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SHIFT Talking™
by Davina Hehn
Get your SHIFT™ together. 🎙️ SHIFT Talking is where raw truths meet real change. Host Davina Hehn, MA in Forensic & Counseling Psychology, Anger Intelligence™ creator, executive coach, and the professional friend you never knew you needed, brings the missing curriculum most of us were never taught: anger literacy, emotional intelligence, and radical self-responsibility. Season 2 goes deep on the one emotion everyone's been taught to fix, suppress, or apologize for. We're not here to manage your anger. We're here to help you understand it because when you do, it stops running your relationships on autopilot and starts working for you. Some episodes are bold solo truths. Others are unfiltered conversations with voices who know what real change actually takes. Always honest, always steady, never sugarcoated. Ready to stop reacting and start leading yourself? Join <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://asteadys
Episodes
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Welcome to SHIFT Talking
Season 2 is here! And it's not all theory but it is all truth. I didn't get into anger work because I had it figured out. I got into it to fix my husband. Spoiler: I was a really big part of the problem too. We were drowning: reactive, defensive, resentful, barely holding it together, and we…
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71: Guest | “She Kept Me Alive”: A Daughter's Story of Suicide, Secrets, and Healing with Lisa Sugarman
Some secrets protect us. Others keep us from healing. In this profoundly honest episode, I sit down with author, mental health advocate, and suicide loss survivor Lisa Sugarman. Lisa shares how she discovered (35 years later) that her father’s sudden death was actually suicide, a truth her mother...
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70: GUEST | The 4 Emotional Needs Your Kids Need You to Meet with Richard O'Keefe
Most parenting books tell you what to fix. This one tells you why it’s broken. In this deeply grounded episode, I sit down with Richard O’Keefe: father of six, grandfather of 23 (!), great-grandfather of four (!!), and author of 9-1-1: What Is Your Parenting Emergency?. Richard teaches parenting...
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69: GUEST | Your Kids Are Not Your Purpose with Wedeh Guar
You’re not selfish. You’re not broken. And you’re damn sure not failing. You’re just a single mom living in a world that applauds your exhaustion and punishes your boundaries. In this powerful and validating episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist and Solo Shift podcast host Wedeh Guar, a woman...
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68: GUEST | The Masculinity Lie That Almost Killed Him with Kevin Palmieri
He thought money would fix it. It didn’t. In this open-hearted and deeply honest episode, I sit down with Kevin Palmieri, co-founder and CFO of Next Level University, to unpack the silent suffering so many men carry, and the identity death it takes to finally come alive. They talk about…
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67: GUEST | What No One Told You About Sex, Self-Care & Perimenopause with Amita Sharma
You don’t just wake up one day in menopause. You’ve been in the transition for years and no one warned you. In this eye-opening, stigma-breaking episode, I'm joined by Amita Sharma, founder of NourishDoc and creator of an affordable, expert-led perimenopause self-care app. Together, we tackle the...
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66: GUEST | Stop Waiting to Be Chosen with Fanny Tristan
Being single isn’t a waiting room. It’s the classroom. The mirror. The runway. The f*cking launchpad. In this richly layered episode, I'm joined by Fanny Tristan, trauma-informed LCSW turned coach and founder of Her Soul Supply, to unpack the emotional gymnastics so many women perform in the...
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65: GUEST | Why Your Kid Can’t Handle Hard Things with Leroy Slanzi
Grades aren't the problem. Emotional illiteracy is. In this bold and expansive episode, Davina sits down with Leroy Slanzi, Canadian principal and founder of Emotional Schools, to unpack what’s really going on in classrooms (and homes) today. From emotional regulation in 5-year-olds to burnout in...
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64: GUEST | Always Misunderstood? The 4 Zones of Communication with Lynn Quinn
Ever feel like you’re speaking English, but your partner hears Martian? You’re not alone. This week on SHIFT Talking, I sat down with Lynn Quinn, author, cognitive architect, and creator of the Four Zones of Communication framework. We dug into why most of us live on autopilot, how our words…
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63: GUEST | Stuck in Shame, Guilt, or Anxiety? How to Raise Your Consciousness with Kerie Logan
What if healing wasn’t about fixing, but about raising your consciousness? This week on SHIFT Talking, I sat down with Keri Logan, clinical hypnotherapist, author, and creator of Master the Upper Rooms. Keri has spent decades helping people release trauma, forgive the unforgivable, and step into...
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62: GUEST | Biohacking Your Mind & Manifesting Your Life with Dr. Cali Estes
Ever wonder why traditional fixes never seem to fix the real problem? This week, I sat down with Dr. Cali Estes, addiction specialist, coach, and biohacking pioneer, who has spent nearly three decades helping people break cycles of overwhelm, addiction, and burnout by addressing the real why…
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61: GUEST | How to Stop Over-Functioning and Start Living with Barb Nangle
If you’ve ever felt like your worth depended on what you did for others, this episode will hit you straight in the nervous system. I sit down with Barb Nangle, boundaries coach, podcast host, and recovery warrior for a deep conversation about how compulsive people-pleasing, codependency, and...
