#79. Why We Pretend Women Aren't Violent

SPONSOR: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code HANNAH at https://www.oneskin.co/HANNAH  In this episode, we look at the Mackenzie Shirilla case as a starting point for a broader question: how do we understand female physical violence? The discussion moves from the details of the case — including Shirilla's behavior before and after the crash, the public reaction, and the question of remorse — into a wider examination of how female aggression is often framed culturally. We tend to associate men with physical violence and women with relational aggression, but the evidence around intimate partner violence, family violence, elder abuse, and child homicide complicates that picture.   Chapters 00:00 — Are women less physically violent? 00:38 — The Mackenzie Shirilla case 03:41 — Cluster B traits and interpersonal dominance 08:56 — Female sociopathy and violent women 09:10 — The myth of domestic violence as male-only 09:26 — Intimate partner violence data 10:12 — Why female violence is often framed as self-defense 10:41 — Why women report using physical aggression 10:56 — Gender symmetry in older violence studies 11:35 — Teen boys and dating violence victimization 11:49 — The problem with using general crime statistics 12:22 — Violence in female-dominated settings 12:37 — Elder abuse and female perpetrators 12:50 — Mothers, filicide, and neonaticide 13:41 — How society interprets male vs female violence