#80 How to Stop Outsourcing Self Love with Ben Milston

If this conversation impacted you, shifted something, or gave you language for what you've been feeling… you're welcome to support the show via Buy Me a Coffee. Every contribution supports production, expansion, and the continued ripple of real conversations for women doing the inner work. Buy Me a Coffee - buymeacoffee.com/EmbodyYourEmpress   From Survival Mode to Self Worth… Reclaiming Emotional Safety  If you are a high functioning woman who looks confident on the outside but internally feels exhausted, emotionally guarded, or stuck in survival mode… this episode is for you. In this powerful conversation on Embody Your Empress, Sarah King sits down with Ben Milston to explore emotional safety, self worth, nervous system patterns, identity programming, and what it truly takes to come home to yourself. Ben shares his journey through depression, anxiety, substance use, bullying, and the relentless pressure to achieve. Growing up feeling like he wasn't enough, he chased validation externally… through performance, environment changes, even moving countries… only to discover the real work was internal. This episode dives deep into: Survival mode patterns and how they form in childhood Why high achievers often struggle with self worth and emotional regulation How subconscious programming is like the language we grow up speaking The psychology behind people pleasing, validation seeking, and emotional suppression Judgement, comparison, and identity protection Nervous system safety and why discomfort does not equal danger How to rebuild confidence and emotional resilience from the inside out Ben introduces the three pillars of rebuilding perceived self value: Inner ownership… allowing your thoughts and experience to matter Emotional legitimacy… giving yourself permission to feel without shame Aligned action… making choices that honour your truth, even when it creates discomfort This episode blends psychology, personal development, emotional healing, nervous system awareness, and embodied growth. It is grounded, real, and deeply validating for women navigating burnout, overthinking, perfectionism, and self doubt. If you are working on healing, self love, boundaries, emotional safety, or reclaiming your identity beyond survival mode… this conversation will land. Because your confidence is not missing. Your worth is not broken. Your emotional strength has always been there. You are not here to survive your life. You are here to embody it. Connect with Ben Milston Facebook https://www.facebook.com/bmilston/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ben.milston/?hl=en Complimentary 60 minute clarity session https://BenMilstonCoaching.as.me/60MinComplimentarySession   Connect with Sarah King and Empress Nation Website https://empressnation.au Linktree https://linktr.ee/Empress_Nation_ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/empress_nation_/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EmpressNationSarahKing LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/empressnation/ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@empress_nation-SarahKing Embody Your Empress Instagram https://www.instagram.com/embodyyourempresspodcast/ Subscribe to Embody Your Empress on Spotify to stay connected to conversations around women's empowerment, emotional healing, nervous system regulation, identity growth, mindset, and embodied leadership.