#7 Viewing Partner Betrayal from the Lens of Trauma

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise. Tune in to episode #7 of the Choosing to Stay podcast, where Stephanie engages in a thought-provoking dialogue with a distinguished guest, Danielle Lew. Danielle expounds on her experience of electing to remain in a relationship while leveraging her proficiency in the field. She underscores the significance of approaching partner betrayal through the prism of trauma, seeking assistance and therapeutic aid from certified experts and practitioners, and also reveals a tale of redemption. About Danielle Lew: Danielle is no stranger to hurt, depression, anxiety, addiction, and betrayal trauma; both in her childhood and in her marriage.  She is married to Derek and while she knew early on of his addiction to substances, she did not know there was another addiction lurking in the background. Pornography.  She recalls saying, “But I know he would never cheat on me…”.  It wasn't until several years and 3 children later that God led  Danielle opened up Derek's laptop to see the truth - he was acting out. She didn’t realize that the addiction to substances and pornography fueled one another in an insidious cycle of drugs, porn, guilt, shame, drugs, porn, guilt, shame…   Danielle realized quickly that no matter what her husband was doing or not doing, she was responsible for herself. This was liberating and empowering. She worked on healing wounds, developing boundaries, and putting her faith in Jesus; not in her husband. She knew she had to surrender Derek at the foot of the cross.  Derek ultimately chose to fight for their marriage and they are now experiencing redemption in their 20+ years together.   Danielle helps women as a Coach (APSATS trained) and as a Group Facilitator through her practice Danielle Nicole Coaching & several other Christ-Centered organizations She is passionate about helping women & couples live an abundant life by finding their identity in Christ and taking back any areas of the body, mind, and spirit that the enemy has tried to steal, kill, or destroy! If you want to reach out to Dani, her coaching website is www.daniellenicolecoaching.com, or if you’re looking for therapy in the state of PA www.trinitywellnessgroup.com Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal: Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Hali’s Bio Book with Hali Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate Read Stephanie’s Bio https://stephaniehambycoaching.youcanbook.me/ Contact us:  [email protected] Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal. Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.  Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.  Healing Hearts Course - Stephanie Hamby leads This Couples Course that is a comprehensive program designed for early recovery and healing couples to learn and experience valuable insights together. It focuses on partner betrayal trauma and sexual integrity issues or addiction. The course provides practical education and tools to support healing for the partner and relationship repair.