#67 - Why Should I Care What Jerks Think About Me?

In high school, I sat backstage during play rehearsal listening to some of the starring boys loudly criticize the girls performing on stage. Curious—and maybe a little bold—I joked, “Wow… I wonder what you’d be saying about me if I was up there.”Without hesitation, one of them answered: “What a big butt you have.”That moment gave me all the feels you would think a teen would feel. But it also helped me realize how easily we hand our confidence over to other people, especially when they are rude. In this episode, I unpack one of the most freeing questions I’ve ever asked myself:Why do I care what people like that think about me?We talk about:Why cruel opinions often reveal more about the speaker than the person being judgedHow comparison and insecurity lead people to tear others downThe lesson my mom taught me about understanding people without excusing harmful behaviorThe difference between someone having access to speak and having authority over your self-worthHow to stop giving influence to voices that don’t deserve itFrom high school rehearsals to social media comments to everyday comparisons, this episode is about learning to filter opinions instead of absorbing them.Because not everyone who speaks about you deserves space in your self-concept.