework (Self, Healing, Innovation, Fortitude, Transformation) to choose your path with clarity and confidenceThis episode isn’t about chasing titles or impressing anyone. It’s about rooting yourself so deeply in your purpose that nobody else’s approval gets to define you.03:01 Shift Talking updates: New posting schedule and what’s changing05:55 This week’s theme: Owning your path without permission08:47 My therapy-to-coaching career shift (and the identity crisis it triggered)13:41 Why the coaching industry made me hesitant—and how I reframed it24:06 Building self-trust using the SHIFT framework30:33 Finding fortitude: From "who am I to do this?" to "if not me, who?"32:05 Choosing impact over perfection: Redefining success on your terms34:11 Your reminder: You don’t need permission to become who you are.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFT Book a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Hey friend—here’s your reminder that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out… they’re about keeping you from disappearing.This SHIFT Rx hits you with the boldest truth most people don’t want to admit: People pleasing is manipulation.Yup. That uncomfortable squirm in your gut? That’s your nervous system realizing that playing nice was never the same as being kind.This episode will shift the way you think about boundaries—from something you set to something you live by. We’re going deeper than surface-level scripts. We’re unpacking the real reason boundaries feel so hard and why they blow up relationships that were never steady to begin with.This is for anyone who’s ever said:“I don’t want to upset them.”“I just want to be a good partner/friend/person.”“Why do I always end up resentful?”Press play.You’ll hear:🔥 The truth about people pleasing (and why it’s not as noble as you thought) 🔥 Why early relationship “amenability” leads to long-term resentment 🔥 How to tell if your boundary is actually just control in disguise 🔥 The biggest lie we tell ourselves about keeping the peace 🔥 A real-time breakdown of what actual boundaries sound like (and what they don’t)No guilt. No groveling. No more mistaking self-erasure for love.🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with water, truth, and a backbone.🎧 Listen, breathe, and forward this to the one friend still calling control a boundary.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFT Book a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled.SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send—the one that reminds you you’re not crazy, you’re just growing. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and self-help fluff.Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your “why TF does this feel so lonely?” spiral—calling you in, not out, with a mix of strategy, soul, and lived experience.Not here to make you palatable—here to make you powerful.Let’s get you STEADY AF.In this raw and real episode, I’m answering one of the most uncomfortable truths in growth work: “Why do my friends and family seem to hate that I’m changing?”Short answer? Because your evolution makes their stagnation uncomfortable.Longer answer? Press play.You’ll hear:🔥 What it really means when someone says “you’ve changed” (hint: mission accomplished)🔥 How to process the grief of outgrowing old dynamics🔥 Why guilt is part of it—and why it doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong🔥 The real boundary flex: letting them be uncomfortable while you stay steady🔥 How to know when it’s time to create distance vs. repair the connectionNo fluff. No people-pleasing. No pretending this part doesn’t suck. Just the reminder that you are not “too much”—you’re just finally being enough for yourself.🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take it with water and a boundary.🎧 Hit play, then forward it to someone who needs permission to keep growing—even if it pisses people off.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFT Book a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled.SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send that you didn’t know you needed. You’ll get straight answers to the messy questions keeping you stuck—minus the sugarcoat and the self-help fluff.Each episode is like a voice note I’d send after your 10 p.m. “why TF do I keep doing this” text—calling you in, not out, with a combo of strategy, science, and mutual respect.Not here to soothe your ego—here to shift your sh*t.Let’s get you STEADY AF.In this spicy little episode, I’m answering one of the most asked (and least answered) questions: “Why do I keep ending up in toxic dynamics?”Short answer? It’s not just them.Long answer? Press play.You’ll hear:🔥 The hard truth about patterns (and how you contribute to your own suffering)🔥 Why healing isn’t about 12 years of therapy—it’s about acceptance and action🔥 The real reason you’re drawn to the same dysfunction on repeat🔥 How to tell if someone’s solid chocolate or just a hollow shell wrapped in shiny foil (yes, we’re talking Easter bunnies AND people)No sugarcoating. No scripts. No “just love yourself” B.S. Just real talk, practical insight, and the push you didn’t know you needed—from your favorite professional friend who gives a damn.🩺 This is your SHIFT Rx. Take as needed.🎧 Hit play, then share with someone who needs to hear it.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need.Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFT Book a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.