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60: GUEST | How to Save Your Marriage Before It's Too Late with Shellie R. Warren
What if the real fairy tale starts after the wedding? In this raw, hilarious, and deeply intimate episode, I sit down with Shellie R. Warren, three-time author, marriage life coach, and doula, for a conversation that unpacks what nobody’s telling you about marriage, friendship, sex, and spiritual...
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59: GUEST | From Numbing to Nourishing: Breaking Free from Habits That Hurt with Anna Shilina
What if the habits you think are “healthy” are actually keeping you stuck? In this intimate and electrifying conversation, Davina sits down with Habit Freedom author and human behavior specialist Anna Shilina to unpack how trauma shows up in productivity, drinking, “earning” sugar binges, and...
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58: GUEST | Toxic Divorce, Legal Gaslighting & Staying Steady in Chaos with Lisa Johnson
What happens when the legal system becomes another layer of abuse? In this fierce and validating conversation, Davina sits down with Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, to talk about the devastating realities of toxic relationships, high-conflict divorce, and the legal gaslighting...
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57: GUEST | Life Without a Tie: Reinvention, Intuition & the Power of Letting Go with Ray Martin
Mastering the Mirror: Courage, Growth, and Emotional Truth with Ray Martin What if your biggest breakthrough was hiding inside your hardest truth? In this bold, soul-stretching conversation, Davina sits down with Ray Martin—an award-winning business leader, executive coach, and author of Life...
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56: GUEST | Archetypes, Parenting Projections & the Myth of the One True You with Eric Gee
🧠 Personality, Parenting & The Power of Knowing Yourself—with Eric Gee What do sharks, dolphins, and fascists have in common? They're all part of Eric Gee's wild and wickedly accurate personality typing system. In this episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Eric Gee, author of The Power...
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55: GUEST | Emotional Literacy, Shape-Shifting & the Actor’s Guide to Self-Mastery with James Rojas Taylor
🔥 Emotional Literacy Isn’t Just for Actors—It’s the Tool You’ve Been Missing In this mind-bending, soul-stretching episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Jim Rojas Taylor—former Marine, actor, author, and emotional literacy evangelist—who flips the script on how we teach regulation,...
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54: GUEST | From Breakdown to Breakthrough: Masculinity, Sobriety & The Cost of Becoming Who You Really Are with Alan Lazaros
What happens when you build a life that looks “successful”—but feels like hell? In this raw, real, and soul-punching conversation, Davina sits down with business coach and podcaster Alan Lazaros to talk SHIFT about masculinity, emotional honesty, and what it takes to actually grow without selling...
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53: SHIFT Rx | Lonely While Healing? Good. You're Doing It Right
You’re doing the work. You’re growing. You’re unlearning. And it’s lonely as fuck. In this week’s SHIFT Rx, Davina gets all the way real about what no one tells you: personal development costs connection—and you have to do it anyway. From losing friendships to questioning your identity, the truth...
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52: The Lonely Road to Growth: Why Personal Development Feels So Isolating
You’re evolving—and it shows. But instead of applause, you're met with distance, side-eyes, or straight-up silence. This solo is for the transitional characters. The ones doing the inner work, setting the boundaries, shifting the cycles—and wondering why it feels so damn lonely. Not everyone…
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51: GUEST | When Men Heal Together: Jason Lange on Embodiment, Brotherhood, and the Shift That Changes Everything
Masculinity is cracking—and that’s a good thing. In this powerful, paradigm-breaking episode, I sit down with Jason Lange, men’s embodiment coach and founder of Evolutionary.Men, to talk about what’s actually holding men back from intimacy, healing, and fully living. Spoiler: it’s not just porn,...
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50: SHIFT Rx | You Want Him To Talk? Here's Why He's Not
You say you want him to talk—but when he stays silent, what’s really going on? In this episode of SHIFT Rx, Davina unpacks the hidden wiring behind male emotional shutdown. Spoiler: he’s not emotionally unavailable—he’s emotionally unpracticed. And when you learn what’s happening inside his…
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49: His Tears Made Me Flinch - and I Had To Face Why
We say we want men to open up… But when they do, why do we flinch? In today's solo, Davina unpacks the invisible conditioning that makes male vulnerability feel unsafe, unattractive, or overwhelming to the very people asking for it. From personal stories to societal scripts, she names the tension...
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48: GUEST | The Sleep Episode Every Parent Needs with Allison Egidi: Bedtime Battles, Wake-ups & Pee ... Where?!
