75. We care for everyone else at our own expense with Claire Stephenson

We care for everyone else at our own expense.Have you ever felt let down by care? Like you don't quite get the care you need? Like there isn't enough to go around? and Like the whole self-care thing just puts more work on your plate?In this episode Claire and I explore:-her concept of "shame of care," how traditional care approaches can be damaging when they rely on authority-based methods which dismiss patients' experiences-harmful cultural experiences and trauma that can occur in various systems including families, schools, and healthcare-Claire's approach of breaking down care into six skills or practices that address both micro-level self-care and macro-level aspects of care-how early experiences with care from family and culture influence self-care patterns and the importance of honoring individual pace-the benefits and pitfalls of self-care practices, emphasizing the importance of practicing them in relationship with others rather than in isolation-societal expectations and gender roles that create unnecessary burdens, particularly for women who are conditioned to take on more responsibilitiesAhh, there is actually so much here.Claire and I also invite you to share your story of care with us. This feels like a really great place to start to unpack your relationship with care. Feel free to email me at [email protected] share this episode with anybody you know who is challenged by feeling under resourced. The more we realise we are not alone in feeling these ways, the more we can heal.You can watch this chat on Youtube if you prefer to see us....Find out more Claire StephensonWebsite: careweaver.com.auInstagram: @claire.stephensonNicole MathiesonThis podcast was created by Nicole Mathieson, a Brisbane based counsellor and couple therapist, who has a couple of podcasts and is the author of The Beauty Load, How to feel enough in a world obsessed with beauty.Nicole helps men, women and couples get smarter, happier and more connected in their intimate relationships and has various online courses and resources to support people navigating the tricky realm of relationships.@relationship_smart_with_nicole Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.