85. Real Tools for Real Rage (Mum Rage Part 2)

Okay, so you’ve screamed into your car steering wheel. Now what? In Part 2, Jane and clinical psychologist Dr Jacinta Thompson return to bring the goods: the actual, practical tools ADHD mums can use to manage rage without pretending to be zen all the time. From self-coaching scripts to nervous system hacks, this episode gives you permission to be angry—and shows you what to do with it that’s actually effective. Because no, you don’t need to just 'try yoga' again. And no, you’re not the only one who wants to punch the air when your partner asks what’s for dinner. 💡 What We Cover: How to spot rage earlier (before you hit full explosion) DBT’s ‘BUT to AND’ method for flipping shame spirals Why screaming into a pillow can be a regulation strategy How to coach your partner to be useful in the heat of the moment The link between sensory load and delayed rage meltdowns Releasing anger without suppressing it (and modelling this for your kids) Medication and mum rage: what no one tells you Jane’s own messy beliefs—and how she’s rewriting them out loud 🔗 Resources & Links: 🧠 Guest: Dr Jacinta Thompson – Time to Untangle Blog from Jacinta here on this topic.  📚 Referenced approaches: DBT dialectical thinking Emotional regulation via stress cycle completion Agomelatine & SSRIs for ADHD irritability 🎧 Related episodes: Ep 71 – 7 Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Ep 32 – Realising Autistic Burnout: Self-Awareness Part 1 Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple 🎧 Listen Now You’re allowed to feel rage. You’re also allowed to not be destroyed by it.This one’s for every mum trying to hold it together while everyone needs a snack, a hug, or your last nerve. #ADHDMumsPodcast #MumRage #EmotionalRegulation #DBTForADHD #Burnout #NeurodivergentWomen #MentalLoad #TooMuchIsValid #ADHDRealTalk #ParentingWithADHD  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.