Sleep isn’t just about rest—it’s about regulation. And if your kid’s sleep is all over the place? Chances are, yours is too. In this wide-ranging, nonjudgmental, and surprisingly hilarious conversation with sleep coach Allison Egidi (yes, I pronounced it wrong last time!), we go deep into what’s...
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47: SHIFT Rx | Sleep Isn't a Luxury, It's Our Nervous System's Non-Negotiable
Let’s cut the bullshit: you don’t need another sleep tracker. You need to stop setting tomorrow-you up to fail because tonight-you is avoiding her feelings. This is a spicy, straight-up voice note to the part of you that knows better but still stays up late watching Bravo and housing Sour Patch...
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46: Why I Stay Up Late Even Though I Know Better
aka: The Identity Crisis Hiding in Your Sleep Schedule You’re not bad at routines. You’re starving for yourself. This episode is a raw, real-time reflection on why we trade sleep for slivers of freedom—and what it costs us as parents, partners, and people trying to feel like ourselves again.…
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45: GUEST | Parenting, Pain, and Progress: Rewriting the Rules with Leslie Lindsey Davis
This one’s a mic-drop moment from start to finish. In this soul-stretching conversation, I sit down with Leslie Lindsey Davis—a truth-teller, author, and certified breaker of generational patterns. Together, we talk perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, addiction, emotional literacy,...
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44: SHIFT Rx | I Didn't Know How to Forgive Myself Until I Learned This
You don’t have to suffer to prove you’ve changed. This week’s SHIFT Rx tackles the emotional toll of self-punishment—and why withholding forgiveness doesn’t make you strong, it just keeps you stuck. We’re flipping the script on what it really means to move forward after a mistake, especially if...
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43: The Power of Subconscious Programming & How to Rewire It
You aren’t broken. You’re on autopilot. Up to 97% of your day is driven by subconscious patterns. And guess what? Those patterns didn’t start with you—but they’re absolutely affecting how you parent, how you speak to yourself, and how you show up under pressure. In this episode, we’re naming…
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42: GUEST | Attachment Styles Aren't Personality Types - They're Survival Strategies with Bev Mitelman, M.A.
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Bev Mitelman, M.A., a therapist who doesn’t just teach attachment theory—she lived it, rewired it, and now helps others do the same. Together, we crack open how our earliest emotional environments shape the way we love, fight, flinch, chase, ghost,...
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41: SHIFT Rx | You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment Style
SHIFT Rx: You’re Not Stuck with Your Attachment Style Think your attachment style defines your relationships forever? Think again. In this week’s SHIFT Rx, I'm breaking down the truth about attachment styles—and how they’re not life sentences, they’re survival strategies. You’ll learn why these...
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40: What I Wish I Knew About Attachment Style Before I Became A Parent (& Happy Mother's Day!)
You aren't broken. You've been wired—long before you had a choice in the matter. And now? You’re likely parenting from that same wiring, wondering why it feels so damn hard to stay steady. This episode is about naming what actually drives our reactions as parents—and why it’s not a lack of love,...
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39: GUEST | Kayce Hodos on Postpartum, Identity Loss, and Giving Moms Permission to Hate the Hard Parts
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with therapist Kayce Hodos—an expert in perinatal mental health and someone who’s deeply unafraid to tell the truth about motherhood. Together, we dismantle the myths that keep parents isolated: the pressure to feel instant love, the shame of postpartum…
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38: SHIFT Rx | Motherhood Doesn't Fix You, It Exposes You
This SHIFT Rx is for the parents, especially the moms, feeling like they're drowning in roles they thought would save them. We were sold the story that motherhood would give us purpose. Completion. Healing. But here's the truth: Motherhood doesn’t fix you. It exposes you. It doesn’t patch up your...
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37: Mother's Day Share: When You Love Your Kids But Hate Motherhood
You can love your kids fiercely and still fantasize about disappearing. You can be obsessed with their little faces and still feel like motherhood robbed you of your own. You can be the soft place they land—and still grieve the you who existed before the role took over. This episode isn’t about...
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36: GUEST | Dr. Bruce Chalmer & the "Oh Sh*t" Moment in Healing
In this episode, we’re talking SHIFT with Dr. Bruce Chalmer—a seasoned couples therapist with decades of insight. We get into the real stuff: the 'oh shit' moments that wake people up in therapy, the messiness of faith and forgiveness, and why labeling someone a narcissist might be doing more…
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35: GUEST | Everything You Need to Know About Therapy & Coaching with Lindsey Paoli
In this episode, I sit down with Lindsey Paoli—licensed therapist (x2 incoming), coach, and founder of the Rewire Mastermind—for a convo about the real differences between therapy and coaching, and how to get help without getting screwed. We unpack everything from licensing and insurance BS to…
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34: SHIFT Rx | Why "Doing The Work" Doesn't Always Feel Good (Spoiler Alert: It's Not Supposed to)
This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people don’t want to admit: Healing doesn’t always feel good. In fact, real healing often feels worse before it feels better. Yup. That discomfort you’re feeling? That loneliness? That questioning of everything you thought you knew? That’s not failure....
