81. Model Regulation to Your Kids with Vital-Side Facilitator, Lori Weir

Themes: Nervous System Regulation, Nervous System Retraining, Chronic Illness, Parenting How affected are children by chronic stress and nervous system dysregulation? Lori Weir, a Vital-Side facilitator and mom of 3, suggests a big truth in this new episode: that kids can only be as regulated as their parents are. Lori shares with us her and her kids journeys with chronic illnesses, how she learned to regulate her own nervous system, and how she guided her kids through regulation as well. Hear real stories, tips and tools for the nervous system regulation of children, from a mom who has gone through all of it herself. Show Notes: -Lori's story how getting started with nervous system retraining and Rewire; how she recognized her own dysregulation and began to heal it; the health issues of both herself and her children that led her to holistic healing methods and dedicating her last 5 years to helping her children heal -Learning to reframe her children's emotional responses and look at them from the lens of nervous system health -Why Lori believes that a dysregulated nervous system could actually take the place of many overused "labels" that society puts on children; the influence of harmful societal norms of punishing/shaming children for their emotions; "In their most unlovable moments, that's when they need the most love." -The difference between Lori's reaction now to emotional meltdowns with her children, and how regulation changed that -An explanation of PANS and how it affected Lori's children -How Lori began modeling regulation to her children; starting with the "foundations" and then learning specific tools -Story about how one of Lori's children describes her emotional battery, describing dysregulation as "My ice is getting thin"; why this kind of awareness is important -The importance of being open and honest about your own emotions with your children, and is a part of modeling regulation -The explanation of how children are only as regulated as their parents -Normalizing the need for nervous system regulation (for everyone, not just people who have chronic illnesses) and how easy it is to get started Resources: -Read more about Lori and connect with her via Vital-Side here -Listen to Lori's other Rewire episode here -Visit the Vital-Side Homepage here -Lindsay's Instagram: @myvitalside -Visit Lindsay's Website -Cait's Instagram: @caitrossco -Visit Cait's Website Join our community: bit.ly/rewirethepodcast Podcast disclaimer can be found by visiting: bit.ly/rewiredisclaimer