EPISODE · May 6, 2019 · 1H 2M
71: Charmayne Kilcup on Self-Forgiveness and Choosing Ourselves
from The Embody Podcast | Alignment + Loving Yourself · host Candice Wu
This is a divine conversation with my healer/healing coach, Charmayne Kilcup, Ph.D., who introduced me to the power of self-forgiveness. She brings a spacious big love to healing the soul. In this conversation we talk about:How to use Self-Forgiveness to heal your heart and soul and why forgiveness itself doesn’t workWhen selflessness is helpful and when it is notShifting from victimhood to seeing that what happens in our lives truly happen not to but for usHow the mind does not understand the Soul and how to balance this withinHow choosing pleasure and choosing ourselves is in service to allHer spiritual emergency and how this lead her to her journey of self-forgiveness and worthinessBeing worthy of our abundance and material pleasuresThe transmission of primal archetypal feminine energy that is the preparation she needed to feel ready for birthing her babyThe luscious moments she is enjoying sensate pleasureCharmayne is a spiritual coach who helps people transform trauma, and pain into joy, ease, and loving. Trained as a counselor, psychologist, and energy worker, Dr. Kilcup has found that self-forgiveness and self-love the are keys to healing that most healing modalities are missing. They were the game-changers that helped her transform an eating disorder, depression, and anxiety into a life of joy and delight. Since that time, Dr. Kilcup has dedicated her career to helping people learn how to use self-forgiveness to transform the negativity in their lives. Currently, she maintains a private practice and is the co-founder of the Institute of Spiritual Coaching which trains people to use self-love and self-forgiveness in their private practices. Her first book, Heal Your Heart: How to Awaken the Soul with Self-Forgiveness released in January 2019. Links, Article, and ResourcesAll Show Notes for This Episode📝https://candicewu.com/charmayne Podcast Homepage🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcastNewsletter & Embody Community💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-communityPatreon – Your Support Means So Much!💝 https://candicewu.com/patreonCandice Wu Page on Facebook👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNatureFollow Candice on Instagram📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsored by my Ally With Death ExperientialCleanse and release the dead weight! Make space for what’s growing and emerging with you in the Ally With Death Experiential. It is an online experience for you to tune into the energy of Death to let go, release, and purify your being of what needs to die, giving you space for creation, nourishment, and love for this next season.Find the experience at CandiceWu.com/death. Show Notes0:00 Intro0:57 Sponsored by my Ally With Death Experiential & Spring Cleansing8:05 Tuning into Nature & the Shift of Spring8:56 Opening the Episode12:37 Introducing Charmayne — My Healer13:33 Who Is Charmayne in Her Own Words?15:15 What Is Alive in Her World?15:41 How Do You Prepare for a Baby Being Born?18:00 Charmayne’s Book: Heal Your Heart — How to Waken Your Soul With Self Forgiveness18:06 Spiritual Emergency and Awakening at 2320:47 Mind Does Not Understand Soul22:05 Balance of Mind & Heart23:51 Not Much Joy When Living in the Mind24:59 Forgiveness & Self Forgiveness27:12 Disclaimer: Sexual Abuse (Talking About How Survivors Feel Like It’s Their Fault, Going Into Self Forgiveness to Release That Self Judgement)27:57 Disclaimer End27:58 Method of Self Forgiveness28:34 Exercising Self Forgiveness Around Her Pregnancy and Being a Bad Mother29:29 Self Forgiveness Can Lead to Forgiving Others (But It Does Not Have To)30:36 Self Forgiveness: The Level of Responsibility and Freedom31:14 Self Forgiveness Over Forgiving Others32:45 the Antidote to Shame & Unworthiness34:22 How Did You Get in Touch With Your Own Shame?34:46 Western College of Santa Fe35:50 Shame Around Relationships39:04 Shame Around Abundance and Feeling Like You Have to Only Serve Others43:10 It Might Have Been Helpful in the Past44:57 Is It Connected to Selflessness (Young vs. Old Souls)47:03 Can I Claim My Worthiness?48:27 Choosing Myself for Myself Is Enough50:11 Victimhood — What Happens in Our Lives Truly Happen Not To but for Us53:07 What Are You Challenged With Right Now?56:13 What Brings You Joy Right Now?57:26 Anything Else?57:49 Gratitude & Where to Find Charmayne59:07 Outro59:27 Charmayne’s Book and More Resources1:00:10 Gratitude & Connect1:00:31 Embody Newsletter1:01:09 Ending Meditation