We’ve all been there: confidently repeating something we thought was true… only to find out later it’s not. This episode? That’s me. Owning it. Because I got got—and it matters.So why not just stay quiet and move on? Because accountability matters—and I’m modeling the SHIFT.In this episode, I’ll walk you through:🔥 The real reason it’s so hard to admit we’re wrong (and what it does to our nervous system) 🔥 How confirmation bias and cognitive dissonance sneak into our parenting and beliefs 🔥 What I did instead of spiraling into shame—and how you can too 🔥 Why defensiveness kills growth, and how transparency builds credibility 🔥 How to use my SHIFT framework to move through mistakes instead of being paralyzed by themThis isn’t just about a mistake. It’s about self-awareness, healing, and becoming the kind of adult we want our kids to model. Because being wrong isn’t the problem. Staying wrong is.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Sign up in the show notes!03:00 Confirmation Bias & How It Hit Me05:27 The SHIFT Framework in Real Time07:52 Shame vs. Guilt: Why This Hit So Hard10:10 Fortitude, Feedback, and Public Growth12:33 Transparency > Perfection14:59 How You React When Challenged (And What To Do Differently)Take Action:Join The Parental SHIFT WaitlistBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Parenting advice is everywhere, but most of it skips the biggest factor—you. In this episode, we’re flipping the script on traditional parenting strategies and focusing on what really changes the game: your emotional state, your regulation, your healing. If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering why no tactic seems to work, this is for you.I’ll break down: 🔥 Why parenting isn’t about controlling your kid—it’s about steadying yourself 🔥 The 10-second check-in that will change how you react (and prevent meltdowns—for both of you) 🔥 How unhealed childhood wounds shape your parenting—and how to break the cycle 🔥 Why “just stay calm” is bullsh*t advice* (and what actually works instead)We’re not memorizing scripts. We’re not sugarcoating. This is real parenting for real people—with strategies you can actually use.⚡ Ready to shift? Join the FREE 30-day trial of my Parental SHIFT program and get the support, skills, and community you need. Sign up in the show notes!03:00 Shallow Waters of Healing09:11 The Role of Social Interaction12:03 Creating Rituals and Habits18:10 Integrating Wellness into Daily Life21:07 The Balance of Positivity and Reality26:49 Navigating Mental Health and Agency29:46 The Journey of Healing and GrowthTake Action:Join The Parental SHIFT WaitlistBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Welcome back to Shift Talking! In Part 2 of my conversation with Carl Dietz, we dive into how microdosing healing through small, daily actions can create real, lasting change—without the overwhelm.Carl shares the science behind behavioral microshifts, the power of shallow healing, and how Nubellum’s app is designed to help you find what works for you in under two minutes a day. If you’ve ever struggled to stick with meditation, breathwork, or habit-building, this episode will change the way you think about mental health and self-improvement.🔹 Didn’t catch Part 1? Listen here!03:00 Shallow Waters of Healing09:11 The Role of Social Interaction12:03 Creating Rituals and Habits18:10 Integrating Wellness into Daily Life21:07 The Balance of Positivity and Reality26:49 Navigating Mental Health and Agency29:46 The Journey of Healing and GrowthTakeawaysOur brain filters out the unimportant, which can sometimes be meaningful.The goal of healing is to move from unconsciously unwell to unconsciously well.Shallow waters of healing allow for low-pressure exploration of wellness activities.Novel and quirky social behaviors can stimulate the brain's healing response.Creating rituals from enjoyable activities can lead to lasting habits.Mindfulness practices can be integrated into daily routines easily.Agency in mental health is crucial for personal growth.Take Action:Learn More about NubellumBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendJoin The Parental SHIFT WaitlistGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

Can you really heal your mind and body without medication? In this episode of Shift Talking, I sit down with Carl Dietz, co-founder of Nubellum, to dive into the placebo effect, brain chemistry, and how our minds can trigger real physiological healing—without pharmaceuticals.Carl shares fascinating insights into how the brain naturally produces neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, why some medications work primarily due to belief, and what New Bellum is doing to revolutionize self-directed healing.This is Part 1 of our conversation—stay tuned for Part 2, where we break down their innovative new app and how it aims to help users hack their own biology for better mental health.00:00 The Quest for Homeostasis in Mental Health04:40 Introducing Nubellum: A New Approach to Healing16:58 The Placebo Effect: Unlocking the Brain's Healing Power27:24 The Role of Gut Health in Mental Well-being36:02 The Journey to Unconscious Competence in HealingTakeawaysYour brain is always seeking homeostasis where everything is balanced just right.Nubellum aims to develop tools that help people control their physiology through consciousness.The placebo effect demonstrates the brain's natural healing response.The journey to healing involves moving from conscious incompetence to unconscious competence.Gut health plays a crucial role in mental well-being and overall health.Self-care practices can be as effective as pharmaceuticals in managing mental health.The brain is capable of generating its own healing responses without external drugs.Take Action:Learn More about NubellumBook a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendJoin The Parental SHIFT WaitlistGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.

In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during conflicts. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness and resilience in navigating emotional challenges, ultimately aiming for personal transformation and healthier relationships.01:01 Understanding Conflict in Relationships07:07 Barriers to Effective Conflict Resolution10:04 The Shift Framework for Repairing Relationships18:12 Repairing Conflict with Children26:39 Modeling Repair for Emotional Intelligence38:02 Transforming Conflict into ConnectionTakeawaysConflict is a natural part of relationships and how we handle it matters.Effective repair can strengthen trust and emotional resilience.Unresolved conflict is a leading cause of divorce and workplace disengagement.Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing our role in conflicts.Taking accountability is essential for effective conflict resolution.Children learn emotional intelligence through observing conflict resolution.Modeling repair helps children develop better relationships as adults.Conflict should be viewed as an opportunity for deeper connection.Consistent and intentional repair fosters stronger relationships.The SHIFT Framework provides actionable steps for repairing relationships.Take Action:Book a PREP CallBecome a STEADY FriendJoin The Parental SHIFT WaitlistGet in Touch: Follow Davina on social media for more resources, tips, and insights into emotional literacy and personal growth:TikTok: @asteadyspaceInstagram & Threads: @asteadyspace | @your_steady_space | @shifttalkingwithdavinaYoutube: @shifttalkingwithdavinaVisit www.asteadyspace.com for more information about coaching services and programs.Join the Community: Ready to take the next step in your emotional growth journey? Join the Steady Space community for exclusive content, monthly Q&As, and tools to help you stay steady and get your shift together.