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33: SHIFT Rx | Coach vs Therapy: How to Choose the Right Help for You
This SHIFT Rx hits you with the truth most people never get taught: Knowing whether you need a coach or a therapist can change your entire path. Yup. That uncertainty you’re feeling? That’s your intuition telling you: "I’m ready to grow. I just need the right guide." This episode will shift the…
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32: Are We Really Healing—or Just Performing Wellness?
Owning your healing journey isn’t about chasing a perfect version of yourself—it’s about getting honest, messy, and radically real about what growth actually feels like. In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the hard truths we rarely talk about: how easy it is to fake progress,...
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31: Own Your Path Without Permission: How I'm Building True Self-Trust
Owning your path isn’t about waiting for a permission slip—it’s about choosing yourself loudly and on purpose. In today’s episode, I’m sharing my own real, raw journey from disillusioned therapist-to-be to proud mental health coach. If you’ve ever felt trapped by other people’s expectations, fear...
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30: SHIFT Rx | Boundaries, People Pleasing, and the Manipulation You Didn't Mean to Do
Hey friend—here’s your reminder that boundaries aren’t about keeping people out… they’re about keeping you from disappearing. This SHIFT Rx hits you with the boldest truth most people don’t want to admit: People pleasing is manipulation. Yup. That uncomfortable squirm in your gut? That’s your...
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29: SHIFT Rx | They’ll Say You’ve Changed—And They’re Right
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send—the one that reminds you you’re not crazy, you’re…
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28: SHIFT Rx | Tired of Toxic People? Here's How to Break the Pattern for Good
Hey friend—your prescription for perspective just got filled. SHIFT Rx is your quick-hit dose of behavior change, nervous system know-how, and communication clarity. Think of it like the voice note your most emotionally steady friend would send that you didn’t know you needed. You’ll get straight...
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27: No, Your Kid Isn’t 800% Worse for You—Here’s What’s Actually Going On
We’ve all been there: confidently repeating something we thought was true… only to find out later it’s not. This episode? That’s me. Owning it. Because I got got—and it matters. So why not just stay quiet and move on? Because accountability matters—and I’m modeling the SHIFT. In this episode…
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26: Fixing Yourself First: The Parenting SHIFT That Changes Everything
Parenting advice is everywhere, but most of it skips the biggest factor—you. In this episode, we’re flipping the script on traditional parenting strategies and focusing on what really changes the game: your emotional state, your regulation, your healing. If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and...
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25: Forget Breakthroughs—Here’s How to Heal in 10 Minutes a Day with Carl Dietz (Part 2)
Welcome back to Shift Talking! In Part 2 of my conversation with Carl Dietz, we dive into how microdosing healing through small, daily actions can create real, lasting change—without the overwhelm. Carl shares the science behind behavioral microshifts, the power of shallow healing, and how...
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24: The Placebo Effect & Brain Chemistry Hacks with Carl Dietz (Part 1)
Can you really heal your mind and body without medication? In this episode of Shift Talking, I sit down with Carl Dietz, co-founder of Nubellum, to dive into the placebo effect, brain chemistry, and how our minds can trigger real physiological healing—without pharmaceuticals. Carl shares...
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23: What to Do After the Fight: Repairing, Reconnecting, and Getting Real
In this episode, Davina discusses strategies for managing conflict effectively, focusing on recognizing escalation signals, utilizing the power of pauses, and employing grounding techniques. She emphasizes the importance of vulnerability, disarming statements, and setting boundaries during...
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ABOUT THIS SHOW
Get your SHIFT™ together.
🎙️ SHIFT Talking is where raw truths meet real change. Host Davina Hehn, MA in Forensic & Counseling Psychology, Anger Intelligence™ creator, executive coach, and the professional friend you never knew you needed, brings the missing curriculum most of us were never taught: anger literacy, emotional intelligence, and radical self-responsibility.
Season 2 goes deep on the one emotion everyone's been taught to fix, suppress, or apologize for. We're not here to manage your anger. We're here to help you understand it because when you do, it stops running your relationships on autopilot and starts working for you.
Some episodes are bold solo truths. Others are unfiltered conversations with voices who know what real change actually takes. Always honest, always steady, never sugarcoated.
Ready to stop reacting and start leading yourself? Join <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://asteadys
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Get your SHIFT™ together. 🎙️ SHIFT Talking is where raw truths meet real change. Host Davina Hehn, MA in Forensic & Counseling Psychology, Anger Intelligence™ creator, executive coach, and the professional friend you never knew you needed, brings the missing curriculum most of us were never...
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