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This is a divine conversation with my healer/healing coach, Charmayne Kilcup, Ph.D., who introduced me to the power of self-forgiveness. She brings a spacious big love to healing the soul. In this conversation we talk about: How to use Self-Forgiveness to heal your heart and soul and why forgiveness itself doesn’t work When selflessness is helpful and when it is not Shifting from victimhood to seeing that what happens in our lives truly happen not to but for us How the mind does not understand the Soul and how to balance this within How choosing pleasure and choosing ourselves is in service to all Her spiritual emergency and how this lead her to her journey of self-forgiveness and worthiness Being worthy of our abundance and material pleasures The transmission of primal archetypal feminine energy that is the preparation she needed to feel ready for birthing her baby The luscious moments she is enjoying sensate pleasure Charmayne is a spiritual coach who helps people transform trauma, and pain into joy, ease, and loving. Trained as a counselor, psychologist, and energy worker, Dr. Kilcup has found that self-forgiveness and self-love the are keys to healing that most healing modalities are missing. They were the game-changers that helped her transform an eating disorder, depression, and anxiety into a life of joy and delight. Since that time, Dr. Kilcup has dedicated her career to helping people learn how to use self-forgiveness to transform the negativity in their lives. Currently, she maintains a private practice and is the co-founder of the Institute of Spiritual Coaching which trains people to use self-love and self-forgiveness in their private practices. Her first book, Heal Your Heart: How to Awaken the Soul with Self-Forgiveness released in January 2019. Links, Article, and Resources All Show Notes for This Episode 📝https://candicewu.com/charmayne Podcast Homepage 🎧 https://candicewu.com/podcast Newsletter & Embody Community 💌 https://candicewu.com/embody-community Patreon – Your Support Means So Much! 💝 https://candicewu.com/patreon Candice Wu Page on Facebook 👫 https://facebook.com/EmbodyYourNature Follow Candice on Instagram 📷 https://instagram.com/EmbodyYourNature Sponsored by my Ally With Death Experiential Cleanse and release the dead weight! Make space for what’s growing and emerging with you in the Ally With Death Experiential. It is an online experience for you to tune into the energy of Death to let go, release, and purify your being of what needs to die, giving you space for creation, nourishment, and love for this next season. Find the experience at CandiceWu.com/death. Show Notes 0:00 Intro 0:57 Sponsored by my Ally With Death Experiential & Spring Cleansing 8:05 Tuning into Nature & the Shift of Spring 8:56 Opening the Episode 12:37 Introducing Charmayne — My Healer 13:33 Who Is Charmayne in Her Own Words? 15:15 What Is Alive in Her World? 15:41 How Do You Prepare for a Baby Being Born? 18:00 Charmayne’s Book: Heal Your Heart — How to Waken Your Soul With Self Forgiveness 18:06 Spiritual Emergency and Awakening at 23 20:47 Mind Does Not Understand Soul 22:05 Balance of Mind & Heart 23:51 Not Much Joy When Living in the Mind 24:59 Forgiveness & Self Forgiveness 27:12 Disclaimer: Sexual Abuse (Talking About How Survivors Feel Like It’s Their Fault, Going Into Self Forgiveness to Release That Self Judgement) 27:57 Disclaimer End 27:58 Method of Self Forgiveness 28:34 Exercising Self Forgiveness Around Her Pregnancy and Being a Bad Mother 29:29 Self Forgiveness Can Lead to Forgiving Others (But It Does Not Have To) 30:36 Self Forgiveness: The Level of Responsibility and Freedom 31:14 Self Forgiveness Over Forgiving Others 32:45 the Antidote to Shame & Unworthiness 34:22 How Did You Get in Touch With Your Own Shame? 34:46 Western College of Santa Fe 35:50 Shame Around Relationships 39:04 Shame Around Abundance and Feeling Like You Have to Only Serve Others 43:10 It Might Have Been Helpful in th
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