80: Recovering from loss; how to survive the death of a child. With Chloe Pestana mom of three.

How do we possibly survive as a parent, if one of our children has died? Today we have a soulful, brave & beautiful mama on the show who is going to share one of the hardest experiences of a mother's life-the loss of a child.  Chloe Pestana, mom of 3 who lives with her husband and kids in Oahu Hawaii, wants to help other families that might be going through a tragic loss by sharing her own story of the loss of her beloved three year old son Legend. Her courage and grace in light of tragedy is honestly astounding.   Legend's sudden death on December 23, 2017 due to a rare birth defect unknown to us called Arteriovenous Malformation in the Spinal cord, changed the trajectory of the Pestana's lives forever. Now they have a foundation in honor of her son called "Shakas for Legend" foundation & scholarship program which honors her son and his passion for skateboarding.   Today we discuss:  Being a young mother and the pressures associated with that Getting married young  The power of presence and how she intentionally chose to slow down when Legend was born How we don't often talk about or prepare for death in our culture  How her family went from thriving to shock when her three year old son legend wouldn't wake up one morning Her experience with her son in a coma for 12 hours and then losing him that day.  The darkness and rock bottom grief experienced by her and her family upon Legend's tragic and sudden death Facing a moment of choice between living and dying  How she chose to move forward with life after his death  How she talks about the loss to her daughters The strength of her family & how her husband was a rock throughout all of this Chloe tells us about Arteriovenous Malformation and it's implications  Why she wouldn't have done anything differently had they even know he was afflicted with the Arteriovenous Malformation Her experience with feeling Legend's presence all around her Living intuitively and spiritually  New PDF on the website https://www.soulmammas.com Pick Up your Freebie on Stepping into your Soul as Mammas today!  20 percent off all one on one coaching for November and December to all loyal Soul Mammas Podcast listeners! Use code soulmammaspodcast in email or check out. Link above.  Mamas! Come join the Soul Mammas Facebook Group for lives, videos, updates, and discussions!