68: The Untold Story, Get Out of Your Own Way, and NARM with Bianka Hardin

I’d like to welcome to the podcast Bianka Hardin, my friend, colleague, and previous supervisor when I was a holistic psychotherapist. Bianka taught me the lived experience of self-care, intention, and the power of visualization.Listen in on our unique story of synchronicity in each other’s lives plus a rich conversation about:Bianka’s journey into developing more safety and enjoyment in her body and working with anxieties and fearsExploring trust and mistrustThe profound experience of realizing she was holding someone else’s fearBianka’s personal journey into exploring the truth of the untold ancestral story as half German and half from the SouthHow to connect with your her own desires as an empathic personPersonal agency and how we can get in our own wayWhat the body-centered and relational model of NARM (Neuro-Affective Relational Model) offersWhen you feel you’ve had a set back it could actually be the natural contraction that happens after expansionBianka Hardin, Psy.D. is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and owner of Centered Therapy Chicago. Dr. Hardin founded CTC in 2014 with the mission to help children, adolescents, and adults improve their mental health and quality of life. Dr. Hardin provides individual and family therapy as well as supervision and consultation services. She also presents in the community on issues related to parenting, child abuse prevention, self-care, mindfulness, trauma stewardship, and cultural issues. She enjoys working with clients who are in the mental health field who could benefit from getting additional support in the important work they are doing, who are struggling with vicarious trauma or burnout, or who are interested receiving case consultation or support in their own professional development. She utilizes a mind/body/spirit approach and is comfortable supplementing traditional psychotherapy with mindfulness, relational interventions, and body focused psychotherapy such as Somatic Experiencing (SE) or Neuro-Affective Relational Model (NARM). Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/bianka Podcast Homepage🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-communityPatreon – Your Support Means So Much!💝 https://candicewu.com/patreonCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsored by the Embodied Healing Group CallThis episode is supported by the Embodied Healing Group Call - this is a transformative way to both receive healing support at a lower cost than individual sessions AND support my work/podcast.In each online call, you’ll receive loving support in moving through your emotions, tuning into your intuition and developing your empowerment with body wisdom, and clearing limiting beliefs through your entire being. We open up to what your soul, body, or heart want to explore and allow the magic of your being to show us what’s needed.Find it by contributing at the $55 level on Patreon (candicewu.com/patreon). Show Notes00:00 Intro00:58 Supported by the Embodied Healing Group Call01:56 Introduction04:07 Opening — Our Story Together, Synchronicities06:04 Manifestation through Meditation & Prayer08:26 What is interesting for Bianka now?10:46 Half German & Half from the South: Learning about the History & Untold14:48 Healing Trauma to finally enjoy the moment14:48 Safety on a Road Trip16:11 Deep Desire to know the Truth & Story17:24 Markers & Acknowledgement can be Healing19:07 Contextualizing Mistrust, Safety Issues Makes Sense in the Past22:06 Someone Else’s Fear25:59 Bianka’s Experience with NARM27:17 Attuning to Others — Good Skill for a Therapist — Breaking the Bubble to find Self Again30:03 What NARM could do what Traditional Therapy couldn’t33:35 How does NARM work? Understanding the process helps in healing.35:18 Enjoying the Ride and Pendulating to a Fear Moment — It’s part of the process37:27 Working with Agency in NARM / Performance Anxiety before the Show39:57 Noticing Flaws and letting go of Achieving Perfection42:15 What brings Bianka joy right now?43:53 Appreciating what’s close & Forest Bathing43:53 Forest Bathing46:25 Supervision Meetings Outside between Bianka and Candice47:27 Too Much Screen Time — Switching it up with Nature48:06 Thanks & Gratitude48:50 Bianka’s NARM Workshops and Training Offerings50:39 Where can you find Bianka?51:19 Outro52:40 Biankas NARM Experiential53:06 Embody Newsletter53:32 Connect with Me54:37 Gratitude