86: "Control Your Emotions" Is TERRIBLE Advice.

Let’s stop spreading this outdated nonsense. Time to update our manuals!

Episode 86 of the Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto podcast, hosted by Stephanie Pinto, titled "86: "Control Your Emotions" Is TERRIBLE Advice." was published on April 30, 2025 and runs 11 minutes.

April 30, 2025 ·11m · Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

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Summary

I’m coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head.Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times...Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice.Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted your teeth, stuffed your feelings down, or told your kid to “just calm down”, you’re not alone.We’ve all been fed this myth that emotional intelligence means being cool, calm, and collected 24/7. Like some sort of emotionless robot with a gratitude journal?! Ok then.But here's the thing: emotions aren’t meant to be controlled, they’re meant to be understood.Every feeling you have is like a little post-it note from your inner world.Anger? “Hey, your boundary just got steamrolled.”Anxiety? “Something feels off, look closer.”Disappointment? “You were hoping for something, and it didn’t land.”Emotions aren’t interruptions. They’re INTEL.So today, I’m diving into how emotional intelligence is actually about tuning in, not shutting down. I’ll show you how to listen to your emotions (without getting stuck in them), use them to guide better decisions, and teach your kids to do the same.Because once you stop shoving emotions aside and start decoding what they’re telling you?Everything. Gets. Easier.🎁 🎁 FREEBIES:Parent Guide: "3 Steps From Chaos to Connection" (How to raise emotionally intelligent kids)Parent Guide: "Beating Anxiety in Kids" (Evidence based strategies to support anxious, sensitive kids)AVAILABLE NOW at stephaniepinto.com/resources🌟🌟🌟Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.🥳 Find me on the socials...Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parentFB: www.fb.com/stephpintoYT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Episode Description

I’m coming in hot with a truth bomb that might just flip your parenting, your self-awareness, and your whole emotional vibe on its head.

Who's heard that we must learn to “control our emotions”? ME. A million times...

Newsflash: This is TERRIBLE advice.

Yep, I said it. So if you've ever gritted your teeth, stuffed your feelings down, or told your kid to “just calm down”, you’re not alone.

We’ve all been fed this myth that emotional intelligence means being cool, calm, and collected 24/7. Like some sort of emotionless robot with a gratitude journal?! Ok then.

But here's the thing: emotions aren’t meant to be controlled, they’re meant to be understood.

Every feeling you have is like a little post-it note from your inner world.

Anger? “Hey, your boundary just got steamrolled.”

Anxiety? “Something feels off, look closer.”

Disappointment? “You were hoping for something, and it didn’t land.”

Emotions aren’t interruptions. They’re INTEL.

So today, I’m diving into how emotional intelligence is actually about tuning in, not shutting down. I’ll show you how to listen to your emotions (without getting stuck in them), use them to guide better decisions, and teach your kids to do the same.

Because once you stop shoving emotions aside and start decoding what they’re telling you?

Everything. Gets. Easier.

🎁 🎁 FREEBIES:

Parent Guide: "3 Steps From Chaos to Connection" (How to raise emotionally intelligent kids)

Parent Guide: "Beating Anxiety in Kids" (Evidence based strategies to support anxious, sensitive kids)

AVAILABLE NOW at stephaniepinto.com/resources

🌟🌟🌟

Hi, I'm Stephanie Pinto. I'm an Emotional Intelligence best-selling author, award-winning coach and international speaker. I'm also a paediatric anxiety therapist (and previous speech language pathologist!) and I love helping people use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives.

✅ Want me to speak to the staff your school/preschool, team or organisation on Emotional Intelligence? Email us and we'll make it happen!

If this resonates with you, I'd love to hear from you. Email us at [email protected] and send me your thoughts, feedback or questions!

🩷Join over 130,000 people in my online community! ➡️ www.facebook.com/groups/letsraiseemotionallyintelligentkids

💡 Head to www.stephaniepinto.com for free resources, courses, coaching, collaborations or speaking engagements.

🥳 Find me on the socials...

Insta: www.instagram.com/emotionally.intelligent.parent

FB: www.fb.com/stephpinto

YT: www.youtube.com/c/StephaniePinto

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.