79 - Why Work Life Balance is Failing Us and What Actually Works with Steven Langer

In this conversation, Kari sits down with keynote speaker and author Steven Langer to challenge the idea that work-life balance is the goal. Steven makes the case that balance is a trap: it frames work and life as competing forces, sets an unrealistic 50/50 standard, and leaves high performers stuck in guilt and pendulum-swinging. Instead, Steven introduces work-life coherence, a practical way of living and leading where your work and life fit together and make sense for the season you’re in. Using relatable analogies (the seesaw, the sailing captain, and the hill vs. plateau), they unpack how to create space for complexity, protect your “fulcrum” (health), and lead teams (especially remote teams) with intention, clarity, and trust. Key Topics Discussed: Why chasing “balance” can increase stress, guilt, and burnout The difference between balance and coherence (and why it actually works) How to shift your days from default to intention, without a full life overhaul The real cost of interruptions and why leaders need protected deep work time How “my door is always open” can quietly sabotage leadership capacity The “hill vs. plateau” test for intense seasons: when to push vs. when to redesign What real culture looks like (it’s not yoga-at-lunch or a pizza party) A simple reframe: letting others help you is giving them a gift How recognition impacts engagement and why it often doesn’t “land” Why leadership is lonely at the top…and lonelier in the middle How to build culture and clarity when leading remote or hybrid teams A sailing analogy for leading through stormy seasons: tighten lines, trust the course If work-life balance has felt like a hamster wheel with a guilt soundtrack, this episode offers a better target: coherence, a way to lead and live that makes sense for the season you’re in, while protecting the health and systems that make your success sustainable. Listen and subscribe on Apple Podcasts or Spotify - start building a business that works for you, not just because of you. As an international keynote and TEDx speaker, Steven cuts through the noise to shift how audiences think about wellness. Blending powerful stories, data, and practical insight, he inspires meaningful change. Steven doesn’t just motivate, he equips audiences with clear, authentic tools they can actually use. Whether speaking to executives, frontline teams, or leaders, people leave feeling seen, understood, and ready to lead and live with intention. His keynotes tackle real-world pressures and offer actionable ways to build healthier workplaces and more coherent lives. If you want clarity and forward momentum, Steven Langer delivers. Connect with Steven and learn more about his incredible work here:www.wellbydesign.cawww.linkedin.com/in/steven-langer-b9b64945 Get his book here: wellbydesign.ca/coherence-compass-book   Work with Kari:  Anchored Leadership Academy Private Business and Leadership Coaching Contact Kari Lotzien | Be the Anchor:  Website: BeTheAnchor.ca Facebook: BeTheAnchorLtd Instagram: BeTheAnchor.ca Linked In: Kari Lotzien Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.