7. Self-Sabotage: Exploring the Roadblocks to Fun and Freedom

We invite you to JOIN THE WAITLIST for our  "Soul Presence membership space www.soulpresence.com.au Come Journey with us, as together we explore the possiblities that await us, and ride the wave of each other's momentum as we move towards a heart led life.MESS to YESEpisode 7.  Self Sabotage.When the kids were little, and I felt that I finally had the chance to go and do something for myself  (and yes I chose the movies!)  I remember starting an argument with my hubby just before leaving and pretty much just cried all the way into town.I don't remember starting the argument then, but I think in some way I knew that I was feeling uncomfortable, or that something was misaligning in my system and I just didn't have the words yet to articulate it.I wonder if other mums, when they are in the thick of their parenting with young kids, have hidden beliefs that they just don't deserve to be happy?That they are scared to want more for themselves because they just can't see how they can make it happen?Is it connected to the unpaid work that seems to be done more by the mother in the house? Sometimes it just feels safer to do what you've always done.Maybe self sabotage sounds a bit like this to you...I can't go out because I'm still cooking dinner.I can't go out because I forgot to let my partner know and now I can't make it happen.I can't ...........Self Sabotage is about putting things in our own way (by us) that stop us from living the life that feels good, filled with the things that feel good!It can be a little sneaky like 'Mother Guilt' in that it often happens between deciding to do something (which feels good at the time) and then the actual doing of the thing (which brings about some anxiety of how to do it), all the emotions arrive and suddenly we hear ourselves saying no.Mel shares an epic story in here also about Self Sabotage.So what can we do?The first thing is noticing.Bringing awareness to how things might play out for you when you decide to bring something that is good for you into your life.Noticing that sneaky gap where it can so often arrive.Take a breath Bring in some compassion and kindness towards yourself.  It's ok, you did what you could with the resources you had at the time to look after yourself.Perhaps we can use some kind words to speak to ourselves, to help us move through this space.I have realistic expectations of myself.I make space in my day for my own wants and desires.I invest in activities that improve my energy and align with my values.I show myself grace when I fall back into old patternsI affirm empowering and kind messages to myselfUntil next time..... Nat and MelHead over to our Grab Your Keys and Go community for some juicy conversations around the topics of our podcastshttps://www.facebook.com/groups/1921054834941568