83 | Explaining the people pleaser to rage pipeline

Ever gone from smiling sweetly through discomfort… to fantasizing about slapping someone in the face?Yeah. Same.In this episode, I break down the people pleaser to rage pipeline—what happens when your body has been stuck in a fawn-freeze loop for years, and then finally starts to thaw. Spoiler: it’s not always cute. Sometimes, it’s loud, messy, and full of backlogged “no’s” that come out all at once.I share my own story of how learning French (and drinking cheap wine) unlocked a rage I didn’t even know I was holding—and what it taught me about the biology of fawning, freeze responses, and unexpressed boundaries.We also get into:* Why rage is a natural part of recovery from people-pleasing* Why cathartic rage practices (like screaming or punching pillows) aren’t always trauma-informed* How to work with anger in a way that’s titrated, embodied, and safe* The power of translating somatic cues into real-life boundariesIf your body has been whispering “I’m not okay” for years—this episode is your permission slip to start listening.💥 Want to dive deeper into somatic anger work?__________
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