#86 Choose Your Suffering Before It Chooses You |Kyle Vadis & Chase Pettey

I always thought the thing keeping people stuck was their circumstances, until I realized most of us are the wardens of our own prison, holding the keys the whole time. In this one, I sat down with Kyle and Chase to get honest about victim mentality, why 20 minutes a day can put you in the top 5% at anything, and the blind spots that quietly wreck successful people. If you've been waiting for something outside you to change, this is the conversation I wish I'd had at 30. Learn what Wharton Business School will never teach you!  Sign up for the ANTI-MBA today: https://bit.ly/46vct60 Click here to order your personalized poster!: https://bit.ly/46J08MS Connect with Kyle Vadis Website: https://bit.ly/4z1NJjw  Instagram: https://bit.ly/4xdrW6r  LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/4pSdnTs  Connect with Chase Pettey Website: https://bit.ly/4pWznN8  Instagram: https://bit.ly/3TELNgs  LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/4brezqW  Timestamps 00:00 - Intro of Show 01:04 - Meeting Kyle and Chase 02:37 - How they met doing ayahuasca 03:16 - How Kyle tracked David down 05:01 - Why your generation feels stuck 07:13 - Losing a father and rebuilding identity 10:10 - A blacked-out childhood and the door 13:54 - Is victim mentality innate or a choice 17:38 - Autonomy and taking back control 19:27 - Vulnerability is not complaining 21:58 - Don't leave me your monkeys 22:12 - Intentionality and the 20-minute rule 26:46 - Intention paired with competence 29:40 - The warden of your own prison 31:34 - Pull your failures forward 34:51 - Choose your suffering 35:00 - Find 10 people to lose to 38:08 - The freedom of no attachment 40:52 - The two biggest blind spots for men 46:30 - Wisdom is caught, not taught 48:31 - Radical honesty in relationships 54:52 - Outcome-independence and wanting vs needing 57:54 - Relationships are never static 1:02:25 - Loving who someone is becoming 1:05:37 - Committing only to honesty 1:11:00 - Legacy and dying trying Watch the “David Guttman Podcast” every Tuesday at 8 AM EST on YouTube: https://bit.ly/4wpqfCN Connect with David Guttman Website: https://bit.ly/4v6rnKm  Instagram: https://bit.ly/4v2ALyr  TikTok: https://bit.ly/4gP3hjI  Facebook: https://bit.ly/4y2VZze  X: https://bit.ly/4v3Xfza  LinkedIn: https://bit.ly/4awQRJv  SUBSCRIBE TO: https://www.youtube.com/@RealDaveGuttman Download the “David Guttman Podcast” on all your favorite podcast platforms: Spotify: ​​https://spoti.fi/3VE3fzV Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/3VLzm0v